Amira,
I agree that long distance relationships do not work out, but before you get trigger happy with the guy, i would like to ask you this. are sure that he signed up for that dating service, or did you get that information of a friend of a friend of a jelous girl who wants you to dump him. what i am trying to say is be sure of the info before you confront the guy. and if he denies and then you find out that he lied. so there is your answer: you do not want to be interesting to liars"
Salam

not only is he cheating but he is lying too. a picture doesn't just appear on a dating page just because. so maybe its time you post YOUR profile in dating site and let him go.

trust me long distance relationships never work out just enjoy ur life and forget about him. i should know! he probably got another girl!

Hi Amira..
Long distance relationships can work, but in most cases they only work, coz the couple are living far from each other happily unaware of what their partner is doing.
By this I mean that for example the girl is going with the thoughts that her boyfriend, husband etc is being a good, faithful guy, who is not tempted by anything coz he loves her so much and that he is patient so he will wait only for his girlfriend.
Sometimes they have doubts and fears that maybe their partner is doing something they do not approve of, but then they just try to convince themselves that it’s not true.
But often it happens that he or she finds out that their partner was not to be trusted at all, and often it is the girl who gets cheated on.
But if the girl never discovers that her boyfriend is actually a cheater and a liar and if she keeps on believing he is a good and faithful guy, Then the long distance relationship will work..
The lie and cheating was never discovered, but it still did take place, and when it happened once, then it can and probably will happen again..

Thinking about signing up for a dating site is the first wrong step for any guy to do, who are already in a relationship. The second step is going to the dating-page and signing up, and maybe you can even say it’s the 3rd or 4th step, coz it’s a very very big and wrong step, going from only thinking it, to actually doing it.
So he is in this dating-page, what if girls contact him, or maybe he has already been contacted, then the next step is to date them, right? How much are you willing to accept from him, someone’s boyfriend should not even be allowed to take the first step and consider dating other girls, he is having a girlfriend, he is taken, right?
That’s why I also totally totally disagree that it is alright to do that just because you are lonely, so what if he is lonely? Relationships don’t work that way, that the minute you are lonely, then its okay to see other people..
What if you end up with him, and one day when you are away from him a couple of days, and he feels lonely – what will he do?
Most guys are just not that patient as girls, trust me.. I was really sad after I had to break up with my fiancé after almost 10 months, and I wished that I had met him in my country instead, coz then things probably wouldn’t have turned out the way they did, and we would have been married by now.. We were ready to marry after 4 months, but because he couldn’t come here until the next year, we had to wait with the wedding..
But now I realized that I was actually lucky that we lived in two different countries..
Thank God for that, coz as the months went by I found out he was so fake, and a liar and most important I found out he was Not patient at all..
Im not saying all guys are like this, but I would say there are certain types of men, who you should look out for: If you know he has a reputation of being really good at charming girls, including you of course, and he is really good with words and to say the right words to you..
If he lies about only the little things, for example he’s saying he tried to call or contact you many times, when he actually didn’t..
If it often takes a while or a really long time before he answers back on your messages..
If he makes a lot of promises that he doesn’t keep, also if it’s only little things for example “I will call you” and he doesn’t, “I will call you in 10 minutes” and he calls after 3 hours, and so on.
If he doesn’t have a too good relationship with his parents, if he’s use to taking care of himself and he doesn’t like to take advice from others not even his family..
If he gets jealous and angry if he gets the feeling that you are not enough interested in him, but at the same time he can get almost annoyed if you show him too much interest, for example if you call and contact him a lot..
It’s only few things that can show that maybe he’s quite unstable and disloyal and that he can have a hard time with settling down..
You wrote he wanted to engage you, but by my opinion it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is serious about your relationship.. Many guys they love to get the attention from girls, he loves to hear that they love and that he is so sweet and gorgeous and so on, and even if they choose to get a engaged or married, they still love to get all the attention they can get from other girls.. ya3ni on one hand they want something safe, a wife a fiancé, who they know they can come home to, but at the same time they enjoy the attention from other girls.
And it could seem like your boyfriend really miss attention from girls and it’s not enough to have you, really it can be like a disease to some guys, and they can almost seem obsessed by the attention and gratification from other girls.
Maybe you can say that you are also lucky to have come to see the true face of your boyfriends, and you can see now that he is not very patient and loyal to you, when he turned to the dating site with the only stupid excuse that it was coz he was so lonely.. I really think he disrespected you by wanting to contact other girls. You deserve to be respected..

For me, I want to start on a new now and find someone here where I live, it’s really the best, you can spend time with him almost every day, and it’s easier to see and discover very soon if he is not right for you.. Imagine how easy it is to cover it up if he did any bad and wrong things, when he lives thousand of miles away from you, especially over the phone it’s easy for him to make it seem like he hasn’t been doing anything wrong.
You found out the thing about the dating-page, imagine if there a worse things he did, but that you can’t discover coz you are not around him..

You sound like a good girl, you deserve someone good. Don’t chase him and make it seem like you can’t live without him, Oh how guys they love this, and if he knows he have you no matter what, then its so easy to manipulate with you and make you believe him when he say you are the only girl for him.. And please don’t think that it is possible to change him, coz it is highly higly unlikely..

I know you’ve been with him for 2 years, but imagine if you get married with him and he turns out to be bad for you, then these 2 years will mean nothing to you, and you would just wish you had never never gotten to know him..

Watch out Amira, watch out girl, don’t let this guy confuse your mind like that. And I don’t know how he apologized for that incident with the dating-page, or if he even did give you a big apology, but even if he did, he still made a huge mistake, and im afraid he could be a bad guy and that he did some bad things.
If you really want a relationship with him, then you should definitely wait with engagement or anything like that until you have spend at least 5-6 months together in the same country, coz this is the best way to really get to know someone..

Good luck,
From Loulou

Woups, yeah I kind of wrote a lot there now didn’t I, lol.. But when I first get started, I can just go on n on :) U are welcome, im glad u liked my comment.. Concerning long distance relationships, even if u look away from the disloyalty that there can be, n the weird feeling that u can have coz u don’t know what ur partner is doing being so far away, even if u look aside from these things, I really think it’s the best thing to avoid long distance relationships..
Wouldn’t it just be the best thing in the world to be able to have ur boyfriend around u, being able to go places with him, being able really to surprise him on birthdays, anniversaries and so on, I mean its kind of difficult to ship n send a big and special gift from one country to another, and its just not the same when u can’t see the look on his face when he opens the present :) In a regular relationship, u can also get to meet n know his family n his friends, n this is really also something that can help u to learn a lot more about him n what kind of person he is, getting to know the people in his surroundings who care for him..
I wish u the best, n for me too actually, lol, I didn’t find anyone new yet, but im not in a hurry..
Loulou

i think u should forget him and thank godthat u knew his true characternow
i didnt want2 long so i wish u would email me on (koki_speed2002)@hotmail for being frends
i hope so

Im pretty sure he did love u sometime and somehow, but probably not the same kind of love that u showed him.. Some guys are just so so different, they can’t get attention and excitement enough in life, and its almost impossible to please them.. I think that he was quite cold when he just said “okay” like that to break up, but again it proves what a big jerk he is, and I think u should try not to spend much of ur time being sad coz of him..
U wrote that he is in contact with 2 other girls, I doubt that each of the girls know that he is in contact with more than one girl, and each of them probably think they are the only one who’s in contact with him.. He is just fooling around with them too, and they don’t know what a player he is, u should really just be happy that u are not longer with him..
U’ve been with him for 2 years, and even though it’s a while, u should just thank God that u found out he is a total idiot.. I think many have met this kind of guy, and some don’t realize what an idiot he is before they are married or something, u are lucky u found out now, no matter the time it took, the most important thing is that u finally found out..
He is really cold and ungrateful, why waste more years, months or even one single day on this player-guy..
Save ur thoughts, love and worries for someone who truly deserves it..
Good luck :)
From Loulou