I had met this guy at church whom I was interested in. He had mentioned it to my friends about how much he likes me. He told me himself that he likes me. My problem is that I get so nervous when I get close to this guy; it makes me argue and act mean to him. That hurts his feelings and he confronts me about it. I do apologize any time he confronts me but it keeps happening over and over again. The only time I feel comfortable around him is when we both are on the phone. Just recently we had someone prank us. Just stalking both of us at the same time. I usually see his number on my caller ID, I asked him and he said it wasn't him. It got worse and I called him and went off on him.

As we were talking he turned me over to his mom, and I spoke with her. I don't know why he did that but I was ok talking to his mom. We didn't talk to each other after this incident for like 4 to 5 weeks. He told my friends how sweet and nice I was and how deeply I had hurt his feelings. He had never been hurt the way I hurt him before. He threw a party and I wasn’t invited.

I really didn't care because I am not a party person, but I was kind of affected. I didn't know what to do, but my friend encouraged me to apologize to him, which I did and he accepted my apology. He had another party the second time and didn't invite me. I am very scared because I get feelings that our friendship is over. I don't know what to do. Please help me.

Prisca

Dear Prisca,

I think you shouldn’t give it too much thought. Keep your act together, and stay the way you are, but cut down on the arguing and tension.
If he has a third party and doesn’t invite you, then simply ask him why!
Try to strengthen your relationship with him in any way you see fit, and show interest in his mom! Be friendly with her, that always works.
Good luck.