I'm 18 and I have a 22-year-old boyfriend and well we're sort of a weird couple. My man is not an affectionate person, he doesn’t hold hands, he hardly kisses me and we fight all the time. I have told him I love him but he says he can never love again after his last relationship. I have been trying to open him up you know find out who he really is but it is hard. We barley have a sex life any more cause he says that I make him mad and turn him off but I don't know how. He's a very difficult person but I do love him what should I do? Help!
Amy Payne
How r u actually copein....i woulda dumped him from day one...neva run after a guy who dont want u!!
Amy,
I know exactley how you feel. My boyfriend is the same way. He never wants to be "lovey-dovey" with me, and he thinks holding hands is for junior high. sometimes he can make me so mad. like when we go out, it's like we arent even a couple, especially when we're with his friends. Most of the time, the only time he shows affection towards me is when we are having sex or when i wear something really sexy. We fight all the time also. I love him though, but i dont know if he even cares about me anymore. And any time we have a really bad fight, and he almosts leaves me, or i almost leave him, we both start crying... and sometimes it feels as though i am going to be sick. All of a sudden i lose my appetite, my courage and my strength, and even my will to live life to the fullest. So i definetely know what you're going through. Just keep trying, and always think that if it doesn't work out, that there are so many other guys who could make your boyfriend seem as though you two never dated.
hi, me and my fiance have been together 2 years this week, he has never been the lovey-dovey one up untill about a week ago....and its kinda weird! its making me think he is hiding something. or having an affair or mabe its just me being paranoid. im too scared to talk to him as he might say what i dont want to hear! help!
I have been seeing this guy for 2months... you would never have known from the first date when he asked me to kiss him at dinner, that he was not the PDA type not only PDA does he have trouble with.. He thinks kissing is for high school... Very rarely does he kiss me... what i mean is passionatley... He does kiss me here and there on the forehead the cheek , neck, lips.. ya know.. but it is different then a good kiss... I joke about it with him.. and still show him affection, i really like him, we spend alot of time together... i just am not sure if this is something i can live with being as affectionate as i am... Sex is great.. and yes when we are intimate he does kiss me more passionatley... am i being selfish...? b/c i want more...
ZO... Yeah i would be a 'lil weirded out by all that attention too... But seriously you never know... sometimes it is like something comes over these less affectionate men and they just want you more when they realize what they got...