Have you ever been in love? I don't mean normal love I mean the strange type that makes you indefinite and like lost. If you were or are in this love then read this advice:
1- Listen to your heart and you will be sure of his/her love.
2- Make sure that he/she cares about your future.
3- You have to feel secure near him/her.
4- Never listen to what people say about him/her until you know him/her really well.
I hope I have made my point of view.
By guest writer lolitta
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I read the advice but it doesnt really help me much. I like my best friend ALOT. I wouldnt say i love him, but I really do have feelings for him. We've dated before but he spent more time with his lawnmower than with me so we broke up. We just started high school and i like him now more than ever. But I dont know how to tell him. I know he likes me becoause the way he acts around me in class. he holds my hand for no reason, tickles me, and does everything a boyfriend does. everyone says we should go back out because we were the best couple and its true. I just dont' know how to ask him. any advice? email me or im me @ velvetsummer@aol.com...
thanx so much
**Brooke**
well i live far from my bf..and have not been able 2 c him for over a yr..and i can't c him till next summer! i love him so much...but hiz being cold with me caz i didn't meet wit him..but it was impossible 2 meet wit him :(...i know he loves me..but how can i make sure he waits another year????????? plz help e-mail : taniamatti@yahoo.com
point 1: i am sure of his. its nowhere near the height of mine. perhaps in the beginning, no not perhaps, for sure, his was all encompassing. i was in it too, detached but in love at the same time. which i think is very healthy. then things changed, i fell in too deep, drove him away, disrespected his space. need is a horrible thing. i feel so emotionally immature, extremely f*cking childish and foolish. i am 24. he was my first love. maybe this is why i couldn't deal with it in a rational way. his understanding of myself was balanced with mine of him. 2 days ago he basically wanted to cut it off altogether, the friendship included. it's very sad that things had to get to that stage for me to wake up and realise i was only really concerned for myself and my feelings for him. to want him to want me as much as i did he, as much as he used to. told him my heart is still open. he replied his was too. made some loose plans to meet today, he cancelled. i'm pretty depressed. disgusted with myself and the stupidity that i never knew was within me. mid twenties and learning this is very disconcerting. i feel vacant, uninspired and trapped. now i believe im gonna be quite screwed for some months to come. i never meant anyone any harm, but did, and in the end its myself that i've really damaged. f*ck.
point 3: he stated twice that he does not feel safe around me. he does not feel that he is being listened to or respected. this is the last way i wanted him to feel. all i ever did was bring flowers to his work on my pushbike (it was a long way away). so over the turmoil. just wanna chill with the red like we used to. there's always been tension between us. it was electric at first. now its just a tedious and argumentative feeling.
point 1: i am sure of his. its nowhere near the height of mine. perhaps in the beginning, no not perhaps, for sure, his was all encompassing. i was in it too, detached but in love at the same time. which i think is very healthy. then things changed, i fell in too deep, drove him away, disrespected his space. need is a horrible thing. i feel so emotionally immature, extremely f*cking childish and foolish. i am 24. he was my first love. maybe this is why i couldn't deal with it in a rational way. his understanding of myself was balanced with mine of him. 2 days ago he basically wanted to cut it off altogether, the friendship included. it's very sad that things had to get to that stage for me to wake up and realise i was only really concerned for myself and my feelings for him. to want him to want me as much as i did he, as much as he used to. told him my heart is still open. he replied his was too. made some loose plans to meet today, he cancelled. i'm pretty depressed. disgusted with myself and the stupidity that i never knew was within me. mid twenties and learning this is very disconcerting. i feel vacant, uninspired and trapped. now i believe im gonna be quite screwed for some months to come. i never meant anyone any harm, but did, and in the end its myself that i've really damaged. f*ck.
point 3: he stated twice that he does not feel safe around me. he does not feel that he is being listened to or respected. this is the last way i wanted him to feel. all i ever did was bring flowers to his work on my pushbike (it was a long way away). so over the turmoil. just wanna chill with the red like we used to. there's always been tension between us. it was electric at first. now its just a tedious and argumentative feeling.