I have been best friends with this guy for almost 10 years. We have been to college, to vacations etc. together. ONLY as friends. In the past he used to like me for a brief while but I never saw him as a man as I do now. He was younger then and not my type or so I thought. And the physical attraction was not there.
Anyhow, we moved in together because of problems in my house and I needed to get away.

My boyfriend permitted this because he knows him and said it would be ok. So since Oct. we have lived together and one night I got drunk and totally went for him. He resisted at first, and then he kissed me but he held me in a bear hug until I fell asleep. After that there were brief moments that we hooked up and then we slept together!

So the first time we had sex it wasn't so good. Very awkward and I wanted it more than he did. So we stopped hooking up and he went on his way. I had a difficult time adjusting to not trying to have feelings with him but eventually I got over it.

Anyway, last Saturday night he initiated again kissing me and then having sex. He later confessed that he was drunk. Anyway it was really good. I want to pursue more, but a lot is at stake here. And he has been seeing this girl that he intends on making his "official" girlfriend within the next week or so.
I want to stop thinking about him, but I can't. I have always loved him as a friend and I'm trying to desperately not fall in love with him, but it is difficult.
My boyfriend is great. But the facts are that I have more fun with my best friend.
What is your take on this?

Jessie

Answer:

Dear Jessie,

You are going to have to be honest with yourself, and see what is better for you, with whom are you happier, and who will treat you well.
Why don’t you open the subject up with your best friend, and see what he feels about it, and just be honest with your boy friend.
After all, at the end you have to be happy no matter what anybody thinks.