I met my husband, who is a year older, when I was 17 and we got married when I was 20 and we have been married 23 years. We have 3 children a 16 year old girl, a 12 year old boy, and an 8 year old girl. I am confused, hurt, angered, and I don't know what is best for the kids and me.

I've known almost from the beginning that Mark had problems, but 1. I thought he would grow out of it, and 2. I was taught that marriage was when you made a vow to someone that you didn't take it lightly that you work through it good or bad. My parents where married for 40 some years before my dad died, it wasn't always perfect, but my parents loved each other and made it work to the best of their abilities.

The same with my grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc they all stayed married and worked through many different problems that arose and seemed to genuinely care for each other and their families. But, my parents and other relatives seem to have had a moral code of honor that my husband seems to lack.

It all boils down to that he either has mental difficulties caring properly for his wife and children or he just doesn't really care. Mark is very selfish. Egotistical but lacks self confidence, he doesn't want to accept responsibility for his actions and he has a lack of respect for women or anyone who knows more than him or doesn't agree with him.

... to be continued

By Chandra

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