I got in a relation with a guy and I thought that he'll be the one I dreamed of, but what I got is the opposite. I feel he can’t understand me and when I’m sad he can’t understand what I'm sad about, I need emotions and love, I miss emotions with him sometimes, I feel that I’m turning to hate him.
I always expect that he'll be crazy for me, get me flowers when I’m sad or depressed, but all I get is nothing. He is very smart, handsome and cute but I can’t feel love for him. We got engaged last week but I feel that it’s time to break-up, I feel there is misunderstanding between our minds and hearts, I feel that it’s time to be real. I have begun to hate this relationship.
What shall I do?
Jasmine
Dear Jasmine,
You have every right to feel the way you do, but you did a few mistakes that could have been avoided …
First of all, you should have shared your feelings with him from the very beginning. When you started feeling that he lacks emotions, you should have told him that you need someone with emotions …
Second of all, if things weren’t going very well between you and you felt less love for him, then you shouldn’t have gotten engaged!
Now that you have started hating the relationship between you two, then you have to be brave and tell him exactly what you feel. Be honest and serious.
If he is willing to change because he love you enough, then great.
If he is not willing to change, and shows no consideration, then you will have to break-up and end this once and for all.
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I have a similar problem Jasmine,i am half tunisian/english. but live in england. so i only see my tunisian boyfriend once a year, but this summer he asked me to get engaged, since i am only 16..i think its too young.. but he always tell me that i understand him, and im the one..sometimes i love him sometimes i hate him, he doesnt give me lots of presents and things..but when i think of not being with him i think that i cant live without him,so if u can imagine living without this man then it is clear he is not the one, but if u know that theres no one else there for u and u just have the feeling hiz the one. then i wud stay with him. Perhaps this is the problem with love, there iz no perfect person..gud luck with ur descion..i hoped this helped :) Latifa
Finding Mr. Right is a very difficult quest. The standards you have set for your Mr. Right are sometimes too high, or too impractical to impose on a real person. But what you should know is that your Mr. Right should at least have the qualities that would make you love him, and make you keep him. If this relationship you now have doesn't provide emotional support that you need, then there really is something wrong with it. You might as well get out.