In a relationship since 11 months, she is separated with her husband who was
no where in the picture till last 2 months, she loves me, doesn't want to go
back to him, but confused as her son is with him and she wants her son, i am
hyper too which she hates.

By Mann

Answer:

Dear Mann,

Who of us does not have faults??? you say you are hyper, a characteristic that the woman you love does not like. I am sure she would not be with you, if it was affecting her so much. Try and tone it down a bit, if you think it is causing problems.

The other area causing tension in your relationship, does seem of major importance. Try to be there for her and support her, because she needs you now. Do I understand her ex wants her back?? Did she try for joint custody?

My advice is to stick it out, and show her how much you value her and love her. I don't think she should go back to her husband, even for her son's sake, because an unhappy lonely mother is not a good mother. Unhappy marriages can cause as much damage as separation and divorce. That is my opinion, but then a mother's love knows no logic.

Just be there for her and support her in whatever decision she takes, even though it may not be to your liking.

Hopefully the outcome will be in all parties best interests.

Sil