I'm in love with a guy, who is currently furthering his studies abroad. We met when he came on vacation more than one year ago. Everything was so sweet and the relationship was so much fun, even when he got back. The problem started 3 months after he got back. He doesn't call often; his emails are now minimal, stopped calling me on special occasions. He didn't cal me on valentine day, my birthday etc. When I complain, he will give excuses and apologize but it still continues. There was a time when I wanted to end the relationship, but he begged me not do so and yet still he hasn't change.
He also promised to get back to me last July but he didn't come at all. Now I don't know what to do, please help me.

By FM

Answer:

Dear FM,

Unfortunately distance can and in most cases is harmful to the relationship, both partners have to put in 100% for it to work it out. You do not have many options, one of them is to continue with the relationship as it is and another is to just dump him.
It is obvious that your made your unhappiness clear to him and yet he still continues with his behavior.
Otherwise again I would give the advice of talking to him. You call him and make your feelings and worries clear and be firm. Tell him that now you will end the relationship for good if he does not explain exactly what is going on and gives you valid reasons for his behavior. If you do not want to call him, just wait until he comes for his next vacation.
If the situation does not improve, you either put up or I would suggest that you do end the relationship.

I do hope you will work it out between you two; Communication is the key.

Sil.