Waleg

Should I Just Say Forget It!

By WALEG on Jan 31, 2007

I was dating this guy about two years ago we were having lots of problems so we separated in the process I got pregnant by someone else. Now it's been two years I seen him and told him how I felt and how much I have missed him, only thing he told me was that he couldn't have sex with me because he had feelings for me, I don't get it. I live in another state now but I want us to be back together or in the process. I know that I hurt him (he hurt me too) but why is it taking so long for him to get over it? or maybe should I just say forget it.

Christine

Answer

Dear Christine,

You left the details of whether u kept the baby or not, that would have shed more light on the situation. You are both feeling hurt and that is understandable, but you have to understand that a man's ego is more fragile than women, they do not easily forgive and forget as we do. You mentioned you had problems in the past, have these issues been resolved? if not what makes u think the relationship will actually survive them this time especially that you have created other problems that are thrown into the pot.

I command him for not wanting to have sex, because in that fragile period of your relationship a sexual relation can harm more than repair the damage already existent.
Also the problem of you two not being in the same place can add more stress to the process of repairing your relationship.

The best advice I can tell you is to try and get together to be able to have an in-depth discussion about ur relationship, since you both admit to having feelings for each other. You try and explain to him with all honesty what drove you to do what you did, the depth of your love for him and your willingness to build a lasting relationship.
If he is not willing to take that step, then yes FORGET IT...
Good luck!!

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  1. fatema

    fatema

    Jul 6, 2007

    I hate you u dnt even know im waitng for you u dnt kno hw much I wna be wid u I dnt even belive it has come to this me literally waiting for u like a obsessed freak on the computer im just lonely u dnt understand that you have friends hu wnt to b wid u hu call u n listen n wori for u I dnt I hav nothing tru in my life I jst wait for u to be the tru bcz I feel so sad n shit I dnt think we would ever be able to be perfect for eachother u jst dnt give the affections I nd form I love u so much u dnt even kno wts running thru my head I wna die ahmed I wna die bcz of u bcz of my family bcz of everything I feel like a failure I feel like a fool I wish u cud understand me u cnt say u love me evythings rng wt cn I giv u from a long distant relationship. U mke me wonder wt u wnt from me, bcz u dnt show tht u wnt me as much as I wnt ui wna die man u dnt kno I wna say sso much but I cnt I cn only b tru to myself but I kno in the end I wnt follow my heart or my head ill just follow u ill tell u wt u wnt to hear wheather I mean it or nt ill mke myself mean it coz I lve u more th n evry thing maybe I dnt reli love u maybe I jus feel dt u the onli 1 I cn hold on ton I dnt wna let u go weve bn together 4 long nw reli long 4 years n I still miss u I wna marry u argh! So much to say I just dnt wna say it so ill end my feelings heren ill think for the rest I cnt express onli wen I talk to myself do u kno hw lonely this gets I hate my life I hav nothing but u but u dnt kno tht!! I love you n u love me!! Xoox af

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