Love & Romance

Devotion Messages Halt Love Affair

2009-09-28T21:47:32Z

I am a married man having an affair with another married lady, who is a friend of my wife. For about 3 months we carried this affair and suddenly she backed off saying she received a daily devotion message which prevented her to have any affair. She is a subscriber to a christian site and gets daily devotion and has lots of belief in God.

]]> For more than a year I was still behind her, at last she showed interest recently and started to call me. But again she receive another message from the same site and has stopped since. I am really upset and disturbed. She is god fearing and also likes to have fun. How can I approach her again, is there any chance she will come back? I truly love her.

Please help.

Stan

Obsession, What Should I Do?

2009-09-28T21:36:18Z

What should I do when a guy is so obsessed and he loves me so much?

Kathy

Happy Valentine's Day 2009

2009-02-14T09:46:16Z

The Love Globe game will answer all your love questions, just start typing :)
Happy Valentine's Day to everyone

Game after the jump

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Go on With Your Life! Let Him Go!

2008-12-25T11:33:22Z

I fell for this guy who works in my office from day one!
I never had the chance to tell him that I've got feelings for him.
Currently we're best friends and he's gotten married recently.
I see him and his wife everyday, because she also works in the same building.
It breaks my heart to see them together! I'm trying to get over it but i can't!

]]> I'm supposed to get married and go on with my life!

I am confused. I need help!

Sam

Answer:

Sam, he's moved on and is a married man now.
Staying stuck where you're at now, will only do you bad!
You'll get over this with time!
Go on with your life and be happy for him!
Get married and enjoy your life!

Hard to Move From Someone You Love!

2008-11-28T10:12:01Z

Why is it so hard to move from someone you love? Why does it still hurt even though we are over?

By Faith

Stay Away from Married Men!

2008-08-31T13:38:10Z

I love him so much but he is married!
In the beginning i told him i cannot go on with him because he is married. He told me that it's OK, because he has lots of problems with his wife!
We started meeting more and i totally fell for him.
He used to call me many times every day but now things have changed! He stopped calling me and when i call him he says he's very busy and doesn't call back!
What has happened? What should i do?

Fatima

Answer:

]]> Well Fatima,
What has happened is very obvious; he doesn't want to be in contact with you anymore and you should stay away!
Being in a relationship with a married man is dangerous and should be off limits!
The message from his is clear: i don't want to call you and you should stay away.
You have to keep in mind that he might have patched things up with his wife and they're just fine now!
You should forget about him and go on with your life. And remember, stay away from married men!

Take Your Chances or Let Go!

2008-08-31T13:15:55Z

I met him during summer vacation and when I first saw him I wasn't really interested in him.
I liked his friend more, yet I always noticed the way he kept looking at me from time to time. As the days went by, I realized that his friend is really lame and childish and then one day we sat together and we talked a lot about many things, we played cards and laughed like hell. I thought he was great and funny and mature. I liked him a lot. That night we went to the beach with all of our friends, we stayed till the sunrise and I knew from his friends that he's heading back to Cairo. I was devastated. I wanted to spend more time with him and know him more. Anyways, after sometime I noticed he was walking towards his car and that he kept looking at me as if he wanted to say something, but he still left with no word or even a goodbye.

]]> Ever since, I can't shake the thought of him out of my mind.
I think about him all the time and I miss him so much. It's not possible that we meet again any time soon. I can only hope we'll meet in next year's vacation.
What can I do?? I know one of his friends and I could ask for his number, but I'm a bit shy to make such a move.
What should I do??

Yoshka

Answer:

Summer vacations are usually the setting for quick friendships and short term love affairs!
After summer, each person goes back to their usual life and everyday routine, which means putting vacation behind their backs and going forward in their life.
Maybe you've taken things a bit too serious! He was a guy you met and that's that!
But ... you may want to see beyond that, you could be bold and get his number and call him. You'll either give him a happy surprise or you'll be pushing too hard!
The chances are you'll either find out that:
1. He's been thinking about you too.
2. He's surprised that you got his number.
3. He'll be annoyed! That's a possibility!

You either categorize his as an acquaintance that you might meet again or take your chances and call him! I can't tell you what to do, but i can paint you a picture!

Good Luck!

How can i let it all go so easily?

2008-06-27T17:45:38Z

My boyfriend and i have been together for a few months. I met him in college, he was my classmate. at the time we met, i already had a BF but our relationship was on the break.
Now we're together, but he's soon going to leave and go back home because he's finished his studies!
I'll also finish in January, which means we'll surely go our separate ways!
I feel so sad ... this is the end! I won't be able to meet him again.
He told me to take it easy and just let things be. Easier said than done!
How can i let it all go so easily? I love him!

Nella

Answer:

]]> Nella, if you both are aware that there's no way of finding a solution, then it's a lost case!
You'll have to go through a rough period and just let things be.
But! If you and him can come to some kind of solution that will allow both of you to continue your relationship and keep on meeting, then that's great!
You don't have to be confused. It's either one or the other!

Good Luck!

Be Yourself and Tell Her You Love Her!

2008-06-11T18:08:50Z

My life is perfect in every single way, except when it comes to love!
Two years ago when I just got to high-school, I met a girl. I liked her so much but I began to act weird in front of her! Sometimes I was even a big idiot. This way she never got to know the real me. However, she didn't act strange at all. She was her normal self, which is so awesome. I'm in love with her.
I later felt so bad I got to a point that I just walked across the house, back and forth thinking about her, about how awesome she is, and how stupid it was of me to act so odd every time she was around! I even refused 5 girls that were in love with me, since I knew they couldn't replace her! Therefore, I can't be complete without her.

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]]> I thought about it a lot since it's my biggest problem and there were about 3 things to do:
1. forget about her, which is not possible cause every time she goes down the hall I feel awkward.
2. tell her you love her, although i doubt that would work since she doesn't know the real me, so there is no way she could love me back!
3. start acting like myself, which is the hardest thing in the world since every time I talk to her I say something stupid or weird just because I'm doing my best at trying not to burst out and kiss her!
Please help!

NotRelevant

Answer:

So, i guess you've given yourself three options already!
Which one do you think is the best one?
Maybe you should mix two of them together and see what that formula would bring you!
Try to be yourself and have a bit of control over your weird reactions and tell her you love her! Just be sincere and honest! Try being funny but not too funny! You want to make her laugh and not make her scared!
Take things easy and be natural, that's the best approach to everything!
Good Luck!

I Can't Forget Her!

2008-06-11T15:08:07Z

I'm crazy in love with my colleague, but she has a boyfriend! She likes me as a friend! She always ask support from me and says sweet things to me. I just can't take it anymore! I changed my job! Spent a year trying not to think about her! Threw away all possibilities to contact her. People asked me to love someone else! I failed!
One day i came across her while driving! That was when everything came back to me and i felt this strange thing in the stomach! Then she contacted me ! I tried to be severe by rejecting her! I failed! She's experiencing a difficult period so I'm back to supporting her for the last 9 months through messenger even though we are in the same city! I always refuse to contact her because I love her and don't want to hurt her! But I love her and she likes me as a friend. I wish I can be a friend but I love her and just can't forget her!! Help me I'm in a bad mood!!

FedUp

Answer:

]]> Dear FedUp:

It seems you are very much aware that her interest in you is only for 'Friendship'.
That says it all! If you love her, you'll do what makes her feel good, not what will make you feel better!
Be her friend, help her and support her, but don't go further.
If you put your mind to forgetting your feelings for her, you will manage to do just that!
Remember that sometimes being more than friends will ruin your friendship!
On the other hand, if you're 100% sure that you won't be able to put aside your feelings for her, then i suggest you do something drastic and cut all communications with her!
If she's only interested in friendship, that won't ever change! You can't force her to love you!
Good Luck!

This Won't Work Out!

2008-06-11T14:56:28Z

One of our readers, Shadia, has sent in a critical question, asking what to do in her difficult case.
She's a Muslim and she's in love with a Christian. She asks what she can do to be with him?

Well, Shadia ... I'm not going to sugar coat the answer for you because this is serious.
In Islam, a man can marry a woman not from his religion, but a woman is not allowed to do the same.
If you want details, it'll take a very long time, but in short, you can't marry a Christian because your kids will follow their dad's religion! Simple and straight forward.

]]> Islam is not against any religion. On the contrary, we are ordered to befriend Christians and respect them and their beliefs. But, this is the one and only situation where a relation between a Muslim and Christian won't work!

If you want to be friends with this guy, then go for it, but Don't take things to another level!

He's Always in My Mind

2008-05-12T19:37:45Z

I love my classmate to death and i have a feeling that he loves me too.
I always spot him looking at me and smiling in a lovely way, but he haven't told me yet if he loves me or not. I'm sure he knows that i love him.
What can i do to have him and to be with him? Because of our culture i cant tell him directly that i love him, but he is always on my mind.
What should i do to have love relation with him???

yasna

Answer:

]]> Dear Yasna,

You don't have to do anything to be with this guy.
Just be yourself, hang out with him when there's a chance and things will come naturally.
Don't concentrate on wanting to be in a love relationship with him, just take it slow and be friends with him. If there's a future for the both of you, love will come on the way and it will bloom without having to put too much of an effort.
Take things easy and enjoy your time with him. Don't worry too much about 'love'.

I'm Married and He's Engaged!

2008-05-12T19:25:25Z

I'm a 25-year-old married lady. I never dated before getting married and i've never really fallen in love, well maybe once!
I love my husband but i can't forget my past love .. I regret that i couldn't break the chains and just love and be loved .. now it's too late .. I'm married and he's engaged!!!

Deema

Answer:

]]> Dear Deema,

When you decided to get married and be with your husband in sickness and in health and in sweet days and sad ones, you put your past behind you.
I think you should just concentrate on your husband, who loves you, and allow yourself to be free and be loved!

Is Everyone Just Wrong About Us?

2008-05-10T11:35:34Z

I have been best friends with a guy for almost 4 years now. I love him to death and i know that i can't live without him. I've tried.
When we first met, we grew on each other fast. We both secretly had something for each other. I told him i liked him and he said he didn't see me like that and didn't want to mess up our friendship. He later came to confess that he had always had feeling for me and that if we would have tried it out we would have been together. Nothing happened for about 6 months. Then i had my first real kiss and it was with him!
June through January we had something, we were best friends and a bit more.

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]]> We started getting into fight about lots of things and we stopped everything on my birthday last year. We promised to just be best friends again and it was like that for a while until he got a girlfriend. She didn't like me so we ended up not talking for about 7 month.
During that time, i only saw him about 4 times in which we didn't really talk. We say hi and go our separate ways. I missed him a lot but i got used to it.

About 2 months ago i felt like i didn't have anyone. A lot had changed and i didn't know what to do and he was the only person on my mind. I ended up contacting him and we talked and fixed a lot of things that should have never gone wrong in the first place. It took a little time but we are best friends again and i can't imagine my life with out him.
He was the first one to say "i love you" to me when we got our friendship back but it was so hard for me to say it to him since i don't trust a lot of people. I ended up saying it to him about two weeks after he first said it but i was still scared. Now every thing's great.
He's the first person i talk to everyday and the last one i talk to every night. We always say i love you before we hang up the phone or when we are leaving each others' houses.

My parents adore him and his family adores me. We see each other on a daily bases and are always together. Everyone is always asking us if we are more that just best friends but we always laugh and say 'Na, we're just best friends'.
Lately I've been doing a lot of thinking, which for me is NEVER good!
Everyone is putting thoughts into my head. Recently something happened to me and he's been the only one out of my so called best friends that has been with me every single day. The other day we we're falling asleep on my bed and we're kind on and off holding hands. Then when he woke up he put his arms around me, kissed me on the forehead and said we should get up. That was my breaking point! Now i don't know what to think. Does he have something for me? What should i do? I really don't want to mess up our friendship again!

Everyone keeps telling me we are perfect for each other and that we that we act as if we were together. Everyone says we belong together and we are gonna get married one day. I don't think that so, since it didn't work out in the past.
Are we just best friends or is there something more to this than what it seems?
HELP PLEASE!

Confused One

Answer:

Dear Confused One:

You are in a sticky situation!
There's a lot of difference between being best friends and being more than that.
It's not always true that if you're perfect as best friends, you'll be a perfect husband and wife. When you start getting too intimate, things change sometimes. Maybe that's the case with you and your guy.
You should have a serious talk with your guy, ask him if he thinks things would work out between you on a serious level. See what he has to say ... if he doesn't think so, then don't be rash and lose him as a friend. You'll at least know what he's thinking and can act from there.
If he thinks it's worth another try, then go for it and see what happens.
Don't be confused! Take it easy, always breathe and think positively.

Why Does He Lead Me On?

2008-05-10T11:08:22Z

I've been talking with this guy that i met online on and off now for about a few years.
He's been trying to get me to meet him, but I've been hesitant about it because of insecurities. Well, we just started talking again and he tells me that he wants to get married and have children with me and that he's ready to get our relationship started. I'm ready to
see him now, but it worries me because he doesn't really call me. I'm the one who has to contact him!
I've confronted him about the situation and he apologizes but never seems to do what he says he's going to do. Why does he tell me that he likes me and cares about me and then ignores me? Why lead me on? Should i forget about him and move on?

Chandra

Answer:

]]> Dear Chandra,

It doesn't sound to me like a thing that's going to work!
Usually Internet relationships are a flop! Only in some very rare cases do they work, and only after the two meet face to face and spend some time together, to get to know each other in person.
You said it yourself: he doesn't contact you, he doesn't do what he says he'll do and you're hesitant! If you're not 100% sure, then don't! As long as you're hesitant, then it's not going to work.
Be tough and let him go. You'll find Mr. Right when the time is right.
Good Luck!