HI, I am 15 and I am just a normal teenager. I am in grade 10 and probably considered to be above average in the popularity status and I really like this boy in grade 11 who is very unpopular (though I hate using
stats) but I really don’t know him all that well. I sometimes associate with his sister in my grade but I find it hard to get to know him. I really want to but I feel that it is too late. Here is what happened about 8 months ago.
I started to notice him and I told a few of my friends and they said I should tell him though I didn’t know him.
The first problem is: Can u like someone u don't know?
Anyway I told him face to face at my birthday down at the beach. Him with a few of his friends and walked with my friends. They ran up to him and brought him over and it just slipped out and I told him.
I agreed to get to know him better and that we'd talk at school but I never showed. I couldn’t face him and I never went to see him at school and it is now 8 months later. I still really like him but I was hesitant to talk to him as I heard a lot of mixed reactions from his friends and people.
Some people told me that I should leave it alone his best friends told me that he really liked me (but I couldn’t tell if they were joking).
Now, this guy that reckons he is friends with him started to like me and reckoned he would talk to him for me. He told me that he didn’t like me and to leave him alone (but this guy liked me and the guy who likes my sister told me that her brother hates this guy so I don't know what’s going on there)
There are multiple things that could have happened.
So this changed my feelings and I didn’t want to talk to him if he felt this way.
I am so confused but I still really like him please help me!
Answer:
Dear b,
My dear, the first thing you should do is this:
“Stop asking people to see if he likes you”
The only way to know for sure is by asking him yourself. What are you waiting for? Are you afraid he might reject you? Are you afraid he might not feel the same way? Well, this is a gamble you have to take in order to get to the truth. I know it’s hard to think of even, but there’s really no other way. Stop believing in “go-betweens” they help no one but themselves. All they want to do is gossip and have fun going from person to person talking about the same problem over and over again. Don’t be a victim of time-wasting go-betweens!
Assert yourself!
Take action!
Even if it doesn’t work out (which I’m sure it would) at least you don’t end up wasting time and energy thinking about it!
Good luck!
comments
Just talk to the guy will you?!!! you are going round and round in circles and let me tell you it does not get any easier as you grow. Ah your article brings back memories, I told someone who told someone who said someone said that someone did....
It's me again and this time I will give you nice advice. We do not always say or do what we need to say or do. Often, we opt for saying what we feel we ought to say and what we sense is expected and what would prove pleasing to others. Sometimes, it gets you nowhere. Deep down inside of us we know we are fearing the disapproval we might face. In you case I think you should take another path and do what pleases you and tell him to his face how you feel. Reach out for what is truly need here.
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if you like the guy go up to him and tell him, or to be on the safe side, ask his sister if he has an e-mail address and then write him an e-mail and explain to him everything that you explained in here. So, he could understand what your going through. And when and if he sends you and e-mail or he approches to you talk to him and don't be afraid, becasue you cannot be afraid for the rest of your life. I know your just a kid but if you had the determentaion you can accomplish anything...
hey !!
well i think you shoul date him for maybe a cupple of months and then see how u feall because remember some guys turn out to be loosers
u r so retarded u should not have told him that u would meet him if ur not going to! mi god havent u eva had a boyfirend or made a move on anyone?!!!!!! jesus christ some people r born with stupidness in there brains! one serios question, did ur parents drop u on ur head when u were little because if they did i recommend seeing a counselor and fast before u loose more men god!