I cheated my husband with his brother and I feel very bad I need help !!!
Guadeloupe
Dear Guadeloupe,
What you have done isn't only cheating on your husband, but it's also desecrating the holy bond of marriage between you two!
You have to stop anything going on between you & your brother in law, let your husband know & ask the forgiveness of your husband & God!
I am afraid that's all I can help you with!
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nicely said bro, i dont know whose more of a low life her or his brother, his own flesh and blood, im sure some idiot is going 2 read this and say get a life we are modern yaddi yaddi yaddi yaddi ya blah blah blah,but if we cut to the chase this is an act of two selfish people who for some stupid reason cheated the trust and vows of marriage. For Gods sake cheating with any S.O.B off the road is one thing but cheating with your husbands brother thats beyond words
what the hell were u thinking, his own BROTHER!!! u dont have to tell ur husband if he doesnt no and ur afraid itll ruin ur marriage cuz he wont 4give u, but u must never speak to his brother again, ever!!!!!!!!! and ask forgiveness from God.
you have to divorce , because you're a cheater and you don't have any right to live with this husband , sorry but it's the truth , i really regret for the stories like that .
u must get a divorce ,be4 he knows anything from his bro or any 1 else and ur a cheater cheater
ummm...TELL HIM, THEN GET A KNIFE n KILL URSELF...
LOOOOOLL but then ur husband will kill his brother. n then well who knows..
but wut were u thinking when u were cheating..HUHHH so ur an evil bi*ch..hehe
truly i can tell the people replying on this post r arab..they dun have a way of talkin or expressing their ideas respectfully...they do it through swear words and attacks..
not that im saying its ok for you to be cheatin on ur husband...what u did is horrible, to him, to his family and towards God, now not only did u damage ur relationship with him, but u did so between him and his own brother.
you have to come clean with him, which wont necessarily end up well, and u have to pray for forgiveness...i dont think u were thinking when u did this thing..clearly its wrong!!!
if u truly feel guilt..this is what you'll do...you r responsible for ur own actions, so u will have to deal with it urself..
i just hope there r no kids in this marriage
i am sorry to say but you are just a ho!!!
i think that u have to be at least honest as much as u can with him u already cheated so just tell him the truth and sooner or later he will accept it even if u dont be together again jst be sure that u did the right thing and believe me he wont hate u after smtime and u wont feel bad about urself .u will feel bad about urself if u dont tell him the truth and u absolutely will get divorced cuz sooner or later he will know and his brother will dump u and wont trust u cuz u cheated even if u say that u did it with him how could he possibly dump u but trust me he will so dont loose everyones trust and love at least keep them in the man u decided to share ur life with from the begining and if u tell ur husband the truth it will be better cuz there will be hope ar a probability of u too being together again .
your husband needs to know the truth, no matter what you think might happen. if he doesn't know the truth then your love for him (if you even have any at all) is now and always will be fake...and remember...if he doesnt really know you...then he doesn't really love you either.
and for the fuking idiot who made the racist statement about arabs above me.... jesus christ, are you a fuking robot tool of the u.s. government or fuking what???? they were arab...thats fuking retarded. they dont know how to communicate????...i guess thats why they got by for 1000 or so years before america even existed.
go learn to read you fuking white trash piece of sht.
god bless the u.s.a.!!!!
well
I understand what happened with you and your brother in law. Maybe the attraction or the way he was treating you and so so.. all these could get you into his arams.
I hurd lots stories about cheatings. But this one it is difficult to comprehense.
Well, there is no other thing to do or other choice. No one would give you a right answer.!!!
All what you do is keep it inside you, and stay away from his brother. If you cannot, you get a devorce.
I know if does feel really bad. But what happened did happen. Now you felt guilty about it.
God forgive us All. you know what you have done is wrong.
Now.. the problem is not you, but your brother is law, I donnot were was his mind when He had sex with you. He is very bad. He has to pay for this.
Thank you
caro
Ok taking everyone elses moral views out of it. You cheated. It is done and over with. You should stop the relationship with your husband's brother because nothing good will come of it. If you truly love this person end your relationship with your husband but realize that there will be rammifications to your actions. Hey love doesn't conquer all. Keep in mind that you will have an enraged family after you. What is done is done? You should try to work on your relationship. If things aren't going right, the worst thing to do is to get into another relationship. The same problems you are probably having in this relationship might pop up in your extramarital relationship right now. If you feel like being honest and telling your husband, realize that you might lose him. Can you really blame him? In my opinion, I think you should stop think about what you are doing and get your life together. Your life sounds like a train wreck to me. All of this is going to come to head. People who cheat get caught, because either they get stupid or they want to get caught. keep that in mind.
Why do you feel bad?, you still have his father and uncles to finish. Idiot.
well,maybe thats coz you dont fear god?but its over now you cant get anything back,but think about if for while! if you tell him what you have done you ll hurt him twice no you shouldnt cut yoru relation with his brother dont talk to him dont visit him even with husband and try to be faithfull to serve your husband the way you should do to erase this sin ! may god forgive you and he will if you are honest and strict with yourself in future if you couldnt be that woman then ask for divorce let him start new life with someone who knows what hoensty is
I truly can understand. My husband pushed me into having sex with his brother. My husband and I now have an open marriage. We fight all the time. I have thought about a divorce. The saddest thing is that we are both Christans and go to church. Well, we have stopped going to church. I think you are not in love with your husband. I think you are in love with his brother. HOwever, you don't want to loose your hubsand if you can't have the brother. Kind of like "Have your cake and eat it, too." You certainly need to tell your spouse. You may end up in divorce court, however sometimes it's easier to be forgiven than get permission. If you do split the sheets, don't date anyone for a while. Seek help and certainly don't think the brother will want to be with you. Once a cheater always a cheater. I am speaking to myself as well. I know there is going to be some nasty remarks after this, BRING IT ON!!
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you go lupe, don't feel bad any longer if you had fun doing what you were doing at the time then go do it again and again until you just can't do it anymore you think that if your husband had a chance with your sister if you have one, he wouldn't pass up the oppurtunity to screw her of course he wouldn't he'd have his zipper down so fast no no you feel bad cause you want to I say go do it again and enjoy every bit of it.Take it from a woman who has been married for 23 years and has been cheated on to many times I have always been faithful to him until my brother-inlaw showed me his -----* YIKES WOW WOO i'm still sore and it's been over a year since it happened.
Even thou this message comes to late, here is something to think about. As little boys we man are told about the beauty and wonder of the female sex. We treat females different and are brought up that females cares and loves, closely to the mind set of any mother/son foundation. Yes, you`ve done something to your husband that I would never forgive you 4, but here is why!
The day my wife left me for an older, richer man after having taking up 11 years in my life, spending my youth and taking my family as her own, she told me that I was to blame and that she was doing me right because I never cared? Respecting her feelings, that could have been the case, but let me tell you about the long days and nights that followed after she spoke those words, the hell I went true trying to convince myself that I meant something to this world. The days spent on my knees praying to God to forgive me 4 something I did not do!
Let me remind you of the hurt, tears and shame I felt, facing life alone because she had someone to take care of her! I lost everything I counted dear to myself, little things from my childhood, bits of my personality, my ego and trust in myself. Then it became bad, worse, I lost my business and means of income and could take no more... all because of ONE LITTLE mistake, one night she allowed herself to pleasure of another man! 4 me, let me tell you that the wheel in sky keeps on turning and that soon after I forgave myself, God sent me an angel to witch I am happily married today. I got a chance to be the man I wanted to be, a loving caring partner to all the needs of a woman. I can only thank God, for He never sleeps ...
Let this be a warning to all the females of this world, I am still the same man now loving and keeping my wife save and satisfied, 4 my ex, she now lives in a broken house with a drunk penny less husband that abuses her and rapes her! THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP ...
I just wanted to say that Guadelupe obviously feels she made a mistake. We all make mistakes, I'm sure none of us replying are without sin. As for those of you that call yourselves God loving and fearing Christians, do you think God or Jesus would want you to say some of the things you have said to this woman? Jesus asked the adulteress where are your accusers? Jesus took care of her regardless of her affair, he did what a man should do, and all men (and women as well) should look to Jesus in regards to their relationships and the way they treat other people. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Guadelupe, I just wanted to tell you that its a wonderful thing that you know you did something wrong, thats always the first step in getting help. Be honest with yourself and others. If it all works out it was meant to be and if it doesn't then maybe life has something else planned for you. I've been in your shoes. It's hard to give you advice because you didn't say much as to why you had an affair, but maybe you felt you were lacking something in your relationship with your husband. You have a long road to go, but remember that which doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!
Well,
From being married myself I know if my wife cheated I would certainly want to know. Regardless of who it was she cheated with. However, although it would certainly take away a part of what we once had, I can say I would not be demanding a divorce right away. (Unless of course she continued to cheat) I love her enough that I would rather forgive her and have us move beyond it then let it ruin both of our lives. As was said earlier, no one is without sin, everyone messes up at one time or another.
Though, my opinon might change if I was the one who's wife cheated on me, but just saying my current feelings on the matter.
It's likely you have already dealt with this issue by now since it's been a year, but if you haven't I would suggest you be honest with him. It will be a lot worse for him to find out some other way, and no doubt, your hiding it will likely be affecting your relationship with him regardless. There will be broken trust, strained family relationships and lots of tears I expect, but they can all be healed over time.
Oh and don't listen to anyone on here name calling or telling you, you NEED or WILL get a divorce. It could happen might doesn't NEED to nor is it guaranteed.
Finally, it's possible you trust and believe in God already and still made this mistake, (as no one is beyond sinning and mistakes) but I can tell you you'll have a much more likely chance of this situation turning out with less heartache if you pray about it and put the situation in God's hands to help you fix, and ask God for forgiveness before doing anything else. That doesn't mean you won't still have to deal with the consequences but he can help you with handling those consequences as well.
It's your choice if you believe it or not, It's simply my opinions and personal experiences.
May you make the right choices.
Jamie.
Well i can understand where u are coming from as i am in a simular situation. I am not married but been in a relationship for the last 2 yrs and i had lsept with my boyfriends best friend which was like family to him on 1 occasion. I was not able to tell him as i did not want to loose him and knowing how much this was going to hurt him. but the worst part of it was he found out from someone else which made it worse as i would not fess up to it. until i saw how it broke him and how i had crushed the man i do love. Now we styll do talk and we are intimate styll. But i have to listen to put downs all the time we we argue he always tells me to go be with his friend and so on. I get called names all the time but i cant blame him as any human been would react this way and i am so lucky to say that he is styll here fro me and my kidz. although we are trying to work this out there is so much damage done and there repair and trust that needs to be fixed is alot of work. Whether him and i make it and pass this obsticle in our lives its in gods hands and mine. Nothing is worse then losing the person u love so much for a hr of sex that was not even worth it for the man who has ur back and loves ur kidz unconditionally and then is styll there for you. I am torn by what i did to him and i cry all the time and dont stop thinking of the mistake i have made.
So my advise to you is if u value ur marriage even though you may loose him BE HONEST AND TELL HIM. This is going to ride ur guilty conscience and u will not be able to move on unless u be honest and talk about it. U need to cut all ties with the brother. good luck to you and juss hope for the best and say a prayer.
The best thing for you to do is move on from this and put it all behind you.. Stay away from your husband's brother as much as you can althought stay friends with him... I mean don't put yourself where you and him would ever be alone...HINT HINT... But move on and try to focus more on your husband and the life you have with him... God will forgive... when you give yourself