June 2nd we were officially divorced after being married just short of 2 years. We still both are in love with the other but have issues within the family that make things hard. He has a married son with 2 kids, one on the way, and he cannot even feed them! They don’t work and I have given them a lot of money, they also get a lot of money from their mother, they depend on everyone else to pay for their way.

My ex sees giving of money as his way of showing love, while I said that he needs tough love to force them to stand on their own, which doesn’t mean he doesn’t love him, just making them be responsible for themselves. Is there any hope of us getting back together with issues like this out there? We still date and spend time, make love etc. Can we over come this?
Oh! They can’t pay rent or buy food but yet throw a Halloween party they can’t afford! I felt that if they needed things we should buy them things not hand over cash. If the baby needs diapers I’ll buy them what they need!
Because once before the daughter in law was given money for baby food and she used that money for lottery tickets!
Help me!

whisperingwinds1960

Dear whisperingwinds1960:

I think you have a very good point!
What you are saying is very logical and right.
I think your problem with your ex can be solved once you convince him of your point of view.
Tell him exactly what you told me, and make it clear that you love his son as your own, and that you only want the best for him and his small family.
Try to convince him of buying them stuff rather than giving them money, and tell him that this is for their own good and for their own future, because depending on others isn’t a solution forever!
Good Luck