Is he just playing ?

a day at the beach

There is a boy in my school that I like, so I met him, we spent a day at the beach together he told me stuff and told me he could love me and on the messages he sends me really romantic stuff. After two days I found out from my friend in his class that he is only playing and he also tells me that he doesn’t want a girlfriend now but he told me he loved me and I don’t know who to believe and I don’t know what to do? What should I do?

Nadine

Dear Nadine,

You are still really young, you are only 12 and you have all the time in the world to get to know guys and find the guy for you … so I think the best thing to do is try to end the whole thing … you break it off before he breaks it off first! And maybe it is better for you to be only friends with this boy … you are both still young!
And as for him telling you that he “could” love you, he is bound to change his mind millions of times until he becomes mature enough to know exactly what he wants!

14 Comments
  1. jodie shepherd | May 16, 2005 11:52 AM

    I was with my boyfriend for a year, and we were all going good, until my best mate phoned me sayin he cheated on me with three different girls in one night, she wouldnt lie to me i know it, but he keeps textin me, and i do text back but i obviously still have feelings for him, but recently he text me sayin he wants to just stay mates, i want to stay mates, but it is quite hard, but he still has feeling for me, I guess ill just have to move on, but i know he still likes me! he didnt treat me very well, so why would i want him back? I guess its just me being silly, and my minds telling me i still like him, but actually i dont..

    jodie shepherd
  1. Racha | May 17, 2005 1:54 PM

    I had a similar problem year ago and i didn't know what to do but finally i imagined myself broken up with him so i didn't talk to him any more and when he sms me i didn't reply it was hard to me but when i thinl now in this problem i found myself proud because in this way i left him and my dignity was so high and even he was playing with me in the past he still wants come back because i show to him a strong girl and every body likes that so be like that

    Racha
  1. frres | May 21, 2005 11:29 PM

    من كل قلبى

    اسف على كل لحظه قدتها معاك
    من كل قلبى اسف ع العمر الى عدى وانا بستناك

    باي باي

    frres
  1. Rania | May 24, 2005 5:41 PM

    Hi Nadine.I had the same problem.Forget him it's the best.You are still young you have time don't waste your time with such an idiot.
    Rania

    Rania
  1. Joe | May 26, 2005 10:44 AM

    Nadine... This boy doesn't know what he wants. You don't know what you want either. You can't help feelings, but you have to listen closely on this one. You're too young to even begin to realize what love really is. Forget him. You don't need a boyfriend. And trust me, if you don't look you'll most certainly find it anyways. Love will come to you if you're not desperately searching for it. Keep your head up and your eyes open.

    Joe
  1. mimo | May 26, 2005 11:14 PM

    hi
    2 years ago ...when i was 14 i fell in love with a guy who's 20 years....i can i admit that i was very stupid cz u know 14 is a young age....my stupidness made him use me physically...i trusted him so much and i believed that what we were doin is very normal (Sex,,,but i am still a vergin :P)...so he used me for this issue each time i went to see him....deep inside i knew that i was doing somthin wrong but because i trusted him i believed him more than i believed myself!!!! he also made his friend play with me by doing tricks on me.... he made a vedio for us while doing some stuff and gave it to his friend....thuss his friend used this vedio to force me to sleep with him.... he also lied to me and came up with a story that he needed money which made me give him money since i am so tender hearted.....anyways i spent abt a year with him like a blind girl....i didnt understand wts goin around cz averybode was using me....buut after we broke up i grew up and now i am much more grown and now i understand guys and i can tell thier intentions towards me but my problem is that i lost trust in guys....i can trust no one....i have a new bf now but i find a hard time trusting him....i am always afraid to pass again through iwt i passed for cz i know that if that happened again i would fall and i dunno wt will happen to me....now i always doubt each move my bf do which i think is goin to cause me huge problems with him where i already have one...but it wasnt that serious problem...i have been only a monthes and a half with him....i just need an advice...and plz allow me to give advice to anygirl who's readin this....dont let a guy touch u b4 u have full trust in him and b4 u have spent time with him enough to start sharing love this way....cz if u star sharing this from the first day ull end up like me cz when guys see a girl giving them sex they wont refuse instead they will find it a lot of fun,,,and whenever u find that all wt matter for him is ur body then cut the whole thing off and move on with ur life b4 he hurts u in anyway ....thnx

    mimo
  1. youssef | May 27, 2005 2:47 AM

    Quick question. Where r all of u from. U r mad weird. I live here in america and i hear way worst things than that. this girl in my class is all like oh and i went out with this guy and all this bs and i am like what the hell is wrong with u. ur only 12 for gods sake. gheez ur acting like such a s l u t. And then all the girls go from one guy to another huggin in the hallway like they never hugged someone. I am not saying huggin is bad but they push it. I mean i dont mind being hugged or having someone rest there head on ma should but a guy who is like sooo much older than u. WHAT A FREAKIN S L U T MAN!!! Seariously. I have a gf and she is cool and everythin so it is normal cause she is my age. We have school dances and everyone does not dance they grind. (When the guys puts his front on the girls back and the move slowly and yes with clothes on) lol. i think they should date someone ur own age and follow ur heart. LOL

    youssef
  1. amel_djannet | May 29, 2005 12:39 PM

    I want know just the compte of my love fouzi but how?

    amel_djannet
  1. garry | June 1, 2005 2:33 PM

    i have just fall in love with someone.we usually txt eachother.we talk sometime on phone she told she had a sex with other guy before me so i become curious to know more about that girl i call to her best friend she told she had boy friend from two years but the problem is she told me about that guy before i asked to her best friend i don't is she loves me truly i don't understand whether i keep hook up with her or should i leave that girl ?

    garry
  1. peshawaqadir | June 5, 2005 7:27 AM

    i love u haifa wahbe

    peshawaqadir
  1. lizzy | June 7, 2005 3:52 PM

    i luved sum1 very very much it was ma first love ... i still do he used 2 be ma bf but he didnt tell me he has another one that means he played on me ! but that was fine coz of ma luv 4 him! and now i really changed i always go out with many guyz everyday another one thats weird i didnt love any1 else yet and i want 2 4get him but its too hard 4 me to! ??
    and always ma mum and ma sis keeps on fightin ma mum never talks 2 me about stuff like these ! i want sum1 to help me try 1 let me 4get him get everythin in this world

    lizzy
  1. lizzy | June 7, 2005 3:58 PM

    dear garry:
    move on with life shes jus a gurl no need 2 waste ur time on herr...!! go 2 another girl u know her v.much and u do trust her more than know her dun ask any1 abt her ask her !??

    lizzy
  1. sof | June 9, 2005 9:14 AM

    وش السالفه وش جابني هنا بس يالله

    الي يحب يراسلني
    تراني موجود
    راسلوني باي شي

    sof
  1. noor | November 5, 2005 10:06 PM

    hello .. mm one day i met this guy and i fell in love with him and ma mum found out that was ma worst day eva in ma life..then we stayed 2gether but then he dumped me coz he saw me walkinf with guys and stuff and ignoring him well that was ma first love ! eem then i travelled and i had this cute guy and evey1 knows him and all the gurls wishes that he would ask em out .. soo i loved him sooooooooo much but then he was like i know all ur couzins and we have 2 break up and he broke up with me i felt 2 bad then i came bak 2 the country i live in .. and i saw a guy hes soooooo cute and hot n evetything like twice then i had a crush on him and i asked ma frndz 2 help me 2 him and 2 be frndz with him but i fell in love with him he knows that and he likes me soo much but i dunno if hes playing or sth ..but am sure he is evey1 told me theres another guy hes soo cute and he loves me i like him but i dont love him i want that guy who i really love .. sum1 tells me what 2 do coz i want that guy 2 love me i want him 2 be mine ok it sounds crazy but am serious

    noor