i don't see anything wrong with that. its all right. ppl who think that loving cousin is a bad think or wrong idea, i just want to tell then that they are stupid.

There is nothing wrong with tthat.If it ur cousin or whoever if he loves u in the same way and cares about u then i think u guys shoould get along it doesnt matter who he is.Dont care what ppl say the truth is what u feel inside u dont regret it it is feelings no one can stop feelings.

Best of luck

I dont think anyone was refering 2 u 'jus me'!!

Anyways..."Cuzin Love" is Halal and ok in Islam. So since Islam says it is Alright then Nothing else MATTERS!!

my god..i completely understand u or i think i do.. i´m starting to fall in love with my cousing too ive tried to avoid it but its difficult when he just keeps on beeing soo cute and nice and not specialy the cousing-nice but guy-nice and i know my family and i know they wont accept it eighter plus b4 i was in love i used to think that was a bit weird too but damn its difficult!! i need help too!!

i love my cousin alot too. he lives far away and i have never loved anyone this much. i believe he is handsome and i love him. follow your heart.

Hello agian would give all of u guys many thanks and i would love to hear from you guys lot about that see the date i wrote this comment and see the other date i wrote the first comment on the top, but im in love with my cousin i was in 7th grade when i felt in love with him and now im going to 9th grade also hes in 10th grade. my eamil is liaaaaaaly@hotmail.com ot lialy_2005@yahoo.com

I went out to a wedding lastnite and i was flirtin with this cute guy whole nite and then later down in the nite, i found out he was my cousin ... i.e. my father's brother's son!! it got kinda awkward, but i cant stop thinkin about him ... but if we ever did "hook up" wont it be INCEST!!??? isnt that wrong accordin to "the church" and in God's eyes?! im confused, could someone tell me the truth without just defendin this becuz they "love" their cousin too ... plz help

I'm so totally in love with my first cousin it's almost insane I've really only loved for about two or three weeks since I last saw him. but he and I are like so perfect for each other. We hold hands but I totally don't know if it's right AAAAAAH1!!! What should I do!

omgosh i know exactly how yall feel i met my cousin for the first time and i fell in love with him and we did alot of stuff that couples do but we didnt kiss or hold hands or anything but we would stay up all night together but idk how he feels cuz he was the one that usually made the first move and i'm sooo confused

I am in love with my cousin also, he is in Florida and I'm in California. I'm 40 and he's 38 and we've loved each other our whole lives. We are just now at a point where we're discussing spending the rest of our lives together. It's scary, he's estranged from the family, but I'm not and I just know my dad will go nuts. I don't know if I should hide it or open up, I'm giving it more time to see what we end up doing. I kissed him for the first time when I was 12.

clueless... if it really is you but i'm sure... then make a move cuz if you do then i'll know and you'll know.. if not then we arent who we think we are talking to....

my god..i completely understand u or i think i do.. i´m starting to fall in love with my cousing too ive tried to avoid it but its difficult when he just keeps on beeing soo cute and nice and not specialy the cousing-nice but guy-nice and i know my family and i know they wont accept it eighter plus b4 i was in love i used to think that was a bit weird too but damn its difficult!! i need help too!!

^ exactly my situation..

I'm in the same boat as willie, I think that i am in love with my cousin too. We live halfway across the world from each other, so I don't get to see her too often. Just met her again in june and in Aug she is coming to see my family and I. Used to think that she was hot, from a teenage mind who is completely inexperienced with girls. But a short while back I realised that I really liked who she was. Some girls say I look cute but I never know how to approach anyone, coming from more than 10 years of all boys schooling. Is it just because that she is the only girl my age that I have ever been able to really talk to? I dunno if this is merely a brief passing phase of temporary infactuation, or whether I am trully in love. She is bringing her boyfriend who I think is a nice guy over as well? I honestly do not know what to think nor what to do. Please help..

Confused..I didn't make a move so probably, your cousin is not me, but I'm trully glad, you're both ok now.

Thanks a lot for your advice, I owe you one for that :)

Anyway, my story, first time I met this cousin of mine in a family gathering, I tought that she was really pretty and charming and she could've been any girl. Right at that moment, I wished she wasn't my cousin... But reality is reality so I immediately brushed off my feelings for her. but soon I noticed, I can't help myself, glancing at her, and she glanced back too, we were both glancing at each other like no ones around, for the rest of the family gathering. I also had this feeling of want to get physically closer to her.

A week later, she stayed/slept with us for one week, we did what cousins 'normally' do, like play stuff, watch movies, talk and talk. Falling in love with her ne3ver came into my mind at that time. I was thinking that stuff like that is incest with a cousin.

And then, Its time for her to leave.. I actually cried for two days after she left, and I felt that those several days with her was one of the best moments of my life. I still believe I'm not in love with her, but I'm always wishing she was'nt my cousin..

One month later, she was back again :) She seemed excited to see me again but she has to stay one night only. I also felt my feelings for her growed stronger. Again, we watched movies, talk about stuff, enjoy the night, during that time, time was literally flying very fast, an hour with her, felt like a minute, It was einstein's relativity taking place for real, it was heaven.. And I'm still wishing she wasn't my cousin and we could be together somehow, withou sinning or angering God.

And them time for her to leave again. I gave her a ride to a dorm far away, But this time I notice that her eyes, she seemed to have cried all night. She also seemed to want to talk to me all that time during the day. And then its time for me to leave, to go home. She hugged me(unexpectedly). I can't describe how it feels during that time, I don't know I'm going to be happy or cry..

A day later, suppressing my feelings for her, wishing she wasn't my cousin, asking God for forgiveness for 'falling in love' with her. I heard a whisper in my ear, telling me to make a research on 'cousin marriage'

And here I am today, happy that I know we can be together without angering God, and sad that all this may not end up as well as I expected it to be...

I live in a different world than most of you here, you're a lot luckier than I am even if you think you aren't. So try to have fun, grab it while its still there :)

hey there,

i love my 1st cousin, we have been together for 2 years now..i live in the UK and he used to live in india but he moved here last year.

It is really complicated being with a cousin, tho i love him and i know i wont love anybody else (tho my sister thinks otherwise - she is really disgusted by it) we are finding it really hard to do things that we want. Even small things, like going out to dinner, or meeting up (i still live at home and he lives out, but comes home sometimes to visit). We cant go on holiday or live together, all the things we woud really love to do, like any "normal" couple would do..

even though i would love to tell you to go for it, i do suggest that you think if hes worth it, i know that sounds harsh, but its the truth. There is a hell alot of suffering and the relationship itself can sometimes suffer too (arguing, fights, friends desert, exams go bad etc etc)

so, just think about it and see what he says...is it for the long run????????????

I dunno but i think theres a connection between me n my cousin because she is half white n i only feel atraction for girls like her she lives in austrailia n i live in NY we last met in '02 and we had lots of fun n talked alot whenever were together we have lots of fun n i catch her starin at me sometimes n since she left to go back home i keep lookin at her in my pics can sum1 help me cuz im unsure

I understand, I just saw my cousin after she graduated and she has grown up into a beautiful young women. She is gorgeous and sweet and attracted to the wrong kind of guys. I know she is attracted to me as I am to her, I even joked that we could go to South Carolina and get married since we fit so well together and that maybe I should take a paternity test to make sure we were related(she responded with oh yea we are cause of your dad). We are keeping it a secret from everyone and each other kinda. We always sit together, we went to the movies last night(with my brother, her brother, and another cousin) and we played the embarrased to admit it but constantly touching thing. If my arm wasn't touching hers, her foot was touching my leg. She even rested her head on my shoulder when others weren't watching. I have butterflies and it is crazy. I feel like all I can do is tell her how to find a good guy, but I know I could show her better. Its sad cause I need somebody like her and she needs somebody like me, but we love our families, but are first cousins(my dad's sisters daughter) and I know neither of us want to mess it up. I already told her I would come and visit the family back east, but it is really just so I can see her. I honestly don't know what to do either way people are going to be upset or hurt. I will tell her before she leaves how I feel, because I want her to be happy and if not with me then she knows that somebody who respects her does love her and she doesn't need to settle. The worst/best part is that she told me she plans to move to oregon(where I live) after college and I am seriously just thinking of waiting it out to see what may happen. 4 years is a long time but a lifetime without knowing is longer. Why does something so right have to be so wrong.

I love my cousin too, but we (both) are too shy to say it, I think she feels the same, but, as I said we're too shy. We don't kiss or hold hands but we surely like to spend time together

I have always thought i was satisfied with my life in australia, untill i met my cousin overseas. I fell in love with her, and after telling her about my feelings she told me she felt the same, since then I we have been inseparable. I can't listen to her voice without smiling, i can't be next to her without wanting to hold her, and can't look at her without getting butterflies in my stomach. I love her and now that I am back in Australia I can't stop thinking about her. We talk on the phone all the time, and have discussed being together, except we both know our family wouldn't except it. I don't know what to do, I will be going back there in December, and in a way I am looking forward to it, but in a way I am dreading it aswell, as it will be difficult for us not get close, and at the same time keep it from our relatives there. I have fallen inlove before, but not like this, I love her so much. The question I have, why keep ourselves from being happy when were not doing anything wrong. I know it's not that easy as friends and families will have a different view. With all the probelms in the world like terrorism, poverty, and wars, why is falling inlove with a cousin such a bigdeal?

I've found it very simple why people would go crazy towards their cousins.

First, cousins care for each other genuinely, that is one stuff you won't normally get from an unrelated girlfriend or boyfriend.

Second, you'd allow a cousin to kiss you won't you even the first time you see them?? that only helps to set the relationship on fire. Normally, you'd get mad at a stranger if they kiss you, see the difference?

Third, you can let your cousin stay at your house!! Do that with you unrelated girlfriend or boyfriend and your parents, will be mad as a tornado.

Lastly, you don't have to court your cousin once you see the signs, no need to explain :)

See it's a lot easier to have an intimate and lasting (minus the cultural taboo) and fulfilling relationship with a cousin than with an unrelated partner. And with a cousin, we no longer need to work hard to build a relationship, its already been built for us :)

People are like water, we tend to seek the easiest path to things, we find cousins easier so we fall for them.

I admit to be a loser with women but not my cousins so I fell in love with one of them, normally.

But with all those cultural stuff going on, its sometime more trouble with a cousin. If it is more trouble than good, its not worth it. Not all battles is worth fighting for. There are things more important in life than just falling in love with a cousin or with anybody.

Simply put, when you go with a cousin, you clash with your parents and relatives, if you go with an unrelated partner you work hard building a good relationship. You choose! Anyone can be a suitable partner. Just remember to think first before you fall in love :)

yea am with you clueless on why cousins go together so well. And without grossing you all out too much, its because there are certain personaility traits that will be in common and compatable, so its almost as if cousins were made for each other. My boyf (also first cuz) have so much in common, both in terms of interests and in personality...even though we have lived one continent and one ocean apart for most of our lives!!

just like to say that this site is way better than cousincouples.com which i think is a load of hypocritical, dumbass old people that dont know what they are talking about...i gave up on that site long ago..thank god for this one!!

have to say, i know for all you out there who love their cousin but dont want to say anything - its bloody tough! It took my boyf about 4 years to say that he loved me (having discussed when exactly we knew we loved each other) - but then i rejected him as in four years so much can happen and i convinced myself that that whole cousin thing wan wrong and immoral...buuuuuuuuuuuut then i went on holiday and saw him, and i knew i coudnt go away yet AGAIN not saying any thing so i confessed that i actually did love him...and here we are two years later.

i just think that if you know that she/he has feelings for you too and that you are in it for the lung run..then go for it, there is no time to waste as then you will just look back and wonder - "what the hell were we wating for???"

xxx

It's not stupid to fall for your cousin. I have a cousin who's 23 years older then me. All my life he was special and I adored him to no end. I got married (not to my cousin) 8 years ago. At my reception he pulled me aside and said that he REALLY loved me. So that put the bug in my head that he felt something, but I tried to forget about. Every summer I would see him, and I stil got that vibe from him. This past week down the shore he finally fessed up that he did care for me more then a cousin relationship. I thought my heart stopped for a second. We found every chance we could to be alone and talk. It turns out he always felt a connection to me too. All my life we felt something and never allowed ourselves to look further. I did let him kiss me the other night and I melted. I felt like a young girl being kissed for the first time. I can't get it out of my head. I'm 38 and he is 61 and he's still sexy! I wish he had said something 10 years ago before I met my husband. I know there are a lot of states that allow first cousin marriages, and I think I live in one of them. Of course the family would have been another story to deal with. All I can say is follow your heart. So much is wrong in this world, you have to find some happiness.

It's good to know that I'm not the only one who has feelings for their cousin. I spent a good amount of time with my cousin recently and I felt a connection to her again, but the hardest part is not knowing whether she has the same feelings. I may be setting myself up for trouble or a disappointment being that this is such a cultural taboo. It's just that I see many of the qualities in this certain person that I haven't seen in other girls and I can't deny these feelings I've been having. It's a great feeling being close to someone and having somebody to share your thoughts and feelings with and with whom you share some of the same interests and thoughts. We are set apart by miles and age, and it is a bit hard being away from her, but such is life. At times I can't seem to rid her from my thoughts which is disheartening at times, but whatever. I'm not sure what to make of my thoughts.

All my life I thought I was "sick" to have a crush on my cousin when I was younger. I feel better to know I'm not alone. What hurts so much is that i'm in a marriage that I want out of. I love my husband, but we just don't connect on so many levels. My cousin and I do connect on every level, like we are sole mates. I'm so confussed about what to do. I know here in the States a lot of them do allow 1st cousin marriages, but our family would FREAK out! Him and my dad are like best friends. I wish I could go back 10 years to before I met my husband and persue the cousin................

anonymous.. your story sounds alot like me and my cousin.. since he left my feelings have been so mixed and i've been meeting new guys and i just don't know what it would be like if i saw him again..... so yea confusion runs through me its part of my everyday life idk if i still like him or not i think if i had to make a decision.. idk what i would choose

I feel sick every day, I cant sleep. I drive in my car alone and cry most the time. I want to be were no one sees me. Being hurt because I was not strong. I know you wish for the strength of some of the people here and I will tell you they are my heroes. I miss my cousin so much and I have no words to tell you how much. I have not seen him for 3 years. The plessure I felt being with my cousin is what I know I will never feel again. And like the words of Depeche Mode. I know I have to sell my soul for a pleasure like that. I know my cousin feels the same so if your ever in here. I love you more than life

Good to know that i am not alone, although, we are not together anymore, but somehow i feel really gulity that i shouldn't do that at the first place. Our relationship is just ruined, is she my lover or cousin ....

Not all is lucky, take it from me. Me and my cuz used to be good friends. We are both attractive, and share many interests in common. We both admitted having crushes on each other. And we love each other's company.

I have this sort of feeling of being 'in love' with her but I try to dismiss those feelings for fear of sinning

Soon, I took the courage of making a research on this stuff, and I was convinced that having relation shp with a cuz is not a sin.

Later on, I slowly admitted my feelings for her, so not to scare here, let her know that it's perfectly ok, not a sin, I even showed her my research.

After all that, she's now avoiding me at all cost. I didn't push my point any further, I don't want her to think I'm obsessed or something.

All I can say is, she's all gone. I've lost a good friend because of this stuff.

Some things, even though they are good, is not meant to be discovered :(

Hi eng. In the biblical perspective, there's nothing wrong with falling in love with your cousin. Accdg to modern science, nothing wrong with it too. Its just a cultural thing.

But be sure when you make a decision, do it wisely. There are plenty of risks you have to consider, things like ruining your family, friends, etc if things don't work out. Don't gamble with relationships. Don't rely on your feelings alone. Analyze, analyze, analyze.

These are not the things that the attitude "don't care what others think" work, no matter how right it is. Sometimes, its best to let go, it could hurt but, it pays of in the end.

Not letting go is one of the worst mistakes I did in my life. THe most destructive as well, it nearly ruined our family, sadd :(

If you love your cousin and want to marry him/her, by all means follow your heart and do so.

However, don't plan on having any offsprings. Genetics are powerful and your kids would likely have some serious disorders. It would be irresponsible and immoral (IMHO) to put a child into such a disadvantageous situation. If you must have kids, adpot.

ok guyz i'm kinda curious about something else.its kinda lame but anyways.... usually when to people are in love don't they gaze at each others eyes (from what i heard) for a long period of time?... because with my cuzin however, we can't! everytime are eyes meet they automatically bounce off like were scared of each other or something:( its so wierd!...what do u guyz think that means?

i thought i was the only one whos in love with my cousin. i've been with my cousin for almost 6 years. we love and respect each other very much. but this all came to end. he doesnt want marriage. he think so much of his family. his parents hates our relationships. his parents are tryin very hard to set him up with another girl bcuz of me. everytime i see him my heart breaks .. i love him to death and i dont know what to do.... we always have family gathering and im always running away from him.. HELP.........

The shitty part **justanothergirlinlove*** is that i don't even see my cousine at family gatherings like u do at all, because he lives in a totally different country and i only see him every summer...sooooo now i feel like exploding since there is nooo way i can be near him....i feel like every year after the summer ends my feelings get stronger and stronger for him:( and it hurts so much becasue since i'm not with him(which i want to be) he might just go meet some other chic. obviously i don't mind cuz he's a guy and what the hell is he gonna do for a whole year without "fooling around" its normal i guess, cuz the fact that i'm in love with him hasn't yet been proven straight out in the open...but if it gets serious with that other chic i'll get so hurt and he'll proly 4 get about me:(....thanx 4 ur help by the way**justanothergirlinlove***

JusAnotherGrLInLove , thanks.. i always thought he was the one.. god knows. i want him to be but he doesnt. he told me if he thought this relationship would have carried off this far he wouldnt have had it. he told me that he wants to meet other people. he even told me that he wants to marry a guy that is outside the family. he even told me that he loves me less. im hurt so bad i miss him and i want him but i dont know what to do. the thing is when i came to the u.s thats when it all started , if i never came all this wouldnt have happend. now the whole family knows about us, everytime we get near they try their best to pull us apart. since we broken up i've been rejecting the idea of visitng my grandparents since they live in one building. what should i do ... move on .. or wait ? i cant see myself with another man .....its like a dream never come true............!!!!!!!!!

Sue, I think we have the same situation. Good news is, I got over it, I can't say it's easy, but it's only a matter of choice.. Well, the reality is not everyone is lucky with this type of relationship.

Trust me, there are things a lot more important than falling in love with someone, it's not our FINAL destiny. To think that many great and famous people in this world (like Einstein) have failed relationships. So.. it's not end of the game yet, there's still a whole lot ahead of you.

sue~ Wow to think that he is trully turnin on, I don't even know what to say. well hun, maybe u need to start gettin the mentality that He doesnt deserve ur love. I mean it's so hurtful to u, for him to say that he wants to marry someone else. and then on top of it to have the entire family against the idea of u 2 together. there is a chance that he is just saying this outta frustration, but hun u don't have to put up with this. I know that it's a dream, that the past 6 yrs can't jus b thrown away in a minute. I can pray for you. I hope he realizes which dream he could shatter for both of u, cuz i kno u dint build that dream by urself. it's too late to finish somthin w/o creatin a disaster, bcoz now ur family's kno, which makes it even harder, but I don't understand y he's not standin by ur side. he needs to b there.

sue~ whoops, i meant to say he is trully turning AROUND ON YOU. it's scary to think that someone u've known and loved for so long, really has no more love for you. I think you should talk to him directly about it. Him sayin he doesn't deserve ur love is just an EXCUSE. it will keep botherin u until you're certain he cannot return the love back. then you will have to heal, and hopefully u will get over it. u kno him better than anyone probably, and if he still has an ounce of love for u, he will come to realize that he cannot b w/o u. but IF he does not love u anymore, which i dunno how ppl can jus turn love off in their hearts, then u must move on hun.

failure*** i hope that i could be just like u getting over it .. but its very hard. all i do is think of him. can u guys imagine how much i love him? every night i dream of him. i even go online everyday to check our horoscope and take tests to see if we'r the one for each other.. god i love him and im pretty sure he knows, but what can i do.. its not like our whole family isnt married to first cousines.. they all r . so why cant we? he says that he wasnt brought up like that. what the hell was he brought up like ? we are arabs and they all marry cousin .. why is it when i want something it can never happen ? i can never imagine myself without him.. im goin to be so hurt if he decides to marry someone else..how could he end 6yr with i dont deserve your love? it was my fault fallin in love with the wrong person...

wow. do u really think thatsa good idea? im a bad at things like that, im very honest. hes gonna find out from day one that im playin. the will find out and will tell him and by that time i would realize i wasted time instead. i dont know its very hard to figure something for me to bring him back. i had a dream that i married my other cousin what does that mean... ? do u think he loves me ? i know he does but from what i told u do u think hes worth fightin for ? i mean i give up i had fought for more than years now. i hope its worth it..god i love him ! ( im only 18 and hes 22 ) isnt that a perfect match ?)

oh my god!! i feel right now like i'm gonna faint and puke everywhere....i just found out that my cuz is going out with some girl and that he's "in love":( i can't take this shit no more...there is no one else in the world like him...

ENG** you never know at the end you might get back with hime ( did u guys had a relationship) ? for me we broke up about two weeks ago. i called him yesterday and today we went out but we didnt talk about our relationship.. its hard.. i think u'll be ok i think u should call him and confront him tell him how u feel and i hope he feels the same way. im not sure why he have a girlfriend right now ... since u guys are far apart he thought he needed someone to be there........ hope things will end the way u want it.. good luck

sue~ I think since in ur culture it's not so uncommon, and im sure ur cous's have heard of cousin marriages, U should get courage to reveal any of ur feelings. I kno it's said that ur cous is actin so indifferent to u, like he doesnt care bout ur guys's long relationship, but now u say u have had a dream bout another cous? so Is this guy worth it? how does he feel bout u? do u want to give up on wat u had with the last one? and Y is he bein such an ass to u :'( I mean u guys went out, but not as if u were in a relationship? U Kno, that hprolly means he still cares for u, but just wants to test the waters bout it.
***I wouldnt give up so fast, but bein in love wit ur cous is not wrong at all, and that shouldnt b the reason y PPl cannot be together! I hate how society makes ppl feel ashamed of loving! wat's natural is natural, U don't fall in love wit a bro or sis cuz it's not natural. I hope ur heart gets wat it deserves. and i hope ppl's attitudes become more acceptin of true love. THough i have yet to face my family and their reaction :0(.

sue~ :0) well U sound like u kno what you want. and that his parents are the only thing in the way rite now. I think in the end, it will be jus the way u want it. he cannot foreva wipe u outta his mind. Jus think bout it?! I mean if he gets with another grl...all he'll think bout is U and how much fun u 2 had. if he marries someone for his parents, he will regret it completely, cuz HE KNows what he lost when he gave up u. and still he takes u out, and u 2 have fun. and omg if his parents r cousins then they will for sure get over it after sometime..U guys LOVe each other so much it seems, I dunno y anyone would keep tryin to separate u. don't u agree that if his parents were ok with it, then he'd marry u in an instant? WEll then it's not that he doesnt love u, it's that He needs to b STRonger, and NOT care what others think, bcoz wen he's with u, he's happiest and that's that. much good luck from me. Wish i could change his mentality about this. And good for u not giving up.

sue*** From what u have told me, yes I really think he does love you. This can be a good or bad thing, but I feel that in my relationship I am ur guy, and maybe my guy is u(at least before it was this way). HE has never ever given up on me, nor do i think will he ever let me go, even if i wanted to, and I thank him for that now. but during the times he was so insistent, I did not like it. STILL it paid off that he was so strong about our love. bcoz c if u lose faith, and give up, then both of u will. if u 2 r meant to b, u will b, and he can't let this chance go. and the fact that he stil wants to hang out wit u, and kiss u...HE will not b able to resist not "being with you" in a relationship. that's how I was. I call my baby my backbone, cuz without him I feel so damn lost, and lonely. I need him in every single way. OH and if u would like to know anythin specific about my relationship YOu can always ask. Right now my relationship is beautiful. I feel as if we jus fell in love, tho it was 2 and half years ago. I can't go more than an hour without seeing/talkin to him. HE knows more bout me than any other living soul. HE is my bestfriend, protector, lover, soulmate, & i feel confident calling him my husband. I'm very scared about tellin our family this. VERY very scared. but i will worry bout that when the time comes (about 6years from now I think, cuz college takes forever). I will need advice on how to break the news to family then. It's hard to keep everythin secret, tho lots of our other cousins know our secret now and have learned to accept us, and even respect us for being together. I reallie think our love has no limit. and IF i could write the perfect love story, it woudl b mine. we all have struggles and I still have SO many more to come, but I could not take on anythin without knowin HE is with me all the way, for eternity.
I think we argue far less than most couples, and I dont kno wat else to say xcept for we r jus that compatible. after one explains well his/her idea, we jus understand each other. My advice for a stronger, more loving relationship is to take time to focus ON just the two of u somtimes. pretend u 2 were on an isolated island wat would interfere with ur love then? all these arguments about other ppl and wat they care, but watever happend to them sayin "if ur happy, we're happy". SOciety is the worst thing ever invented. it makes ppl conform to things they r not. me and my baby say "i love u to each other like we can't breathe if we don't say it" ROmance jus comes automatic if u stop thinkin of other once in a while. IM not sayin b selfish, but jus for moments, get lost in each other. and realize that Love is so beautiful when it's UNCONDITIONAL. i can tell u a whole bunch of sweet things my guy does for me, and I think wow i dont do anythin to deserve this,and still i think he feels the same way. but I don't kno what else to tell u, xcept all U need for UR love to stay forever, is each other, and that if u let ur hearts talk to each other without any strings attached, they will never want to be separated. btw have u guys every talked bout having kids in ur 6 yrs together?

yes we did talk about kids but not ours. he says he wants and i say i dont bcuz im too scared.( the whole process ) u know ? i called him in the morning today he was alseep well his mom found out and he didnt know i called i think she deleted it and then she asked him if we still talk and stuff .. i called him when i got back from school and told him i called , he didnt even know. and told me thats why his mom asked about us.. what does that mean to u all .. she doesnt want us to be together.. she will do anything to seperate us... but i'll never give up. i know he loves me but the family is a very big impact .. he'll never do anything withpit their ok .. thats tough.. its like he's their lil kid ..! i hateeeeeeeeeee itttttttttttttttttt but i love him .. am i crazy or what ?

aww sue~ I don't doubt ur guys's love for a second. ppl don't kno love, until they're trully in it. U shoudlnt listen to others who have only crap to say. ur guy needs some certainty/security to stand up to HIS parents and confess his LOVE for u. I kno my guy would go against his parents though he loves em so much, for me. he's that crazy. he used to b the family lil kid, i dunno how i changed all that. but if ppl can't b happy with us, I dunno if im willin to sacrifice and make em happy at all costs. I'm not sure y i got cursed with such a situation, but i'm makin amends this life, and I will not lose my eternal love for it. ask ur guy Y he can't stand up to his parents, that u can see that he trully cares for u, why can he jus not make UR guy's world U and HIM on his own? and kno that his parents will come around and b happy later. Today was such a beautiful day i spent with my baby. I get crushed wen i hear ur painful news. but Love, when it is true love, cannot jus die bcoz some other ppl dont agree with it, remember that.

failure (success?) ~ That is such good news! i'm sorry but u kno that song "wen it's over that's the time i fall in love agin" by sugar ray? Yea it's very true for a love that has lame exuses for being given up on. I mean u can't erase so many things.
UR dream is crazy, I get that de javoo alll the time(i kno i mispelled it lol). so yesterday musta been a great day for u huh? IF Ur like my guy, than DAMn Y would ur woman ever ever ever let u go? well Im trully happy for u. wat culture agin r u from?
OH YA and failure wen u said this earlier: Not letting go is one of the worst mistakes I did in my life. THe most destructive as well, it nearly ruined our family, sadd :(

can u lemme kno how things turned out...or how they r now? and since u realized she was for u yest...WAt r u gonna do bout it? MUCh good luck.

JusAnotherGrLInLove.. that is an awsome song.. it made me cry

hi eng, sue, just another girl inlove, and everyone inlove with their cousins,
my cousin and I are very much inlove, but our families dont know. she lives overseas, and the last time i was there, we were inseperable, we managed to hide it from everyone when i was there, now im back here, and shes still overseas, we started thinking of merraige, it has been about 5 months since the last time i saw her, we are still inlove very very much so, im going there again in 2 months. I realise that if i were to marry her, her family and my family will not agree, and because i know i will not be strong enoughe to handle the preasure, i decided that i am not going to continue this, it breaks my heart, but if i know that i wont be able to make her happy in a long run, then theres no point. the only advice i can give u all, is if u dont think u will be happy in a long run then dont do it. i still dont know what to do, i still love her, and i cant think of loving anyone else, not now anyway, but i know, its not the way to go for me. For everyone who had to courage to go through with it and are happy, i congratulate u, for the ones who arent sure, wait untill u are Good luck.

u guys .. JusAnotherGrlInLove is all right about what she said to burn.. How could u (for those who called quits) to move on without thinking about ur cousin that u will see at family gathering... it will feel awkward and you would create boundaries and would cause much attention to people why u not talking.. I mean I don’t expect to talk to my baby if we break up knock on wood, y bcuz if we did talk everything would come back feeling wise. If u all called quits don’t ever be where ur loved one is, as I said all u’ll feel is sadness... it happened to me.. That how I felt. We both wanted to talk, and when we did we got back then we broke up then I called bcuz I couldn’t continue life without talking to him. It’s very tough to face the family. For me it is somewhat, but his parents are doing their best to hook him with others so we would break apart. Im afraid that he meets that girl and gets married. It’s painful. But is in for right now everything is ok between us we don’t talk about things like that we just talk in general about things…………………………….. What u guys think will happen to us? Will we marry or no? I feel like goin to a path reader to know everything about my love life and see if we are going to be together at the end …

JusAnotherGrlInLove.. You sounded just like my cuz. I wish to reveal my feelings to her, but I'd like to do that up front, IN HER FACE, not in emails, etc. Stuff like that could be misinterpreted, but not sincere words.

But I still had my doubts, she's still studying in the university and I don't want to affect her concentration in studying. By admitting my feelings, I could possibly end up ruining her education(I don't want to happen). I don't know what to do this time.

I need some advice at this point. I still have a couple weeks 'til I see her again and admit or not my feelings for her :( BTW, Thanks JusAnotherGrlInLove, your advices has been most helpful :)

aww JusAnotherGrlInLove.. ihope my guy is like ur guy.. when we fight and talk about ourselves in this relationship he tells me there are so many guys out there that deserve ur love.. the last time we broke up hes like i dont deserve ur love.. i told my cousin ( his best friend ) hes like if he really cares and loves u he'll face his parents ... but i dont see taht.. my friends awlways say there are more fishes in the sea.. but they dont know that i love my coz and i want to spend every sec with him..... what the hell is goin to happen in the future ? people always put me down .. i cant take it... sometimes he doesnt show me effection bcuz he realize that im his coz.. i dont its crazy its hunting me down. i just hope his parents change thier mind so he could realize that im the one...............

sue~ yea wat they say bout there's plenty of fish in the sea is Bullshit. think of it as finger prints ok, no 2 ppl have the same. well the links that form b/w any 2 individuals can't every b xctly alike. one of my frineds told me this, and now i trully belive it. i can find a great guy, but i dunno if i can find a better guy for me than my baby. and U kno sue, it's sad that he says u derseve better. cuz my guy would say tons of sweeet things, he'd say that any guy would want u, but HE always makes a poin that I am the best for u, i will take care of u like no other, and NO one is better than me for u. so HE will not ever admit, even if it were true. I kno it's kinda painful, but i think u have no choice but to wait. to c if his ignorant parents will finally come around. so ur other cousin is like a buddy to u? yea i kno it must b hard to b in ur position. best luck.

JusAnotherGrlInLove . i can no longer wait....i bet u they'll never except me... hes not excepting that fact bcuz of his parents but we are intimate ? what the hell is that ............ its driving me nuts....

we talked about that.. then he says he doesnt want our offspring to blame us if we would have kids. his parents showed him to this girl she didnt want and he told me that hes not thinkin about that.. i asked him why do u come and see me and spend hours on the phone when u dont want to hurt me, hes like im attracted to u and stuff. i mean he just left from my house... i told him i feel like a toy hes like i cant believe u said that.. and then i told him if feel ur using me , hes like so should i feel the same way, i could think ur using me too ,, i was like im not and hes like neither do i .. and then we get very intimate and we end up in each others amrs.. and then god knows what the hell is goin to happen... i love him and i told him and hes like i dont need to pick up ur calls nor come see or take u out or pick u up or (argue hes like i dont need to argue with a person that doesnt mean nothing to me) if i didnt want to ? so i know he loves me and cares for me but my love is more stonger than his. and he always come around.. hes like i wasnt raised to marry a cousin.. i was like ur mom and dad and the whole family did.. hes like that was then and now its different i was like y cant we try and see what comes along, hes like his parents will never except.. but god this is sooooooo hard for me. why cant u helpppppppppppppppppp find my way.. for all whos reading this please pray that we marry each other i love him and cant live with out him . cant see him with another girl.

i have a very sad news.. we broke up yesterday.... its very sad... for u all out there that are in love with ur cousins please and i repeat please dont get urself in trouble,..if he loves and will to do anything to please u then hes the one but if hes not willin to face his family and is not comfrtable wth the idea dont let ur feelings put u down thats what happend to me . all i ended up with is a heart broken..................

sue~ :'0( Ur guy must b a moron.

Sue, I think that's an enough reason to move on. You can also try busying yourself with stuff that seems or is 'more important' than falling in love.

Stuff like music, your job, learning to play the guitar, going places by car, build airplanes, etc, etc. Try doing cool stuff, feel cool about who you are, be a star, make a difference. Learn to appreciate yourself. And above all, pray to and love God.

It worked wonders for me, that somehow, no w I feel stuff like that feels a lot better than falling in love. The stuff makes humans superior to animals is, we have a choice, and they don't.

To all, don't get me wrong, but I'm still hanging on. I just learned how to get my system turned on and off, according to my will. Its kinda fun (and wicked LOL). Everyone should learn it eventually in order to succeed in life and to curb suicidal tendencies. Learn to be in control!!

bye failure........ i guess u found ur true love....................i'veeeeeeeeeeee givennnnnnnnn upppppppppppppppp thats it....... life is great being single for sometime...i've been in this relationship for too long its time for me to shine and do what justanotherlove saidddddddd busy myself.. i dont drive i dont work but i'll find cool ass ways to forget about himmmmmm. thats it im tireddddddddd................ so its time for me to put my head up and look for something cool to do

i love my cousin

guera.. make sure that the whole family is ok with that. look at what happened with me.. we've been together for 6 years and ended up with nothing.. yea i know not all five fingures are the same but dont give hope.. test it out..! good luck

he also sometimes doesent show love because he realizes were cousings and I also do that.
before he used to tell me we should be have other paertners and still be together so that we can be happy but i didi not accept. Now that he sked me to marrie him he sais he doesent want me talking to other guys.
what do you think SUE
guera