I love a girl who has boyfriend. I've tried my best to show her that I'm deeply in love with her but I'm sure I have failed. She is always very nice and kind to me and she gives me compliments all the time. We are class mates and also neighbors, but the problem doesn't end here, we have a mutual friend who I think likes me. Everything is just so twisted.
I'm not really a shy person who can't talk to girls, but the problem is that we are going to have many classes and projects together, and if I talk to her and find out that she doesn't like me, then our professional relationship is going to be very awkward; I'd rather to see that beautiful smile on her face whenever she sees me than taking the risk of talking to her and ruining everything.
Plus I don't want anybody to get hurt because of me; I'm talking about her boyfriend.
Her birthday is coming up, and I was thinking maybe I should buy her something that expresses my feelings for her; maybe a book, but I really don't know what kind of book.
What should I do? I'm so confused, I can't do anything, I've been thinking about her every second of my life for the last four months.
Mehran
Answer:
Dear Merhan,
You said yourself that you tried your best to convey your feelings to her, but she did not seem to notice. You either didn't try hard enough, or she did not want to understand and the latter says a lot.
The best way not to have a bad run with girls is to chose girls who are emotionally available... If I were you, I would try and build a relationship with the girl that likes you and is unattached.
However if you really want to express your feelings to your friend, ask her how she feels about her boyfriend. If she feels strongly about the relationship, and tells you how much she loves him, then forget about it. If her response is vague, you may go for conveying your true feelings.
Lastly let me tell u that one of the guaranteed ways for setting yourself up for a fall is to horn in on someone else's territory.
Sincerely,
Sil.
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well just say that ur kinda attracted to her, but u dk
ask her what she thinks about it
dont go all out and say u love her cuz thats too intense for most ppl to handle
anyway, try to distance urself emotionally from the whole thing to, cuz it wil not eliminate all feelings by any means and will let u make better decisions
also keep in mind how open and accepting she is to discussing things, like feelings and delicate subjects
so yeah, if u get positive feedback and u can be certain objectively that ur more compatible than the BF, jsut muscle him out
if negative feedback, then just be like wow thx for clearing this up for me i feel much better now adn she'll be like yay! adn u guys can still be friends, adn who knows, situations change with the future
the worst thing to do is nothing adn to be crippled by fear adn indescision, ur love must be stronger than that
u only get one shot at things like this and 2nd chances are usually only in movies(but still possible) so dont let it pas u up
i ahd to move across the country in mid Hs adn lost so many relationships it was incredibly terrible
i would have given anything for the chance u have right here:a chance at reconciling a negative situation
Hi Merhan,
First of all loving the other peson's lover is very bad. Better remove her from your heart and try to maintain a distance from her.
just try ur best and be nice to her and tell her how u feel about her
hi
am ismail n am in luv wit a gurl
who i beliv like mi 2 but she gut a guy more rich dan mi n am some kind ov shy
fear tellin ha i luv ha bcoz shs ma friend and am afraid she may think am jokin
as i jok wit ha every time pliz help
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hey i was in the same predicament, but out of some crazy luck it worked out for me, i told her how i felt and she admited she loved me too. she said she didn't really love her boyfriend and she was too scared to tell anyone. so they broke up and we got together. now i'm with the girl of my dreams and i've never been happier
tell her if i don't see u every day i'll be nothing and she will understand realy do this or tell her u are the light of my eyes
i am in the same type of situation. she is from new jersey moved to florida for her bf and was living at her bf mothers for like 5 months 3 months into that she started working at my job. we started talking then one thing led to another , we started to hook up. about a month into that she was buying a home with her bf which was planned from the begining. so she followed through with the reason she came down here. she bought the house with her bf. while still hooking up with me. now its been like 2 months after living in the new home and we have stopped hooking up for the most part but we still talk every day all day. but right now she just wants to be friends. she is unsure of what she wants in life. she did not come here for me but she did find me here. things were not going well with her bf so she started to explore around i guess u can say. but now things are going well with her bf. and thats why she wants to be friends. i understand it but still doesnt change how i feel about her. thats about as far as i got but i am buying her a puppy this weekend. she really wants it so we will see what happens i will let you all know what happens next week