Question:
I've fallen deeply in love with my best friend - and he's gay. A week ago we went out, had quite a lot to drink, and ended up kissing passionately and biting and holding each other; then he told me that I've turned him bisexual, and he loves me. The problem is, in the morning, he swore he didn't remember a thing. I don't know if he genuinely doesn't, or he didn't want to say anything in front of anybody else, or he's embarrassed and just wants to forget about it. I'd ask him about it but don’t want to scare him. If I tell him how I feel he might not speak to me again and I couldn't survive without him. I really just don't know what to do. How can you force yourself to fall out of love with someone? Please, I just need advice. Please help!
Lily
Answer:
Dear Lily,
You have to assume that he might have forgotten all what happened, if you have had a lot to drink! So, all you have to do is have a serious talk with your friend; explain what had happened, and see what he says, I don’t think he will stop speaking to you, and if things become ugly, then just say it was a mistake that you both made that night and agree on forgetting about it!
Good Luck.
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Dear Lily
i think it's ok if you talked to him about it! how can he forget anyway it's supose to be something special not forgetable anyway if he keeps on insisting that he doesn't remember then you too act like nothing happened!!! and go on with your life ofcourse you're gonna survive :)Good Luck
Dear Lily!
Even if your friend still remember, are you willing to be with a bisexual! you have him one day, and the other day he is with another guy....I think you should forget completely about all this mess, just like you fell in love, you'll forget...you just need to focus on something else and not think about him at all,...it will be hard in the begining but you'll see when you'll be over him..you'll look back at all this story and you'll laugh....
Wish you good luck
Hi, well.. in this life the worse can happen.. and i guess its happening to you. first i don't wana sound insensitive, but its quite shocking, i would like to help, but all i can offer is telling u to follow the right path in life, because getting drunk and getting deep with a male friend isnt quite right, well wouldnt have happened if u didn't get drunk! if u were okay with the fact that the guy u love is ga y, then u should be okay with the worst thngs in life.
hope this situation doesnt cause u any emotional confusion..
well i guess i have to admit i too have had strong feelings for my not into girls best friend. and its so crazy and one minute im repulsed by the fact that hes getting with men and the next minute all i wana do is be with him! noone can understand unless theyv been in the situation.. and yes i too have had one of those drunk nights where we kissed and it took us a year before we talked about it! life is mad! all i can say is that ur situation is not totally unique!
Speaking from a g-a-y male point of view. I think it's best that you do not pursue anything. If he had genuine interest he would have let it known. Alcohol and heat of the momment can lead ppl to do many things.
He sounds like an awesome guy and you guys can continue to be great friends. This is something that is best left in the past.
One night together is not enough to "fall in love." I will be hard but you need to free yourself if you want to move on.
I feel for you hun. I was there too. It is really tough. I too have fallen for my best friend. It's hard not to when he is so hot and understands me better than anyone has. My advice is we must understand that they are different and cannot be who we want them to be. Accept reality and move on.