I love this boy so much! He is 19 and I'm 13, he is my friend's brother. I love him a lot and I cant stop thinking of him. But I don't know what to do, should I let him know that I love him and I cant live without him!
My friend knows, she sometimes tries to help me.
I am not seeing him these days because he has exams.
What should I do when I see him and what should I do to let him feel that I love him?
Nouni
Dear Nouni,
I think what you're feeling isn't love, but admiration.
You are still very young to be feeling real love. Believe me, it will pass.
I think it would be useless to let the guy know anything, because he isn't going to share this love with you! He is 19, and probably has other interests & has other girls his age to go out with.
Try to put this feeling aside & just be your age! Go out with your friends & get to know boys your age! Have fun!
Good Luck
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well my opinion is that, it's not love it's probaby a crush, and i don't think you should tell him he may not feel the same way and that will crush your heart. Do he have a girlfriend..
I think that you should just forget him, in most countries if a guy his age has a relationship with a girl your age its considered pedophillia and thus illegal,
u need to realize that ur not in love, hes probably hot, smart, popular, etc. so u think u love him when u dont. even if he doesnt have a gf ur still his little sis's friend, and thats probably the way he thinks of u, as his sis's friend. even if he did like u, ur relationship is illegal, ull get over him, eventually ull get to like some1 else dont worry
Hi i am 17 now, and met my old boyfriend when i was 13 also..he was 19 then, so believe me i understand how u feel..it was a long distant relationship so it didnt work out, but i was with him for 2 years..and i believe it was love as i ended with him only 2 months ago. But u must be careful..guys between 18-23 are not often in serious relationships..some do and some jus 2 say they have gf..i would not tell him u love him caz then he will take u 4 granted..and u must make him prove to u he loves u from all of his heart. Good luck and i hope it works out well :) - u can e-mail me if u want any more advice
End this before you get your heart broken. You make think ur in love and get soworked up with it that you will suddenly reach a dead end when he rejects you. I'm sure he admires you as a dear friend but nothing more. However, I don't really know how things are really going betwen u and him but unless she shows you that he may really love you (a gesture or a sign) then there is no reason to get worked up... ;) Take care and I hope everything goes fine!
I want to say that every girl goes through this stage. It's funny when I look at my old diaries from when I was 13 years old, and I laugh my butt off at how many boys I used to "love"! It was pathetic! However, I DIDN'T REALIVE THAT AT THE TIME! Enjoy your life, but don't say anything to the boy, because it will ruin everything, trust me. :)
well.from my opinion..u're not in love..instead this is just infatuation.
evryone goes thru this stage in life.
it's part of growing up u know so dont get carried away...
besides it's too young for u to start thinking of boys now.pls dont waste ur youth on this...my advice to u is focus on education for nw.
then when u think u're ready..go for it.
alright.
much luck in ur future! :)
yea most likely its just some other crush.. n lets say she tolh him he might go out with her even if he doesnt like her that much cuz since hell realize shes 2 young 4 him hell use her 4 many things even force her in having sex!
n it will be very rare that some1 this age will trule luv or maybe even like a gurl younger by alot..
ALSO its illegal in manyy countries for a person younger then 18 2 date some1 above 18...um..unless theyr married i guess...
your 13 wat do u noe about love???? i htink u should worry about what your gonna wear tomorrow not about some 19 year old trust me if u just do somehtin else u will forget about him it honestly works all u have to do is keep yourself busy....
WAT THE H.E.L.L.????? YOU ARE PROBABLY SO FREAKIN UGLY BECAUSE IF U WERE PRETTY DONT YOU THINK HE WOULD OF BEEN HITTING ON YOU CUZ IN HIS MIND HE DOESNT THINK ABOUT THE AGE CUZ EVRYONE KNOWS "IT AIN'T NOTHIN BUT A NUMBER" RITE? MAN AND I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY YOU ASKED ANYONE ABOUT YOUR STUPID PROBLEM ANYWAY YOU THINK PEOPLE CARE!!! WELL I THINK DEFINITELY NOT!! YOU SHOULD BE HELPING YOUR MOTHER AROUND THE HOUSE INSTEAD OF THINKING ABOUT THE GUY YOUR GOING TO MARRY!! YOU KNOW YOUR STARTING TO PISS ME OFF!!!! I WANT TO CURSE AT YOU SO BADLY!! I DONT LIKE YOU!!!!!!
oh my god girl!.. The same exact thing iws happening to me. the only difference is that i'm 16 and he is 22 years old, but he is aslo my brothers friend. But u know what i think we should do? we should try to forget them,well he kinda gave me a sign that he liked me but then i found out that he had a girlfriend.but he is so stuped he keeps flurting with me and he told my frined that i was very pretty and nice and sweet, but i think he is a big ass player.so yeah i know is hard to stop thinking about them but lets try.
well i think every1 has this problem now-a-days.
i have the same problem excpt that he is my brothes freind. and who ever said that wht do u noe bout luv? thast retarded cuz even if ur realy young u noe wat luv is u noe u dnt have 2 be really old 2 understand luv.
i think u just have 2 live with ur feelings and wait 4 the moment and if u think he has sm feelings 4 u then try 3 gve him a sign.
im sure it will work out.
hope u the best with him.
tc bye
hey sup? well actually all these ppl r not in their mind rite now!!!
i hve the same thing!! i luv ma bf's bro!! i told him how i feel!! in a letter of course( i cant say it in his face)!! he thought tht im just jokin w/ him!! but im sure tht tht wont happen w/ u!! it depends on his personality if he is willing 2 hve a realationship or not!! ho cares abt ur age just go 4 it ntell him how u feel cuz then maybe he'll tell u hw u really feel (maybe it will be gr8)!!! sooo justfollow r feelings n btw noone is 2 young 2 luv
hope this helps
meemz
hiz ,my advice to u is to try to not to think about him and keep urself busy as much as u can cuz im definitely sure that u r going to 4get him and ur feeling is not love but a crush and liking and attraction and u felt this way probably cuz u saw many good things in him that u would like to see in any guy u would like to go out with and i think u r young 4 him and 4 love its jst a temporary feeling that is surely will be erased by time.just have fun with ur friends and dont search 4 love cuz when its time 4 love u wont ask 4 it it will jst come to u accidently without asking and searching 4 it.and how matter time passes and love doesnt knock ur door be sure that it will does someday that will be the right day and time 4 u to love.
wow gurl ur tooo small 4 luv so , jus' focus on ur study .
ohhh cant beleive these days they tell yaa they'r in luv N they 're only 13 , ur jus' a kid ok so b kid .
LOOK all u ppl saying she is too young 4 love well let me correct u SHE IS NT TOO YOUN 4 lOVE!
i met my bf when i was 13..and he was 20..u may find that ILLEGIAL OR SICK but its not like i did not do ... with him! also i am 17 now..he is 23..and i am getting back with him..so dont say that 13 is too young it is NOT. my cousin met her bf at 14..and married him last summer at the age of 25
Yo dont worry it is even worse wit me go for him and tell him how u feel about him... You never know what would happen untill u try...I love my boyfriend and he is older then me so i dont know what it is exactally that u are scared of
hey cutie, lol you sound so cute saying that your in love.. and yes it's okay your in love.. just don't tink about him alot cuz of u think about him alot and you dream all about him.. then one day he's ganna know and MIGHT reject you and your heart is ganna break badly!!! so what you have 2 do is show him how pretty etc.. you are and don't get too attached 2 him.. let him find out him self... good luck and hopefully one day he'll know and love you and get married 2 you and live happily ever after :D
GOOD luck girl :)
i live in hell like you made to your self.nouni i'm terribley sorry to know that such a bad feel'n like i'm feel'n rightnow.take it easy don't worry you will find the right man you want when he has finished his exam.and just tell him that you love him and let him to decide.if he say ok he really crazy cause you are not old enough to handle love.take somtime inthe future and have your own man that will fit you.FASA good luck in the future
hey nouni
how are u?
look honey at ur age i was exectly the same, chasing after guys older than me, i was the one falling in love and throwing myself, and it all ended me up in a big mistake that was hard to forget throughout my whole life nouni honey ure too young for this why torture ur life when u can just have fun ur still 13 and young and this isnt even real love, my advice to u is cut this and go have fun life is too short dnt waste it torturing urself for him and dnt say anythin to him go have fun go out with ur freinds and enjoy life as it is!
i wish u the best luck in ur life take care
regards
sara
bint_ilkuwait
I have just read all of the topics in Love and Romance. I do not know why but these people posting their problems seem stupid to me (sorry). Why is it when people are in love, their intelligence seems to desert them and they lose all their common sense?. Also I hate it when they bloody screw their lives and then try and seek sympathy and help. Wrong is wrong people. God I hope that I do not get to eat my own words one day.
hi nouni. look im also 13 years old.
and i also love some1 bt he has 15 years. it's a big difference of a boy friend of 15 and anothere of 19. i think that if u go and tell him he would wont accept because u r too small 4 him and 2nd that u r the sister of his friend so u r like his sister and if he will refuse ur brother and ur family will no and i think there will be some problems.
and 4 the ones r saying that she is too small 4 love this is not true cos the first time i loved i was 7 years!!
and if u want 2 say that say it in a good way not in a way that 'btejra7lo albo la wa7ad'. and 13 years is a considered a teenager remember!!
anyway that will be ur choice!! and good luck!!
plzzzz tell us wat will happen!
and thank u because u chared this with us!!! and enjoy it
shared*** (srry)
the real problem nowadays is that this love and sex thing is getting out of hand, and its the tv and the advertising sex is all over the f.uckin place and love what the hell no wonder people nowadays are lost the media is playin with your minds, when you love god then the real love comes for every1 and everything. goodluck dont be getting brainwashed by what you see stay focused.
What is wrong with you people! That girl is 13 years old and people are actually trying to give her advice on what to do. Look it is as simple as this: you are not an adult. Stick to boys your own age because grown men can do a world of harm to young girls. One: It is against the law. Two: It is socially and morally unacceptable in this day and age. You need to talk to an adult about these feelings like your parents or your mentor. Not some of these fools on this forum.
hi nouni
i have been through the same experience when i was ur age, but 2 tell u the truth i found out that i really didnt love that person and i got over it when i met other people. but if u really do love then try 2 show it 2 him and make him fall in love with you, but be careful cause his older than u and he might take u as an advantage and break ur heart, as other people said, ur still young and u will meet millions of other guys through out ur life, try 2 go out wiv ur friends and meet other people that are ur age.
goodluck darlin
when i was young i had so many crushes but never thought of the word 'love' or 'in love'... and for the first time i fell in love was when i was 24. you're only a child once, enjoy your childhood. you have the rest of your life for love.
omg! i am the same as you! but..its differnt..hes 19 and im 13 just lyk u and your crush. but his mom, dad, aunt, uncle, and aunt kno tht i lyk him. they all kno me very well. i kno all of them too. his 2 year old sister is my baby God sister. his mom works for my mom for our store. ive slept over at his house several times! he knos tht i lyk him. he is 19 but never had a gf! i think tht i have a chance with him! but my mom says tht i cant date until im 20...but i think i can date a lot sooner thn tht.. i always think about him and always go over to his house but he always has to do home work. we barely talk to each other because we are both shy and stuff. i really really really lyk him! if you are as close to you crush as i am..then you will probly get him some day! :) my crush has one more week of school left and im gonna to make my move! but remember to go slowly! :) have dinner with him and his family and get to kno them as much as you can! heh..its pretty funny tht his family already consider me his girlfriend...ok! so dont rush anything becuz he is in college and he has A LOT to do! hah..good thing there is a such thing as summer vacation! ^_^
and..his dad said tht hes really serious. if i ever break his heart (lyk id ever cuz guys my age suck so far) he hang him self or somthing...0_0 two guys like me. when they asked me out. id say "no" and even tho my friends say "you have made a big mistake!" i dont listen to them! :) aheh..at my end of the year dance..one of the boys tht lyk me asked me to dance twice..but i said sry no. im filipino so the age doesnt matter tht much. im chinese but we are opposite signs. in the astrological zodiac..we are matching signs. from what ive heard from his mom and dad is tht hes a serious and shy guy. i hope SOMTHING good happens btwn us! just spend time with him and atleast hve him as a friend. its very good to kno his fam! there were a lot of boys who i say to my friends "ooh..hes cute!" but none of them do i say "i want to marry him!!" ive never had a crush on a celeb or someone famous! ive been asked for my # but never gave it out. i got my crush's cell #, email, and aim sn from his dad. if you really lyk him still then give him cookies, cake, ect. and on valentines day, give him candy hearts! thts wat i did and he ate them! XD i have no experience just to let you kno with dating!!!!!!! XD so why am i blabbing all this to you? because i now kno tht some one and i have somthing in common! age has no meaning if its true love. ive had a crush i=on this guy since his baby sister was born! thts been..two years so ive got this crush pretty bad.
ps: hire a spy! jk XD haha my crush's dad is my spy! :D
mervey al hilwa the only person that needs to shut the hell up is you and u khow what nobody asked for your domeass opinion and the girl is asking for good advice not an advice that will get her to go from worse to worser well anyways i wish you good luck with your problem and mervey al hilwa next time please if u got something nice to say then say it if not keep your mouth shut and keep your hands away from the keyboard.
Hey look babe I know it may seem like almost everyone on this forum is trying to bring you down and tell you what to do but most of them are right. For one it's illegal, two he may try to take advantage of you, and three he'll only think of you as his friend's little sister, which if you think about it, isn't exactly the sexiest turn-on in the world. I mean thinking from his perspective, even if he liked you a lot he wouldn't try anything because that would require him to a)risk his friendship with your brother and b)recieve some serious ass whooping if he breaks your heart(courtesy of your brother as well). I made the same mistake before too when I was 14. I started seeing this guy who was 19 and he seemed like such a nice guy but after a month he started pressuring me to have sex and do drugs with him, but then I found out that he had been cheating on me and doing the same exact things with a 16 year old. You want to know how I found out? He rubbed it in my face and told me the reason he liked the 16 year old better was because she was more "experienced".
Yeah I know WTF.
And to Helen who posted on the forum, same deal with you, ok if your families are really that close and he knows that you like him he would have asked you out by now. duh. I mean seriously if you told his mom and dad he's probably feeling really embarrassed now that his parents actually know what's going on in his sex life and basically you probably just killed your chances right there.
Oh and btw girls, don't pin your hopes on one guy in particular, you will meet Mr.Right someday you just have to give it more time, and 13 years is just not enough.
xx
Jackie
mervey al hilwa? can I just say what is the point in posting negative feedback such as that? It just shows little intelligence ...EVERYONE with ANY sense knows age IS SO MUCH more than a number when you're talking about children of 13... Nouni you are 13 - that is no age! and trust me, 19 year old boys can be horrible and I don't think at your age u can understand love really and, plus, even if he does like you. You will meet so many social and emotional obstacles if you pursue this.
On the other hand, I know girls of 13 don't like being told they're are too young to love and probably don't belive it. So, my advice is this:
Remember true love is lasting, crushes fade and love is based on friendship. Try and forget about him romantically for now and see him as a friend - IF you ARE in love it'll still be there in a few years when you're more mature to understand it better. trust me, relationships are complicated ... at your age its best to just have fun and don't get attached to guys
mervey al hilwa? can I just say what is the point in posting negative feedback such as that? It just shows little intelligence ...EVERYONE with ANY sense knows age IS SO MUCH more than a number when you're talking about children of 13... Nouni you are 13 - that is no age! and trust me, 19 year old boys can be horrible and I don't think at your age u can understand love really and, plus, even if he does like you. You will meet so many social and emotional obstacles if you pursue this.
On the other hand, I know girls of 13 don't like being told they're are too young to love and probably don't belive it. So, my advice is this:
Remember true love is lasting, crushes fade and love is based on friendship. Try and forget about him romantically for now and see him as a friend - IF you ARE in love it'll still be there in a few years when you're more mature to understand it better. trust me, relationships are complicated ... at your age its best to just have fun and don't get attached to guys
I LOVE A BOY VERY MUCH BUT THE ONLY THING IS HE IS 14 AND I AM 14 TO. HE KNOWS I LOVE HIM AND HE SAYS HE LOVES ME. I'M TELLING U IT IS NOT EASY TO LOVE. WHEN U LOVE SOME ONE TELL THEM RIGHT AWAY IF THAY SAY NO IT WILL HURT FOR A SORT TIME BUT U STAY LONG TO TILL THEM IT WILL HURT U LONGER. BUT STILL MUST BE CAREFULL WHO U LOVE BECAUSE THEY ARE SOME ONES WILLING TO LOVE BUT THERE WILL PLAY U AND IT WILL HURT BUT IT IS PART OF LIFE.
it had been abt three months tat i met a gal of 17 n i m 21 so wb were in luv but now i get tat it was just infatuation and now i had got one of ma same age before one n half months so i m in such a great puzzle that what to do n not to...
babe! be careful and never tell any asshole on the internet because if he or she saw you in person they might try to go after you too! take care and email me or something here is my yahoo.
gothlover216@yahoo.com or sixteenabandondedfragile@yahoo.com
take care and don't let him pressure you into anything cause men and wemon these days are controlling. It took me 3 years to get out of a controlling relationship and now i'm six and insecure and afraid to let anyone get close to me! ( no smiles, only tears!)
i have a girlfriend that is 18 years old and i'm only 15.is it ok for us to date?