I have just ended a 1 year relationship. I loved this man very much but I think he was looking for a woman he could control. I wanted to go slow in the beginning of the relationship and he said within 2 months that he loved me and wanted to get married by next year. I told him lets just take it a day at a time. 8 months into the relationship he wanted me to cook for him, I told him in the beginning that I didn’t cook.

I now ended the relationship and he wants to be friends I said I couldn’t be a friend after being romantically involved with him. What I don't understand is why if I was so insensitive to his needs why would he want to be friends. This has been the first long term relationship I have had since my divorce 10 years ago.
I know this is probably not the man for me but it still hurts. I am a very independent woman and I think he is looking for a passive woman.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Sandy

Dear Sandy,

If you cannot stay in a romantic relationship with a man, that doesn’t mean you cannot be good friends, because each is a different situation.
Now, as long as you know that you took the right decision, and that it is impossible for you to continue with a man who wants a passive woman, then good for you! … But you can still be friends.
Always do what you see fit, and what your heart tells you to … just try to be reasonable and things will always turn out for the better.