Donot worry, every thing will be okay just you need to say the truth whatever will be happened if you want to continue your relationship with some body you love him so much. Another important issue is why you donont marry him by HALAL and take the headic from your head?

where is he from ?

plz email me

wow im egyptian to and from experience i can tell u.....
DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT TRYING TO REASON WITH UR FAMILY!!! ESPECIALLY UR BROTHER!!!!!!!!!
I think the best option is to talk to ur boyfriend about it and see what he thinks. if he truly loves you
and wants the best for u then he will accept your problem and maybe you should wait till ur older and u have a chance to discuss ur relationship
with ur parents and see how far u want to take it with him. (if u ask my parents its marriage or nothing!!)
i feel very sorry for u and i wish u the best of luck!!

If your love is true it will be able to get you thru n e thing. But how old r u? If ur less than 17 i think u should wait. If ur not try to get the guy to engage you. May ur heart guide you to the right path.

if ur sure dat he uvz u nd dat hez gonna marry u dnt leave him nd tel ur family dat ur relationship wid ur bf is serious nd dat hes planin 2 marry u in da future nd dat he luvz u bt if he doznt have da intention to stay wid u nd marry u den wt u hav 2 do is 2 leave him cuz at da end he ll break up wid u nd at da same time ur gonna have pbmz wid ur family.wish u da best of luk.

Mira,

To me .. Love is like a fire, it makes you feel warm when you need, meanwhile it can hurt you!

Love is a gift from God that every single person on Earth has .. i read some of the comments written to you but here listen to mine if you don't mind!

First of all, are you in a single-sex or coeducational school? .. anyways, we, arabs, usually refuse the idea of having boyfriends or girlfriends, though many people still accept it these days. I know how it feels to live far from the ones you love but i'm living now far away from the person that i really like! Yet, i gotta put up with this situation, because life doens't stop here. Think deeply of your relationship with that guy .. why don't you ask him if he permits his sister to have a boyfriend (if he had)! Let me share this one, i know many girls but believe me i never talk to one of them behind their parents' backs and so don't they. Being honest is the key to success in your relations with everyone. Why don't you talk to your mom about it before it's too late? Always be honest to your family .. remember, your family loves you and it will always be there for you, and not your boyfriend! I never considered a girl as a special one that none of the guys out there can talk to her. I consider them friends .. not more not less!

Mira, you need to have a talk with your brother and your mom.. discuss this issue and i'm 100% positively sure that you'll find a solution. By the way, what your mom says is totally right, your age doesn't allow you to decide what you love .. you're too young for this!

One more thing i'd like to add, if your boyfriend really likes you, then he would leave you if your family (perhaps your brother) wanted to!

Take care & always be honest!

dear friend,
one advice:follow your heart!!!!
love is something that can not be erased....if u both love each other,go ahead and marry!!!!seek for happiness and love!!!it's love that makes the world go 'round!!!! manal****

Mira...i may be not mature to tell u an advice coz i am 13 but if ur parents dont accept ur marriage with ur bf than dont marry him coz u'll live sadly coz ur parents will be (ghadbaneen 3alayke) i know that this will hurt u and ur bf but hiding with ur bf or running with him to an unknown world of challenges will put u infront of large troubles...gd luck and i may god bless u and give u happines...

Shadi from lebanon

if u are considered an adult then nobody can tell u who to love and who to go out with. but if u are under 18 i think its best u listen to ur family cuz they only want whats best for you even if they are harsh sumtimes they dont want u to get hurt.
if u r 18 or older though and really love eachother get engaged, finish college, and then get married or sumthing like that.
just remember to not make quick desisions that u might regret later.

wow..i didnt realised that there were g.c.s.e's an A-levels in saudi! im doing my A-levels in england now..sounds bit random. anyway my opinion if u love him just keep the relationship to ur self..i mean i dont think u should have let your brothers friends find out...i think sufer the conscquenes and ur love with him with grow stronger inchallah..even if u are unable to c each other..i suffered, im in uk my bf in tunisia, i usually c him every summer but last yr i got in trouble so i was not able to c him this time :( and im soooo sad. but i learnt even though i am 17 and known him since 13..i want to spend the rest of my life with him..but unfortuantly i broke up with him! but e-mail me XX gud luck

its obvious to me that ur taking this relationship seriously. this is an opportunity to see if ur bf is too. tell him to propose to ur family formally (if ur old enough, i dont think u r cuz im doing my igs in s.a. too and im 14) if ur not old enough, chances r ull move to egypt eventually and never see him again. u can still talk to him as a friend, but i can assure u that once hes out of ur life u wont even remember his name in 2 yrs time.

Hey Mira,
I guess , i am the most one who can tell u what to do , cuz i was i am Egyptian i was born in saudi arabia and i lived there for more than 14 years and i left it after i finished the first year in I.G.C.S.E same as u and i went to egypt and i completed my a levelz and so on . Look first : having a boyfriend isnt haram .u guys love eachother isnt it ? i mean u said that u realised after 2 years that u still love eachother it means ur love is a true love and true love is really rare and few these dayz . What i advice u with , is to tell ur mum , she will understand it , dont care about ur brother , this is so selfish of him not to let u have ur own life and ur own experience , if u even loved this boy and u guys break up but simply u gained experience u gained something , tell ur mum just start it by telling her mum i want to be more closer to u and i want to feel that u r my friend and so on and tell her . she is the only one who will be in ur side dont worry about ur brother if ur mother is in ur side u r not doing anything wrong in loving some1 but u did sometihng wrong try not to go out with him alot people wont be silent they will talk and talk and talk and maybe ur brotherz friends will see u many times and tell ur bro u guys can talk online see eachother in private lessons ( cuz i know there is no skools in S.A for the IGCSE ) so ofcourse u see him in the private lessons or u talk on da phone but just put in ur mind that everything has a limits and there is red lines dont ever ever ever cross it and trust telling ur mum will change everything and make u feel more comfortable .
This is my e-mail if u want to talk to me about it :
Shazamelies@hotmail.com
but just put in ur mind u r not doing anything wrong at all . i used to live there and i have a boy friend and i knew him since i was there and i am in third year in IGCSE and we are still together , i told my mum and she was really on my side when my dad knewed about it and what now ? we're talking chatting calling and everything u r afraid of ur brother i was afraid of my dad but simply my mum was on my side and it worked and see now i am still with him but remember DONT CROSS THE RED LINES!!

"Love is like a fire, it makes you feel warm when you need, meanwhile it can hurt you!"

Very very well said! well done, I really like the phrase.
Mira, i have been thru this before, normally, sadly, things at this age doesnt work out and you end up leaving each other :( ... truth hurts, but every rule have exceptions, very very rare exceptions. May Allah show you the right path.

I noticed that was posted last year so I guess your as* would have been kicked by now. I wonder how many girls your brother would have pestered in his life time, I bet it is ok for him to fall in love and have a girlfriend. When will parents realise that there is a difference between fear of parental authority and respect for that authority. I mean kids will always be kids, and they are bound to want to experience love and want to do what kids do. If rules are imposed without being explained properly, kids are bound to become sneaky and devious, they are taught to lie. I would have told you to take the bull by the horns and tell your mother yourself without them them having to find out from other people. Your made your choice and you should face the consequences. I know it is not always easy but it is better than feeling like you have something to hide. A loving relatioship should bring you tranquility and peace, not stress and having to look behind your shoulder all the time.

Oh yeah I just noticed that now...may 16th 2005...and people r pouring their hearts out giving advice....how cruel.

I just don't think that a 15/ 16/ 17 year old will know what love is; even if it does consume most of their time, thought, energy and what not. I don't think love is meant to be that way. I think it should be much more comfortable.

Why did Mira not contact him during the 2 years they were apart or vice versa? doesn't show much care if u ask me considering net communication and smsing have been widely available and cheap for a fair share of time now.

I think Mira is more thrilled with the idea of rebelling like most teens...pleasure from doing something family and society always tell u is wrong...The forbidden fruit syndromme etc. Some guy knows how 2 say a few sweet words and then wham bam thank u man...the girls inlove. It'd make little difference who the guy is i suppose as long as he flatters the lady in question.

Why would u give up your time and take risks for a guy u can't even claim to guarantee. There's no mention of this guys positives or his intentions so I still think Mira is swept away in the whole fish pouting whilst making googly eyes and playing footsy thing.

Either way whoever is put in these dilemmas I hope they can resolve it maturely and not let it turn into a crisis. But everyone needs a protector so no one can just abandon the idea and think that 'love' or 'lust' as it stands in my book is between only the two involved. You can't expect those who care about u most to back away la2en if things go wrong u won't have anyone to turn 2.

I agree about the Forbidden Fruit Syndrome Sam. Nothing lovelier than sweet nothings whispered in your ears. Ah donya. What do you think Mira is doing by now?. Is there a Sequel WALEG?. A kind of a reunion thing.

I meant over your shoulder in yesterday's comment. I was just reading it again and being impressed by my own wisdom.

well ,i think your brother is right,he actually needs the best out of you.your brother must be familiar with all kinds of problem appearing outside and i think he knows how boys act,i think he is trying to protect you as i know there in saudia most of the guys r players,(not all ofcourse i mean SOME).it is difficult for them to go out with saudi girls so they take other girls from different nationality just to have fun,,,
so please my dear make sure that you r moving to the right direction as ur parent's wishes.....dont listen to what pple say follow ur heart......by following your heart you will spoil your life.....may allah protect you and guide safely through every miles

My guess would be that Mira is making googly eyes at 'love of her life' number 2, possibly 3 who knows! She'd be about 17 by now so shes probably at the emotional break down stage.

Mira if you still come here can u tell us how the situation ended if it has?

I hope not, I hope they still run through the green fields towards each other, and like old Arab movies hide their heads behind tree trunks to give us the illusion that they are kissing.

Orrr they could get engaged for a couple of hundred years, yefreshooo il sha2a...get married, get down and dirty and shout 'freeedom' from the balcony and then have a handful of kiddies and then get divorced.

Ah you are such a cynic Sam. Divorce?? who gets divorced nowadays, people need to get married first. I have to say that you would be correct in your first guess, the googly eyes. You know the feeling which you never felt for anyone before, and it is amazing how people acquire such short time memories in these situations. "I adore him, I have never felt like this before except last year and the year before".

Mira I can imagine hearing about you in the news "Egyptian Girl Killed in Honor Killing".

You should have kept the relationship low key to begin with. You're f*cked!!!

well hey
ive ben reading alot bout u and its seems lik u hav tha same problems as me lol
its always my family they dont encourage bout luv stuff...in tha way
but im just telling u that it wont stop me caz we luv each ada and theres no way their gonna seperate us NO WAY
so afta ur bro cums bac face tha truth and say he has no rite to care about u and say wat if it was him and 4 ur mum just say that no matter how far u seperate us we will always b 2getha
and say that if u guys keep going lik that then ull run awayor sumthin(even tho ur not)
but anyways...i will always encouge wateva disision u mak cya
wish u all tha best

kath