A guy liked me for a long time and was aggravating me everyday telling me I was fine and he wanted to go with me, but I never ever liked him, so I got tired of him messing with me, so I went with him for about three weeks and I started liking him more and more but he doesn’t act the same like he use to be crazy over me but now its like he doesn’t really care, so what should I do? Should we stop talking, or stay together? What should I do, please help me!

For a while now… I've liked one of my very good friends, I've told him and I do have another friend (a female), whose brother is good friends with the one I like. She always tells me that he says nice things all the time, and always wants me to come around and be with them… for instance, last weekend, we all went to some party, but as I was getting directions, on the phone with her, he was in the background, telling her to tell me that he wants me to go, and then when it comes to school, he still does come around me, and gives me hugs quite a bit… but its just all so confusing because I am scared to talk to him about my true feelings.

I believe myself to be in love; I met this man and on the first night I saw him I felt this emotional connection with him. I can look deep into his eyes and my eyes get heavy yet I want to leave them open just to stare at him. The more I sat with him the more I felt the need to say I love you. My heart beats faster when I hear his voice or talk to him. I, for some reason, needed to meet him when I saw his picture and I can't explain why. I feel this overwhelming feeling of love coming off of him when ever he is around.

He makes me feel safe all the time and we can just sit and stare at each other for hours with out saying a word. When we are together I have no cares and I am off in a world where nothing matters, I can't hear a thing. He gives me chills when he touches me. What’s it all mean?

How do you really know he does not love you anymore?
Example: He lives 2.5 hrs away, I used to go there any time I wanted, until he bought a home and said this is the first time he had ever bought a home without a wife.
Calls don't come that much anymore but when I am there on my weekends off he is very attentive to me and my needs.

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By Ftprintz

I met this girl a couple of years ago and we have become best friends. We see each other about 6 days a week and we hang out and watch movies all the time. At first I didn’t have any feelings for her apart from a friend but now over about the last 5 months I have become completely in love with her. I told her that I liked her a few months ago and she gave me the 'I love you as a friend' thing. To make things worse she has got herself a bf who lives 7 hours away and they have been going out for a few months. I don’t know why my feelings for her haven’t gone away after all this time.

Ok there’s this guy I am in love with -- who we started out as just friends that have sex-- and now I am really clinging to him and telling him how I feel and it's really pushing him away. I think cause he said I love you when he was drunk then said he didn't mean it. It broke my heart and I don't know how he REALLY feels. He tells me he doesn’t LOVE me but just as a friend, and that there will never be anything between us. I do not know why I am hanging on.

The longest I can go without calling him is like two days and he never will call me first! What do I do? I am really in love with him and I want him to be with me!

By Jess

I use to live in New York I fell in love with this guy named Jeremy and we always argued about a lot of things. We had an on an off relationship but no matter what, we keep running back to each other but then I moved to Florida and continued dating him until I broke up with him only because I don’t want to have a distance relationship. I want to be with him but now I’m dying inside!
It’s been 5 months since we've been apart and I want him back but I don’t know how it’s going to work out. What should I do to try to get him back? It seems like he hates me for what I've done with us but I don’t know if it’s just that he's recovering or he really does hate me. I need some help!

By Beatrice Diaz

Hey! I hooked up with this guy André a few weeks ago. He's 23 and I'm 16. We were sitting on the couch and I had been hitting on him the whole night. I guess I had my feet against his back and he told me how good they felt on his back because they were cold... so he kept telling me where to move them.

Then a while later he turned to me and said I'm going to be completely honest with you... I've been hitting on you all night and I said I’ve
been hitting on you too and we kept talking and finally he leaned in and kissed me. He told me how a girl my age shouldn't look as good as me or kiss as good as me. And all night he was calling me gorgeous and how my eyes are so beautiful and he can't look away from me.

Another year passed and the only time I got in touch with her was during her birthday in April 2005. No roses, no chocolate, not even a phone call...just a text message saying happy birthday. She did the same on my b-day. From what I recall she had been dating too, and one of her new bf turned out to be a double-dating loser from college.
This year was a silent one and there was no contact. One night I was having a gathering at my place over the world cup match and my house was full of buddies. Out of the blue, I felt I missed her a lot & walked into my bedroom and decided to call her. She seemed to be delighted with the phone call, but I made it a 1 minute call to ask her if she wanted to get over a coffee. I don 't think that she expected someone who's 3 hours away by plane would fly to have a coffee with her. The next afternoon I was at Starbucks talking with a different person, more mature yet deep inside the same cute, flirty, teasing lady. She asked me about my love life and I told her honestly...

At the turn of the year ('03) I was informed that she resumed college for an mba and I was alarmed a the fact that she could be falling for someone else. Jealousy, arrogance, silliness ... and all the negative aspects of character formed my new me. I remained intact with my job and developed a good career with time. I also had a few, short relationships that were simple and non-intense. I realized I was mellowing down and by the end of the year I felt I was over her.
Mornings were not sad anymore, and slow music sounded warm again instead of depressing. The following year ('04) we spotted each other online and had a wonderful chat in catching up on events. A few weeks later I flew to see her (pretending to attend a business event). She invited me over for lunch with her family. As I entered her house and laid my eyes on her I literally felt like someone poured a bottle of cognac inside my abdominal area and it was so obvious to everyone around. Only this time, there was only 1 cheek kiss and a simple (non-tight) hug.

I saw that her reasoning was just and believed that she deserved my parents respect despite the few other problems we had between us. She left without achieving her goal and tension started to build up on both of us. We were both suffering for a long time.

She was too clever to sense disapproval from my folks side and she talked openly about with me later. The same thing happened over and over again for a whole year. I had to travel for work and we continued to be in close contact (phone, internet, frequent visits to her city) because I believed with all my heart that she was the one.

6 years ago (1997) I traveled to another country to pursue a degree in college. I had very few relationships with women until I got to junior year (2000) & met this gorgeous girl. We started hanging out but for some reason she wasn't ready for dating yet. I started to have strong feelings for her a month later and I conveyed them in several ways but they were not met with a romantic welcome.

A girl I started seeing 2 weeks ago. Suddenly she told me that she thinks things were going too fast and wanted us to slow things down, & go back to being friends where we can both date. She said she didn't want to feel constricted like she did with her ex boyfriend.
I love this girl. She means the world to me and I don't know what to do if things don't go well. I will be broken in two. This girl fills a huge gap in my life that I have had for quite a while. I'm just worried that I'll lose her.
Do I have hope?

Ricemachine