My problem is that I came to America new and am from Nigeria. Am in school here in new jersey and i saw this girl that i really love and i want to be with, i told her what is in my mind thats i love her, she said i have to give her some time to think about it if am a honest and if am a guy to be trusted. It took her almost 2 to 3 weeks to think about it, she called me and said that she only want us to be best friends. So what will i do to make her love me pls... i really love this girl.

By Sadiq

Answer:

I am sorry to say that the best thing you can do is contend with the friendship she is offering. She does not seem to have made the decision lightly.
I think you should strive to be the best friend you can be to her for the time being. Respect her decision, and hopefully she may come to appreciate your loyalty, and reward you with the affections you seek.

What if I was in love with a boy that my friend use to be in love with and go with, what should I do?

By Chelsea

Answer:

It is quite a delimma you seem to be in. Even if your friend is no longer in love with this boy, she is bound to be resentful.
My initial advise to you is just forget about it, usually these relationships at your age do not last very long anyway. Loyalty in friendship is much more important.

Hi, this is a weird situation I am in. It all started October year 06, i met this guy from a friend at a party. We right away got along and i really thought he was a sweet guy. He had an awesome personality, but I wasn't too excited meeting him. He was a different kind of guy that I dated... he was more nerdy but not all the way since he did party he just seems like a total sweetheart like he would never hurt a girl. He started asking me out on dates, and we went on a few. He was a total gentleman just as I expected, he kinda called me a lot too but for some reason i wasn't way into him, maybe cause he was easy to get.

In a relationship since 11 months, she is separated with her husband who was
no where in the picture till last 2 months, she loves me, doesn't want to go
back to him, but confused as her son is with him and she wants her son, i am
hyper too which she hates.

By Mann

Answer:

Dear Mann,

Who of us does not have faults??? you say you are hyper, a characteristic that the woman you love does not like. I am sure she would not be with you, if it was affecting her so much. Try and tone it down a bit, if you think it is causing problems.

Hi, i been having some problems lately and i feel it is affecting my love life. Few months back i finally got together with my high school sweetheart so to speak. She's the girl I've been hung up on since 11 grade. We had feelings for each other we just never said them because of fear of ruining the friendship because neither of us knew how each other felt. She was also in a complicated relationship of three years in the end at the time.

I was dating this guy about two years ago we were having lots of problems so we separated in the process I got pregnant by someone else. Now it's been two years I seen him and told him how I felt and how much I have missed him, only thing he told me was that he couldn't have sex with me because he had feelings for me, I don't get it. I live in another state now but I want us to be back together or in the process. I know that I hurt him (he hurt me too) but why is it taking so long for him to get over it? or maybe should I just say forget it.

Christine

I've been with enough people to know what i want, then i met this one girl, we kicked it off you know she would try to get my attention, tell me things she told no one else etc... so i asked her out and she said yes and it seemed as if it was all good, but then she tells me not to like her and such bit i know that she is the one that I've been looking for all my life, i don't want to let her go, so any help?

Don

Hi i'm 16 and i am in love with a girl also 16, this is not the first time, but this time my feelings are stronger then i ever felt before.

I want to be with her but she lives in England and I live in Norway and she doesn't know i even exist. I know that i'm never going to be with her so my question is how can i stop being in love?

Ken

HI, I am 15 and I am just a normal teenager. I am in grade 10 and probably considered to be above average in the popularity status and I really like this boy in grade 11 who is very unpopular (though I hate using
stats) but I really don’t know him all that well. I sometimes associate with his sister in my grade but I find it hard to get to know him. I really want to but I feel that it is too late. Here is what happened about 8 months ago.

I started to notice him and I told a few of my friends and they said I should tell him though I didn’t know him.
The first problem is: Can u like someone u don't know?
Anyway I told him face to face at my birthday down at the beach. Him with a few of his friends and walked with my friends. They ran up to him and brought him over and it just slipped out and I told him.
I agreed to get to know him better and that we'd talk at school but I never showed. I couldn’t face him and I never went to see him at school and it is now 8 months later. I still really like him but I was hesitant to talk to him as I heard a lot of mixed reactions from his friends and people.