I have been dating this guy for about 2months now. For the first month, things were great; he came to meet my parents as my boyfriend about 3weeks ago.
I am a very sensitive person. Spending time together is very important to me.
For the past few weeks, he has been so busy and it’s been a week now since we saw each other. We live in the same community. I am not happy with this because we don’t get to spend time together anymore.
Its either he is at meetings, which sometimes takes him through to about 10pm or something else.
About a month ago, he started having some financial issues and I think this has really affected him because he cant take me out and probably cant buy me certain things he would like to buy me to make me happy; which I don’t mind, really.
Please help because I am getting tired of his excuses and really want a serious guy now since I have been hurt in the past. i care about him a lot and would like this relationship to progress only if its worth it. Please help!
Aka
Dear Aka,
It is very important to let your boyfriend know exactly what you are thinking; tell him that money isn’t an issue, and tell him that you “want a serious guy now since you have been hurt in the past and that you care about him a lot and would like this relationship to progress only if its worth it.
Be serious and frank.
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Dear Aka,
Im sorry to say but this guy is not into you. You need to read that book; "HE'S JUST NOT INTO YOU". It will help you see what guys really are thinking. Im assuming you are young. Im a women in my early 30's married with two kids. My life is good now but I wasted alot of time with guys that were not into me. I am and was very attractive back then and had no probems finding dates, but I always found the wrong guy. I didnt read the book, but I saw the guy who wrote it on Oprah. I listened to what he said and I thought I wish I had that book when I was younger. The stuff he said was true and I see it better and clearer now because I am married and not in the dating scene. Also, to get men to be intrested dont be to intrested in them. Have your own life. Its sad but you do have to play hard to get.
I totally agree. He's just not that into you. If he was he would be more attentive. He would go out of his way to make time for you. I think he likes you a lot but doesnt have the balls to break up with you.
You can hang on to him but it will only disolve in a matter of time. I would cut him loose and let him find himself. You can do better than that. I'm sure some guy will find you to be the queen in his life.