I’m madly in love with this guy. We are both in love, until one day I decided that our relationship couldn’t go on, because my family doesn’t know about it.
He begged me to stay and said that he wants to marry me and call my father and explain that he wants to marry me, but I said no way because at that time I was way too young only 14 years and so that idea went completely out the window. He was 18 at that time. We haven’t spoken for 4 years and I just want to know if he is still alive and if he is okay...

I know he still loves me and I love him too. It’s so difficult because not one day has gone by for the past 4 years without me thinking of him. It’s driving me crazy because I miss him and just want to know that he’s okay, but there’s no way I can do that, especially with my family etc. my mum found out about us through a member of my family, but I denied everything and pretended it wasn’t true. I love my mum, but I love him too.

I can’t be with him and I know that. I just don’t know how to forget him when I’m scared that he might be hurt, because he has a heart condition. I think my problem is “letting go”. I can’t let him go. It seems he can let me go because there’s nothing stopping him from getting in touch with me to check if I’m ok. I haven’t changed my number or e-mail since we split. Hoping he’d ring me or send an e-mail. Nothing has happened.

I turn down everyone else because I’m still stuck and in love with him. I’m really confused. Help!

Sadness

Answer:

Dear Sadness,

The solution to your problem is in your hands; if he hasn’t asked about you in four years, then you should drop it! Let it go!
And in all cases, you two were really young, and he might have changed in four years, maybe into a person that you wont like!
Why should you spend 4 years “hoping”, live your life and get to know new people, don’t let a ghost from the past haunt you!