My BF is in a military school. He never calls me or emails me. He asked me to wait for him, but I didn't expect to be placed in a closet & be forgotten about. I know he is very busy, but I don't know what to do. I truly am in love with this guy & I feel he feels the same. We liked each other for 2 years before he asked me out, then 30 days later his parents sent him away.
We knew it was going to happen. I just don't understand why ?? he doesn't email me. His excuse is he is 2 busy w/ school which may be true. I wanted to go with him to his homecoming but he hasn't brought it up. He came home for a 36hr leave but never got to see me, he wanted to relax & sleep. is that normal?
My friends all tell me to forget about him, but I can't !
During the last 2 years I had a few BF's, none of them made me happy inside. He does... He has never had a GF (known fact) he said its because he has been in love w/me for the last 2 yrs.
What can I do am I over reacting? help !!
By Brittney
Answer:
Dear Brittney,
You asked the question yourself:
"is that normal?"
NO, it is not normal that he would want to come home, do nothing but sleep and not want to see you. I gather you have talked to him about. How busy can he be to write you an email every now and then?!
Talk to him, and this time to tell him that you NOT happy with the situation. How happy can he make you inside if you do not feel secure in the relationship. I wonder if your boyfriendship has issues to deal with at school or at home?? The only thing available to you is talking to him; Find out what is truly going on.
If the situation does not improve and he does not pay you the attention you need and deserve, your only outlet is to cut your losses and walk away. The more we let people take us for granted, the more they will.
Sil
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I am kind of in the same situation. My BF has been gone for 4 months to a youth military school. We only got to spend about 1 month together b4 he had to go. I've only known him a year and been dating him for 5 months we have the best connection. The only thing is he cant email so he writes me letters. I get one almost everyday. I dont understand why yall didnt spend time together when he came home...especially if he loves you!
dear Brittany
if you truly love this guy dont listen do people who say that you should brake up lots of people miss their loved ones when they go away,and yes its the same for boys to.but remember when he comes home he needs to rest,after all he has been at milatery school! so don't feel bad but if you start to feel lonley then you could try to keep your self busy by joining clubs and having girly nights with your freinds .and maybe instead of him not e-mailing you ,you try to keep in touch with him,but if you can't i suppose you could something that you both like for when he comes home like bowling or tennis bu making sure hat he has eunugh time to rest .hope this will help
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Amelie xxxxx
ok Amelie .. its nice of u TO BLIND FOLD THE GIRL.. look Brittney .. u shouldnt be asking us u should be asking him about what is going on and such. u want to know where u stand .. u dont want to invest too many emotions in something thats not real.. i dont know about him but its not true i mean he could take 2 silly hours off his rest FOR THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE if it was true what hes been telling u... he can surely -even busy with school- find 5 minutes to write an e-mail.
just talk to him and figure things out .
take care, let us know what happens
Zaid
Britteny,
The situation you're in is very hard. When my ex boyfirned was in military school he spent his weekends with me and that really made me happy, but him wantign to sleep and I got no idea what is not normal. I believe he doesn't want to see you, but he is the onlyone who can answer the question. Ask him and don't accept his excuses becasue excuses about being busy is not acceptble. Ask him what you means to him and what he wants out of your relationship. If he can't answer then move on.
dear brittany,
don't get panic...be cool! why u want to hurt ur feeling, and get dissappointed for some one, who dosent care for u at this point of time.what i suggest u is, get stragiht away to him and ask only one question?do you love me and want to marry me. suppose if he says! he does,then ball is in ur court. if he say he doesn't, then ignore him,give him some time [time means,u set the time for him say 1week 2 weeks 3weeks etc,its upto u to deal]..just wait and watch.still he dosent turn up,then i suggest and humbly request you not to be at the back of him,afterall we are human beings and we too have heart..prove urself that if not u some body else,only thing required here is patience. god has created such a big world for us,with many people in it..may be ur dream boy is on a way..just chill and be happy.
regards,
priyanka.
hi brittney,well i read ur story and ill give u my opinion.i have a friend who had the same story.but she broke with her bf cos he was also in the military school and when he had few days to spend he doesnt see her.he dont even write or end her emails for the same reason which is No Time.finally he told her that he was telling her that he loves her just because he knows that she does but for real he forgot her with the time that he passed there.Anw i think u should talk to ur bf and explain to him ur problem.if he hasnt time to send u letters,i think he can see u at least when he comes home...even if he says that he wanna relax...i think if he really loves u...when he sees u and give u a kiss he will forget everything and he`ll get relaxed.if its not going to be like this its better to broke up.anw tc
dear brittney,
hi, i'm so sad to you and i know how you feel when you are front of this fact, and either do i. That's why i know your feeling. For me, my gf has gone off for working for 4 months. During her leaf, her feeling and caracters have changed all that make me can't receive all of her actions and new caracters. I really want to forget her but i can't. So what can i do?? So i just want to tell you that you'd better to watch or play something fun which can release some stress and bored, those're just what i had done.
best regards,,,,,,,,