Question:
I have a question; I do not know what to do? I still like my ex boyfriend a lot and we havent talked to each other for almost a year. We broke up because a lot of people started telling him that I was going out with some other guy at school and some people told me that he was the one who was going out with some other girl. His family does not like me and I know that he loved me a lot but I do not know if he still loves me and I do not want to call him and ask him, because he might not love me anymore. And I am scare to find out that he might have a girlfriend. What should I do? I sent him some songs but my phone number is private so he does not know that it is I who is sending the songs but at the same time I think he knows it is I because the other day someone sent me a song. I think it was him.
Yesica
Answer:
Dear Yesica,
As long as you don’t have the courage to ask him, then you will never know!
The reason for your breaking up is silly! Things shouldn’t have become as they are with you now. Try to contact him, and ask about him and how he has been, then if the conversation goes well and smooth, then ask him about your past relationship and explain that the breakup was a big mistake built on rumors and peoples talk.
Just set the record strait and see what happens.
Good luck.
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I don't think there is a love between you gyus because if one kept one year without asking it almost like a game I advise not to contact because if he loves he will ask
dear yesica
first of all i'd have to disagree with talal... i broke up with my x two years ago.. we got back together 1 year ago.. we broke up again recently
but the thing is .. sometimes it takes time to realise how much u love someone.... or like they say about guys ... "u don't know what u got untill u'v lost it"... thats why i got back to her
i felt it was the stupidest mistake of my life ....i just called her ... talked friendly then asked her out.. it went great...
think about it .. this could be the best thing u'v never had .... but then i broke up with her again.... actually she dumped me but thats not the point ...
point is ... maybe he loves u too.. but he's just taking time .. or maybe he has a girlfriend.... but if he does .. u guys could be just friends for a while ... friends is better than nothing ... friends is better than anything
.. u don't wanna live in the "what if?" state of mind
get u'rself together and call him ... have a normal conversation .. and if he asks why u have called ... tell him u just wanted to check up on him.. and after that call .. wait for the answer ...u'r answer is afterwards
Zaid
-jordan-
dear freind
just i want to say just just if u r good and nothing in bad ur heart then u can get him
just keep ur heart clean and pray for him, that is love.
good luck
I kind of have a similar issue as our friend! I'm not sure how serious was her relationship with him or in other words what level of Love and respect they shared, of course many issues are involved in this case, such as: their age, professional status and also if they are both financially ready for the next level which is marriage!
I'm 26 of age and I was in a 4 year relationship with a man who is 32 yrs old. We both come from a very similar background as far as culture, social atmosphere and the financial status. we both loved each other a lot and had a lot of respect for each other, but during our relationship the 4 yrs, we broke up 3 times, the first lasted for a month and it was based basically on his request, he didn't officially say it but I have so much pride to let him admit it so I negotiated the problem and we both broke up but he tried getting back in a very nice and respectable way, the second time was also because of him and the issues keep repeating itself, they were because of education stuffs, I wanted to be admitted to a professional school, I applied twice but was not accepted! I did what I can do, studied hard, lived in a the worst 3 yrs of my life under lots of pressure from him to be admitted but I was not, and he was aware that getting in this special program is very hard, but he was always blaming me for not trying hard, in other ways, although he doesn't admit it , he always put me down, claiming that he's only trying to help me! anyway just about 2 years ago when we were not together, I had started to move on and started to be happy again, I continued my school and graduated with a bachelors degree from a good university but my major was not what I wanted at first. then I met this very nice guy that really made me feel happy , I'm not sure if I really like him or was it that I had no one to love and he made me feel special, although this other guy is not really what I was looking for as far as family status! but I was very happy with him, so the time that I started talking to this other guy, my ex jumps inn and he wants things to go back to normal and that he can never be without me and bla bla bla... To be honest to you people he is a good man, he had not disrespect me at all, he used to always help me and treat me with all love and respect, we used to go to church every Sunday and really share wonderful ideas and very pure ones too, his only downfall was he always pressured me when it comes to school, he's very practical and he likes things to be planned like 10 years ahead, but me, I'm not that practical, infact I don't think I'm, I like to see what God holds for me day by day, that doesn't mean I just live like a and a looser not at all, like I said I struggled a lot to get my degree although I only have my bachelor so far, but I'm planning to get my masters and more and more if God keeps blessing me. the thing is he's a genius, he's a doctor and his grades are all A's!!!! but not all people are similar! in all things we were MORE then great, ONLY when it comes to school, anyway when he jumped in the next time when he saw me with this guy, I asked him to involve the parents now, because when we were together we were both in school, and he was in medical school, so he didn't effort the marriage stuff, then he didn't mind, so after only one week the parents got involved and we were engaged! then after something about school came out and I didn't want to fight again so I just lied to him about school). but the lie lasted only for one hour!! well things after went down, he started being the same about school stuff,. and whatever he said when we first got back didn't happen, what I'm sure off, that he did this because he was watching me with someone else so he got upset and wanted to get me back. anyway after our engagement in two months, we broke up!!! this was a killer to me, it made me depressed and really just destroyed my life, although I got my dream job that I never thought I would get after 1 month of graduation, but I was still very sad because I lost my other half! of course it was because I was sire that he didn't want to continue with me so again my pride played a very important rule and again we both broke up, but he knows I did this because I felt that that's what he wants, anyway its been 2 yrs now, we still talk but not as lovers but as friends, I don't know what to call us, we don't go out and even when he see me by chance we talk for 1 or 2 minutes that's all, I feel he still cares but sometimes I feel he doesn't. I'm very lost and confused and I love him alot,,,i'm not sure what to do?
dear yesica i think that he loves u very much as u do but i think that he is confused what to do cause of others talking and his parents and his friends who told him that u have another boyfriend as it happened to u from your friends but all of these things shouldnt be a reason for your breaking up with him just call him and talk to him in a good and nice way and say to him that u love him very much and if u didnt why would u just care about him and call him try to be a friend then im sure if he really loves u he will ur boyfriend again by the time good luck
ALL,
Note: related to Deena's story
Your story is very touching! and to tell you the truth I'm not sure what to tell you! I think you need help.
ALL lets give Deena some help ;)
DEENA...ur story IS very sad..im sure u guys still feel awkward when u talk to eachother..even though u guys say its "as friends"..which is very normal!
to be honest, u shouldnt have lied to him about ur education, no matter what he should accept u the way u r, and if u guys broke up about 3 times because of the same reason, he should know that at least ur trying! i dont know him, so i cant really judge him, but based on what u have said it seems like he isnt putting a lot of effort into making this relationship work!!
i think u should move on, achieve what YOU want to achieve, not what HE wants u to achieve, so that ur not pressured or stressed..after all if he really does love u...he should accept u the way u r!=)
anways..only god knows what the future is holding for u, and who u will end up with..so i guess its really not in anyone's hands!..so just stay strong and rememeber ur pride comes before anything!=)..
i hope i helped a little..and good luck with everything..
Lara
Thank u so much you're too sweet!
yes its very strange every time I talk to him or see him! I agree with you on the fact that I shouldnt lie! I love him so much but just like what you said he needs to love me the way I'm! and I'm sure I deserve something good because all I had for him was nothing but love and respect.
thank u
Waleg,
how can i place my comment so I can get a solution to my probelm?
Hi Deena!
Just go to the main page of the Love & Romance section and you will find a form on the right side...
You can also click on the 'share your feeling' link on the left side of this page!
hey, i think u should keep on trying. listen i was in the same situation! my ex- friends told my ex bf that i wAS cheating on him an daa bunch of other shit, so me and him stop talking about a month later i called him up and i was talking to him and blah blah blah, me and him became the most of friends! .... we were going to get together but i didnt want to go through all of the same pain, but for u i think that u should try with evrything u have because u like him a lot. trust me GO FOR IT, u will have better luck!!!
love always shi shi
i fell in love with this guy named chris.we dated for 4 and half months.we had a blasted when when we were togethere.Then i found out i was pregnant and thing started to go bad.He said i was to controlling and he couldn't live his life.he asked this other girl out 2 days later.i still talk to him ..well when he calls .that when hes not with his friend or girlfriend.when i call when hes with them he an ass to me..but if he bye his self then hes fine ...i dont get whats going on.He tells he hes happy now.but other people dont see him that way.he came to see me last week twice for no reason at all.he told me he loved me but then said he shouldnt have said anything.i know were supoort to be together..when we hug i feel like i culd die in his arms..even know he put me tho so much stit.that i dont deserve.i try being with someone else but all i thought about was him..now im avoiding his phone calls..i love chris so much..and i know he loves me to but all the people around him dont want us togethere..but i dont know maybe he does like this life now...(he told me that we might have a chance later in life).im 4 months pregnant right now..and im so confused...do you guyz think we should be togethere??
i am going through the same thing exept we havent broke up i love him so much when we arent to gether i feel so lonly and when we are togather he treats me not bad but not good he kinda ignors me but he tells me he loves me but i am not sure if he does he beleaves wat other people say instead of asking me first they will tell him i said all this stuff about him then he gets mad at me if anyone has a answer email me at number1angel6646@aol.com
i like alad but he goes out with my sister but the problem is i have liked him for 3 years and he holds my hands gives me coudles andkisses me and i no i am i love and he tells me ot to tell my sis i think he likes me but we are 2 scared to do anythin bout it can i help me plz thank you best wishes with all your problems.xx
I am in a very bad place right now. I met a girl and we knew eachother for a year, and for that year she was kind of crazy, drinker, pill-popper, but then a year later she got over it when she realized all of her "friends" were only drug buddies. So I get to know her and realize we are so similar in tastes. She is beautiful and I very swiftly fell deeply in love with her. One evening I recited a rather romantic line from her favorite book, and I was afraid she'd think it was lame due to her cynical, critical nature, but she immediately pounced forward and we kissed very passionately. After that we engaged in a very,very serious relationship. I poured my life, my soul into her. All I would ever do was to make her happy. We hardly had a rough patch the entire realtionship. We'd be together most of the time, have so much fun, a lot of sex, also. I would make sure she had anything she desired. I always made an over-haul of her birthday, making it absolutely euphoric. It was great. After one year and ten months, I left on a trip to Puerto Rico. I come back with tons of souveneirs for my girlfriend, Chelsea, but I come back to a different girl. Sneaking out, getting drunk, hanging out with some guy she used to hate, that we both hated, named John. I got a little upset that she was sneaking out to get drunk, and she got irritated, not understanding why I'd be worried or sad, an odd reaction for Chelsea. After a couple of weeks, one night we were planning to go to a party, but she claimed she was sick. I went home, and talked on the phone with her. Leftover was some residual sadness about Chelsea's behavior. She knew this and we parted to rest. Ed, a best friend of John later took her to the party where she got drunk to a disgusting point and flirted with John. She gets back, and I become even more sad. A week later, she is acting outright mean to me, then it is revealed she has wanted to dump me for a week. I also find out she has been revealing everything to Ed for sometime, and am pretty sure Ed has been convincing Chelsea that I am no good. So now here I am, so in love with my soulmate, and she has no desire for me. And she is acting very different, seldom speaking to me, and has a mutual crush with John. Whenever we talk, I start the conversation, and it always ends in tears, because I want her back so bad, and she's so cold. She spent no time finding a new crush and sneaking out and drinking again. Right now I'm a trainweck that just needs her back so bad. What do I do?
my best best friend is going out with my boyfriend and i dont no what to do
dear someone i need help my best friend is going out with my boyfriend but now my ex but now he is going out with her and i hate that cause i still love him and no matter how much he likes her and i still love him and my friend ( alyssa)
is making me mad and i see them together and it bugs me and i told her how i felt but she dont care and now she thinks that its funny and i cant talk to him now cause he does every thing she tells him to do but i cant take it any more and i want to go back out with him i need help and on top of this he dont no how i feel and he hurt me so many times but i still love him and i never felt this way about some one before what do u think i should do cause every day it gets worse
to jessia i think u should tell ur sister because this cant go on 4ever and think if he dont break up with ur sister then maybe they will get maried I DONT NO BUT ...i think u should tell her
me and my ex broke up cause poeple are talking shit they are saying how i was going out with his cosin and then he roke up with me but i still love him we haven talk sense we bvroke up i want him so bad i dream about him all the time sense i broke up with him i havent with no one i dont know what to do pease i need him before i die can you tell me what to do?
My ex boyfriend left me for my best friend at the end of October. I never thought this would happen to me. I let my best friend move into my place with my boyfriend now ex because she had no where to go I was just helping a friend out and she ended up taking my man. It all started my boyfriend now ex and my best friend would go out on the same weekend but he would go out with her friends and he would with his but I couldn't go out cause I have a baby and had no one to watch my son. But the really weird part of this whole thing my boyfriend now ex and my best friend would come home at the same time with the same stamp on there hand from the same bar this happened 2 weekends in a row and from then on I knew something was going on. My boyfriend now my ex started acting weird as well like always letting my friend come out with us me and my boyfriend now ex never had anytime to for us she was always in our face. The really bad part is I came home from work early one night to find her in my bed having sex with my boyfriend now ex and I freaked out and kicked her out the next day and my boyfriend now ex left that sameday with her and they've been together ever since. It really hard on me to see my ex with my bestfriend he left me for her. I have only seen him 3 or 4 times since he left and he only comes to pick his mail up and leave and he goes right to see my so called friend. I love my ex so so much and I have no idea what to do he says he loves my friend and is happy with her and that she is the best thing that ever happened to him he said that all to me before and look at me know single and alone. I have no idea if I should keep hoping he is going to come home and be a family with me and our son he says he doesn't know what he wants thats what he tells me everytime I get to see him but it seems clear to my that he wants my friend. Also if he didn't want me then why does he still have most of his stuff at my place and he still using my place as his mailing address as well and he says he wants to be friends but he doesn't call that much and he has been over 4 times in the last 2 going on 3 months that not being a friend I'm lost I don't no what to do if I should keep on wishing or give up. My ex is now living back home with his mom in a one bedroom apartment with my ex best friend and her baby. My ex boyfrind has just replaced me and our son with my ex best friend and her son that makes me so mad. I just don't know what he wants and when I bring up me and our son getting back together he just says NO not right now I don't know what I want well what does that mean ??. I'm hoping things with my ex and my ex bestfriend don't work out she doesn't work she hasn't in 4 years she has no money coming in she just sleeps all day and waits for him to get off work and go out everynight. On weekends my ex bestfriend goes back to her mom and dads and spends the weekend there with my ex cause her parents go away so they want there free time alone together without and parents around. It really makes me mad that my ex could do this to me when we have a son together and he sad we could work are problems out no matter what well he did want to. My parents also got involved when all this happened my dad went and talk to my ex and the made things even worse with my ex and I to the point that he said he will never trust me again and the I lied to him cause I told my parents are problems thats what he said pushed him away but I had no one else to talk to thats why I went to my parents. I guess if it was meant to be he would try and trust me again I'm trying to show him that I made a mistake but my ex just can't give me the time of day he had to be with my ex bestfriend every min of his time and does that cause he said he doesn't wanna lose something good thats what he told me. I just saw my ex yesterday for like 5 mins he had my ex bestfriend in the car he was coming over to ask me for money if he doesn't care and doesn't want me anymore then why does he come around and ask for money I'm so lost if you can help let me know.
Sara
My ex boyfriend left me for my best friend at the end of October. I never thought this would happen to me. I let my best friend move into my place with my boyfriend now ex because she had no where to go I was just helping a friend out and she ended up taking my man. It all started my boyfriend now ex and my best friend would go out on the same weekend but he would go out with her friends and he would with his but I couldn't go out cause I have a baby and had no one to watch my son. But the really weird part of this whole thing my boyfriend now ex and my best friend would come home at the same time with the same stamp on there hand from the same bar this happened 2 weekends in a row and from then on I knew something was going on. My boyfriend now my ex started acting weird as well like always letting my friend come out with us me and my boyfriend now ex never had anytime to for us she was always in our face. The really bad part is I came home from work early one night to find her in my bed having sex with my boyfriend now ex and I freaked out and kicked her out the next day and my boyfriend now ex left that sameday with her and they've been together ever since. It really hard on me to see my ex with my bestfriend he left me for her. I have only seen him 3 or 4 times since he left and he only comes to pick his mail up and leave and he goes right to see my so called friend. I love my ex so so much and I have no idea what to do he says he loves my friend and is happy with her and that she is the best thing that ever happened to him he said that all to me before and look at me know single and alone. I have no idea if I should keep hoping he is going to come home and be a family with me and our son he says he doesn't know what he wants thats what he tells me everytime I get to see him but it seems clear to my that he wants my friend. Also if he didn't want me then why does he still have most of his stuff at my place and he still using my place as his mailing address as well and he says he wants to be friends but he doesn't call that much and he has been over 4 times in the last 2 going on 3 months that not being a friend I'm lost I don't no what to do if I should keep on wishing or give up. My ex is now living back home with his mom in a one bedroom apartment with my ex best friend and her baby. My ex boyfrind has just replaced me and our son with my ex best friend and her son that makes me so mad. I just don't know what he wants and when I bring up me and our son getting back together he just says NO not right now I don't know what I want well what does that mean ??. I'm hoping things with my ex and my ex bestfriend don't work out she doesn't work she hasn't in 4 years she has no money coming in she just sleeps all day and waits for him to get off work and go out everynight. On weekends my ex bestfriend goes back to her mom and dads and spends the weekend there with my ex cause her parents go away so they want there free time alone together without and parents around. It really makes me mad that my ex could do this to me when we have a son together and he sad we could work are problems out no matter what well he did want to. My parents also got involved when all this happened my dad went and talk to my ex and the made things even worse with my ex and I to the point that he said he will never trust me again and the I lied to him cause I told my parents are problems thats what he said pushed him away but I had no one else to talk to thats why I went to my parents. I guess if it was meant to be he would try and trust me again I'm trying to show him that I made a mistake but my ex just can't give me the time of day he had to be with my ex bestfriend every min of his time and does that cause he said he doesn't wanna lose something good thats what he told me. I just saw my ex yesterday for like 5 mins he had my ex bestfriend in the car he was coming over to ask me for money if he doesn't care and doesn't want me anymore then why does he come around and ask for money I'm so lost if you can help let me know.
Sara
hii theree , hey ppl i`ve got a really serious prob. please help me ...
last year i had a crush at some guy at our school and the whole school knew about it , anyways we got together 2 months later , at first he was really being very loveable to me and then ...!! he just turned up to be a jurk , he was acting soo weird with me so i started talking to him many times but his answers were only nothing .. so i told him we have to break up , so he told me ; i love u , plz dun leave him blablala .... , so we didn`t break up . after that he was back like how he was at first , very loveable and kind and even everybody noticed it .. then at summer he always travells , so i dun see him at summer , we only talk on the phone , and everytime i just had to fight about he not calling me !! and just once we stopped talking for about 7 months . at this time , i knew he said that he doesn`t love me anymore and he doesn`t want me , that`s why we stopped talking (but all the ppl knew he really loved me coz he was really acting like it ).. i dun know y but my pride wouldn`t let me talk to him .
in the meanwhile , i love him soooooo , and im just soo depressed that we don`t talk .. a week ago , i just could`nt help myself , so i sent him a mail saying : (hi how r u , im just talking to you as a friend , lets forget the past and just be friends like how we used to be ) so he talked to me on the msn , and he told me i missed u a lot and we started talking as friends ..
im so lost , i dun know whether he loves him or not or he wants me back !!! im really so confused and i dun know what to do ... plzzz helppp me guysss and girlsss ... :( :(