My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 months. The first few months were great and we did everything together. Now he wants to be with his friends all the time and i feel like he's falling out of love with me. I've never felt this way about anybody, I'm so in love and i don't want to lose him, but i don't want to be hurt anymore, what should i do?
Wendy
Dear Wendy,
In every relationship, things start off strong & popping! But with time things might cool off, & this is what might have happened with your boyfriend.
You must give him the time to be with his friends, it is normal for him to miss them & want to be with them.
But if he spends ALL the time with his friends, and doesn't give you any, then there is a problem!
Have a talk with him, if things get out of hand. And tell him about the way you feel, be honest.
But as long as he divides his time between you, then things are fine.
Dear Wendy, you know what you cant blame your boyfriend for this they are really like this only.What I wanna say is that you should try to understand him in a better way. Guys always try to mentain their bachalorhood. That's why , I think this is happening. Don't be so down cast. things will be fine.
i am going thruogh what u r going through to and he is leaving me and ignoring me cause of his friends to u know he might needs a time out u know i havent called him in a week or so i dont know but i am not trying to call him so give him a free time
my opinion is to talk to him, let him explain what he's going through, and the same goes for you, tell him how you fell. You can't just wait for him. If you and your boyfriend wants to have a good relationship you have to start to understand and communicated with each other or your both going to fall out of love.
I went through the same thing and instead of respecting his wish for space, I have now lost him...maybe for good??? Having 3 months apart has given me alot of time to think...and if I could go back, I would have respected his wish to have time with his friends. Instead, I didn't give him that freedom and now I have lost the man I really loved and could sense that he truely loved me in return. I am respecting his wish for space now and it gives me time to grow on a personal level. I think space can be good. Better to give some space during the relationship than not and end up losing him in the end.
Just keep believing and hes come around. If you love him that much hell see it sooner or later. You know the saying "If you love someone let them go, if they come back to you, they have laways been yours but if they don't they never were." good luck ;)
Girl, i have been there. We decided to work things out. But, Guess What? He is still doing the same thing to me and our 2 boys. His boys, playing the playstation or computer,drugs, and some girl he keeps running back and forth to. He will never change. Lots of times they say they will change, in my case he didnt so im trying to find a place for me and my kids.
girl, i've went through that for almost 6 months now and until now i still love him more than my self, i guess....he spend more time with his friends than wid me, at first i didnt care that much bcuz i hev trust on him but wen i noticed that he doesnt hev anytime wid me anymur,i talk to him n tell him how i feel...he told me that he will spend time wid me mur than he's friend but evn though we were together i cant feel the love anymur...then one day i just asked him who's mur important his friend or me n he never answered me and that time i was so hurt bcuz i knew it olridy that no matter wat he's not going to give up his friends....even thuogh i was hurt that time, i'd tried to make our relationship work but unfortunately it didnt work out...we broke up 6 months ago but until now, there's no days i never cried...girl, b strong...if they rili love us they should realized that we hev filings too n we just need attention...
hey, i know what your going through too, my boyfriend does that too, all his friends are like that. They think its special to have their own little time and if he can't come, then he gets in trouble. This may be the case for your boyfriend, his friends might just be hard on him for spending more time with you then them.
my suggestion, let him be, I just let my boyfriend go and do whatever, usually he'll still be nice enough to call or whatever, but when he's away, he starts to miss you and feel bad about not seeing you.
good luck
listen ladies - stop giving up the butt for free and maybe you can build something strong with a man. the takeaway is a powerful weapon when used accurately.
My guy and I are having major problems. We started out great. We did everything together and laughed about everything, had a great time. Then I lost my job and he offered to have me move in with him. So after only a couple of weeks dating I moved in. After week three he started shutting down. His personality changed and I lost all connection with him. When I found a job we had another talk. He finally told me he couldn't deal with the pressures from moving so fast. He admits it was his idea but it is freaking him out. He needs to take it easy, needs to slow down with us. Basically, “I need to move out in order to save our relationship.” I think it is impossible to go backward. I've never seen this work for anyone. I feel if he is not willing to work on this while we are living together then there is no point in doing this. I feel this relationship will end with the same issue down the road. Any advice? I want this to work but I don't have the money to move out for at least 3 weeks so how can I fix this while I'm here? ? ?