I met this guy a few months ago and we became very close. He always calls me or I call him. The problem is that I started having feelings for the guy but he is younger than me. Secondly, I don’t know if he likes me because we are not staying in the same hometown. I have told him once before that I like him a lot and that we could try to work something out and he has been nice to me, always “smsing” me or calling me in the night, but he never told me how he feels. Should I tell him again how I feel about him or should I just let go and be friends as it was before?
Margreth
Dear Margreth,
There is nothing wrong in falling for a younger guy. But you have to settle down and see what it is really that you want; a serious relationship with this guy, or just a friendship.
According to what you decide, you have to act on that, either come clear about your love for him, or just stay friends as you are.
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Well I'm 19 and I have feeling for a 17yrs.old. I actually met him at my apartment in the pool. He seem real cool so we end up been in this so called relationship. Everything was cool at first then he start lying to me like he would say I coming to see you today and wouldnt come or call to let me know he's not coming. I really like him but I tried of him lying about something that simple. I told him about it and he still do it. I dont know what to do.
I just got into a relationship with a 14yr old, and i am 19. I think its weird also, so i am having 2nd thoughts about it, not because I feel wierd being with him, because i dont, its just seems weird with the age difference. Im just worried about what other people will think
Depends on the age gap and how old he is, neither of which are mentioned in the above dilemma. Silvana any advice for a one year and 2 month old dilemma? I'd say 'wait'. If he is a man and not a boy it's different. A boy dreams of older woman situations. A man knows his own mind and will look for something more complete despite age.
Jenny i find the idea of liking a 14 year old a bit too strange. Nothing wrong with the gap actually, it's just the fact that he's just barely in his teens and perhaps needs some time to develop a more adult mentality to match yours. If it was 24 and 29...no probs, or if he was 18 and u were 23...there would be more of a match in mentality. No matter how much a 14 year old will profess to maturity, they simply don't have enough experiences. Anyhow sorry to advise when u haven't asked for it but your dilemma is way more interesting then Margreths and 'fresher'.
LOL sam another rerun. True though we need to know the actual age difference, would she be accused of statutory rape? Would she be referred to as his mother when they are out in puplic?. There was this incident here in Australia where a thirty year old American woman left her toddler to move here to pursue a relationship with a 15/16 years old. They were talking about marriage. I felt like shooting the woman, because really there are no excuses for
this idiotic woman. A woman who would abondan her offspring will not fail to abondan a horny teenager once she is bored.
A 14 year old really ya3ni I am sorry I too find it a bit disturbing. I mean really men will always remain little boys, why would you go for adolescents when you can have a SLIGHTLY more mature man in his twenties?(just kidding). I do not think Jenny's situation is a dilemna, leave the boy and move on.
In situations such as these, the actual age of the people determines whether these relationships can work or whether they are destined to die a miserable death. I think Margaret's only concern is whether he actually returns her feelings or not, he loves me he loves me not.....
I like reading those romantic questions and problems on WALEG but it seems I missed a few like this one. I have to go and try and read the rest. I love reading the comments more than the problems, people do seem to pour their hearts out when advising, so sympathetic. He loves he loves me not....
Sam I have a dilemna too. I am an Arab female in love with a 70 year old homeless woman, however my parents oppose the relationship due to the homeless factor. Help me I think my parents are such snobs;). It has been a miserable day today, too much rain and it is supposed to be the weekend, it put me in a romantic mood.
Ohhh deffo lead the old wrinkly on till u get her to sign kolll il inheritance over 2 u. And if granny g@y has no doh, move on from that h*. Hang on I skipped over the homeless part...wellll anything to oppose the parents is worth it and reason enough in our fickle generation! :-| I advise you to rebel in the name of L'Oreal...coz you're worth it!
Don't be miserable...wash your hair. Shampoo in the rain, savour the raindrops...coz they're worth it!
I find the whole younger man older woman/boy situation really, really odd now. It just seems too freaky that it became acceptable all of a sudden and everyone ran out 2 get themselves a toy boy. And the age gaps seem 2 be getting wider and wider...I guess it’s partially to do with the aid of plastic and cosmetic surgery on her part, that and s*x. But it’s just so odd when the guy is young enough to be like a son. I haven't got any probs with it, I just don't get why it was so sudden, like puppies @ Xmas. But like u say it is just ruthless when a mother abandons her kid for another kid who can provide her that bit xtra if u know what I mean…ya3!
U've provided 5 links:
Australia
Marriage
Mature man
Loves me
Romantic
What about...
Politics?
Weather
Geography
History
7omar
Ohh none of them worked...Favouritism!!!
Well all in the name of love, she means the world to me. By the way did you know that in Japan they refer to an unmarried woman past the age of 25 as Christmas Cake. It does sound like a sweet compliment, but in reality they mean she goes off like the cake uneaten by December 25. Hello!!!.
By the way Homar is the calssier term, may jahish would work.
* classier
*lol I meant maybe and it did not work.
tell him.....well if u think u wanna be serious about it.
but then again if ur a girl n older he still is immature n still growing!
i have abetter idea just let him see wat u wrote about him in here,and he will decide...
LMAOOOO @ sams comment "I advise you to rebel in the name of L'Oreal...coz you're worth it!"
lol thats the funniest thing i've read all day.. wat a smart a$s..
u noe what the idea of a chick being older than a guy is really disturbing, ESPECIALLY when your 19 and his 14. OMG thats like wiiierdd, no offence, i think he should be dating teenie boppers his age.. and u, u should be going for some one older and yeah just some one OLDER. whose voice has actually crackeD aND has passed through puberty not still going through it, LOL.. sorry dnt mean 2 be teasing.. its just relli odd!.. anyway.. whatever you choose 2 do its up 2 u.. dnt worry what ppl think cos ppl will talk no matter what, follow your heart.. if u feel his right for you then go for it... even if the age gap is a lil wierd... ANYWAYYYYYYYY thats just my opinion i feel its better if the guy was older.. id feel like his mother if he was younger than me... even if it was like by a week or sumfin..
TAKE CARE PPL much love from DOWN UNDERRRR a.k.a AUSTRALIA
x0x..
LOL sam you made a person smile today or LTAO.
plz... what do u have in common with a 14 yr. old boy.
Always a pleasure! :-)
I HAVE BEEN HAVING SEX WITH A MAN WHO IS 16 YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS. HE WOULD MAKE THE BEST HUSBAND IN THE WORLD I THINK. HE'S 23 AND I'M 39. IS THIS TERRIBLE OF ME? I KNOW THAT I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM, MAYBE EVEN LOVE HIM. THE THING IS, I REALLY HAVE NEVER TOLD HIM ANYTHING ABOUT HOW I FEEL. THE ONLY THING WE DO TOGETHER IS , HAVE SEX. I HAVE NEVER BEEN OUT ON ANY THING CLOSE TO WHAT COULD BE CALLED A "DATE" WITH HIM. HE COMES TO MY HOUSE AND WE DO OUR THING, HE GETS UP AND LEAVES. SOMETIMES IT'S A MONTH OR MORE BEFORE I HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN. SOMETIMES I'LL CALL HIM, HE DONT ANSWER, BUT WHEN HE CALLS ME IF I DONT ANSWER, HE'LL KEEP CALLING BACK UNTIL I DO. WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS? I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP ON THIS ONE.