I have been dating this guy now for three months. He is separated for three months now from his wife and he has two kids with her. So he pays a lot in child support. I’m confused about staying with him. I don’t have any kids. He’s talking about starting a family one day, but he can’t even afford to take me out. I’m confused. What should I do?

My second question is when we are around other people he doesn’t give me the attention I deserve. I feel like he’s 50% there, not 100%. We only go out 2 days a week. Sometimes I’m lonely.
Could he still be hung up on his wife? He says he’s going to give her the divorce papers, but he still hasn’t done it.
Please help.

Irina

Dear Irina,

Each person has the dream of starting a family with his/her loved one, even if they cannot afford it.
As for his kids and ex-wife, they will forever be a part of his past, present and future. They are a part of his life that cannot be forgotten or erased, and you have to come to terms with that.
As for going out, well, if you are aware that he doesn’t have that much money and is paying child support, then you have to cut him some slack and be very considerate with him “if you really love him”.
As for sorting out things between you, and making everything clear, you will have to have a good talk with him about your feelings and what you are sensing from him.

Good luck.