Me and my fiance has been together going on 8 years we've split up for 7 months after our son was born i am 22 and he's 24 but he has never been affectionate only when he wants to have sex or sucking up about something we have been through a lot together, I love him very much and i like to be affectionate and we fight a lot about why he isn't... he always says he's to tired or not in a very good mood the 1st 2 years he was great i know it's confusing but if you know that he truly cares for you and loves you don't sweat it not all guys are affectionate they have a hard time showing it.

By Stephanie

Answer:

It could be that he is so comfortable in the relationship and certain of your love, he no longer feels the need to put in an effort, especially since your relationship has been going on for eight years. You are now over the honeymoon period which you say lasted for two years. The fact about him showing affection only when he wants something means he is taking you for granted and not showing you the respect you need.

You have been teenage sweethearts who are now parents, and that can change the relationship bringing in many responsibilities. Your son is your main priority right now, and for his own stability you need to have a trusting and strong relationship. He needs a happy mother secure in the love and loyalty of her partner.

You stated that you have talked to him about it. Did you relate your feelings and worries clearly in a calm manner, without getting emotional? If not I suggest you do so without sounding too needy and possessive. By clinging too much you will succeed in further pushing him away.

You could also talk to a relationship counsellor, not necessarily together. You could go alone explaining your main misgivings about the relationship. It can be quite helpful as well as seeking the advice of close people that know you both and have a clear idea about your relationship.

Good luck.
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