I have been best friends with a guy for almost 4 years now. I love him to death and i know that i can't live without him. I've tried.
When we first met, we grew on each other fast. We both secretly had something for each other. I told him i liked him and he said he didn't see me like that and didn't want to mess up our friendship. He later came to confess that he had always had feeling for me and that if we would have tried it out we would have been together. Nothing happened for about 6 months. Then i had my first real kiss and it was with him!
June through January we had something, we were best friends and a bit more.

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We started getting into fight about lots of things and we stopped everything on my birthday last year. We promised to just be best friends again and it was like that for a while until he got a girlfriend. She didn't like me so we ended up not talking for about 7 month.
During that time, i only saw him about 4 times in which we didn't really talk. We say hi and go our separate ways. I missed him a lot but i got used to it.

About 2 months ago i felt like i didn't have anyone. A lot had changed and i didn't know what to do and he was the only person on my mind. I ended up contacting him and we talked and fixed a lot of things that should have never gone wrong in the first place. It took a little time but we are best friends again and i can't imagine my life with out him.
He was the first one to say "i love you" to me when we got our friendship back but it was so hard for me to say it to him since i don't trust a lot of people. I ended up saying it to him about two weeks after he first said it but i was still scared. Now every thing's great.
He's the first person i talk to everyday and the last one i talk to every night. We always say i love you before we hang up the phone or when we are leaving each others' houses.

My parents adore him and his family adores me. We see each other on a daily bases and are always together. Everyone is always asking us if we are more that just best friends but we always laugh and say 'Na, we're just best friends'.
Lately I've been doing a lot of thinking, which for me is NEVER good!
Everyone is putting thoughts into my head. Recently something happened to me and he's been the only one out of my so called best friends that has been with me every single day. The other day we we're falling asleep on my bed and we're kind on and off holding hands. Then when he woke up he put his arms around me, kissed me on the forehead and said we should get up. That was my breaking point! Now i don't know what to think. Does he have something for me? What should i do? I really don't want to mess up our friendship again!

Everyone keeps telling me we are perfect for each other and that we that we act as if we were together. Everyone says we belong together and we are gonna get married one day. I don't think that so, since it didn't work out in the past.
Are we just best friends or is there something more to this than what it seems?
HELP PLEASE!

Confused One

Answer:

Dear Confused One:

You are in a sticky situation!
There's a lot of difference between being best friends and being more than that.
It's not always true that if you're perfect as best friends, you'll be a perfect husband and wife. When you start getting too intimate, things change sometimes. Maybe that's the case with you and your guy.
You should have a serious talk with your guy, ask him if he thinks things would work out between you on a serious level. See what he has to say ... if he doesn't think so, then don't be rash and lose him as a friend. You'll at least know what he's thinking and can act from there.
If he thinks it's worth another try, then go for it and see what happens.
Don't be confused! Take it easy, always breathe and think positively.