I’m confused; I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I’m engaged, as this is what I wanted at the beginning. But his family hated me, and we had a lot of ups and downs we have also went through times where we hardly see each other because he’s been at college although he’s just finished. But he wants me to marry him one day and I really don’t want to, because I feel I have had a married life and I found it boring.

I have had some family problems also where I have not had much freedom too. I don’t like the idea of having his family as my in laws & he says he doesn’t see the point of us being together if we wont marry one day. I really also don’t have confidence and on your wedding day its about 'you' I will be too embarrassed.
I don’t know what to do.

Bonnie

Dear Bonnie,

Your problem isn’t clear, do you or don’t you want to get married?
Was it you or him who wanted to get engaged?
The problem isn’t in the in laws, if you love him then it doesn’t matter, and as long as you are good to him and love him then his family will love you too in return.
As for the confidence, you have to build it up! There is no reason for you not to have confidence in yourself.

Good luck!