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I Love My Cousin

By H.A.R. on Apr 17, 2005

I'm a really smart girl and a good one too. I love my cousin. And I can't share my feelings with anybody because they're going to say that I'm stupid. I can't believe it even my sisters are saying that I'm stupid. I just thought if I could share my feeling on the Internet. Is it good or bad to love my cousin? Please can you guys help me with my feelings? Please I don't want to stay alone.

Sleena

Answer:

Dear Sleena,

You shouldn’t be ashamed of your feelings, no matter how simple they are.
There is nothing wrong with loving your cousin. As long as the both of you share the same feelings, then there is nothing to be ashamed of, and there is nothing stupid about it.

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  1. jus me

    jus me

    Apr 17, 2005

    omg u love ur cousin?!

    okay sum people mite, but u need to thik of the long term complications ahead of u, i mean does your family and his family get on? etc etc good luck.

  1. junal

    junal

    Apr 23, 2005

    i don't see anything wrong with that. its all right. ppl who think that loving cousin is a bad think or wrong idea, i just want to tell then that they are stupid.

  1. Bnt_iL_q8

    Bnt_iL_q8

    Apr 23, 2005

    its okay, i love my couzn and i talk to him on the phone like lovers, we love each other a lot, ITS OKAY TO LOVE UR COUZN, stupid ppl who thinks that this is weird they r weird!!!!

  1. mona

    mona

    Apr 24, 2005

    There is nothing wrong with tthat.If it ur cousin or whoever if he loves u in the same way and cares about u then i think u guys shoould get along it doesnt matter who he is.Dont care what ppl say the truth is what u feel inside u dont regret it it is feelings no one can stop feelings.

    Best of luck

  1. jus me

    jus me

    Apr 24, 2005

    shut yer faces u are weird ans stupid dnt u dare start callin me stupid watch who you are talkin to.

  1. That's Life

    That's Life

    Apr 25, 2005

    I dont think anyone was refering 2 u 'jus me'!!

    Anyways..."Cuzin Love" is Halal and ok in Islam. So since Islam says it is Alright then Nothing else MATTERS!!

  1. Regina

    Regina

    May 11, 2005

    Well right now I am in the same situation and I am following my heart and I suggest you do the same

  1. got ya!

    got ya!

    May 16, 2005

    my god..i completely understand u or i think i do.. i´m starting to fall in love with my cousing too ive tried to avoid it but its difficult when he just keeps on beeing soo cute and nice and not specialy the cousing-nice but guy-nice and i know my family and i know they wont accept it eighter plus b4 i was in love i used to think that was a bit weird too but damn its difficult!! i need help too!!

  1. pinkrn

    pinkrn

    May 17, 2005

    i'm also madly inlove with my cuz!! we startd out as kids 'playing house' whenever we would visit our grandmother at the same time...he was the daddy and i was the mommy...we would kiss (pecks of course) and as we got older and visited our grandmother less (sadly) we would joke and laugh about 'playing house' when we were younger...but everytime i saw him, i thought he was damn cute, and he thought the same of me. anyway, after many years apart, we found each other at a family function and we both confessed our continued attraction and affection for one another....today, we are madly in love and who ever can't/won't deal with it...well that's their problem...he is my sweetie from back in the day, and i'm totally inlove with him!!!! good luck...follow your heart.....check out cousincouples.com ...its a great site and very supportive/informative!!!!!

  1. jojo

    jojo

    May 28, 2005

    i love my cousin alot too. he lives far away and i have never loved anyone this much. i believe he is handsome and i love him. follow your heart.

  1. quincy

    quincy

    Jun 10, 2005

    check out these two sites

    www.cosuincouples.com
    www.CUDDLEInternational.org

    also check out this book

    Forbidden Relatives: the american myth of cousin marraige by Martin Ottenheimer

    best of luck in your quest for love

  1. Sleena

    Sleena

    Jun 13, 2005

    Hello agian would give all of u guys many thanks and i would love to hear from you guys lot about that see the date i wrote this comment and see the other date i wrote the first comment on the top, but im in love with my cousin i was in 7th grade when i felt in love with him and now im going to 9th grade also hes in 10th grade. my eamil is liaaaaaaly@hotmail.com ot lialy_2005@yahoo.com

  1. mat

    mat

    Jun 14, 2005

    i fancy my cousin 2.i cant help she has the sweetest ass eva and her tits r always bouncin about.

  1. DeeDee

    DeeDee

    Jun 27, 2005

    I went out to a wedding lastnite and i was flirtin with this cute guy whole nite and then later down in the nite, i found out he was my cousin ... i.e. my father's brother's son!! it got kinda awkward, but i cant stop thinkin about him ... but if we ever did "hook up" wont it be INCEST!!??? isnt that wrong accordin to "the church" and in God's eyes?! im confused, could someone tell me the truth without just defendin this becuz they "love" their cousin too ... plz help

  1. anonymous

    anonymous

    Jul 6, 2005

    I've always loved my cousin. She has been in my life forever. She is my first love and my only. I'm so attracted and love her so much I don't know whatll happen if we break up. And I think our society is truly corrupt, thinking cousin love is wrong.

    COUSIN LOVE IS PERFECTLY FINE AS LONG AS ITS BOY & GIRL. COUSINS ARE NOT UR SISTERS/BROTHERS.

  1. Kat

    Kat

    Jul 7, 2005

    I'm so totally in love with my first cousin it's almost insane I've really only loved for about two or three weeks since I last saw him. but he and I are like so perfect for each other. We hold hands but I totally don't know if it's right AAAAAAH1!!! What should I do!

  1. Willie

    Willie

    Jul 7, 2005

    My cousin is so gorgeous and sweet i can't help but think about her all the time. But she doesn't know how i feel. Could someone please give me some advice on how to talk to her so that maybe we could get closer together?

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 8, 2005

    omgosh i know exactly how yall feel i met my cousin for the first time and i fell in love with him and we did alot of stuff that couples do but we didnt kiss or hold hands or anything but we would stay up all night together but idk how he feels cuz he was the one that usually made the first move and i'm sooo confused

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 8, 2005

    if you could really help me figure out if he just sees me as just a cousin.... even though he made me feel like he liked me which helped me into loving him.. i cried the two days after he went home and i was so sad please help me!

  1. Marcie

    Marcie

    Jul 9, 2005

    I am in love with my cousin also, he is in Florida and I'm in California. I'm 40 and he's 38 and we've loved each other our whole lives. We are just now at a point where we're discussing spending the rest of our lives together. It's scary, he's estranged from the family, but I'm not and I just know my dad will go nuts. I don't know if I should hide it or open up, I'm giving it more time to see what we end up doing. I kissed him for the first time when I was 12.

  1. clueless

    clueless

    Jul 20, 2005

    Are you talking to me? The one you're talking about sounds like me and you're story is very like our story, My cousin, she seemed sad and seemed to have cried when I got home, after she spent some time, staying up late, not kissing, not hlding hands, etc. In any case, I'm in love with her(you?), and I don't know what she(you?) feels for me, you just told now I know, I'm really confused?!

    Be careful anyways, I may 'not' be the cousin you've been telling in your story (but quite close it coulb e me?!), anyway, wish you luck =o)

    [omgosh i know exactly how yall feel i met my cousin for the first time and i fell in love with him and we did alot of stuff that couples do but we didnt kiss or hold hands or anything but we would stay up all night together but idk how he feels cuz he was the one that usually made the first move and i'm sooo confused
    Posted by: Confused at July 8, 2005 04:42 AM

    if you could really help me figure out if he just sees me as just a cousin.... even though he made me feel like he liked me which helped me into loving him.. i cried the two days after he went home and i was so sad please help me!
    Posted by: Confused at July 8, 2005 04:58 AM]

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 21, 2005

    clueless... if it really is you but i'm sure... then make a move cuz if you do then i'll know and you'll know.. if not then we arent who we think we are talking to....

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 21, 2005

    clueless... even if it isnt you just for some advice just kiss her because girls are afraid to make the first move believe i know i am soo scared to make the first move but he just isn't and its getting really hard for me... it hurts soo bad that i just want to forget him now

  1. me ;*

    me ;*

    Jul 22, 2005

    my god..i completely understand u or i think i do.. i´m starting to fall in love with my cousing too ive tried to avoid it but its difficult when he just keeps on beeing soo cute and nice and not specialy the cousing-nice but guy-nice and i know my family and i know they wont accept it eighter plus b4 i was in love i used to think that was a bit weird too but damn its difficult!! i need help too!!

    ^ exactly my situation..

  1. Amanda Bailey

    Amanda Bailey

    Jul 22, 2005

    Hi everyone, i really sympathize with you. I just came back from a trip and saw my cousin there. The last time we saw each other was about 4 years ago when something did happen between us. This last trip, we kissed for the first time, and admitted that we had feelings for each other. Now i'm home and crying almost everyday. We chat online and I called him. I think that I am falling in love with him, but he seems to be afraid, so am I. I am so confused, because he tells me how he dreams about us being toguether and he sometimes wishes that we weren't related. At the same time, he doesn't call me or makes an effort. He just admitted to me that he is not treating me the way that I deserve and that he is controlling himself and is scared that his emotions/feelings will get out of hand. This hurts me so much. To top it all off, I'M ENGAGED to a really great guy. I am so sad and confused. Any advice?
    Broken Hearted

  1. lost and confused

    lost and confused

    Jul 22, 2005

    I'm in the same boat as willie, I think that i am in love with my cousin too. We live halfway across the world from each other, so I don't get to see her too often. Just met her again in june and in Aug she is coming to see my family and I. Used to think that she was hot, from a teenage mind who is completely inexperienced with girls. But a short while back I realised that I really liked who she was. Some girls say I look cute but I never know how to approach anyone, coming from more than 10 years of all boys schooling. Is it just because that she is the only girl my age that I have ever been able to really talk to? I dunno if this is merely a brief passing phase of temporary infactuation, or whether I am trully in love. She is bringing her boyfriend who I think is a nice guy over as well? I honestly do not know what to think nor what to do. Please help..

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 23, 2005

    hey yall i just want you to know after that whole clueless incident my cousin made a move! So it makes me wonder if it really was him.... In a way I hope it is

  1. clueless

    clueless

    Jul 26, 2005

    Confused..I didn't make a move so probably, your cousin is not me, but I'm trully glad, you're both ok now.

    Thanks a lot for your advice, I owe you one for that :)

    Anyway, my story, first time I met this cousin of mine in a family gathering, I tought that she was really pretty and charming and she could've been any girl. Right at that moment, I wished she wasn't my cousin... But reality is reality so I immediately brushed off my feelings for her. but soon I noticed, I can't help myself, glancing at her, and she glanced back too, we were both glancing at each other like no ones around, for the rest of the family gathering. I also had this feeling of want to get physically closer to her.

    A week later, she stayed/slept with us for one week, we did what cousins 'normally' do, like play stuff, watch movies, talk and talk. Falling in love with her ne3ver came into my mind at that time. I was thinking that stuff like that is incest with a cousin.

    And then, Its time for her to leave.. I actually cried for two days after she left, and I felt that those several days with her was one of the best moments of my life. I still believe I'm not in love with her, but I'm always wishing she was'nt my cousin..

    One month later, she was back again :) She seemed excited to see me again but she has to stay one night only. I also felt my feelings for her growed stronger. Again, we watched movies, talk about stuff, enjoy the night, during that time, time was literally flying very fast, an hour with her, felt like a minute, It was einstein's relativity taking place for real, it was heaven.. And I'm still wishing she wasn't my cousin and we could be together somehow, withou sinning or angering God.

    And them time for her to leave again. I gave her a ride to a dorm far away, But this time I notice that her eyes, she seemed to have cried all night. She also seemed to want to talk to me all that time during the day. And then its time for me to leave, to go home. She hugged me(unexpectedly). I can't describe how it feels during that time, I don't know I'm going to be happy or cry..

    A day later, suppressing my feelings for her, wishing she wasn't my cousin, asking God for forgiveness for 'falling in love' with her. I heard a whisper in my ear, telling me to make a research on 'cousin marriage'

    And here I am today, happy that I know we can be together without angering God, and sad that all this may not end up as well as I expected it to be...

    I live in a different world than most of you here, you're a lot luckier than I am even if you think you aren't. So try to have fun, grab it while its still there :)

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 27, 2005

    Clueless... yea i understand except my cousin came to see me instead of of me seeing him lol

    my cousin is supposed to leave soon and i'm gonna be soo sad he acts like he wants to kiss me but pulls away each time he gets close... its sooo depressing not knowing how he feels :(

  1. reema

    reema

    Jul 28, 2005

    hey there,

    i love my 1st cousin, we have been together for 2 years now..i live in the UK and he used to live in india but he moved here last year.

    It is really complicated being with a cousin, tho i love him and i know i wont love anybody else (tho my sister thinks otherwise - she is really disgusted by it) we are finding it really hard to do things that we want. Even small things, like going out to dinner, or meeting up (i still live at home and he lives out, but comes home sometimes to visit). We cant go on holiday or live together, all the things we woud really love to do, like any "normal" couple would do..

    even though i would love to tell you to go for it, i do suggest that you think if hes worth it, i know that sounds harsh, but its the truth. There is a hell alot of suffering and the relationship itself can sometimes suffer too (arguing, fights, friends desert, exams go bad etc etc)

    so, just think about it and see what he says...is it for the long run????????????

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Jul 29, 2005

    My cousin said something very interesting to me the other day and it had suprised me (by the way he did kiss me but he had to go back home :() did you know that 20 percent of the American population is married to their first cousins?? it just shocked me that HE said it and he KNEW that....

  1. confusedboi

    confusedboi

    Jul 30, 2005

    I dunno but i think theres a connection between me n my cousin because she is half white n i only feel atraction for girls like her she lives in austrailia n i live in NY we last met in '02 and we had lots of fun n talked alot whenever were together we have lots of fun n i catch her starin at me sometimes n since she left to go back home i keep lookin at her in my pics can sum1 help me cuz im unsure

  1. natalie

    natalie

    Jul 30, 2005

    i'm in love with my cousin. my story with him is so wonderful but then again awkward. we keep our love a secret he lives in mexico and i live here in the us. but we both know we love each other. and im so glad to see all those other comments. it makes me feel more secure and more comfartable with the siutation. it just felt so wrong. but i think im going to follow my heart. :)

  1. Chris

    Chris

    Jul 31, 2005

    I understand, I just saw my cousin after she graduated and she has grown up into a beautiful young women. She is gorgeous and sweet and attracted to the wrong kind of guys. I know she is attracted to me as I am to her, I even joked that we could go to South Carolina and get married since we fit so well together and that maybe I should take a paternity test to make sure we were related(she responded with oh yea we are cause of your dad). We are keeping it a secret from everyone and each other kinda. We always sit together, we went to the movies last night(with my brother, her brother, and another cousin) and we played the embarrased to admit it but constantly touching thing. If my arm wasn't touching hers, her foot was touching my leg. She even rested her head on my shoulder when others weren't watching. I have butterflies and it is crazy. I feel like all I can do is tell her how to find a good guy, but I know I could show her better. Its sad cause I need somebody like her and she needs somebody like me, but we love our families, but are first cousins(my dad's sisters daughter) and I know neither of us want to mess it up. I already told her I would come and visit the family back east, but it is really just so I can see her. I honestly don't know what to do either way people are going to be upset or hurt. I will tell her before she leaves how I feel, because I want her to be happy and if not with me then she knows that somebody who respects her does love her and she doesn't need to settle. The worst/best part is that she told me she plans to move to oregon(where I live) after college and I am seriously just thinking of waiting it out to see what may happen. 4 years is a long time but a lifetime without knowing is longer. Why does something so right have to be so wrong.

  1. clueless

    clueless

    Aug 1, 2005

    Confused:
    Clueless... yea i understand except my cousin came to see me instead of of me seeing him lol

    my cousin is supposed to leave soon and i'm gonna be soo sad he acts like he wants to kiss me but pulls away each time he gets close... its sooo depressing not knowing how he feels :(

    Yeah, I do that to my cousin too :) We nearly kissed but I have to pull away too. One time, I put my arm around the sofa around her, but didn't touch her, but my mom got mad at me when she saw it :(

  1. L con

    L con

    Aug 1, 2005

    I love my cousin too, but we (both) are too shy to say it, I think she feels the same, but, as I said we're too shy. We don't kiss or hold hands but we surely like to spend time together

  1. ferdinand

    ferdinand

    Aug 1, 2005

    I love my cousin too, but we (both) are too shy to say it, I think she feels the same, but, as I said we're too shy. We don't kiss or hold hands but we surely like to spend time together

  1. Burn

    Burn

    Aug 1, 2005

    I have always thought i was satisfied with my life in australia, untill i met my cousin overseas. I fell in love with her, and after telling her about my feelings she told me she felt the same, since then I we have been inseparable. I can't listen to her voice without smiling, i can't be next to her without wanting to hold her, and can't look at her without getting butterflies in my stomach. I love her and now that I am back in Australia I can't stop thinking about her. We talk on the phone all the time, and have discussed being together, except we both know our family wouldn't except it. I don't know what to do, I will be going back there in December, and in a way I am looking forward to it, but in a way I am dreading it aswell, as it will be difficult for us not get close, and at the same time keep it from our relatives there. I have fallen inlove before, but not like this, I love her so much. The question I have, why keep ourselves from being happy when were not doing anything wrong. I know it's not that easy as friends and families will have a different view. With all the probelms in the world like terrorism, poverty, and wars, why is falling inlove with a cousin such a bigdeal?

  1. boricua mama

    boricua mama

    Aug 1, 2005

    awww that is so sweet i love my cousin so much i couldent image not ever seeing him again i lost everything with him and i mean everything im only 13 and hes 15 but hey i loved him and he loved me ever since he started coming every summer its ok i dont see nothing wrong with it cause i been dating my cousin now and no one can stop u and ur parents might not agree but they cant stop u from loving ur cousin like that i havent told my mom and dad yet but we will soon and theres nothing anyone could do. if u love ur cousin go for it cause it might be a chance of a life time cause right now im living it !!!!!

  1. clueless

    clueless

    Aug 2, 2005

    I've found it very simple why people would go crazy towards their cousins.

    First, cousins care for each other genuinely, that is one stuff you won't normally get from an unrelated girlfriend or boyfriend.

    Second, you'd allow a cousin to kiss you won't you even the first time you see them?? that only helps to set the relationship on fire. Normally, you'd get mad at a stranger if they kiss you, see the difference?

    Third, you can let your cousin stay at your house!! Do that with you unrelated girlfriend or boyfriend and your parents, will be mad as a tornado.

    Lastly, you don't have to court your cousin once you see the signs, no need to explain :)

    See it's a lot easier to have an intimate and lasting (minus the cultural taboo) and fulfilling relationship with a cousin than with an unrelated partner. And with a cousin, we no longer need to work hard to build a relationship, its already been built for us :)

    People are like water, we tend to seek the easiest path to things, we find cousins easier so we fall for them.

    I admit to be a loser with women but not my cousins so I fell in love with one of them, normally.

    But with all those cultural stuff going on, its sometime more trouble with a cousin. If it is more trouble than good, its not worth it. Not all battles is worth fighting for. There are things more important in life than just falling in love with a cousin or with anybody.

    Simply put, when you go with a cousin, you clash with your parents and relatives, if you go with an unrelated partner you work hard building a good relationship. You choose! Anyone can be a suitable partner. Just remember to think first before you fall in love :)

  1. Confused

    Confused

    Aug 4, 2005

    clueless...
    you cant think before you fall in love... love is feeling not thought.. everytime i think of my cousin it hurts really bad to know i won't see him for 10 months.. maybe sooner but he told me the sweetest thing.. he's only been gone for 5 days but he said he felt like he has been waiting and eternity to see me again... and he gives me kisses over the internet... gosh idk what i would do without him....

  1. reema

    reema

    Aug 6, 2005

    yea am with you clueless on why cousins go together so well. And without grossing you all out too much, its because there are certain personaility traits that will be in common and compatable, so its almost as if cousins were made for each other. My boyf (also first cuz) have so much in common, both in terms of interests and in personality...even though we have lived one continent and one ocean apart for most of our lives!!

    just like to say that this site is way better than cousincouples.com which i think is a load of hypocritical, dumbass old people that dont know what they are talking about...i gave up on that site long ago..thank god for this one!!

    have to say, i know for all you out there who love their cousin but dont want to say anything - its bloody tough! It took my boyf about 4 years to say that he loved me (having discussed when exactly we knew we loved each other) - but then i rejected him as in four years so much can happen and i convinced myself that that whole cousin thing wan wrong and immoral...buuuuuuuuuuuut then i went on holiday and saw him, and i knew i coudnt go away yet AGAIN not saying any thing so i confessed that i actually did love him...and here we are two years later.

    i just think that if you know that she/he has feelings for you too and that you are in it for the lung run..then go for it, there is no time to waste as then you will just look back and wonder - "what the hell were we wating for???"

    xxx

  1. reema

    reema

    Aug 6, 2005

    ps: chris, i really loved your story. I know its so heart wrenching. i really think it sounds like you guys will make it.

    oregon is beautiful, i love it there :D

  1. mental break down

    mental break down

    Aug 8, 2005

    It's not stupid to fall for your cousin. I have a cousin who's 23 years older then me. All my life he was special and I adored him to no end. I got married (not to my cousin) 8 years ago. At my reception he pulled me aside and said that he REALLY loved me. So that put the bug in my head that he felt something, but I tried to forget about. Every summer I would see him, and I stil got that vibe from him. This past week down the shore he finally fessed up that he did care for me more then a cousin relationship. I thought my heart stopped for a second. We found every chance we could to be alone and talk. It turns out he always felt a connection to me too. All my life we felt something and never allowed ourselves to look further. I did let him kiss me the other night and I melted. I felt like a young girl being kissed for the first time. I can't get it out of my head. I'm 38 and he is 61 and he's still sexy! I wish he had said something 10 years ago before I met my husband. I know there are a lot of states that allow first cousin marriages, and I think I live in one of them. Of course the family would have been another story to deal with. All I can say is follow your heart. So much is wrong in this world, you have to find some happiness.

  1. fallen angel

    fallen angel

    Aug 12, 2005

    3 years since I had to stop seeing my cousin. I have 2 children. There is not one minute that goes by that I dont think of the person that was everything to me. I was a single parent and I got financial support from my family. I was forced to choose. I often think that in the next life I will live to see him again. I have another partner now. I just did not want to be alone but I just cant erase a love thats deep in my heart. I pray to god for forgivness for I must have done something wrong. Just think most families dont talk much when the know some one is in abusive relationship, but when someone loves you more than everything than its wrong. I was not strong enough to stand out of this clossed. Like some friends of mine just 30 years ago. The god in my mind whant all his children to be happy but some of his children wont accept the happiness of others

  1. anonymous

    anonymous

    Aug 12, 2005

    It's good to know that I'm not the only one who has feelings for their cousin. I spent a good amount of time with my cousin recently and I felt a connection to her again, but the hardest part is not knowing whether she has the same feelings. I may be setting myself up for trouble or a disappointment being that this is such a cultural taboo. It's just that I see many of the qualities in this certain person that I haven't seen in other girls and I can't deny these feelings I've been having. It's a great feeling being close to someone and having somebody to share your thoughts and feelings with and with whom you share some of the same interests and thoughts. We are set apart by miles and age, and it is a bit hard being away from her, but such is life. At times I can't seem to rid her from my thoughts which is disheartening at times, but whatever. I'm not sure what to make of my thoughts.

  1. misshim

    misshim

    Aug 14, 2005

    I've been in love with my cousin since I was sixteen. He was my first kiss, my first love, my first everything. We have always had a strong conncection. We lived in different countries and we still found a way to each others heart. When I last visited him, we got MARRIED with both families blessing. He was everything to me. I unfortunately, made the biggest mistake of my life. We got married in a world-wind wedding. I came back to the States and started to literally freak out. I was so confused...I didn't believe in him and I didn't believe in myself. I asked for a divorce. I ruined our entire family. I married an American. I have a son. I love them both. But i will never love anyone like my cousin. I wish I could take it all back and be married to him again. Learn from my mistake. Follow your heart. Who cares what other people think. You will regret it for the rest of your life. I'm still "MAD" about my cousin and it tears me to pieces on a daily basis. He was my true love. I miss him. I hate myself for hurting him and our family. He loved me like no other. I will never forget him. I hope that one day he can forgive me.

  1. mental break down

    mental break down

    Aug 15, 2005

    All my life I thought I was "sick" to have a crush on my cousin when I was younger. I feel better to know I'm not alone. What hurts so much is that i'm in a marriage that I want out of. I love my husband, but we just don't connect on so many levels. My cousin and I do connect on every level, like we are sole mates. I'm so confussed about what to do. I know here in the States a lot of them do allow 1st cousin marriages, but our family would FREAK out! Him and my dad are like best friends. I wish I could go back 10 years to before I met my husband and persue the cousin................

  1. I felt love too

    I felt love too

    Aug 17, 2005

    I fell in love with my cousin 10 years ago. She turned 15 and I 20. I tried so hard to ignore it those first few days we met. She opened her heart and confessed herself. she affected me in a way no other ever had before. I couldnt ignore what was happening to me. she wrote me so many letters and shared every thought adn feeling and took me. I would never have fallen in love if she wasnt who she was. So amazing,intellgent,bright,creative,warm,loving,ladylike,proud. I was so proud of everything she was and wanted to tell the world. We lived in different countries, I visited ,she visited and my family liked her but hated our relationship. it tore us apart. It was horrible to love so much when so much was against us. time and distance eventually ended it. It was a love so complete, it can still haunt me if i let it. I have all her letters and photos. She married and has a child. I am happy for her and hope he gives her everything she deserves. Still so fond and proud of her and will always. I will never regret that love. To this day, every woman is measured up to her. We will talk again some day again. It will be a beautiful day that day.

    Be wise. Make sure the love is real. Fight for what is worth fighting for. A true loving family will eventually understand. If she was living here, I would have picked her over my family no doubt, knowing who in my family that really loved me, would come around.

  1. confused

    confused

    Aug 21, 2005

    anonymous.. your story sounds alot like me and my cousin.. since he left my feelings have been so mixed and i've been meeting new guys and i just don't know what it would be like if i saw him again..... so yea confusion runs through me its part of my everyday life idk if i still like him or not i think if i had to make a decision.. idk what i would choose

  1. burn

    burn

    Aug 21, 2005

    I like to beleive that I can chase anything I want in this world, and that I can overcome anything. I have always been respected by my peers, and and percived by other's in a realy possitive way. Then I have realised that the image that I have creted for myself, is the image that I have let everyone created for me. I don't know who I am anymore. I don't want to ruin the image and the respect that everyone has for me by letting anyone know about me falling in love with my cousin. I am inlove with Jasmine, my first cousin, and she is inlove with me. I feel that we are made for each other, and it is such a great feeling when we are together. I cherish every split second that i spend with her because our time is always limited. We don't want anyone to know as our families and friends will have a different view of our feelings for each other. I wanna be with her, but I am afraid that I will not be strong enough to handle all the dilemas that this will cause, and that, could lead to her being unhappy, and her resenting me. One thing I want is for me to be happy, but the last thing I want is for her to be unhappy. I have always thought I was strong, but this is one thing I can't beat. I love her very much now, and I will always love her unconditionaly. The only thing I can do is to pray to God to guide me to what is right. I live in Australia, and it is legal to marry your cousin here, but it's not the law that I'm afraid of, it is the people's ignorance and negative opinions that I am afraid of. I admire the strength that some of you have to go through with it, and followed you heart. I wish I had your strength.

  1. fallen angel

    fallen angel

    Aug 22, 2005

    I feel sick every day, I cant sleep. I drive in my car alone and cry most the time. I want to be were no one sees me. Being hurt because I was not strong. I know you wish for the strength of some of the people here and I will tell you they are my heroes. I miss my cousin so much and I have no words to tell you how much. I have not seen him for 3 years. The plessure I felt being with my cousin is what I know I will never feel again. And like the words of Depeche Mode. I know I have to sell my soul for a pleasure like that. I know my cousin feels the same so if your ever in here. I love you more than life

  1. scardy cat

    scardy cat

    Sep 1, 2005

    I simply wish I never met her :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :( I wish I could turn back time :( :( :( :( If I knew this would happen :( :( :( :( :(
    I should have avoided her at all cost :( :( :( :( :(
    Everything is futile now :( :( :( :(
    Now, I hate her and myself :( :( :( :(
    See we look and sound so alike that whenever I look in the mirror, I don't just see myself, I also see her :( :( :(

  1. Just4U

    Just4U

    Sep 2, 2005

    Good to know that i am not alone, although, we are not together anymore, but somehow i feel really gulity that i shouldn't do that at the first place. Our relationship is just ruined, is she my lover or cousin ....

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 2, 2005

    Wow and to think how SO alone i felt when i was going through the initial embarrasment of having my cousin once removed sooo in love with me...I kept trying to push him away...jus telling him there is no way ever it'll work...and he never ever gave up on me...and today...I could not thank him enough...because there were times in the beginning..maybe a few months in...that i would again get weak and think...oh no my parents...i love them too...but trully parental love is mutual with their children...and they will come around...It is God whom I know has all the power to choose my fate...I see only that he has blessed us so far...and has kept us from being revealed too soon in many close calls...I just want everyone here to know...that YOU will regret not giving it a chance at least...I love my baby...and i kno he and i will have beautiful kids someday with god's blessings...FActs are reallie impt for ppl wondering how wrong it is...but the immorality is all in your mind...and for those who are so ignorantly foolish..and have to b so judgemental...they are daring to play the role of god at a far too risky level...you can't mess with love and u cant mess with soul mates...I Give my Love to all those in my situation...and would love to keep in contact w/ anyone who wants...jus lemme know here...cuz i have yet to reveal this to the family...we are afraid..but we know it will be done one day..I fit better with him than I think i could with any other man...Hope YOu don't let go of someone whose meant for YOU.

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 5, 2005

    Not all is lucky, take it from me. Me and my cuz used to be good friends. We are both attractive, and share many interests in common. We both admitted having crushes on each other. And we love each other's company.

    I have this sort of feeling of being 'in love' with her but I try to dismiss those feelings for fear of sinning

    Soon, I took the courage of making a research on this stuff, and I was convinced that having relation shp with a cuz is not a sin.

    Later on, I slowly admitted my feelings for her, so not to scare here, let her know that it's perfectly ok, not a sin, I even showed her my research.

    After all that, she's now avoiding me at all cost. I didn't push my point any further, I don't want her to think I'm obsessed or something.

    All I can say is, she's all gone. I've lost a good friend because of this stuff.

    Some things, even though they are good, is not meant to be discovered :(

  1. eng

    eng

    Sep 5, 2005

    ok honestly,i really didn't know so many people felt the exact same way as me...i thought i was some kind of pshyco lunie for being in love with my second cuzin for like years now but i see him only every summer when i go on vacation to my country and its pure bliss when i'm with him and i'm so confused whether or not i should move on with my "romantic life" and get a boyfriend...i don't want him to get hurt and think that i don't give a crap for him though. i'm so scared to express my feelings to him because i know him since i was 6 years old and the whole family will be sooo wierded out...sometimes i get wierded out thinking that what i'm doing(flirting with him every summer) is wrong....i'm soooo confused!!!

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 6, 2005

    Hi eng. In the biblical perspective, there's nothing wrong with falling in love with your cousin. Accdg to modern science, nothing wrong with it too. Its just a cultural thing.

    But be sure when you make a decision, do it wisely. There are plenty of risks you have to consider, things like ruining your family, friends, etc if things don't work out. Don't gamble with relationships. Don't rely on your feelings alone. Analyze, analyze, analyze.

    These are not the things that the attitude "don't care what others think" work, no matter how right it is. Sometimes, its best to let go, it could hurt but, it pays of in the end.

    Not letting go is one of the worst mistakes I did in my life. THe most destructive as well, it nearly ruined our family, sadd :(

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 7, 2005

    aww failure I'm so sorry about what happened to you...but honestly...i disagree with your advice to eng....I think my family is going to get a jolt when we break the news; however, in the end you can't continue hating a good person...i mean if they liked their neices/nephews as people why not when they marry their cousins?....and I know it's a huge thing...you can't just make the dive for a little crush...but see these arent little crushes we all are talkin about here...there's somthin so lurin about cousin relationships... and you can't think what will others think all the time....it's your life we're talkin about...what if your marriage life alone with your cous is better than your marriage life--family relations intact with some horrible spouse/.....THE SPOUSAL relationship is very important and can't be brushed off...there's that ONE meant for everyone...and we make mistakes...but if that ONe is your cousin..then you cannot give up, no matter what hun.

  1. plute

    plute

    Sep 9, 2005

    If you love your cousin and want to marry him/her, by all means follow your heart and do so.

    However, don't plan on having any offsprings. Genetics are powerful and your kids would likely have some serious disorders. It would be irresponsible and immoral (IMHO) to put a child into such a disadvantageous situation. If you must have kids, adpot.

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 10, 2005

    plute have you researched the facts?....Y don't u visti c.u.d.d.l.e. international and see the stats....so cousins marryin and havin a 1-2% increase in possible birth defects chances is worse than thOSE who continue smokin and drinkin and raising that percentage by A LOT more?....instead of gettin on our cases...y dont u try banning alcohol and tobacco from the world? u'd significanly lower several millions of diseases associated with it...and i agree genetic counseling before hand would help us all..not jus cousin marriages..but perhaps cousin marriages shoudl look more into it....the truth is..if no one in the family has recessive genes of certain diseases there is bout a zero percent chance of aquirin those traits.....IN THE END if a couple is meant to have a child with a birth defect...they will..and that child's soul mite be one meant to be born with a birth defect for past sins...u may not believe in reincarnation...or karma...but u must have some faith...then U have to agree that He has a lot to do with our fates...or else we woudlnt pray...jus read the facts plute..and even then science cannot compete with God and the miracle of birth he gives us. I applaud u for at least advisin to follow ur heart...and U kno wat if genetic counselin shows a bad disposition for the baby...I agree...that adoption mite b a better route...a lot goes into a couples decision...but u cannot simply say all cousins near and far , wit family history of diseases or not cannot and should not have kids rite?

  1. eng

    eng

    Sep 13, 2005

    ok guyz i'm kinda curious about something else.its kinda lame but anyways.... usually when to people are in love don't they gaze at each others eyes (from what i heard) for a long period of time?... because with my cuzin however, we can't! everytime are eyes meet they automatically bounce off like were scared of each other or something:( its so wierd!...what do u guyz think that means?

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 13, 2005

    eng: well I dont think the whole gazing in ea. other's eyes things applies to our types of romances. I think you 2 look away bcoz u r afraid that the other mite see rite thru u? I take it u haven't told ea. other out front from wat u said b4, so if anythin i think this means u guys totally have feelings for ea. other. i dont remember how our eyes were wen we first felt for ea. other, tho we always flirted...but now wen i c him in family gatherings...we cant stop staring at ea. other..but we hafta b careful..bcoz someone could c that and jus kno wat's up...I think u mite want to reveal somthin to him...bcoz like u mentioned b4 it's holding u bak from openin urself to others if it is that he's not the one for u. I believe u 2 r jus afraid of wat the world/family would think...but u have to remember every single individual is diff...u cannot have the same connection with any 2 ppl...so make sure he's not the one for u...if u decide to give up on it..or ignore it...tho chances are it will be hard to do that.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 13, 2005

    i thought i was the only one whos in love with my cousin. i've been with my cousin for almost 6 years. we love and respect each other very much. but this all came to end. he doesnt want marriage. he think so much of his family. his parents hates our relationships. his parents are tryin very hard to set him up with another girl bcuz of me. everytime i see him my heart breaks .. i love him to death and i dont know what to do.... we always have family gathering and im always running away from him.. HELP.........

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 14, 2005

    Aww sue, your story is really sad and frightens me a little. 6 years of love & respect huh? I think he's acting like how i acted 2 years ago with my baby. our family knows nothing of us, but still jus the thought of leaving my parents make me sad. I didn't want to hurt them and so on, but he never let go. now we have been together for about 3 years, and we have a plan for marriage, even eloping if necessary. I feel for you, and I dont know what i'd do if my man jus decided o well after 6yrs. I'd b crushed. I think your man needs to step up, and realize that his family WIlL get over it, after they c how much u 2 love each other, and that you 2 can have a successful marriage. the only problem is that he is scared of his family's pressure rite sue? so then don't worry, his love for you hasn't gone away a bit. He will come around to you in no time. He will break down. how can he not. You've been a part of each others lives for too long. I think you need to have a serious talk with him, and just let him know that his parents will get over it, and would he rather live with someone he has no idea of, just to please his parents? is he marrying for them, or for himself? marriage is b/w 2, and too often i think the outside world tries so hard to mess the 2 up, and make matches that convenience them. Don't let him go if He is THE ONE, and it sounds like he very well is. I"m sorry that he is putting u through this. BUt he will realize, just like i did, that his parents will cool down, after all his parents love him dont they? so they will eventually love that he is with the one he trully loves, and that he is happy with you.

  1. eng

    eng

    Sep 14, 2005

    The shitty part **justanothergirlinlove*** is that i don't even see my cousine at family gatherings like u do at all, because he lives in a totally different country and i only see him every summer...sooooo now i feel like exploding since there is nooo way i can be near him....i feel like every year after the summer ends my feelings get stronger and stronger for him:( and it hurts so much becasue since i'm not with him(which i want to be) he might just go meet some other chic. obviously i don't mind cuz he's a guy and what the hell is he gonna do for a whole year without "fooling around" its normal i guess, cuz the fact that i'm in love with him hasn't yet been proven straight out in the open...but if it gets serious with that other chic i'll get so hurt and he'll proly 4 get about me:(....thanx 4 ur help by the way**justanothergirlinlove***

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 15, 2005

    well ~eng~ It seems you are in one of the hardest places with your heart. honestly hun, i don't think u can get over him ever, if nothing ever happens, good or bad. I feel u trully love him, and would love to take care of him if u were given a chance. I don't like that u say u don't mind if he fools around, cuz he's a guy, and they do stuff like that. cuz U don't deserve to feel "cheated on" for that reason i think u have to do something more to try and figure out how he feels about u, and if he's willing to cross the boundary, or go against society's ignorant views. by the way which country are you from anyways?, or i mean which country to go to in the summer to visit him? i'm jus wonderin if it's as taboo in your culture as in mine. i feel so sorry for you, cuz i know it must b eatin u to not b able to explore U guys bein together. u xplained it as the best thing eva wen ur wit him rite? It's crazy how much cousins care for ea. other. I wish there was a way i could find out how he felt for u, and then tell u. i'm sure u dont deserve to feel the way u do, and so my best advice would b to become a lil more fwd. or ask certain questions like "how does he feel bout cousin marriages" haha. now this is kinda blatent, but reallie u have to bring in the topic somehow...like "i read the sweetest story bout this couple, but their family hates them bcoz they r cousins blablab" i'm sure u can come up with better, i'm jus real tired rite now. keep me updated, I wish the best for you 2. and who knows he could b there thinkin how much he wants u, and if u may b wit another guy. these feelings can b real mutual. good luck grl!

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 15, 2005

    JusAnotherGrLInLove , thanks.. i always thought he was the one.. god knows. i want him to be but he doesnt. he told me if he thought this relationship would have carried off this far he wouldnt have had it. he told me that he wants to meet other people. he even told me that he wants to marry a guy that is outside the family. he even told me that he loves me less. im hurt so bad i miss him and i want him but i dont know what to do. the thing is when i came to the u.s thats when it all started , if i never came all this wouldnt have happend. now the whole family knows about us, everytime we get near they try their best to pull us apart. since we broken up i've been rejecting the idea of visitng my grandparents since they live in one building. what should i do ... move on .. or wait ? i cant see myself with another man .....its like a dream never come true............!!!!!!!!!

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 15, 2005

    correction ... he even told me that he wanted to marry a girl that is outside the family...

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 15, 2005

    Sue, I think we have the same situation. Good news is, I got over it, I can't say it's easy, but it's only a matter of choice.. Well, the reality is not everyone is lucky with this type of relationship.

    Trust me, there are things a lot more important than falling in love with someone, it's not our FINAL destiny. To think that many great and famous people in this world (like Einstein) have failed relationships. So.. it's not end of the game yet, there's still a whole lot ahead of you.

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 15, 2005

    failure ~I am glad u got over it, and life is good for you now. being content is wat we all want. but some of us feel we would be most content with our cousins, and perhaps we jus don't want to settle for less. but i've noticed that u brush love off as somthin unimportant now, it's changed ur attitude, this failure has rite? U know someone is out there that will lift u up again. u jus gotta have faith.

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 15, 2005

    sue~ Wow to think that he is trully turnin on, I don't even know what to say. well hun, maybe u need to start gettin the mentality that He doesnt deserve ur love. I mean it's so hurtful to u, for him to say that he wants to marry someone else. and then on top of it to have the entire family against the idea of u 2 together. there is a chance that he is just saying this outta frustration, but hun u don't have to put up with this. I know that it's a dream, that the past 6 yrs can't jus b thrown away in a minute. I can pray for you. I hope he realizes which dream he could shatter for both of u, cuz i kno u dint build that dream by urself. it's too late to finish somthin w/o creatin a disaster, bcoz now ur family's kno, which makes it even harder, but I don't understand y he's not standin by ur side. he needs to b there.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 15, 2005

    JusAnotherGrLInLove, what do you mean by hers turning on ? he told me that he doenst deserve all the love i have given him. i dont know what he wants. we break up then we get back then we fight then its over, over and over.. but this time i dont know. what should i do, ignore him, talk to him what i dont know? i dont know if he loves me anymore.!

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 15, 2005

    sue~ whoops, i meant to say he is trully turning AROUND ON YOU. it's scary to think that someone u've known and loved for so long, really has no more love for you. I think you should talk to him directly about it. Him sayin he doesn't deserve ur love is just an EXCUSE. it will keep botherin u until you're certain he cannot return the love back. then you will have to heal, and hopefully u will get over it. u kno him better than anyone probably, and if he still has an ounce of love for u, he will come to realize that he cannot b w/o u. but IF he does not love u anymore, which i dunno how ppl can jus turn love off in their hearts, then u must move on hun.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 15, 2005


    justanothergrlinlove.... im to scared to talk to him.. what would i say to him anymore.. i want u back ? he'll be like i told u already we cant be together. i dont know anymore.. i always pray to god sayin if we are ever ment to be plz let him be mine ...

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 16, 2005

    failure*** i hope that i could be just like u getting over it .. but its very hard. all i do is think of him. can u guys imagine how much i love him? every night i dream of him. i even go online everyday to check our horoscope and take tests to see if we'r the one for each other.. god i love him and im pretty sure he knows, but what can i do.. its not like our whole family isnt married to first cousines.. they all r . so why cant we? he says that he wasnt brought up like that. what the hell was he brought up like ? we are arabs and they all marry cousin .. why is it when i want something it can never happen ? i can never imagine myself without him.. im goin to be so hurt if he decides to marry someone else..how could he end 6yr with i dont deserve your love? it was my fault fallin in love with the wrong person...

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 16, 2005

    sue~ well I don't think this is the greatest of ideas, but desperate times call for desparate measures so maybe u can try this. bcoz to tell u the truth, this happened to me, tho the family did not know, a marriage b/w cousins is imposs. to even think of (or was b4 for me) and I was the one who kept tellin my guy it will never work. well he made up a grl friend, said he was over me, and Guess wat? i was genuinely happy for him and thought yay now we can both move on and still b friends. but then he said she made him pick b/w bein close wit his cous (me) or her, and he dumped her. OK i kno this sounds corny, but he went alllll out wit makin it real to me, like fake fone calls to himself n away messages. well, to make a long story short, I thought omg he is so crazy about me, i dunno who could love me as he could. and I must admit it made me jealous that he had a grl, and that he said she was betta than me @ certain things (cuz we had been together fo only a month b4 then and i was still too weirded out). If u trully wanna know if HE loves u, and cares. U can either get another real man, or jus act like u do, and c his reaction. pretend u r over him. i kno it's hard, but it was jus as hard for my guy, and by the way he told me the truth that she didn't exist like a year and a half later. I had doubts she didn't, but then wen he told me i was mad and glad @ the same time. I can't bear to think that i'd have pushed him away b4. JUs c his reaction to u havin another guy. And still try to b nice friends wit him. cuz he will not change his tone otherwise it seems.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 16, 2005

    wow. do u really think thatsa good idea? im a bad at things like that, im very honest. hes gonna find out from day one that im playin. the will find out and will tell him and by that time i would realize i wasted time instead. i dont know its very hard to figure something for me to bring him back. i had a dream that i married my other cousin what does that mean... ? do u think he loves me ? i know he does but from what i told u do u think hes worth fightin for ? i mean i give up i had fought for more than years now. i hope its worth it..god i love him ! ( im only 18 and hes 22 ) isnt that a perfect match ?)

  1. eng

    eng

    Sep 16, 2005

    ***justanothergirlinlove***i go to greece every summer to see him. where are you from?

  1. eng

    eng

    Sep 17, 2005

    oh my god!! i feel right now like i'm gonna faint and puke everywhere....i just found out that my cuz is going out with some girl and that he's "in love":( i can't take this shit no more...there is no one else in the world like him...

  1. eng

    eng

    Sep 17, 2005

    honestly...i guess it wasn't meant to be for some people

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 18, 2005

    ENG** you never know at the end you might get back with hime ( did u guys had a relationship) ? for me we broke up about two weeks ago. i called him yesterday and today we went out but we didnt talk about our relationship.. its hard.. i think u'll be ok i think u should call him and confront him tell him how u feel and i hope he feels the same way. im not sure why he have a girlfriend right now ... since u guys are far apart he thought he needed someone to be there........ hope things will end the way u want it.. good luck

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 18, 2005

    eng~ well I'm from india...and it's not common...so my guy had the same fear of revealing his love for me. See girl, with you it seems that He neva reallie knew u loved him with all your heart as much as u do. bcoz u say u love spendin time wit him, and he prolly loves spendin time wit u, and guys r much less sensitive to wat ppl have to say (i think anways) than girls. so if he knew U loved him as u do, he mite jus leave the grl he has now for u. and i kno u have much distance b/w u. and i wish i coudl comfort u, don't puke hun. i kno it hurts cuz he tells u he has found someone rite? i agree with sue about IT can always happen in the end. I was acutlaly gonan b with this other guy, and my cous would always say...dude he's not worth it, y r u wit him? he doens'tn even care enough bout u. and then he said "if i was ur boyfriend, i wouldn't leave u alone for a min. i wouldn't even let u breathe w/o makin sure u knew how much i cared bout u" (trust me i thought AWWWWWWWW wat a sweet cous, but i neva wouldve crossed the taboo line) it took time, but then he became so obvious with his love, and i realized where am i gonna find someone like HIM anywhere?@! UR cous may feel thsi way bout U hun. That ur such a special grl, but he is scared of rejection. and if u feel real sick...i think u have nothin to lose...if u jus tell him...maybe less obviously..like somtimes i wish i were ur gf...ur so sweet and kindhearted...man i wish there was a duplicate of u that wasnt related to me...and c his response u KNO?..hope this helps..take care grl

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 18, 2005

    sue~ I think since in ur culture it's not so uncommon, and im sure ur cous's have heard of cousin marriages, U should get courage to reveal any of ur feelings. I kno it's said that ur cous is actin so indifferent to u, like he doesnt care bout ur guys's long relationship, but now u say u have had a dream bout another cous? so Is this guy worth it? how does he feel bout u? do u want to give up on wat u had with the last one? and Y is he bein such an ass to u :'( I mean u guys went out, but not as if u were in a relationship? U Kno, that hprolly means he still cares for u, but just wants to test the waters bout it.
    ***I wouldnt give up so fast, but bein in love wit ur cous is not wrong at all, and that shouldnt b the reason y PPl cannot be together! I hate how society makes ppl feel ashamed of loving! wat's natural is natural, U don't fall in love wit a bro or sis cuz it's not natural. I hope ur heart gets wat it deserves. and i hope ppl's attitudes become more acceptin of true love. THough i have yet to face my family and their reaction :0(.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 18, 2005

    JusAnotherGrLInLove ... i love him and im pretty sure he does too, if he didnt he wouldnt have taken me out yesterday. we care so much . but when it comes for our relationship to be in the open, he doesnt like. he says that his parents raised him on not marryin a cousin i really dont get it if his parents r cosin why they not allowing it .... i hope at the end we marry each other.. we had a great time yesterday, we kissed ( i think we'r gonna end up breaking up, bcuz hes gonna say i cant do this anymore.) its just sooo sad to let go the one that i love so much..

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 19, 2005

    sue~ :0) well U sound like u kno what you want. and that his parents are the only thing in the way rite now. I think in the end, it will be jus the way u want it. he cannot foreva wipe u outta his mind. Jus think bout it?! I mean if he gets with another grl...all he'll think bout is U and how much fun u 2 had. if he marries someone for his parents, he will regret it completely, cuz HE KNows what he lost when he gave up u. and still he takes u out, and u 2 have fun. and omg if his parents r cousins then they will for sure get over it after sometime..U guys LOVe each other so much it seems, I dunno y anyone would keep tryin to separate u. don't u agree that if his parents were ok with it, then he'd marry u in an instant? WEll then it's not that he doesnt love u, it's that He needs to b STRonger, and NOT care what others think, bcoz wen he's with u, he's happiest and that's that. much good luck from me. Wish i could change his mentality about this. And good for u not giving up.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 19, 2005

    JusAnotherGrLInLove : no matter what had happend i never gave up .. like when we broke up with time i gave it 14 days not calling and at the end i couldnt take it so i called and we ended up talkin the whole day about things but not the relatinship.. then we went out and today after work he stopped by for about 10mins and left its like nothing happend .. im use to breakin up and getting back .. but what matters is getting back...i hope to god that we are two made for each other, even though we might face lots of obsticles but i would never give up.. he was my frist kiss....how come u never talk about whats goin with ur relationship JusAnotherGrLInLove ? can u advice me how to keep this relationship stronger, loving , caring without arguing....i wish things will be like that it would make life easy. DO U THINK HE LOVES ME ? i will kill myself if he ends up with a different girl............. he thinks im afraid to move on.........

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 19, 2005

    sue*** From what u have told me, yes I really think he does love you. This can be a good or bad thing, but I feel that in my relationship I am ur guy, and maybe my guy is u(at least before it was this way). HE has never ever given up on me, nor do i think will he ever let me go, even if i wanted to, and I thank him for that now. but during the times he was so insistent, I did not like it. STILL it paid off that he was so strong about our love. bcoz c if u lose faith, and give up, then both of u will. if u 2 r meant to b, u will b, and he can't let this chance go. and the fact that he stil wants to hang out wit u, and kiss u...HE will not b able to resist not "being with you" in a relationship. that's how I was. I call my baby my backbone, cuz without him I feel so damn lost, and lonely. I need him in every single way. OH and if u would like to know anythin specific about my relationship YOu can always ask. Right now my relationship is beautiful. I feel as if we jus fell in love, tho it was 2 and half years ago. I can't go more than an hour without seeing/talkin to him. HE knows more bout me than any other living soul. HE is my bestfriend, protector, lover, soulmate, & i feel confident calling him my husband. I'm very scared about tellin our family this. VERY very scared. but i will worry bout that when the time comes (about 6years from now I think, cuz college takes forever). I will need advice on how to break the news to family then. It's hard to keep everythin secret, tho lots of our other cousins know our secret now and have learned to accept us, and even respect us for being together. I reallie think our love has no limit. and IF i could write the perfect love story, it woudl b mine. we all have struggles and I still have SO many more to come, but I could not take on anythin without knowin HE is with me all the way, for eternity.
    I think we argue far less than most couples, and I dont kno wat else to say xcept for we r jus that compatible. after one explains well his/her idea, we jus understand each other. My advice for a stronger, more loving relationship is to take time to focus ON just the two of u somtimes. pretend u 2 were on an isolated island wat would interfere with ur love then? all these arguments about other ppl and wat they care, but watever happend to them sayin "if ur happy, we're happy". SOciety is the worst thing ever invented. it makes ppl conform to things they r not. me and my baby say "i love u to each other like we can't breathe if we don't say it" ROmance jus comes automatic if u stop thinkin of other once in a while. IM not sayin b selfish, but jus for moments, get lost in each other. and realize that Love is so beautiful when it's UNCONDITIONAL. i can tell u a whole bunch of sweet things my guy does for me, and I think wow i dont do anythin to deserve this,and still i think he feels the same way. but I don't kno what else to tell u, xcept all U need for UR love to stay forever, is each other, and that if u let ur hearts talk to each other without any strings attached, they will never want to be separated. btw have u guys every talked bout having kids in ur 6 yrs together?

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 19, 2005

    burn~ IF ur still out there, and read this. can u plz update me on ur story. when i first read it i thought it was very beautiful. but i don't get y u can't have the strength too, to let the ignorant/negative ppl dwell in their own mess. The way u describe ur love seems so irreplaceable. I wish the best to u, and plz let me know how things work out, or if ever U decide to tell the family.

    IF ANYONE HAS GONE THROUGH BRAVING IT OUT, AND TELLING THEIR FAMILY ABOUT THEIR FORBIDDEN LOVE(IN CULTURES WHERE IT'S UNHEARD OF BASICALLY) PLZ LET ME KNOW HOW IT WENT, AND GIVE ME ADVICE ON HOW I COULD APPROACH IT. I DO PLAN TO GO THRU WITH IT, AT ALL COSTS.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 19, 2005

    yes we did talk about kids but not ours. he says he wants and i say i dont bcuz im too scared.( the whole process ) u know ? i called him in the morning today he was alseep well his mom found out and he didnt know i called i think she deleted it and then she asked him if we still talk and stuff .. i called him when i got back from school and told him i called , he didnt even know. and told me thats why his mom asked about us.. what does that mean to u all .. she doesnt want us to be together.. she will do anything to seperate us... but i'll never give up. i know he loves me but the family is a very big impact .. he'll never do anything withpit their ok .. thats tough.. its like he's their lil kid ..! i hateeeeeeeeeee itttttttttttttttttt but i love him .. am i crazy or what ?

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 20, 2005

    why do my friends tell me that he using me..they say if he loved me he would tell his parents.. why cant my friends get it ? when i came from school today i called him ,then he came over ..! so happy i've seen him 3days in a role.......

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 20, 2005

    aww sue~ I don't doubt ur guys's love for a second. ppl don't kno love, until they're trully in it. U shoudlnt listen to others who have only crap to say. ur guy needs some certainty/security to stand up to HIS parents and confess his LOVE for u. I kno my guy would go against his parents though he loves em so much, for me. he's that crazy. he used to b the family lil kid, i dunno how i changed all that. but if ppl can't b happy with us, I dunno if im willin to sacrifice and make em happy at all costs. I'm not sure y i got cursed with such a situation, but i'm makin amends this life, and I will not lose my eternal love for it. ask ur guy Y he can't stand up to his parents, that u can see that he trully cares for u, why can he jus not make UR guy's world U and HIM on his own? and kno that his parents will come around and b happy later. Today was such a beautiful day i spent with my baby. I get crushed wen i hear ur painful news. but Love, when it is true love, cannot jus die bcoz some other ppl dont agree with it, remember that.

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 20, 2005

    I don't know If I still deserve to call myself failure, because lately.. when I'm about to move on with my life.. things just suddenly made a huge turn. Just when I tought it was over...

    : JusAnotherGrLInLove, your guy sounds just like me, but I assure you, he's not me. Just like him, I'm like the family pet, but will fight, if it gets in love's way, GRRRR!!! LOL.

    ...many years ago, I had this dream. In the dream, I was shown the name of the girl, I'll be spending my life with for a long long time... It wasn't exactly a name, but a word used to describe this object (of course I wouldn't tell, why should I? :) ) Soon, I met this girl who turned out to be my cuz. Her name described that object, but by that time, I already lost that dream somewhere in my head. So I had no idea that she was my destiny, I only realized it, YESTERDAY!!!

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 20, 2005

    failure (success?) ~ That is such good news! i'm sorry but u kno that song "wen it's over that's the time i fall in love agin" by sugar ray? Yea it's very true for a love that has lame exuses for being given up on. I mean u can't erase so many things.
    UR dream is crazy, I get that de javoo alll the time(i kno i mispelled it lol). so yesterday musta been a great day for u huh? IF Ur like my guy, than DAMn Y would ur woman ever ever ever let u go? well Im trully happy for u. wat culture agin r u from?
    OH YA and failure wen u said this earlier: Not letting go is one of the worst mistakes I did in my life. THe most destructive as well, it nearly ruined our family, sadd :(

    can u lemme kno how things turned out...or how they r now? and since u realized she was for u yest...WAt r u gonna do bout it? MUCh good luck.

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 20, 2005

    General Advice:
    For ppl havin a hard time crossin over the line, IF u listen to and watch mariah carey's "Through the Rain" I think it will make u feel a lot stronger!! The music video is so beautiful in my opinion. jus go to videocodezone.com and search through the rain. It'll lift u up about your love :0). It always makes me smile, the ending makes me feel content.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 20, 2005

    JusAnotherGrLInLove.. that is an awsome song.. it made me cry

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 21, 2005

    JusAnotherGrLInLove.. That's a cool link, I especially like the intro. Sad, it doesn't have to come to that point. I also like this music "Love Doesn't Ask Why" by Celine Dion.

    I'm from Philippines, though this is Asia, discrimination of cousing rel could be worse here than anywhere else due to the fact that we are mostly catholics.

    I still can't tell, whether the future will be good for us or not, we are talking like friends again, exchanging emails regularly. And that's good I think. I still have to see her to know the truth.

    She's showing signs of deep affection towards me on her blog. Of course, she didn't mention my name(that would be foolish, LOL), but there are clues...(well, I really hope it's me she's talking about!!) She's very intelligent, but very reluctant to reveal her true feelings for me.

    Well I'm thinking, she's afraid to tell because she thinks I might say "oh, you're weird!!", well I feel the same thing too. I dunno where to begin, how to admit my feelings for her too. I she wasn't my cuz, that would sooo eaasy.

  1. burn

    burn

    Sep 21, 2005

    hi eng, sue, just another girl inlove, and everyone inlove with their cousins,
    my cousin and I are very much inlove, but our families dont know. she lives overseas, and the last time i was there, we were inseperable, we managed to hide it from everyone when i was there, now im back here, and shes still overseas, we started thinking of merraige, it has been about 5 months since the last time i saw her, we are still inlove very very much so, im going there again in 2 months. I realise that if i were to marry her, her family and my family will not agree, and because i know i will not be strong enoughe to handle the preasure, i decided that i am not going to continue this, it breaks my heart, but if i know that i wont be able to make her happy in a long run, then theres no point. the only advice i can give u all, is if u dont think u will be happy in a long run then dont do it. i still dont know what to do, i still love her, and i cant think of loving anyone else, not now anyway, but i know, its not the way to go for me. For everyone who had to courage to go through with it and are happy, i congratulate u, for the ones who arent sure, wait untill u are Good luck.

  1. JusAnotherGrLInLove

    JusAnotherGrLInLove

    Sep 21, 2005

    burn~ I jus don't get it at all...how can u advice wat u advice, wen u feel wat u feel? u don't think it's rite for u? tho both of u love each other so much. u think ur family will banish u forever? I mean if ur 2 good ppl, how can they hold a grudge against this kinda love foreva? as sad as it would b, to miss ur family, I kno i would if they dint talk to me, but I do not think that they will not miss me bak. I mean how can u completely hate someone on that basis? and as long as in the long run u dont think ur love for ea. other will change, then wat can b better? im sorry to say, but if u decide to call it quits, even get caught up wit another grl, U WILL neva eva forget that U could have had somthin wit ur cous, but that u coudlnt go thru wit it. and memories like love that was unfinished, they cannot b erased, and not only that but they'll haunt u. ULL Have to completely leave ur family then. cuz u cannot bring ur new wife/gf into the family, and xpect to present her casually to ur cous. UR feelings will not die. not if u end it cuz UR still in love but U cannot bear to face family. someone will find out, and U may hurt the grl ur wit. I guess im jus sayin to think it thru completely, and not to give up so easily, and to ofcourse follow ur heart. cuz unless u guys plan on stayin unmarried for life, I dunno how u can drop each other like that.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 21, 2005

    u guys .. JusAnotherGrlInLove is all right about what she said to burn.. How could u (for those who called quits) to move on without thinking about ur cousin that u will see at family gathering... it will feel awkward and you would create boundaries and would cause much attention to people why u not talking.. I mean I don’t expect to talk to my baby if we break up knock on wood, y bcuz if we did talk everything would come back feeling wise. If u all called quits don’t ever be where ur loved one is, as I said all u’ll feel is sadness... it happened to me.. That how I felt. We both wanted to talk, and when we did we got back then we broke up then I called bcuz I couldn’t continue life without talking to him. It’s very tough to face the family. For me it is somewhat, but his parents are doing their best to hook him with others so we would break apart. Im afraid that he meets that girl and gets married. It’s painful. But is in for right now everything is ok between us we don’t talk about things like that we just talk in general about things…………………………….. What u guys think will happen to us? Will we marry or no? I feel like goin to a path reader to know everything about my love life and see if we are going to be together at the end …

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 22, 2005

    For those who'd like to break the news to their parents, DON'T, BUT!! I think there's a possible way to 'TEST' the waters.

    Here's what I did, I told my parents that my cuz is staying the whole week in our home, but we don't have enough rooms, so I told them that I offer my bed to her... and I'm going to sleep beside her, LOL!!

    It seems that my parents weren't so alarmed by my statement, they just simply told me, she's my cuz, it's bad to do that, but they didn't told me it's a sin!! Of course, later on, I told them It's only a joke.

    Earlier, I revealed to my parents, how I missed her, how miserable I felt when she left... They told, I shouldn't, she's my cuz, I never told them I'm in love with her.. I never told them anything, but seems they suspected we're both in love with each other, perhaps it's simply because, my parents saw us laughed together, put my arms around her, my cuz, lying down in sofa beside me(vice versa), my cuz talk to me in a very seductive voice etc.

    To conclude, joking about it to your parents or displaying to your parents a hint of affection, might give you a picture of how your parents might react if you blow it all out.

    BUT STILL I THINK MY RECOMMENDATION IS STILL DANGEROUS, BETTER KEEP IT SECRET, PROCEED AT YOUR OWN RISK, YOU'VE BEEN WARNED!! YOU CAN GET MARRIED IN SECRET ANYWAY, SO WHAT'S WITH ALL THE CRAP!! LOL!!

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 22, 2005

    JusAnotherGrlInLove.. You sounded just like my cuz. I wish to reveal my feelings to her, but I'd like to do that up front, IN HER FACE, not in emails, etc. Stuff like that could be misinterpreted, but not sincere words.

    But I still had my doubts, she's still studying in the university and I don't want to affect her concentration in studying. By admitting my feelings, I could possibly end up ruining her education(I don't want to happen). I don't know what to do this time.

    I need some advice at this point. I still have a couple weeks 'til I see her again and admit or not my feelings for her :( BTW, Thanks JusAnotherGrlInLove, your advices has been most helpful :)

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Sep 22, 2005

    failure!!! someone's using your name. cuz the last one you wrote (the one where u said i sound like ur cuz) that sounds like u, but the one right before seems like someone else wrote it. Can u confirm that for me failure. LOOKks like the guy who isn't u, who used ur name, IS a smart ass. YEa thanks whoever u r, for lettin us kno how to test the waters. i mean grow up. some of us love our families, and we don't mean to destroy anythin, and if some temporary disaster occurs, we hope it gets fixed, but that is not gonna stop the lovve.
    Failure ( the real one)~ I think u really should do it to her face as well. I mean i had some emails before, and they jus scared me and made me red in the face. U can b extra sweet in ur emails and chat. but do the sincere heart to heart to her face. she will appreciate it. i kno u said u did research, but did she take time to look @ it? I mean the question is, does she TRully LOVe u, and woudl she go crazy over u if u were not her cous? IF yes, U have nothin to lose by tellin her. she will come around, is wat i think. Which human doesnt like feeling Loved>? u mite not wanna b too pushy in ur words. jus say look i kno how hard this will b, but i feel as long as i have u, i can face anythin. and i dont kno where i can find another grl like u , honestly I can't(my guy used that sooooo much in the beginning and i said shut up, ur jus not lookin, There have to b other grls out there for u) but u kno wat, everytime he said there's no grl like u, it reallie did get to me. and he was really sincere, i could tell by the way he said it. he went out of his way to see me, take care of me, to jus b with me. I Love him so much. hope ur love meets u bak in the next few weeks.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 22, 2005

    aww JusAnotherGrlInLove.. ihope my guy is like ur guy.. when we fight and talk about ourselves in this relationship he tells me there are so many guys out there that deserve ur love.. the last time we broke up hes like i dont deserve ur love.. i told my cousin ( his best friend ) hes like if he really cares and loves u he'll face his parents ... but i dont see taht.. my friends awlways say there are more fishes in the sea.. but they dont know that i love my coz and i want to spend every sec with him..... what the hell is goin to happen in the future ? people always put me down .. i cant take it... sometimes he doesnt show me effection bcuz he realize that im his coz.. i dont its crazy its hunting me down. i just hope his parents change thier mind so he could realize that im the one...............

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 23, 2005

    JusAnotherGrlInLove.. I also wrote it, please exercise extreme caution when 'testing the waters'. My parents got a little suspicicious about us. I told them, there's nothing wrong with loving a cousin. I explained them the kind of love you give to a best friend not a lover. They seemed to have bought my explanation. Good news is, she's still allowed to stay in our home, if I insisted. As much as they care for her, like their own daughter, they also hate her to be around me.

    I really can't wait to tell the truth to her personally...

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Sep 23, 2005

    sue~ yea wat they say bout there's plenty of fish in the sea is Bullshit. think of it as finger prints ok, no 2 ppl have the same. well the links that form b/w any 2 individuals can't every b xctly alike. one of my frineds told me this, and now i trully belive it. i can find a great guy, but i dunno if i can find a better guy for me than my baby. and U kno sue, it's sad that he says u derseve better. cuz my guy would say tons of sweeet things, he'd say that any guy would want u, but HE always makes a poin that I am the best for u, i will take care of u like no other, and NO one is better than me for u. so HE will not ever admit, even if it were true. I kno it's kinda painful, but i think u have no choice but to wait. to c if his ignorant parents will finally come around. so ur other cousin is like a buddy to u? yea i kno it must b hard to b in ur position. best luck.

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Sep 23, 2005

    OH wow failure..so u really did test the waters by being that fwd wit ur parents?!?! that's crazy. tell me how it goes wen u meet her in person and try it out. it's great that ur strong enuf to insist she can stay, and ur parents listen. women love strong men, who can stand up to their parents if necessary (esp. in our situations!) GOOD luck.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 23, 2005

    JusAnotherGrlInLove . i can no longer wait....i bet u they'll never except me... hes not excepting that fact bcuz of his parents but we are intimate ? what the hell is that ............ its driving me nuts....

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Sep 23, 2005

    sue~ well i sure hope he's not using u, jus cuz he knows that u love him, and would do anythin fo him. It can never b one sided. u deserve the same devotion u give him, and if he cannot give it to u, then I dont think u should take it. ur better than that. i'm tellin u, IT is an xcuse for him to say that his parents won't xcept so he wont. Love has to b bigger than that, it jus has to. I mean LOOK if he does love u, and he doesnt want to hurt his rents, then there is the 3rd option. and that is HE never marries, but if HE is every thinkin bout lookin @ the diff. grls that his parents r bringin to him, than His love is not true to u, and u should leave him. cuz i mean think bout it, if he loves u so much, and that is one thing stooppin him, thenfine he can save the embarrasment n wat not, but Y should he end up with another grl?!? that's completely not rite.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 24, 2005

    we talked about that.. then he says he doesnt want our offspring to blame us if we would have kids. his parents showed him to this girl she didnt want and he told me that hes not thinkin about that.. i asked him why do u come and see me and spend hours on the phone when u dont want to hurt me, hes like im attracted to u and stuff. i mean he just left from my house... i told him i feel like a toy hes like i cant believe u said that.. and then i told him if feel ur using me , hes like so should i feel the same way, i could think ur using me too ,, i was like im not and hes like neither do i .. and then we get very intimate and we end up in each others amrs.. and then god knows what the hell is goin to happen... i love him and i told him and hes like i dont need to pick up ur calls nor come see or take u out or pick u up or (argue hes like i dont need to argue with a person that doesnt mean nothing to me) if i didnt want to ? so i know he loves me and cares for me but my love is more stonger than his. and he always come around.. hes like i wasnt raised to marry a cousin.. i was like ur mom and dad and the whole family did.. hes like that was then and now its different i was like y cant we try and see what comes along, hes like his parents will never except.. but god this is sooooooo hard for me. why cant u helpppppppppppppppppp find my way.. for all whos reading this please pray that we marry each other i love him and cant live with out him . cant see him with another girl.

  1. annon

    annon

    Sep 25, 2005

    omg i really didnt know how many people were like me!!!!!!!ok im only 14 amd my cousin is 16 and i think im in love with him!!!it all started out playing house and things just carriried on from there!!!!when were together with our friends(were in the same group)you wouldnt know we had anything going on always setting eachother up and stuff!!!!but when were alone thats when the magic happens!!!!!!i could tell him anything we are eachothers shoulder to cry on like best friends really!!!but i dnt know how he feels though!!he does always make the first move so its not as if i push myself on him or anything but its just really hard to explain!!i told my oldest and best friend this summer and she said it all made alot of sence!!but she brought up a question i hadent even thought about was he using me??????we always talk and he said he would do anything for me and all the girls love him because he is so sound funny charming and good looking so its not as if he needs to use me!but i still cant get that question out of my head!is he???????please help me oh and please take me serious im not like most 14 yr olds!!!!!!

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 26, 2005

    i have a very sad news.. we broke up yesterday.... its very sad... for u all out there that are in love with ur cousins please and i repeat please dont get urself in trouble,..if he loves and will to do anything to please u then hes the one but if hes not willin to face his family and is not comfrtable wth the idea dont let ur feelings put u down thats what happend to me . all i ended up with is a heart broken..................

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Sep 26, 2005

    annon~ u'll kno as soon as u have or he has the courage to say out right that, hey we have a relationship here going on. and then u hafta b like any other couple n discuss limits. some r more jealous than others. personally, i think jealousy shows u HE cares. I Hope u find out how much he cares from his own mouth. but if u wanna c how exculsive u 2 r, bring in another guy n c wat he does. GOOD luck.

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Sep 26, 2005

    sue~ :'0( Ur guy must b a moron.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 27, 2005

    he said what ever to let us break. hes said he doesnt care he doesnt love me, he wants me to cry find another guy all that bull shit. we had this talk about us and he says that he is Embarrass to tell people about us and that he doesnt feel comfrotable.......... u know i trule give up.. he wants me he'll find me but this time im the one whos goin to shut those painful doors in his damn face to show him whom am i for him to treat me like that........................ such an asssssssss ahole and ima do my best to get him out of my life ... if u guys know some ways please help.........

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 27, 2005

    Sue, I think that's an enough reason to move on. You can also try busying yourself with stuff that seems or is 'more important' than falling in love.

    Stuff like music, your job, learning to play the guitar, going places by car, build airplanes, etc, etc. Try doing cool stuff, feel cool about who you are, be a star, make a difference. Learn to appreciate yourself. And above all, pray to and love God.

    It worked wonders for me, that somehow, no w I feel stuff like that feels a lot better than falling in love. The stuff makes humans superior to animals is, we have a choice, and they don't.

    To all, don't get me wrong, but I'm still hanging on. I just learned how to get my system turned on and off, according to my will. Its kinda fun (and wicked LOL). Everyone should learn it eventually in order to succeed in life and to curb suicidal tendencies. Learn to be in control!!

  1. failure

    failure

    Sep 27, 2005

    This could be my last post. Bye everyone. It's been a great time. Thanks to all :) :'o(

    Keep at what you're doing but always put God on top of everything and He'll give you the desires of your heart.

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 27, 2005

    bye failure........ i guess u found ur true love....................i'veeeeeeeeeeee givennnnnnnnn upppppppppppppppp thats it....... life is great being single for sometime...i've been in this relationship for too long its time for me to shine and do what justanotherlove saidddddddd busy myself.. i dont drive i dont work but i'll find cool ass ways to forget about himmmmmm. thats it im tireddddddddd................ so its time for me to put my head up and look for something cool to do

  1. sue

    sue

    Sep 27, 2005

    oh by the way my birthday is a week from today.

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 5, 2005

    i love my cousin

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 5, 2005

    im 18 and hes 19 and noticed i loved him after an axident he had. i felt i wanted to die when i heard. since then he has been going to my house and we talk about everything. he would tell me all his problems and i help him out, he also helps me. he confesed he loved me but i do not know if its because i helped him a lot or what. he is my fist love and only love i think. i want to be with him all the time well we have like a couple days that we have been going out. we do not plan on telling nobody but they almost cached us because my parents are very strict. he said he wants to marry me. i accepted but i want to finish school first. as of now i plan to get married with him in about 3 years. sometimes i think he doesent love me because i am not beautifull but he sais i am. even if we break up i will always love him. my birthday is comming up so hopefully he comes and see me and then i will be supper happy.

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 5, 2005

    guera.. make sure that the whole family is ok with that. look at what happened with me.. we've been together for 6 years and ended up with nothing.. yea i know not all five fingures are the same but dont give hope.. test it out..! good luck

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 6, 2005

    TO: SUE
    so sue how old are you sue cuz i read that you still do not drive, im telling you this because i also do not drive.
    but one i get my drivers licence and my car im going to be on the streets with my cousin cuz right now we cannot even talk you know cuz the parents are strict.
    hopefully we never end our relationship, cuz i love him so much you have no idea.
    right now i just want to see him.
    during the 6 years, you went out with him how were things like?
    did you guys think about the future?
    was he always asking if you guys should end?
    or did you guys acted like normal boyfriend and girldfriends and never talked about what the family might think.
    Cuz we do we think a lot about the future.
    I think alot about what people are going to say.
    He sais that he doesent care what people say he only cares about me and him.
    he sais that he thinks im going to be the first one to say were over because family means a lot to me.
    its true for me its very important what example im giving to my younger sisters.
    I DONT EVER WANT TO LET GO.
    what do you think SUE do you think its going to last.
    GUERA

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 6, 2005

    he also sometimes doesent show love because he realizes were cousings and I also do that.
    before he used to tell me we should be have other paertners and still be together so that we can be happy but i didi not accept. Now that he sked me to marrie him he sais he doesent want me talking to other guys.
    what do you think SUE
    guera

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 8, 2005

    i hope ur relationship will end happy.. mines didnt.! we acted normal but still talked about the family. u know how u said ur family means alot to him and u wont do anything to get them mad at u.. well thats how my ex was.. he always cared about what people might say or do.. i never cared bcuz i wanted the relationship to last for marrige. umm u said he wants to marry u ? well u got to test it out and see how will everyone else react.. yea i dont drive yet.. ur couz doesnt have a car? where r u from ? from ur name i could tell ur mexican no ? if u guys are happy and wants to marry each other go right ahead but her in chicago u cant marry u gotta go to other state.. ( do some research and find out ) let him prove to u how much he loves before u fall for it........! for me we had happy days but most of it we argued about ending it but i never gave up i did what it takes for us to be together but as u can see ... we broke up ! i dont know anything about him for two weeks and havent seen him also..... he always told me to see other guys bcuz he knew he didnt wanna marry me ..( u got a whole different case ) !!!!!!!! i still love him but what do u think will happen at the end .. will we end up together or broken off ?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 11, 2005

    well yes i do am mexican and my cousin does drive well he bearly started since the axident. Im going to test him to see how much he really loves me. I live in california and you can marry cousins here so thats cool. I can imagine how i would feel if we broke up. I think I would die. If you say you havent talked to him for two week that crazy. i think than when you see him you guys might end up together if you know what i mean. Cuz you cant hide a feeling that big. If he really loves you. Were are you from and how old are you? If ypou miss him call him.

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 11, 2005

    guera.. u said ur 18 how old is ur cousin .. 19 ? i am the same age as ur . i8.. ima arabian and i live in chicago.! u didnt tell me how long have u guys been together ? i've been with mine for 5:6..! i love him..but the thing is him! u could reread what i wrote.! hes not wanting our relationship.! i do miss him and i dont wanna call.! i wanna see if he would come back for me who i use to do.! im the one who always gotten back not him so its time for him to pay off... if he wants ! im just checking if he loves me .!i have a feelin he does have feelings but hes confusing himself.! i dont blame him . all this happened just when i came to the usa... i dont if things are ment to be let it and if not let it goooooooooooooooooo! so u go ahead and check the water see if he loves u for who u are not just ur body or anything like that ( u know what i mean ) well good luck with things !!!!!!!!

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 11, 2005

    hi sue
    i think he doesent love me for my looks because im fat... i told him i did not want to get mad with him because i was scared we would end and he said that if we got mad then he would try to bring us back together because he cant live without me... i say you make him get gelous so that he sees you have other options and maybe he comes back... cuz i kind of did that and know he loves me more because at the beggining he was confused now all he does is think about me... let you cuz know that your moving on and maybe he will come back... you can try... if that doesent work i cant think of anything else that will... we been together a week and 4 days...its almost nothing i know but i have faith it will last for ever... your situation has me scared i do not want to be with him for 6 years and end it all in nothing... but if its true love then you guys will find each other some other time trust me... love just doesent die it lives for ever in your heart even if you marry another man... Forget about calling him let him call you if he is going to call if not then I think you really need to get over him........Guera

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 11, 2005

    guera..! u guys just started going out.! looks arent always the key to relationship ..he loves u for wahts inside of u.. bcuz ur giving the love and caring to his heart!!!! so what should i do.. i think about him every second.. i dream about him .. i dont wanna call i want him to call if he is goin to.! i give up i wanna see if he comes back for me .! but u said something about my opptions ? waht are those .. waht should i do ?????????? i cant see him with another girl and i cant be with another bcuz i love him.!!!! i wouldnt wanna hurt myself

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 12, 2005

    SUE
    dont do anything stuped... do not hurt your self...so he was your first guy right because you say you are the same age as me and you went out with him for 6 years that a long time so you were 12 when you started going out... I think that since you guys grew now you guys think different so that the reason you guys ended... maybe it is time for you to move on to another guy because your cousin took most of your teenageyears so know go on and enjoy your self... dont get me wrong you can say that my cousin is my first boyfriend but its different because i wouldent talk to guys because of a problem i had but he helped me get over it... i know how you feel when you see them with other girls i know how much it hurts but if he doesent come back to you you are going to have to get used to it... if i were to be in your shoes i would have killed my self already... but of cource you should not do that...give him a little more time maybe like 2 weeks so that he can assimilate loosing you and then if he doesent call...you need to really get over him... i had told a frien about my situation and she defenetly said i was crazy know she doesent even trust me, so i lied and told her i had ended with him...what do you think about that...but she also told another of my good friends and she said that shit like that happened because she had girl cousins that were in love with their guy cousins but she thinks im done with him and she said i would soon get over him...i feel bad for lieing to my firnds but if i tell them the truth they are never going to understand... I wounder what my friend that said shit happens would say if i told her i was still going out with him... i want to tell her but im confused i have no idea what to to... i just wish that people supported my feelings... just please do not hurt your self because maybe he never loved you and he is not worth the sacrifice...
    GUERA

  1. eng

    eng

    Oct 13, 2005

    ok i have a question for all u couzin luvers...all i wanna know is what is yours and your cuzins zodiac signs???...please tell me i just wanna see something :) thanx and good luck

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 13, 2005

    im a libra and he is a sagittarius... what is it you want to see... tell me what you find out...

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 13, 2005

    ima a libra and hes a leo.!!!!!!!! what is it that ur finding out.. can u give us the website for it too ..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. eng

    eng

    Oct 13, 2005

    k whoa!! thats weird i'm a LIBRA too and hes libra....there is no website anywhere i'm just wondering to see if we like our cuzins becuz of the zodiac signs....it turns out sooo far that fire(saggitarius and leo...) and air (libra) match really well together (i already knew it i just wanna see more proof)....k that was weird!!!!!

  1. eng

    eng

    Oct 13, 2005

    are we all libras or something???? this is too funny but wierd

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 14, 2005

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  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 14, 2005

    ive heard that libras do good together... i wanted to know if sagittarius and libras went good together also can you please give us the website... waz up with us libras i thought we were very balanced people... i thought we always knew right from wrong and good from bad... I guess we do cuz there is no better love than the one we are feeling right girls... maybe at the end we are really balanced and we are doing the right thing...

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 14, 2005

    lol we are all libras ..! we are very balanced and loving .!arent we ?

  1. eng

    eng

    Oct 15, 2005

    k guys...just to let u know that those matches libra and leo and even saggitarius can last for a realy long time together...so u girls are a great match with ur hunnies....trust me....there is no specific website i go to just so u know....i just love astrology and deal with it a lot!!! its my passion...so if u guys wanna know about a match i'll tell ya! (i'm not saying i'm da best but...i'm almost there!!:)

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 15, 2005

    eng.. i think we got the same passion.! i spend lots of time on astrology.~ takin love tests and all that.. but the question is do u believe in it ? are they true ? bcuz i dont know if i believe in it but i doo sometimes find myself so into it believing what they have.!!!! like today we broke up!! 22 day ! wow.. do u guys think we might get back ?

  1. eng

    eng

    Oct 17, 2005

    relationships between a leo and a libra is very strong...so there is a definite possibility that u guys will get bak together...because leo and libra is eternal...and yes astrology is now like a religion for me....because i peoplle who have the same zodiacs i'v noticed have so much of the same characteristics...so definetly i beleive....also don't 4 get there are also many other things involved like rising signs that u have to know too for example; i'm libra with leo rising sign (it is how u appear to others the rising sign) so me with another leo might not go because 2 leos will kill each other unless he had a libra rising sign....then we would be in harmony....but the leo i had kinda been with had scorpio rising sign...which was a bad mix!!! get it??? find ur rising sign by knowing the exact time u were born...good luck with ur man sue

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 17, 2005

    i hope we get together for good.! so ur sayin the same signs dont get along.!? whish astrology site do u go to ? so u think libra and leo are eternal ? god i hope so ! i haven been checkin my horoscopes ! but i believe in it !

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 17, 2005

    well i like horoscopes also and mostof the time the stuff is true not always exactly but very simmilar things do happen. ENG tell me about me and my cousin hes a saggitarius and im a libra a as you know. for SUE you never know maybe it was him maybe he wants to know how you are doing. have faith SUE. good luck guys with your babies.

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 17, 2005

    so u really think it was him,....if it was him he would have called again ! i dnt know im really tryin to have faith as best as i can but people tell me to 4get him.! i love him and i always think about him ..this whole day today he didnt get off of my mind ! i hope he thinks about me still !!!!!!!

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 18, 2005

    Sue
    have faith everythink will be ok.
    i know the feling of thinking about them all day.
    Guera

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 18, 2005

    i hope somethin happen ( something really good )..... i've been having these feelings and i dont know if they true or not.. i just dont wanna put my hopes up ... i want him back but then why would i want him back if he doesnt wanna marry me ? i hope he realize what he's missing bcuz i already do! and im in pain!

  1. eng

    eng

    Oct 18, 2005

    guerra*** libra and saggitarius are about on the same level as libra and leo because they are both fire signs (leo, saggitarius,aries)remember that air (aqaurius.libra and gemini) get along most with fire because both fire/air have chemistry...its really hard for water/fire to be mixed because water kills the fire therefore there is no chemistry between those signs....just think of it that.....sue i don't go to a specific website...i just gather everything i read and make sense of it...so there are many sources...its easy to find...just type in google "libra woman and leo man" or whatever...remeber this for relationships..................fire/air and water/earth these are the best relationships for when u wanna stick wit someone for along time....those are the basics...of course after u have to look at the rising signs cuz maybe a couple won't get along because of these...there are many things involved but its soooo complicated/....any questions?

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 18, 2005

    wow as u said its sooo complicated but as u said our too signs get together..! thats all i need to know lol....! but i shouldnt think about us anymore if theres no relationship right ???????

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 18, 2005

    im not sure about waht im goin to say but thats what my mom told me..! my mom thinks that my ex ( my cousin ) parents are tryin to hook him up with the same girl that they were trying to get together about 10 months ago..! my mom thinks the girls wants to get to know him but what do u guys think? this sunday i went to church andi happened that he was there too.. and guess what we were matching..! in the basement after church people gather. the girl didnt leave our table with her mom and he was there.. i was teaching sunday school... do u guys think theres something goin on or ? should i move on with my feelings or still have faith that we may get back ?

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 19, 2005

    guera how did ur date turn out ?

  1. FRANCO

    FRANCO

    Oct 21, 2005

    I want to tell you my problem.
    I live in ecuador , but I love my cousin who lives in Chicago, i'm not sure if she loves me, but I feel that I´m going crazy.
    Help please

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 21, 2005

    Fanco maybe u should tell her how u feellllllll ! it will make u feel better !

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 22, 2005

    FRANCO
    yes tell her what you feel and that way she will tell you what she feels...
    i know the feeling of going crazy.......

  1. FRANCO

    FRANCO

    Oct 23, 2005

    Very thanks for your help friends, I will try to tell her my feelings, it’s easier to say than do it :) .
    although I believe that my parents will not understand my feelings for her .
    Oh Congratulations for this forum , you are very intelligent persons who understand the meaning of LOVE .

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 23, 2005

    yes we do know how it feels bcuz we had been through the same problem! i know its not easy so u gotta step up and tell her how u feel.. u aint gonna lose nothin ! u nevre know if she feels the same way or not ! as i said go ahead and tell her and dont worry about ur parents..bcuz if they love u they'll understand . but it'll take lots of times ...! so i say u go for it ! and good luck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 26, 2005

    how is everyone doing.....
    its going great with me...

  1. sue

    sue

    Oct 26, 2005

    hey guere i see ur happy.. whats been up ? i got some news for u !

  1. guera

    guera

    Oct 26, 2005

    email me the news sue...
    did you guys get back or what....
    ill be waiting for your email....

  1. pwLa

    pwLa

    Oct 29, 2005

    hey uh, ive pretty much always loved my 1st cuzin since we were kids. but i dunno if she loved me. not till i was 13 did we actually confess to each other. thanks to my older bro who helped us out greatly. the good thing is, we all live in NY, our entire large family. but i live like 30 min away from her, 40 min wit traffic or possible more. but its nothing compared to wut u all go thru, ive seen u guys talking about living in different countries, im blessed, thank god. but we dont meet too often, sometimes we meet 2-3 times in 2 months, or we meet once in 5 months. it relaly depends. mostly we meet on religious purposes, which sux cuz it gets stupid sometimes, dont wanna get into religious details.

    she just slept over very recently, and it was perhaps the greatest time of my life. we eventually got alone, and we had a serious makeout session for some time. and what i love mostly is not that shes sexi and she has nice kisses, is that she does everything to get a chance to be with me. we're absolutely in love with each other. we recently had a serious discussion on what to do about letting others know. we are trying to make a first step into telling her brother. problem is, her bro found out a year ago and we had to break up. but i was youg, and i made a vow to her to fight till the end. last time i gave up too easily, but this time (we hooked up again, our love just couldn't be broken that easily) im rdy to do wut it takes to win my sexi from her family, and to win everyones hearts and get everyone to agree with what i wish.

    but its not just me, she wants it too, we both want to someday get married and have children. but thats not important, whats important is how to further our love from just secret meetings here and there to a more open setting. people will find out eventually, and i dont want her brother to "find out" i wanna confront him face to face and tell him. im the man of the relationship, its my duty, but not only my duty, its also what i want, and what she wants as well.

    as JustAGrlinLove said earlier, if anyone knows anyone or if u are that someone who actually told everyone about their love with a cousin, and got approved for it, how did they do it and all? please reply if u do know.

    once again, its great to kno im not alone.

  1. LoStLoVe

    LoStLoVe

    Nov 3, 2005

    Hi everyone, I would like to share my thoughts and feelings about this girl. She is my father's father's sister's son's daughter, which means she is my long distant cousin. The first time I saw her was at the airport. When I saw her, I saw love. I am not young anymore. She is 4 years younger than me. I am really like her. I met her again 2 weeks ago. we chat and having diner together. No the problem is my father objects me to live with her as we are blood related. However, the girl and I have different surnames and can't a long distant cousin be together? Please advice.

  1. XxXx

    XxXx

    Nov 4, 2005

    i love my cousin 2...
    we had a realy romantic time together but i had to go to another country to study...
    i really miss him...
    my family keeps saying i cant fall in love with him but i have feelings for him...
    i really love him..
    i tell everyone i hate him now because he's got another girlfriend but actually i really love him...
    i felt heart broken when i heard he had another girlfriend....:(

  1. sue

    sue

    Nov 5, 2005

    hey everyone..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxx see maybe u didnt tell him how u felt/feel about him so he didnt know if it would hurt u if he had a gf ! ( maybe when u went to that other country u gives didnt keep in touch and things happened.) i think u should talk to him and see whats up with that !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Nov 6, 2005

    LostLuv and XxXx...so how did your parents come to know about your romances? was it an accident..or did u let em know, because u felt it was time to declare ur love?....I'm so afraid of my outcome..my baby is coming over for dinner today because his parents are outta town and relatives tend to take care of each other...IT"S gonna quite awkward bcoz b4 my bro would mediate..but he no longer is at home...I wish i could jus tell em....So if U 2 could plz tell me how they came to know (ur family)...I would appreciate it....I want know the best way to break it to my family...truht is...I will b with my baby foever...I jus want the process to b a little less tense...i kno we're strong enuf to do it...but I want eventual consent so badly!

  1. Sike

    Sike

    Nov 6, 2005

    K i love my cousin but she doesn't know i ask her like two weeks ago and she said that i scared her. i ask her sister to tell her. We are 1st. cousins and we always see each other every other week wat should i do. She very pretty and i always like her since i was 13 and now im 16 and she 16 too, but i don't know wat to do? should i ask her if she wants to go out? or should i jus forget about her?

  1. Carlos

    Carlos

    Nov 7, 2005

    Here is my love story.when i was a little kid like five six years old my cousin visited us in mexico but she live in the us meaning we did'nt see each other as often like every 6 months or so. Years passed and unfortunaly i forget about her bcuz i moved to a big city so she didn't went to visit me as often now its was like every 2 years. Eventually i got olther and i moved to Las Vegas with my family. At first i didn't know were my cousin live but i knew she live in the US. When we got our house my dad sent me to my friend's house in Los Angeles. Our destenies were to be met at some point cuz when i went to the store by myself to buy some candy i met this beautil girl she was the perfect girl the girl of my dreams. I got to know her i asked her name and we got along. After two or three days i asked her out but she never said nothing cuz i came back to Las Vegas i didn't even asked her phone number i just knew her name and last name. Her family lost their jobs so they moved here to Las Vegas and live across from my house. At first it was wierd cuz too much luck but then i found out that my dad got her dad a job which unfortunally was my uncle and she was my cousin. That night i got really sad. She never came out i tried to knock on their door but they were never home. After a 1 year my parents and their parents got along and we always saw each other each week. My feelings were the same for her. And now i want to ask her out but i don't know if its right to ask your cousin out. i don't if she likes or not but we play around alot when im at her house and if i ask her out i think she going to say that im nuts...Wat should i do?

  1. sue

    sue

    Nov 8, 2005

    lol... awwwwwwwww what a story.! well ask her out ! nothin wrong with datin ur coz......! its not forbidden .. its very normal! just have the guts to tell her how u feel and things will be great !

  1. guera

    guera

    Nov 8, 2005

    2 carlos
    tell her what you feel....my couisin after confesing he loved me he said he did not ask before because he thought i would say he was nuts...but right now we are together and its been great...i loved him so i did not think he was nuts...you never know if she feels the same for you...you have to ask or else you will always live wondering what could of happened....i once read that you regret things you did in the past but you regret more the things that you did not do... good luck..
    2 sue
    how have you been...how are things going...has he called or did you call him because you could not wait for his call...well hopefully everything is ok...
    bye bye
    bee happy

  1. Sike

    Sike

    Nov 9, 2005

    Haven't asked her get. But i told her 25 year old sister to ask her if she want to go out with a cousin (me) Sshe hasn't called me yet so i don't know wat she said.I had to take things by myself so i asked her out like two days ago in the internet cuz we were chatting online and i said if she wanted to go out with at first she said yeah sure i was really happy like after 30 sec. she said that she was playing around cuz she thought i was playing around. i felt heart broken......She called me like an hour after that and she said that if i was ok cuz she was confused..i told her i was just playing too so she wouldn't get mad...I didn't wanted to tell her wat i felt for her in the phone. Is cuz see i play around with her alot so she thought i was playing around.....Im going to forget i about her for a few months then she is going to miss me cuz we have alot of fun together......Im going to Mexico next summer and im not going to talk to never then she is going to come to me... and when she does she is going to see a big difference in my body and face......She is really pretty so i guessed im going get like her loose some pounds and be cutter i guess then she going to see a big difference....Wat do you think should i do it for get about her for 6-7 months? Wat should i do? help i relly like her alot i mean alot cuz she is so nice and pretty should i sacrife myself forgeting about for a few months.....And i now she likes me cuz im her favorite cousin and the one who's right there for her...She used to like me when we were kids like 5-6-7 year old...but i think she doesn't like me cuz of my looks so im goign to be at her level.....?

  1. Whitie.....

    Whitie.....

    Nov 9, 2005

    My cousin Angelica is the prettiest girl on earth and the finest too....I love her but we can't b 2gether kuz i dont know if she likes me or not....should i ask her out kuz mayb she think im nuts or crazy and she will say no and im afraid of that kuz i know she will but never tried her. She lives in North Las Vegas and i live in Las Vegas and its pretty far so we don't see each ather as often and im afraid she going to get a boyfriend before me telling her how i feel.....Wat should i do?

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Nov 17, 2005

    I Love my baby so MUch..hope everyone's romances are treating them well...with my cousin..iT NEVA gets old and we're goin on 3yrs..:0) SMILE cuz u kno ur gettin taken care of right by him/her...jus forget wat the world thinks...if it's meant to b it will b...and if ur havin thoughts bout it...it may b...and if both confess...the beginning may b hard..but the remainder will b pure heaven :0)...juS LOVE if it's love ull get past it all...take it from someone who was very weirded out in the beginning...i think ive become a less judgmental person cuz of it..and U Should all b who u r..n if u can b best who u r w/ ur cous...let it happen...take the initiative...uve gotta mean it to do this...and if u do this, then u mean it....my love & support to anyone havin doubts n goin thru this hardship...but its so minor compared to the immense love u coudl b havin <3

  1. GND

    GND

    Nov 18, 2005

    I (19) love her and she (16) loves me too,
    the problem is that I'm living with her in her parent's house (8000 km away from my house) and i'm scared to make a move, if my aunt or someone in the house knows it...I probably would have to go back to my country. (without any degree)
    and i've just been here for nearly 3 months (i'm supposed to be here until I finish the university studies...at least 4 years)

    i stopped talking to her for some days just wondering if i could get her out of my mind but it didn't work

    should I have a secret love while risking my future?
    what should I do???

  1. Nikon

    Nikon

    Nov 19, 2005

    I fell in love with my cousin we have other cousins married in the family but I dont y my relationship with her is frowned upon

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Nov 19, 2005

    GND~ This seems like a difficult situation...cuz it would b hard to carry out a relationship livin w/ ea. otha....perhaps u can go on being great friends wit her...let ur eyes tell ea. other that u love the other..but dont verbally confess it till u move out...unless there's a way u can get married in secrecy (if u love ea. otha this much!) oh and is cousin marriage forbidden in ur family also?..which culture is it?....how do u kno you love ea. other?...has she given u enough clues?...ur guys's ages r the same exact ages me and my guy were when he first confessed to me his love...WISH u much luck

  1. riska

    riska

    Nov 21, 2005

    this is juz a stern warning to all who luv ther cuz. God won't punish ya fer doing et, but... if d other 1 is not ready to accept et, doesn't really care much. DON'T PURSUE d relationship, ur ya'll head into ruin, despair ya'v neva bfor seen ur experienced ur entire lyf.

    ya must genuinely luv each uther for this thing ta werk ur else, ya'll be rubbish. tink ferst, luv 2nd

  1. Hey

    Hey

    Nov 22, 2005

    Me and my first cousin are going out is it bad for me to have sex with my cousin? Help.....We been going out for like 3 years and never had sex and were going to get marry and we don't know if its bad to have sex or not......Please help..........Thanx

  1. GND

    GND

    Nov 22, 2005

    everything is going to waste,

    I think I really love her, and she keeps telling me that she also does, i haven't done anything so everything's getting cold but i don't know if it can be like this anylonger 'cause each time i see her i can't think in anything else than go and kiss her.

    I don't know how much longer i can resist.
    this is just killing me

    J.A.G.I.L ~ the cousin marriage in my family isn't explicitly forbidden but it isn't expilicitly accepted either (is one of those things u don't talk about) so I don't know what my Aunt would do if we start going out. anyway i'm not thinking in marriage right now.

    thx

  1. Hey

    Hey

    Nov 24, 2005

    To: THX Mmmmm this is like my situation. Wat you should do is when you see her walk up to her and tell her how you feel and i know is hard to say but thats wat love its about you know. Jux say that you love her and you want to go out with her she will tell you her feelings about you and maybe you guys can go out without your psrents or her parents to know thats wat im doing. When you guys see each other act normal like cousins do, and when you guys have some time alone tell her how you feel.......

  1. Danielle

    Danielle

    Nov 27, 2005

    hey things happen unexspectedly. you didnt exspect to fall in love with your cousin ,but you did so embrace it. Forget what people say. They dont know how your feeling. go to a web site called CousinCouples.com it wil help you out alittle bit.

  1. Jerry

    Jerry

    Nov 27, 2005

    loving your cousin is not bad. Ive always been attracted to my cousins and i cant stop that. One of them always tried to get us alone, we never did anything. I told both of them how i felt and they felt the same way. I guess i was too scared to do anything but if the opportunity ever comes up, im going to go for it. They are very hot woman, one is 20 and the other is 22. For anyone who wants to be with their cousin, ethier emotionally or sexually...you should just do it.

  1. Jeo

    Jeo

    Nov 28, 2005

    i have feeling for my cousin and think that she feel the same but not 100% sure. How should i go about telling her my feeling because am afraid that if she not what i think then it be a big mess. Am looking for professional advise here.

  1. chuy

    chuy

    Nov 28, 2005

    I have 3 cousins who are very attractive to me. They used to always mess around with eachother but the odd thing was that two of them were sisters. They used to always ask me if i thought their boobs were big or how their but looked in certain pants. We all used to change clothes around eachother and we thought nothing of it. But one time when they were changing, they started to make out and i was freakin out. I didnt know what to think. Things escalated and we ended up having an orgy. Till this day its been on my mind and this only happend once. It was all too weird. Even though my cousins are super hot i kinda wish that never happend because we really cant look at eachother in the eye anymore. So for anyone out ther who wants to get it on with their cousin, if youre willing to get unexpected looks, gripes, or concerns; or if your concience eats you up, youll have to put up with that for the rest of youre life.

  1. Hi

    Hi

    Nov 29, 2005

    I really like this cousin of mine. She is really sweet and pretty, but i don't know if its right to like your cousin or not. I heard that is a sin to marry your cousin i heard it from this pastor. Please help.

  1. XxXx

    XxXx

    Dec 2, 2005

    Re : JusAnotherGrlInLove

    actualli my friend(who i think is a les becoz she sed dat she fancis me)told them.....she denied it but i know...

    i love him so much!!!....everyday i hear the things going on with him and these girls...i've probably cried everyday..!!...ahhh...

  1. tarin

    tarin

    Dec 6, 2005

    hey,
    i am in the same situation as you. i am in love with my cousin that i just met and i cant stop how i feel. i know he feels the same about me but we dont know what to do cuz of ignorant people and what they think. i mean i dont care but he might. then the thing is we are both hooked up with somebody else. i hope i am not alone cuz it would be nice to have a fried.

  1. Hey

    Hey

    Dec 6, 2005

    To Tarin:
    Well right now im going out with my cousin and i know how hard is it to tell your cousin how you feel and that people might find out.Tell him how you feel when you guys are alone. The guy you hooked up with just tell him something rather than the truth kuz he might freak out if you tell him that you want to go out with your cousin. Its ok to go out with your cousin and everything i me and my cousin have 2 years goign out and is kool kuz we share the same feelings towards each other. So just tell him how you feel i know is hard, but if you really love him than tell him. Bye

  1. sue

    sue

    Dec 8, 2005

    hey u guys..! why is it we fall for the wrong people( like our cousin's) as some of u know i've been with my coz for about 6 years.. everything is fine..but we have a problem.. when ever we argue ..we end up askin each other why is it we'r together..( bcuz he thinks its not right but yet we still together..!he always stress about it and i always tell him to let things be.. but r we ment to be or what? i mean we've been through lots..! and im afraid that things might end ( but when they do we end up back)..! its a very stressin relationship.. bcuz his family want to hook him with any girl so they could get rid of me..! i dont understand why i didnt do anything... i mean they should be happy that we both r together! i NEED HELP

  1. IAmInLoveWithWar

    IAmInLoveWithWar

    Dec 9, 2005

    Well, I'm not in much of a position to advise others, just wanted to put this out somewhere.

    The good stuff: I'm in love with my cousin (which is why I'm posting here, right? :).
    The really good stuff: She loves me too.
    The truly good stuff: She's staying with my parents and doing her studies. I'm working in a place about 8 hrs away. So, whenever I get to go home, I get to see her. She's been at my place for the past 3.5 years. I liked her from the start and cared for her. We both got along beautifully everytime we were together. Somewhere along the way, my feelings transmutated into stronger ones. The last time I came for a 1-month vacation, I could sense that her feelings to me were similar. One day, I ended up confessing to her my feelings for her, and she too confirmed that she'd felt the same about me for over a year. We spent the last 10 days of my vacation in bliss like never before.

    And now things start going downhill: our age difference is 8 years, I'm 24, she's 16. And this is what guilt-trips me: her age. I'm worried that I'm probably influencing her the wrong way, or something. Granted, from the way she's handling this, I find she's doing it in a more mature manner than me [:)].

    One evening, we'd both decided [at her prompting] that we wind down our feelings, down to the "good friends" level. However, later that night, I realized that I couldn't do that, and, in a very upset state of mind, I conveyed this to her the following day.

    That's where things stand now.

    Coming back to the city I work, I've realized that I really love her deeply, and am considering the big M. Firstly, I have to get her opinion about this [does she want to consider our relationship strong enough to consider marriage?]. Then, two (obvious) things that I see standing in our way are: 1) her age: I'll need to wait another 4 or so years (atleast), so that she can complete her undergrad studies and 2) our parents: breaking this news to them will require a lot of level headed thinking and talk.

    What's your take on this? Advice/suggestions are welcome.

    PS: I'm an Indian, and I'm not sure how Indian families (especially Christian ones) view marriages between first cousins. Advice on this is definitely welcome. Any other Indians out there in a similar predicament?

    PS2: Regarding my name, I don't really like war, its just my way of remembering her name :)

  1. ben

    ben

    Dec 9, 2005

    I have always like ma cuz since we was young she knew then coz i told her, but we started 2 h8 other after abit, the other day i meet her agen n i fort omg she is so sexy, i av her number i dunno if 2 tell her.

  1. ben

    ben

    Dec 10, 2005

    she has a bf someone please tell me wot 2 do

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Dec 11, 2005

    IAmInLoveWithWar:
    So are u american indian or east indian? so i think u have 2 things goin on...im sure it must b really hard...but i would start by finding how strongly she feels about u 2...esp bout marriage...that's very important...if she is strong enough to consider it...well then u can really cross any barrier...i plan to..as u mite kno from my previous comments...but i have no idea myself how to start this...i jus foudn out the otha day from my bro that my dad suspects again somethin is goin on b/w us..he's always rite on the dot..:0/...but he hasnt approached me bout it...my parents relaly love him as a person..so i think y would they hate him as my husband?....he's such a carin person..n they should b happy he's the one to take care of me for my life...it's nice u r concerned bout her education...u can makeit...jus make sure it's worth fitin for..that is...she loves u bak jus as much...wish u much luck :0)

  1. IAmInLoveWithWar

    IAmInLoveWithWar

    Dec 12, 2005

    JusAnotherGrlInLove: Firstly, thank you for your comments. To answer your question: I'm from India. I'm a bit confused by your statement "i think u have 2 things goin on". I'm really on a 1 track mind here :) Anyway, I guess I just misread your statement.

    I'm going home this weekend, so if I get time I'll be talking to her about our relationship and the possibility of marriage. Even thinking about how nervous I'm going to be then makes me laugh. I am hilariously lousy when it comes to this.

    Coming to your statements about your situation: from what I've seen (at the time my brother married), parents have two sets of concerns regarding a partner for their child: #1) Concerns on the lines of "Is s/he the right person for my son/daughter?"; and #2) "How will our [extended] family and society react?"

    From your comments, #1 may initially be a bitter pill to swallow, but eventually they'll come around to accepting it (especially from the realization that your cousin is a good person, and that it makes you happy).

    However, different parents have different levels of concern about #2. It would be unfair and selfish on our part to think that our happiness should be our parents only concern. Based on where you are, society has different ways of looking at a cousin-marriage (especially 1st cousins). In the US (from what I see on the net), there's some stigma associated with cousin marriages. However, over here in the sub-continent, there's been a historical precedent of cousin marriages (especially within [not between] Hindu and Muslim communities). Tackling #2 will really depend on where you are. Keep your ears open at family gatherings and see how relatives talk about 'unconventional' (unconventional for your family, that is) marriages. That'll give you a feel of how much heat your parents might catch from relatives [i.e. when your relationship is announced].

    One good way to think things through will be to put yourself in your parents shoes: assume that you're married to someone and have kids; your bro's married to someone and has kids. One of your kids loves one of your bro's kids, and comes up to you stating they'd like to get married. Take it from there. Granted, you'll be more sympathetic to your kid's proposal [cause you're in that situation currently], but doing this gives you a good 3rd person perspective to your problem.

    Hope this helps.

  1. nocole

    nocole

    Dec 12, 2005

    i am 15 years old and my cousin is 17 and im really in love with him. he kissed me and the first time i pushed him away after a second. the second time we kised for about 5 seconds is this wrong

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 13, 2005

    To: Nocole
    If your christian its very wrong,kuz in Laviticus 18(Bible) says "Do not have sexual relations with the daugther or son of your dad's or mom's sister or brother for whom they are your cousins" Well maybe this doesn't apply to you kuz you guys only kissed, but still a sin. But you can have the same love you share with your brothers or sisters. Don't worry this happens to everyone at some point and most people just leave it behind and find someone esle without knowing. Hope it helps.

  1. guera

    guera

    Dec 13, 2005

    may i know were exactly in the bible it sais those words..... you said Laviticus 18 but were exactly....

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Dec 14, 2005

    IAmInLoveWithWar~
    Sorry it's been a long time..but i was busy with final exams...well i am from india too...i had no idea if there was a history of cousin marriages or not in my culture...i jus know my parents don't like it...for the ignorant reason of: it's sick...retarded babies come from it..which by the facts is not true..there must b recessive alleles present for this to occur...
    Oh and he is my first cousin once removed..which is my dad's cousin...so there's this generation problem...he's an "elder" and im a "youngster"...but we have only a couple of yrs diff. in age...i live in cali and i kno cousin marriages r legal...however...for this matter i care not for law...thanks for advising me...i kno it'd b hard to put myself in such shoes...tho ive always had muslim friends who have many cousin marriages in their family..and have normal lives and kids..
    when i said u have 2 things goin on..i meant age difference and the fact that u r couins...but it seems u r more concerned with age...well as u mite kno...a lot of protest for gay marriages is goin on here....some ppl r concerned of couples with great age differences..and others wit a woman twice the size of a man...all their lives they will face stares...cousin marriages seem to b a lil more silent..and yet..it's a problem...i dont kno if ive convinced myself it's rite bcoz ill b doin it...but if it isn't rite..then i need to b wrong this time...
    it seems to me that it's so natural...we dont jus wake up n fall in love with ppl that really r "bro/sis" like figures in our lives...god makes it such a way...that our love is diff. for diff. relationships...and if everyone is a soul..then how is a cousin marriage unacceptable for making soulmates?
    as u mite kno indian parents can b a pain about dating and such..especially with girls...well my parents have decided that now im in college..and i can find someone..and introduce em...:'0(...this makes me really sad....cuz well i cannot do it...now that i can make em feel im in safe hands...i can't..instead i hafta snoop around in secrecy...scared at every corner...the youner generation seems ok with this..but god knows how my parents will react...
    as u said it would require lots of level headed thinking....i dont even kno where to start...he says he'll take care of it all..but..it's really scary...if u r thinking about marriage soon..and do break it to ur family..plz let mekno how it goes...thanks for ur advice...oh n r u christain or hindu or muslim?

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 15, 2005

    To: Guera

    "For whom shall not have kids does who didn't obey me" (Those who had sexual relations with their family or relatives)Laviticus 18(Bible). For you to find where exactly says that you shouldn't have any other love for your cousins rather than the same love you share with your brother or sister. You have to read the whole thing, which is about to pages to understand it. Hope it helps.

  1. sue

    sue

    Dec 15, 2005

    omg........! r u gonna tell me that we share the same feelings with our cuz as we share'em with our bros/sis ???????? i dont think it talks about that in the bible!!!!!!!!!!!! Guera dont worry about it !!!!!!

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 15, 2005

    The Bible says that YOU SHOULD LOVE YOUR COUSIN AS FAMILY NOT AS A BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND. Maybe you like your cousin rather than your bro/sis, but that doesn't mean you should love him as your boyfriend or girlfriend. Why? koz God doesn't like that and is considered as a sin. Read Laviticus 18, but read all of it. Than you will see why am i telling you this.

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 15, 2005

    Im not trying to go against you guys. I once went out with my cousin, but then i read the Bible and now i understand wats better. 1. To go out with your cousin then marry her/him and knowing your commeting a sin or 2. Love your cousin as family and find someone else to love and go to heaven? Its pretty hard to forget about your cousin and all the things you guys share together, but you know is a sin to marry your cousin and have children. "You got to die to live". Bye.

  1. guera

    guera

    Dec 16, 2005

    im with sue.... cuz i read it and it did not say anything like that... and then i also thought well we all come from adam and eve and they had children that had to be together so that they could reproduce....imagine sister with brother now thats crazy... legally its ok... and religiously in the Bible it sais do not get with relatives.... but a while back people would marry their cousins for the money and not for love and it was ok.... psycho you said you forgot about him so i guess it is was really easy for you.... i think you might not have really loved you cousin because when you do its all you think about..... i think that i will never forget him because i love him to death.... "you got to die to live" is a nice frase if you had told it to me a while back but now that i found true love im going to live my life to the max... because i know life exist here on earth and who knows about heaven and hell.... psycho have you thought that if there is no hell and heaven then that you just wasted your whole life.... and besides if you love for reals then god should be happy...he should be happy that we are in peace with our selves.... anyway religion is very complicated and we might not ever understand it... also remember that the bible was not written by god, but by gods followers which is very diffrent.... do not get me wrong i believe theres a god but the bible sais to much stuff that its confussing... i heard that helll is not even mentioned once in the bible the only one mentioned is the devil and that is only a couple of times.... really wird i think i have to read the whole bible to have my own perspective....latez... hey sue hope you are doing ok in school and in your love life...
    anyway everyone has their own ideas....
    good luck to all you peoples...

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 16, 2005

    Your right hell is not metion in the Bible, but he referres hell as a hot place with fiery flames. You are also right about that Jesus didn't wrote the Bible, but 12 deciples which Jesus told them wat to write. The 12 deciples saw wat Jesus did and wat he said and Jesus told them to keep record of his actions and word. Laviticus was written before Jesus came to earth and if you truly read this chapter God told Moses wat to teach the people of Egypt and tell them not to marry their family. So Moses wrote the laws of God in stone and brought them to Egypt so people wouldn't commit sins anymore. When Adam and Eve had children and their children had children, well as you know God send Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and told them that they could have everything they ask for. God told them that if they asked for children God would give them children without any sexual relations and if they asked for food God would give them food, but God aslo told them not to eat the fruit from the forbiden tree. But as usual mankind is so stupid that they ate the fruit. God told them not to eat it if they did they would have to suffer and women would suffer having children and men with the sweat of their hard labor would have to bring food to the house. God didn't want Adam and Eve's children to have children together (bro n sis. He warned them, but they didn't listen so thats why women have to go to th hospital to delivery babies and they'll have to suffer instead of just asking God for babies. God didn't punish the kids of Adam and Eve to have sex with each other koz somehow they had to repruduce. But now that we have the Bible and we know that God doesn't want us to have sex relations with our family, we should obey him we don't want to do wat Adam and Eve did. God wants you to live happy meaning knowing wat your doing.(if you know that cousin and cousin is a sin then your not living happy koz you know is a sin). God aslo said the whoever had children with their family their children would die at an early age. Don't just follow your heart aslo follow God.

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 16, 2005

    "You have to die to live" Meaning you have to give up some things that you really like (cousin)and follow God for then you live happy.

  1. IAmInLoveWithWar

    IAmInLoveWithWar

    Dec 16, 2005

    JusAnotherGrlInLove:
    Hey, hope you've done your exams to your satisfaction, esp. considering all that's been on your mind.

    Regarding your statement "we dont jus wake up n fall in love" I suggest you read the book "The Rule of Four" [or at least the part] where there's an explanation given on "Love Conquers All" by the narrator's father. It's brilliant, and will make you feel more comfortable and less guilty about that.

    Regarding my two worries: I'm not too worried about us being cousins, because I'm sure my parents will do enough worrying for all of us! The age thing does worry me because my cousin - being a teen - may be experiencing just a crush; and then there's no point in both of us getting all serious about it and hurting ourselves in the process. The age-old question: how do you tell a crush from love, *when* you're experiencing it? [It’s easy to differentiate the two afterwards]

    The age difference in itself is pronounced now, but will become less apparent later. Besides, her parents have a similar age difference, while my parents differ by only 2 years.

    On recessive alleles: there's two ways of looking at it. Fact: normal %age of birth defects is 2-3%, for marriages between first cousins is 4-5%. Viewpoint 1: incidence of defects for first cousins is a little higher than normal. Viewpoint 2: incidence of defects for first cousins is double the normal. Both views are right. But the second one can result in a lot of statements like "You're doubling your chances of having an 'abnormal' child! Don't you think you're being inconsiderate about the well-being of your child just because the two of you are so selfish about your love?" [Don't take this personally; this is just a sampler of what you might encounter from "well-wishers" if you're unlucky]. You may also have to field questions about the possibility of adoption, surrogate mothers, etc. to minimize the risks. Your cousin and you should discuss all of this and arrive at a decision, prior to breaking the news, because these questions will probably be raised then, or soon after.

    Also, what will you do if either his or your parents say "No way."? Is being estranged from his/your parents acceptable or not? As Indians, we place a higher emphasis on family relationships, and your decision may jeopardize some of those relationships (maybe your parents and their elders). What do you feel about that?

    "if u r thinking about marriage soon": As per my current plans, I will be talking to my cousin about it now, but will do the actual breaking of the news to our parents after she finishes her school (in a year's time). The actual marriage will probably take place some time after that (preferably after her college). Disclaimer: these are my views/timelines, I'll need to talk to my cousin about the same and see how she feels about this.

    We're both Protestant Christians. The nice thing about the Protestant Church is that there are no set rules on marriage - the law of the land is the only thing that applies, and cousin marriages are OK in India. Catholics generally need to get a dispensation (basically saying it’s OK to break a specific Catholic rule). What about you?

    Phew: end of sermon. And in case you're wondering why I'm suddenly playing the devil's advocate in my questions to you, it’s just that I'm also preparing myself similarly.

  1. Psycho

    Psycho

    Dec 16, 2005

    You guys are NASTY!!!!!........Why does it have to be your cousin, couldn't it be someone else?? There is 6 billion people in this world and you chose your cousin. Whoa!! thats gotta be some love.

  1. guera

    guera

    Dec 16, 2005

    very funny psycho you say nasty when you said you had something going on with your cousin too... well for you IAmInLoveWithWar you are getting married with your cousin that is so cool, i cant wait until im with my cousin for ever.... well for you psycho i think it is real love look many times me and my cousin have talked about of how we should end our relationship because we will hurt our parents, my sister which he adores as if they were his sisters too... we also say maybe its bad and god will see it as bad, then we say if we feel that god thinks its bad then we should end it because we are just hurting our selves... really complicated right... well we end up not wanting to separate because we love each other and would die for us...bye

  1. Luna

    Luna

    Dec 16, 2005

    I'm in love with my cousin and we even kiss mouth to mouth. He always tells me he adores me and even though people come and say that's discusting we still go out. Don't be ashamed and keep loving him. Noone can tell you who to love.

  1. guera

    guera

    Dec 16, 2005

    luna so your cousin is your boyfriend or doo you just like each other and cant admit it...
    well marry christmas to everyone and have a happy new year with their cousins.... ill be in mexico without my hunny but ill be calling him... my vacations will not be the best but you guys should enjoy.... i cant wait to leave and already come back.... cuz i know im going to mis him more than anything.... well talk to you all next year, so we can have some more interesting conversations...bye bye....and take care...

  1. Jen

    Jen

    Dec 17, 2005

    I kissed my cousin and we almost had sex, but were 2nd or 3rd cousins,well might be, not sure. Is that still wrong?

  1. jb donoho

    jb donoho

    Dec 17, 2005

    hey i think it's perfectly fine to love your cuzin i know what your talkin bout ppl sayin it's stupid cuz I love my cuzin and me and her r goin to marry ~yay~

  1. Girl

    Girl

    Dec 18, 2005

    There's nothing wrong with having feelings for your cousin. I've had crushes on a few of my cousins. Right now I can't stop thinking about one of my cousins (I saw them recently for the 1st time in ages). They have no idea, no one does, it's a one-sided crush (which I've had more than enough experience of). It sucks, but there you go.

  1. JusAnotherGrlInLove

    JusAnotherGrlInLove

    Dec 18, 2005

    IAmInLoveWithWar~
    Any advice is worth hearing. I appreciate you giving it to me. I take to heart what fits my circumstances, and think even if they don't, how it could help me in some way or another. I had no idea that cousin marriages in India were ok or common at all, but i am hindu. there is no set rule anywhere that i know of about who you can marry. (of course there is man made law...but nothing religious)
    One thing I know for sure, is what you said about family relationships. You literally do marry the family, not just your spouse. I've thought about how awful everything might turn out. I've also realized that if i do not marry the man i've been with the last 3 years, i could not imagine marrying someone else. I mean say i do get over him somehow, if i see him again i will realize the love we could never live upon, that we didn't carry out cuz i backed out at the last minute. the only way this love could die, is if from within ourselves we stopped loving each other. If this does not happen, how can i move on? I've been through too much with him.
    Also, as horrible as it sounds, i do not mind being isolated from family for a while. In all truth, i belive my parents at least, will come around slowly, but surely. they cannot hate 2 ppl whom they love as ppl. it just doesn't make sense for them to never speak to us again bcoz we love each other.
    THe indian societies here in america, seem really engaged. everyone knows about everyone. My family especially is like the gossip network, and each scandel is exploded. It's like everyone tries to put down the name of other families, and raise there own through the sucess of their kids. I have never heard of a cousin marriage here;however, i know for a fact these "policitians" (my aunties, uncles (related or not)) will gladly spread the news of our marriage like wild fire. I'm alrite with that. I just do not want my parents to care what others think. Actually my parents are having problems with the society (being excluded because they do not like to gossip as much), as well as with each other (thought they do not belive in divorce). I want this to show them that true love in any form can happen, and win over ppl's hearts.
    I've had a few other cousins who at first reaciton said "girl wat the hell r u thinking" and then after the first time they spent with me and my love, saying "wow did u c the way he looks at u, he loves u so much...u r the luckiest and unluckiest girl in the world" I dont think ppl find a love like this often, and i dont c y i should give it up for anything. I dont like hostile environments, and around us i dont c one. well i could go on. perhaps ill write a book someday. but U really should because u r very eloquent and precise with ur words. And thanks i did well in my exams. i hope ur love can return the same passion and strength for u as u have for her. and i will read that book one day when i get a chance.

  1. Family Guy

    Family Guy

    Dec 21, 2005

    It's been helpful reading about some of the cousin experiences. I personally have a very strong feeling for my older cousin. I'm early 40s and she's late 50s but to me she's like 21. I love her awful. At my age I'm smart enought to know it's an idealized love since I rarely see her. The thing that amazes is after 9 months I still think about her several times a day. Emotionally I'm like 16.

    I'm a fairly successful married man for 20+ years and have 2 wonderful children. The children and my strong commitment to my wife keep me on the straight and narrow. I have never strayed - physically - although the feelings I have bewilder. My wife and I have not nurtured our relationship through the years although she is fantastic with our children. It's a shame. For the past few years I've communicated and done what I could to get her to see our relationship as important. We've been on cruises without the children but as soon as we return life continues the same. Perhaps she's never had to worry about losing me and has taken me for granted and me the same. Shouldn't that be a good thing? I don't mind a boring everyday life - to her in her management of our lives it may not seem so boring - but from my point of view it must have some occasional relationship passion and spice - not there and I can't predict any improvement - but the children are pure joy on a daily basis.

    I had already entered into marriage accepting the proposition that there are probably a million women on the planet that I am more compatible with. The question I had asked myself is is it worth it anyway. I admit I had a lot of physical passion for my wife as well. Also, she came from a good family. But I was 20 when we met and I could have done a better job matching our hobbies and interests. They don't overlap too much which has hurt us. Advice: When you have children they eat all free time so you need to be good ahead of time with those relationship compatibility things so when you have the precious time it's an easier transition back to relationship mode.

    Emotionally I love and respect my wife every day. I give her a hug and show her I care. But in my judgement it has worked only partially. I don't think my wife will ever truly understand me and vice-versa. Possibly that mystery was a key to our attraction to each other.

    I know I will always support my wife and children no matter how life turns out. But I keep thinking I've got a one life run here. Although very healthy my cousin is older and will start getting elderly, she has an adult daughter, and is in a different country. I know my children need me right now. My cousin is very independent but I love her so much I think I could be happy just being a part of her life. Is passion, love, idealized feelings, and personal hurdles more important then life commitments?

  1. kitty

    kitty

    Dec 24, 2005

    im in love with me guycousin and i don't know if he loves me two my heart's breaking not knowing if he does.If my mum every tried and set meup with some one and i don't think i will ever have feelings for a guy i be with not every but i don't know why i care about me guycousin more than any other family member.i need advice my uncle his dad said to me and me guycousin us to need to talk and sort stuff out we both said angrly no we don't does that mean we have feelings for each other and did'nt know what to say also he told his sister he did'nt see me as his girlfriend i told her to tell him i didn't like him any more but i lied so is he saying that because what i told his sister and is he worried what his sister thinks.i won't give up on him until he love's me and wants to be with me thats why i don't want to cleabite chirstmas because im not seeing my cousin.he's the only guy i had a crush on when i was 15 to 17 then started haveing feelings for but i need to stop these feelings how can i stop it but i what to but i can't stop it until i know he feels the same way if not my heart would break more if i find out he did'nt and i would lie a wake crying until my heart bleed's dry.
    he does'nt see how much i love him people say im confused but im not but i know it's real love.i hope he lay's on his bed thinking about me if not i don't know what i do i proply throught a glass bottle or a glass against the wall so i feel better not at him i would never do that.he is the fit'es guy i know ever better looking than two of me ex's he's the only guy ever been kind to me in my hole life.he is the sexy's guy ever.i loveeeee him to bits.im sure he's the right one for me i sometimes think of marrying him and haveing kids with but i don't know if he want's the same if not it's ok.i know it's wrong but i onea **** him and see what's it like to get off with a cousin.i would never use him ever that would be nasty.if something bad happen to him i don't know what i do with out him.i would be upset if he ever got a girlfriend or every married someone i be gutted to bit's.he's all i can think of some times.ps plz could someone tell me if im in love also is me cousin in love with me but affiedd to tell me.soss it's long i just what people to see and tell me what they think.thank u for reading this

  1. BeWithMeNoMatterWhat

    BeWithMeNoMatterWhat

    Dec 29, 2005

    Well I'm 13 . I'm female and I'm not sure I'm in "love'' with my cousin. He is also 13. And we both live in NY about an hour away. We always hangout together .. Just me and him. And one time he slept over and we were talking and I felt some sexual tension so I said " would you do ANYTHiNG for me ? " and I guess he was thinking the same thing so he asked me the same question. So I asked I need help. Can u help me practice making out ? And we started making out for about 3 hours. From 12 midnight to about 2 : 45 in the morninh. We were in my bed the whole time and every 3 minutes he would get off of ontop of me and be like " I have a boner right now. Hold on " he would wait until it was done and then get right back on top of me.. Around 1 : 15 we got really into it and we started humping . He was ontop of me now. We still had our clothes on and everything. Then he took his face off of mines unbuttoned his pants. He had a hugge boner and we were still humping. Now it felt so right and we still had our clothes on and we were home alone. So we were staring at eachother and the humping was getting intense. Then he put his hands in my pants. Grabbing my ass and I loved it.. Since we were home alone I started moaning. I felt like I was having sex .. He was pushing his boner into my vagina area and our underwears were the only things protecting us. We got reallyyy into it. Still vigorusly humping. His underwears were wet from his sperm that was shooting out. I took of my shirt and slowly we got completley naked. He slipped on a condom and pushheedd it hurt so much but I loved it. I felt like it was the only way he would love me.. We turned on the lights and kept having sex.. We humped more than anyone and it looked like a pornn but then we had 2 stop cause my mom got home at 4 am from work and we just made out until then. We couldn't get off each other.. And we still do this everyother weekedn wen we see eacother.. Is this wrong ? I'm so confused. I only like the sex he gived me... I still feel connected to him when we tlk but I'm not sure dud call it love. All I know is we both love the sex. Is thia good or right , please help !!!

  1. doodoo

    doodoo

    Dec 30, 2005


    BeWithMeNoMatterWhat - ew you sico.. You had sex with u COUSiN ?!? And ur 13 ? Someone explain to her how sickk she is before I curse her out. Thanks

  1. heyy

    heyy

    Dec 31, 2005

    well eli . obviously you have something going on too . because you wouldnt be on this website if you didnt . either your hiding it from everone or just from the subscribers to this blog., but there is no need to make everyone feel bad about themselves. i suggestyou justkeep your mouth shut ,. thank you

    yours truly - BeWithMeNoMatterWhat

    i think i do \\\

  1. eli

    eli

    Dec 31, 2005

    im 14 ans its eli. do u know that thz babies can come out retarted? im sure u can find someone emse to give you...pleasure. tell me what you think

  1. p

    p

    Dec 31, 2005

    well i dun know what to do...my third cousin she is just soo fun and hott as hell..she makes me smile whenever we hang out...i think about her all the time and somtimes i wish we werent cousins cuz i realy think i love her...but my famly would like disown me if they ever found this out...

    like we went somwere and we were hangin out than she grabed my hand and we were walking and chattin it up but i think she was just being friendly...but if i found out she liked me than id say screw it and ask her out...just whenever im around her i feel soo good but the thing is she has a bf nd of course im jelus... but me and my cuz have soo much in common..we love the same music, movies, we both love skatboarding and playin guitar... if i she just knew how i felt without thinking of me as a psyco than it would be better on me..vuz i just have this all bottald up..


    but long story short i love her she loves me but not in a sexual in love kinda way...but i think my mom and my aunt think i like her but what ever its love and i cant change it i just wana hold her in my arms and never let go...

  1. p

    p

    Dec 31, 2005

    ohh i forgot to add this..
    is this a sign she likes me mabe..

    she slept over last nite along with my other third cousin hes 14 and first cousins with the one i love the girl cousin i mentiond up there...well anyway he fell asleep on the floor and me and my girl cousin were on the couch wachin tv..she starts getting tired and rests her head on my lap.than she grabs my hand nd puts it on her neck..i start petting her and massaging her neck...is this a sign she may love me as well..

    i need answers she is seriusly all i think about.

  1. p

    p

    Dec 31, 2005

    o i also forgot to mension im 15 she turning 15 soon..but man do i love ha

  1. mee

    mee

    Jan 1, 2006

    eli - yea ur right. but i dont wanna have babies. and like everytime in nott around him i think about it and i feel gross and i always say .. " hes my cousin , this is wrong , i cant do it anymore " but thats the 1 promise to myself ii cant keep. idk ..

    and p - do what you want. follow ur heart cause if u dnt ull regret it laterr and ... mabye you dont have 2 tell ur family. keep it a seceret thing .. because i know im not ever gunna tell mines. :-\ so yea. go for it. mabye she does like u 2 ... u never know.

    anyways ..
    HAPPY NEW YEARS EVERYONE :) !!

  1. p

    p

    Jan 1, 2006

    thanx for tha advice mee..but its just the fact that were are related down the line thats soo weird...like her mom is my second cousin and her mom is my great aunt and my greate aunts siser it my grandma....i mean i just wish we were not related

    im gona wait till things fall into place..if she hints she loves me than fuc* it im gona grab her and tell her i love her....

  1. Pelestinian Chick Lover

    Pelestinian Chick Lover

    Jan 1, 2006

    lol, look and lsn good, how many times do u find love? how many times do u fall in love? life does not go on 4 ever, prince charming isnt gonna be looking for u , u have to meet him half way! u love him marry him. i dont know how old u are but im only 16 and im from palestine and venezuala!! go for it tell ur family ur not in this alone, u have him!!

  1. eli

    eli

    Jan 1, 2006

    i just wanna say to that kid P that its your 3rd cousin thats a really far relationship. i dont think its wrong if you like her or love her or whatever. people in europe marry their First cousins not that i really think thats right. Like for example the royal family if england marry their cousins and shit. i mean if its your secong or third cousin i think its allright. oh yeah someone said its against the bible to marry your cousin but i asked someone who knoas about that stuff and he said it he dont think its true. im from lebanon/ greece and my aunt married her first cousin not that i would do it but people there except it..and think its perfectally fine??oh yeah umm hey bewithmenomattterwhat.. are you still doing your first cousin?

  1. eclipse14713

    eclipse14713

    Jan 6, 2006

    hey, well im nearly 17 and am in love with my 24 year old 2nd cousin and it is the most perfect thing in the world.I know that the whole related thing is a teeny problem lol,which is why i came here.Anyway its love you cannot help who you fall in love with, and to quote a friend"i may not agree with what you said but ill fight to the death for your right to say it".What im trying to say is people like (psycho) "which isIm not trying to go against you guys. I once went out with my cousin, but then i read the Bible and now i understand wats better. 1. To go out with your cousin then marry her/him and knowing your commeting a sin or 2. Love your cousin as family and find someone else to love and go to heaven? Its pretty hard to forget about your cousin and all the things you guys share together, but you know is a sin to marry your cousin and have children. "You got to die to live". Bye.-

    well the fact is i don't believe in god and since when was it sin to love someone, i think you need to realise honey that love is the most important thing of all.

    and (bewithme)
    "Well I'm 13 . I'm female and I'm not sure I'm in "love'' with my cousin. He is also 13. And we both live in NY about an hour away. We always hangout together .. Just me and him. And one time he slept over and we were talking and I felt some sexual tension so I said " would you do ANYTHiNG for me ? " and I guess he was thinking the same thing so he asked me the same question. So I asked I need help. Can u help me practice making out ? And we started making out for about 3 hours. From 12 midnight to about 2 : 45 in the morninh. We were in my bed the whole time and every 3 minutes he would get off of ontop of me and be like " I have a boner right now. Hold on " he would wait until it was done and then get right back on top of me.. Around 1 : 15 we got really into it and we started humping . He was ontop of me now. We still had our clothes on and everything. Then he took his face off of mines unbuttoned his pants. He had a hugge boner and we were still humping. Now it felt so right and we still had our clothes on and we were home alone. So we were staring at eachother and the humping was getting intense. Then he put his hands in my pants. Grabbing my ass and I loved it.. Since we were home alone I started moaning. I felt like I was having sex .. He was pushing his boner into my vagina area and our underwears were the only things protecting us. We got reallyyy into it. Still vigorusly humping. His underwears were wet from his sperm that was shooting out. I took of my shirt and slowly we got completley naked. He slipped on a condom and pushheedd it hurt so much but I loved it. I felt like it was the only way he would love me.. We turned on the lights and kept having sex.. We humped more than anyone and it looked like a pornn but then we had 2 stop cause my mom got home at 4 am from work and we just made out until then. We couldn't get off each other.. And we still do this everyother weekedn wen we see eacother.. Is this wrong ? I'm so confused. I only like the sex he gived me... I still feel connected to him when we tlk but I'm not sure dud call it love. All I know is we both love the sex. Is thia good or right , please help !!!"

    well are you not just a little young to be having sex there is a reason why the age of consent is 16.If you do not love him and its just for the sex can i remind you "YOU ARE ONLY 13" don't grow up too quick.

    thanks for listening guys

    eclipse


  1. p

    p

    Jan 6, 2006

    hey eclipse...if the girl wants to have sex she can the age to have sex is getting younger and younger and theres realy nuthing we can do about it..just as long as they have protection i guess its ok...even though it seems like a young age it realy isnt but its your opinion so ill stay out of it.

    o nd im going to see my cousin again in a few weeks will prob hang out and stuff than ill work my charm...well hopefully it works :)

  1. max

    max

    Jan 8, 2006

    I have Loved my cousin ever since we whee kids.

    Every time i see her i cant help but stare at her.

    and I want to If it is ok to have sex with a cousin

    Can anyone help me.........I am so confused

  1. Girl

    Girl

    Jan 9, 2006

    Love is love.

  1. xian...

    xian...

    Jan 9, 2006

    its alright i also love my cousin. yah, its against god and to the norms of the society... but go on if it is what you really feels... just love and be loved...

  1. p

    p

    Jan 11, 2006

    im ova my cousin..i see it as better off as friends nd family... than in a relationship...its better off that way..

    anyways theres this fine ass chic in my class that freakin like..shes soooooooo hott... i have the class with her tom hopfully r convo will go somwere other than me-hey u droped this...her- a giggle nd thanx...

    how can i tell if she likes me...she laughs at every joke. she talked to me once or twice. nd she said my hair looks hott

    like i wa in class nd talkin to my friend gina nd my newer friend sam nd i was like hows my hair should i grow it out longer... than i asked her what she thinks nd she said it looked hott..


    i was like ohhh i wana fu#k u right now,,lol

  1. mr.y

    mr.y

    Jan 15, 2006

    It's easy to fall in love with your cousin (especially if he/she's cute), you have somewhat similar education/background.
    I had a crush on my cousin, i dont know her well, she lived in another country for years, so she's more like a distant relative to me. Unfortunatly she moved out of the country again :-(
    On the other hand I cant conceive having such feelings for my other female cousin, with whom i grew up and whom see regularly.
    Anyway dont worry, judging by what i see on the net, you're not the only one. I personally dont care if people love their cousin or whatever, so I think it's cool. If you're worried about what your parents think, well they dont need to know.
    There's just one thing though: you CANNOT marry and have kids coz they'll be abnormal kids.

  1. zzzz

    zzzz

    Jan 15, 2006

    "i was like ohhh i wana fu#k u right now,,lol"

    take it easy dud she obviously likes you :-) so just have a date with her or something and be nice to her and touch her and all. cmon you gotta start somewhere.

  1. polly

    polly

    Jan 19, 2006

    im so glad im not the only one in the world thats going thru the whole inlove with my cousin thing. My story is that i fell in love with my cousin at the tender age of 12. I met him at a family gathering when i was 9. We used to live on the same street and he used to come over to my house to play. He moved away when we both turned 10/11. But we still went to the same school right up till the end of elementary school. So seeing him everyday must have made my feelings grow for him. 7 years have past, and im now 19 and still in love with him. I recently confessed to him, and what surprised me was that he confessed that he liked me all this while too. But he said nothing can never happen between us. And he's now apprently in love with his gf. So im just wondering, does he or does he not like me? Why is he saying that nothing can ever happen between us because were counsin.. im sorry but i think that if you like someone enough, you'll take a chance with them no matter what.. if he liked me for 7 years, why didnt he do something? Do u guys think he's just saying it to make me feel better? Bcuz trhough out this years he has had countless gf's and he's in love with one right now.. im sooo confused. And i need a closure to move on..does he or does he not like me?

  1. ed

    ed

    Jan 19, 2006

    There is nothing wrong by loving your cousin, after my wife passed away, I feel in love with my cosin.. Hay if two guys or two girls can marry then why can't you love your cousin and marry her if you so desire..

    they are human to

  1. obelisk

    obelisk

    Jan 22, 2006

    there is nothing wrong loving cuz or even marrying them. you cannot find anything in the bible that forbids cousin marriage, not even in Muslim and Jew scriptures!!!

  1. stranger

    stranger

    Jan 26, 2006

    I love my cousin very much.
    Although he has been living to another
    country all this years,when i saw him lately i felt very close to him like i've known him all my life!
    We both understand each other and i'm happy when i am around him.
    He always makes me smile.
    I haven't thought of him that way, but i would love to hang out with him much more!
    I just wish that he was here, i miss him to much!

  1. stranger

    stranger

    Jan 26, 2006

    COUSIN I MISS YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!

  1. Someone

    Someone

    Jan 29, 2006

    guess what.. i'm in love with my own cousin too... we kissed 3 times. it was really great. but i don't know if he really feels the same way about me. when i shared this to my friends, they said that probably he just wanted to KISS. not to kiss me, but to KISS. the hardest part is to keep on falling inlove with him, when i know he doesn't love me the way i do. How do i know?? I'm not his type, and he has a girlfriend. Sad...right?

  1. fell too fast

    fell too fast

    Jan 29, 2006

    i kissed my cousin when they came over here just this christmas vacation. It was weird coz yeah, i see him every couple of years but this was the first time we hung out together. I couldn't get over how much he has grown and changed since the last time i saw him (he was 13 last i saw him). He's now a senior in high school. I'm also a senior...except i'm in college. We kissed and stuff. But i know, right from the beginning it wasn't meant to be. I'm not the type who dreams there could be more for us. I have both my feet on the ground.

    Still, I was so sad when they left to go back home to their state. Couldn't eat, or sleep for a week. The saddest part is i seldom heard from him even though we have each others email. perhaps he's busy, or perhaps he was trying to forget what happened between us. I don't know. I don't hold it against him if he wants to forget. Perhaps it's the best for both of us. I sure miss him though.

  1. stranger

    stranger

    Jan 29, 2006

    I understand you "fell too fast"
    I don't know how would i feel if he kissed me.
    It is kind of weird cause we are related and
    i probably couldn't take that out of my mind!
    I know i like him but if i tried to see him that
    way i would feel weird!
    I am a very religious person and i can't help
    thinking that the bible says that you can't be with anyone that is related to you by blood, i guess that means first cousins too don't you think so?
    I don't say that is wrong at all but i can't help thinking that the bible says it is wrong!!!

  1. fell too fast

    fell too fast

    Jan 30, 2006

    there are quite a few biblical figures who married their FIRST cousins, especially in the old testament. lol. Issac and Rebecca, Jacob and LEah and Rachel, i think. First cousin marriages in most states are void not because it's incestuous but because it's against public policy. whatever that means.

    YEah there is something "wrong" about loving your cousin in a romantic way, but i think that's because we're raised to think that way.

    It didn't feel weird while we were kissing, but later on when he left, I felt bad. But i felt bad because of the fact that he was younger and i felt like i should have known better than to kiss a boy that young, not really because of the fact that he was a cousin.

    i'm going out of my mind right now.

  1. stranger

    stranger

    Jan 30, 2006

    I know about the biblical figures but after that
    time God commanded not to be with anyone that is related by blood.I know that's a little weird, it
    actually doesn't say about first cousins but first cousins are blood related!
    I don't know why God chose those days that some people who were related should be together and after that He said that, that isn't allowed to do!
    I don't know, i wish we could be together with the cousins we love but i can't help thinking that it's wrong in my mind!

  1. fell too fast

    fell too fast

    Jan 30, 2006

    yeah i wish for that too, "stranger".
    this is just my opinion but
    if loving your cousin is such
    an abomination in the eyes of God,
    and demands us to feel bad about
    being with them,
    then why didn't the bible
    expressly condemn it along with
    other abominable acts like sodomy
    and adultery and fornication?

    why did the passage on prohibition
    to wed blood relatives leave too
    much doubt and room for different
    interpretation with regard to cousins?

    i don't know, but deep in my heart
    i don't think it's wrong to love another person
    just because by some twist of fate
    he or she is your cousin.

    I mean, why should society impose a "ceiling" on
    the amount of love you could give
    to him/her just because
    you are fourth degree relatives?

  1. stranger

    stranger

    Jan 31, 2006

    I agree with you "fell too fast"
    I feel the same way!!
    Yeah there is a doubt with what regards to
    cousins!
    I don't know what to say... all i know is i love my cousin to much!!!!

  1. stranger

    stranger

    Jan 31, 2006

    First cousins are fourth degree relatives?
    I didn't know that!

  1. Someone

    Someone

    Feb 3, 2006

    i don't think there is something wrong with falling in love with your own cousin.... just so u know, Mother Mary and Saint Joseph are COUSINS.... yeah, that's right. if they did it, why can't we? and, if you really love your cousin and your cousin really loves u, i can't see y you and ur cousin can't be together. You wont be happy if you go with the man you don't love.. so i'd say FOLLOW your heart...

  1. Emily

    Emily

    Feb 6, 2006

    I am 15 and my cousin is 16, i know were just teenagers, but we have shared things together that we could not share with anyone else, we have fallen in love. We are not closely realted, something like 10th+ cousins, but we live in a small town where everyone knows who is realted to who. My grandparents are cousins, and they had children and it worked out great, but i want to be able to share a relationship with my cousin,without being looked down upon, i want to be able to tell my friends and other people, but when i told them i was going to a dance with him, they freaked out...really badly. I want to tell my parents, but i dont know how.. please will someone help me, i am so confused, i lvoe him so much...lovs~E

  1. jane

    jane

    Feb 6, 2006

    Go fo it Emily 10th cousins are not cousins!!

  1. Emily

    Emily

    Feb 6, 2006

    LoL, Really, ok thanxsss! I love to know that not everyone is against this! lol. lovs~E

  1. jane

    jane

    Feb 6, 2006

    :-)

  1. fell too fast

    fell too fast

    Feb 6, 2006

    that's right, E. 10th + cousins are not cousins.lol.

    they freaked out with the idea of you going out with your 10th+ cousin? Emily, there's nothing wrong with you...

    BUT THERE'S SOMETHING REALLY WEIRD WITH THEM!

  1. Emily

    Emily

    Feb 6, 2006

    thanx guys!! i always thought my friends were strange, lol... lovs~E

  1. martin

    martin

    Feb 8, 2006

    there is nothing wrong with loving your cuz i no how it feels coz i am in love with my cousin i have been for about 2 months now i used to have a little crush on here then we stop seeing each other there except for family acations then after that we started to meet each other and now we are really close thou she dose not have the same feeling a bout me but we joke about them so the best advice i can give you it to just to tell them and they might see it your way or not

    Dose this help you pls e-mail if dose???

  1. ?

    ?

    Feb 10, 2006

    I am very much in love with him.
    I wish he knew and i wish he feels the same

  1. Timmy

    Timmy

    Feb 13, 2006

    You know I was someone that completely despised the idea of being romantically involved with one's cousin. I would make fun of people that would marry their cousins. It was a completely ridiculous idea to me. Then something I never expected happened to me this last summer. I fell deeply in love with my first cousin. Something that I would have never thought would have happened. Further more my cousin was the same as me she would have never thought she would fall for her cousin. I love her deeply. I wish to marry her. I am worried about the future like mad. I haven't seen her since October of last year but I have lost many nights of sleep over her. Tonight being one of those nights. It is 5:30AM and I am researching marrying my cousin. So far . . . undecided. My cousin and I have not made love but we were close. It was especially hard for me considering how beautiful she is. Hopefully one day I marry her and get to make love with her for the first time. In short I have reformed. I too have joined the club of the "Kissing Cousins" and now I believe that it is perfectly normal to fall in love with your cousin. I am sorry about my ill conceived prejudice.

  1. ?

    ?

    Feb 13, 2006

    Timmy many people are like that.They don't understand that until it happens to them!
    If that hadn't happened to me it propably would sound bad to me also, but to tell you the truth i haven't thought of that before it happened to me!

  1. ?

    ?

    Feb 14, 2006

    I just wish that all the guys out there would have the guts to say that they love you or feel something for you even if they get rejected!
    Where are all the men? What happened to them.
    To all the guys out there that love your cousin
    or any woman just find the guts to say it to them for once!!!
    Now is the time!!!

  1. Timmy

    Timmy

    Feb 14, 2006

    Mostly my prejudice is because of the Shelbyvillians.

  1. ?

    ?

    Feb 14, 2006

    what is the Shelbyvillians?

  1. Timmy

    Timmy

    Feb 14, 2006

    It would take too long to explain.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shelbyville_%28The_Simpsons%29

    The Simpsons is one of my most favorite TV shows. In the show the people of Springfield make fun of the Shelbyvillians marrying their cousins all the time. Even now I feel somewhat weird about my relationship with my cousin only because of the Shelbyvillians. But there is no way that I would give her up over a stupid TV show. I love her.

  1. ?

    ?

    Feb 14, 2006

    Well Timmy that's nice that you love your cousin so much :-)
    P.S thanks for explaining!

  1. isolde

    isolde

    Feb 15, 2006

    he is so beautiful,as we lay in shame our hearts beat as one,the same flows through our veins,your touch will always be for me,i crave you always,we were lovers in anther life,facing it now,he we are again,now we are family,you are my tristan,i am your isolde,you leave, i die ,can;t live withyou,can't ever live without you.......................

    to my love forever
    i am in love with my 2ed cousin,notice how the end of that word is sin,i have no answers to you problem.i to am in love with family and die every day without him,he lives far away.i hope all is well with you good luck

  1. ?

    ?

    Feb 17, 2006

    I love you so much i can't stand beeing away
    from you anymore!!!
    I wish you told me you feel the same!!
    I love you so much!!!

  1. bri-bri

    bri-bri

    Feb 20, 2006

    hey...its okay to love yr cuzin as long as yall feel the same way.You know what they say...cuzins make duzins.

  1. lucy

    lucy

    Mar 4, 2006

    I am obsessed with my couin. I only think of him. and i have turned down so many other people just because i know that he is the one i want. everytime i see him (not very often) my infactuation grows. i get excited everytime i see his name pop up on msn. i am only 16 he is 19 but i have a feeling he likes me to. but how to let him know. its good to have this site to read of other people who are in this situation. it is so unfair, why do i have to fall in love with people i shouldnt fall in love with? it is like punishment

  1. Grandamkid

    Grandamkid

    Mar 13, 2006

    Ok so Im in love with my cousin and i really dont know what to do there is a little age difference. It all started about a year ago when i was in a acident and we became closer, at the time we would see each other once a week and we talk and cuddle and hole hands and everything but we never have kissed. then i moved and now i dont see her that much but everytime i do it seems like were even closer. i havnt told her how i feel and she hasnt told me how she feels but i think we both know how we feel. i just dont know how to tell her or if i even should. I really need some advice.

  1. matt

    matt

    Mar 17, 2006

    Its not morally right but its 2005 and if thats your parogative than so be it, thats you. Me im twenty and the love of my life is twenty nine and i think nothing of it age is just a number to me. this doesent justify any thing and your perpose was better than mine. When I was 15 I had sex with my cousin. Im glad i got that of my chest. We have all ready open the door so when i was seventeen I had sex with my best friends sister, but now for once in my life I can actualy say im in love and I want to mary this girl any way all im saying is if he makes you happy be with him. Even if it doesent work out and you decide to break up you cant say you didnt try and at least you know it wasnt meant to be, who knows though he could be the love of your life. Keep in touch.

    good Luck
    matt

  1. Ew

    Ew

    Mar 19, 2006

    Ew

  1. Grandamkid

    Grandamkid

    Mar 21, 2006

    Well Matt, everything worked out. We are together now. we havnt told our familys yet were kinda dreding that but its gunna happen sooner or later. thanks for the advice. BTW my cousin isnt a he shes a she. lol

  1. me2

    me2

    Mar 21, 2006

    i thought i was alone.

    just do what your heart tells you to but take it slow

    i wish the best of luck to you

  1. kitty

    kitty

    Mar 22, 2006

    Im realy happy for my guy cousin if his married to some one. But I got feelings for him I don't know what to do.Can any plz tell me what to do

  1. ieva

    ieva

    Mar 23, 2006

    i cant find a way to see if a scorpio sign maches virgo sign do you know where i can find out??????
    please sombady help i realy need this !!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. ?

    ?

    Mar 23, 2006

    search scorpio and virgo compatibility at yahoo
    and you'll find out what you want

  1. me

    me

    Mar 26, 2006

    i'm so happy to read everyone's opinions. i thought i was some kind of dirty freak. thing is though, it's really frustrating. cus my cousin doesn't know how i feel for her. and it's even harder when she get's drunk and is all huggy huggy let me sit on you kinda thing. what the hell am i supposed to do? and it's always me that she does that to. my mum even said i need to watch myself with her.but i don't think she feels the same way.....dunno what i'd do if she did. she really is the only female i feel close to

  1. MIMI

    MIMI

    Apr 4, 2006

    dude diz suckz cuz me luv me cuz n me have a bf n he luv me 2(me cuz)! n i told me cuz me noluv him n he got sad n stuff! we were goin 2 hook up. i still memba how we met. itz not WRONG!!!!

  1. one_love

    one_love

    Apr 6, 2006

    i still can't stop thinking about my cousin who i kissed last christmas. it sucks that he's so far away, but at the same time i'm kinda glad he's far away. i wouldn't know how to deal with what happened between us if he had lived here. it would be hard to pretend nothing happened. i just wish that there had been some sort of closure after he went away. then i wouldn't have to ask all these what-ifs.

    i also wish the memories won't come as often as they do at night. so i wouldn't have to be so sad.

  1. *sigh*

    *sigh*

    Apr 10, 2006

    i need help im in love with my cousin but i have no idea if she likes me or not or if i say sumthin shel will hate me but were like bestfriends i dont want her to hate me thanks

  1. ?

    ?

    Apr 10, 2006

    All you have to do *sigh* is tell her how you feel, maybe she feels the same ,you'll never know if you never let her know!
    I don't think she will hate you.

  1. WOW

    WOW

    Apr 13, 2006

    I have skipped through the messages and SORRY if I missed you but...
    I feel sooooooooo old.
    I have loved my cousin for almost the whole of my 47 years.
    We got very intimate at the age of '16' but, were warned off by older family members who:
    'SAW THE SIGNS'

    We both married and have children and grandchildren of our own...

    Recently we have had the opportunity to catch up on old times, although at a dignified pace.

    Neither of us were aware of how the other had felt over such an enormous lapse of time.
    We individually planned to drop a bombshell about our feelings!
    Yet our first encounter was like we had never been apart!

    We are trying to get to know each other all over again, but I am afraid lust very often takes over.
    We both say things to each other in 'joke' but deep down, we know we mean it!

    I have been so embarrassed about my feelings for my cousin over the years and always considered myself something of a freak.
    It is very comforting to know he has similar feelings for me. AND... we are not alone in this world!!

  1. Shenille

    Shenille

    Apr 15, 2006

    I never thought that there would be so many people that are experiencing the same thing I am going thru. I met my cousin 2 years ago in the capital city of my country. I new him before and that we were cousins but I had no interest in getting to know him. That time we met,we became great friends. He took me to watch a movie and we had a really great time. After that I went back home and we stayed there. We started calling and writing each other ever since. I don't even remember how we fell in love. It came without any of us expecting it. I don't want to give to many details because I guess someone from my family could read this and I would be really embarass. I don't know what to do now. I will be home in a few weeks. I am scared of what will happen...I want to be with him...I want to be his girlfriend and he feels the same way. What can we do? Please give me an advice.

  1. Jasmine

    Jasmine

    Apr 15, 2006

    Hey I am Jasmine and I am in the same boat your in. But the only thing is I am very confused and I am e-mailing u b/c your his same age. There is a big problem in my life. I am 15 and he is 12 but it really doesn't matter. What matter is I still LOVE him but I feel he hates me like if he doesn't love me for a cousin or his cousin who he once loved. We have been together for about 3 yrs. The first 2 yrs. were awesome and the last yr. was a nightmare. When we first started kissing and hugging and holding hands and all that good stuff it felt like he really liked and maybe even loved me. But by the last year I felt he hated me I felt like he didn't love me as a cousin or even a cousin who he once had something with. The problem is that now he hates me I feel. I want to kiss him and he tells me to stop and he calls me names that are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO mean. But in a way I make myself think that he is just doing that to hide that he really still loves me or should I say like me. Because they say If they treat u like dirt they are hiding their emotions. And I am very confused if he either hates me loves me or likes me. I really don't now. Their are nights that I cry myself to sleep just thinking of him. Sometimes when I text him he answers and sometimes wen he answers I fell that he means it with some passion and other times he ignores me I NEED ADVICE PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP ME. I feel he i9s ating the way he is acting to hide his emotions but if it is that it really is killing me.I am really seeking some advice. What should I do. I want to talk to him but I feel he will get mad and not even talk to me about it.
    PLZ GIVE ME SOME ADVICE
    E-MAIL ME AT:SPortychik45@AOL.COM

  1. no name

    no name

    Apr 18, 2006

    This isn't about cousin love but, I'm in love with my aunt's sister(she is same ages as me)and my aunty isn't blood related to me only my uncle is. I was wondering if anyone would find that strange or wrong.

  1. fell_too_fast

    fell_too_fast

    Apr 19, 2006

    hey no name. Nope, nothing wrong with that. you're not relatd to her by blood, so no one can say there's anything wrong with it.

  1. belfast

    belfast

    Apr 20, 2006

    i used to love my cousin a lot. we live far apart and i've tried to tone down my love for her. i first started liking her in 2001, 5 years ago. i've been hesitant to tell her how i feel cuz i donno if she likes me in that way. i dont know if i'm truly in love with her, but whenever i see a girl i like i see my cousin in that girl. i dont just like my cousin cuz shes hot, but also for her personality. plus i dont think my parents will approve because i've heard them disapprove of cousin marriage in general. i want to tell my cousin about my love for her but how should i? neone got ne advice?

  1. kitty

    kitty

    Apr 22, 2006

    people should't care what other people think about being in love with a cousin. if any of u are in love with a cousin u should tell ur cousin ur true feeling's.

  1. so in luv

    so in luv

    Apr 23, 2006

    i am so happy that i found this page bcuz i needed some advice...i am also in love with my cousin, but the thing is we are both girls...does that make it really wrong? i mean she loves me too and we have kissed and held hands and even gotten intimate with each other...i dunno i just need to know...but my love for her is honest love...she is the daughter of my mom's brother but the thing is that my mom and her dad are half sister and brother...yea they have different dads, but for real i never knew that lotz of people loved their cousins so thank u to everyone for their comments and stuff, they have really helped me...my e-mail is shortykins2008_47@msn.com
    i have msn messenger, thats where im usually at if u wanna talk to me...please someone tell me if its wrong to be a girl that truly loves her girl cousin....

  1. Me

    Me

    Apr 25, 2006

    Oh My goodness! I cant believe there are peolpe out there who are in the same situation as me. I was very close to my cuz growing and we lost contact for about 8 years due to family politics. We recently made contact and it was the by far the best day of my life. I didnt realize how much i actually felt for him and him for me. We havnt actually amitted anything but we both know there is alot more than family love going on. Im madly in love with my cuz and no one knows about it and its killing me. Some people in my life have passed the occational comment that he could feel more for me after over hearing a phone conversation...

  1. me

    me

    Apr 25, 2006

    Thank God there are people out there who are going through the same thing, I think i can now stop feeling so sinful. I love my cousin so much and i feel he is my soul twin. We were very close growing up and we would see each other every holiday at my grans, and due to family politcs we lost contact over the years. We recently manged to find each other after 8 years, as we had both gone to varsity. We met up and i can safely say that was the happiest day of my life. We talk often and tell each other we love each other ( I dont know if its in a cousin way). I miss him so much and i dont want to loose him again.Whay to do? Do i tell him?????Ho wdo we break the ice and talk about what is o obvious to both us and everyone around us.

  1. A boy

    A boy

    Apr 26, 2006

    Amazed that so many ppl are in the
    same boat!
    Ok my story~
    I've had this connection with my cuz
    who lives abroad.
    Whenever we went to visit, we would
    be there for months/weeks at a time.
    Anyway...
    1 particular cousin i grew an
    attatchment with since childhood.
    I was very young n would take care n
    look after her.As we grew up we
    natrually were just best friends.
    2 years ago when i was 18...
    Something hit me.
    The thought came into my head that
    l can't live without her.I laughed at
    myself... and quickly discarded the
    thought.
    During that period i began to notice
    her alot more.I would look at her and
    just day dream.My mind would wonder
    off.Once i snapped out of it i'd question
    myself... 'what the heck am i thinking!?'
    No...
    It can't be love.
    Thats just so wrong.
    The harder i tried to get this thought
    out my head the more i'd realize that
    i do indeed love her.
    But...
    She's my cousin.
    I felt sick.
    Dirty.
    Iike i had commited a crime...
    a sin.
    Eventually i accepted the way i felt
    and told her.I couldn't hide such a
    thing from her.
    Yeah, she was shocked...
    'But your like a brother to me...'
    Hmm...
    She remained ok with me though.
    When i returned back home, i felt
    so alone.I would just hide away
    from the world.I revealed my situation
    to a friend.
    'WHAT!?' he said.
    'You do realise its incest and nothing
    can ever happen between you.'
    'I know.' l replied.
    He was very supportive though.He
    said we'll research the matter.Probably
    to convince me that it was wrong.
    To mine and his amazement we found
    out its not classed has incest.
    The law from God only prevented
    anything within cousins as incest.
    So cousins is just outside the border
    line making it fine.Not a sin.
    The other concern was of course
    genetics and law of the lands.
    Its society and peoples own thinking
    that has corrupted relationships
    between cousins.Even my thinking
    and my friend had changed... once
    we discovered the truth.
    Back to me and her...
    We discused so many things together
    about this.
    Both our family's found out.
    Initially they were shocked...
    then they were cool.They just don't
    talk about it.
    Then she came to a conclusion,
    that she just isn't ready for
    a relationship with any boy.
    I accepted that.
    So 2 years on and my love is still
    burning strong... and it just keeps
    getting stronger.When i saw her in
    person recently, we talked about it
    again.I explained how i felt.
    'I just dont feel the same for you.'
    she said.
    'I'll wait for you forever, even if you
    never do feel the same'.
    So...
    Thats the possition i'm in right now.
    She tells me i'm the only guy she can
    ever trust and share everything with
    ...but... she can't love me.
    Thats the hardest thing for me to accept.
    ...but... If i accept that, i'm giving up
    hope.
    So i wait...
    Going through hell...
    Sometimes thinking about her makes
    me so happy.Most days it destroys me.
    So many things go through my head.
    Like the cousin thing still plagues me.
    Finding this though has made me feel
    much better.
    Thanks to all of you.
    So i don't know how my story is gonna
    end.Inside i know deep down she's
    hiding something.Maybe she's scared
    i dont know.Maybe i'm wrong...
    In the end of the day nothings gonna
    stop us loving each other as cousins
    and best friends.
    Maybe thats how it should be left.
    All i can do...
    ls wait.

  1. m28m

    m28m

    Apr 30, 2006

    A boy,

    "So i wait...
    Going through hell...
    Sometimes thinking about her makes
    me so happy.Most days it destroys me."

    ---No words could be more exact. hope things turn out well for you.

  1. All Messed Up

    All Messed Up

    Apr 30, 2006

    I am in a terrible situation, I love my cousin and I know he loves me to. But he is afraid of what our family will say if it got out. To make a bad story worse, he is getting married next month and I am a bridesmaid in the wedding I don't know how I am going to make it throught this. Please give me some advice. I know he doesn't feel the same way about her as he does me. But he says that if he can't be with me she is the next best chioce. I just want to scream noooooooooooo.

  1. My 4bidden LovE

    My 4bidden LovE

    May 1, 2006

    I was just googling around to see about what I'm going through & just found this site & I am also surprised to see how many people are going through what I am going through.....I just came back from visiting my family down in Florida and a friend of my cousins who I thought I had feelings 4 and while I was there but, I fell in love with my cousin instead....No one else has ever felt so right in my life b4...I hate to keep such a good feeling a secret...we were sneaking around the whole time 2 keep it from everyone...I never felt so good in my life as I did when I was with him...it's making me crazy since I left and came back to Jersey....I feel like I wanna run away cause i don't know what to do....I could never tell my family cause they would disown us both.... Being with him made me forget about every other man I thought I ever loved! I felt so safe and happy with him...now that I'm away from him I feel so sad...thinking of him and looking at pictures and music is all that gets me through the day...I can't imagine my future without him in it now....and I don't know how we could live like that with everyone hatin' on us, but i don't even care anymore, but the only person we are concerned about is his mom....my dead mother's sister...who we both love...He's afraid she will flip out and I don't want her to hate us.....Now that I'm gone my period is late and we were not safe...I'm worried I could be pregnant and I'm not sure I wanna have to give that up if I am.....is that ok??? Would my baby be normal??? What will he do if he finds out....he says he loves me too....but what will he say if this shit goes down??? Is this meant to be or more than we can handle???? Help me!

  1. The only 1 i will ever love

    The only 1 i will ever love

    May 2, 2006

    Hey everyone, i was also surprised how many people are in this situation. It's such a taboo to be in love with your cousin.
    I'm in love with my cousin, for 7 years now, when my parents found out, we were in so much trouble and weren't allowed to speak. now, he's my best friend, and he's sooo hot, but we are both married.
    we can't talk in public or anything, but we love each other,
    i'm tired of sneaking around for years...
    I LOVE YOU DANIEL!!!!

  1. SL

    SL

    May 3, 2006

    Well guys, it really is amazing how many people out there are in the same situation. My story is very similar to all of you. My cousin and I fell in love and without telling anyone we got married. We've together almost 3 years now. However, we feel the time has come to tell our parents. It feels so pralizing. But we need to do it. We can't hide all our life from them. If anyone has any good advice...PLEASE, share.

  1. Angela

    Angela

    May 3, 2006

    My parents would kill me (or any of my other family members for that matter)if they were to find out that I'm in love my older first cousin. When I was little, I didn't really know what it meant to be in love someone but I did know what it meant to like being around someone. I always looked up to him. He's 39 years old now and I'm now 24 years old. The last time I saw him (in person before reuniting) was when I was about 5 and he was in his mid-20's. We reunited last year at a family BBQ and have been speaking to each over the phone. He's tan, has a bald head and he STILL has that same big tattoo on his left arm. Years ago, he often wore white wifebeaters and it looked very good on him because he worked out all of the time (he still does). I remember how he always used to sit me on his lap and smile very brightly at me. I was very shy so I'd drop my head in embarrassment when he would. I'm unsure if he feels the same way about me but at the BBQ, he kept looking at me as if he wanted to jump my bones. He told me I'm beautiful but I figured he was only telling me that because he's my cousin. The whole thing seems kind of weird because his kids (my second cousins) are in my age group and they'd probably be disgusted. I just felt this vibe from him when we reunited. Like he was thinking something about me but he didn't want me to know. I could see it in his eyes and in his body language. He didn't even give my sister the attention he gave me and she hadn't seen him in years either. He kept sitting next to me and put his arm around the back of my chair. He looked in my face and just smiled. Then as we were talking, he was very soft-spoken. When I got up to go into our relative's house to get something, I briefly turned my head and caught him staring at my behind. I wanted to laugh. If we weren't cousins, he'd probably come right out and make a pass at me.

    When I either call him or he calls me, he always says, "What's up baby?" I was so tempted to tell him but I didn't want to end up looking like a fool or a sicko. What do you think? What should I do?

  1. Hope

    Hope

    May 5, 2006

    Wow, I'm so amazed to find this conversation on the net. I've fallen in love with a cousin. He's actually the son of my grandma's cousin... so that must make us third cousins or something... I dunno.
    Anyway he lives in another country and I'm always there to visit once or twice a year (other family there too).... and we've always had a wonderful connection but this last time we just allowed all of these suppressed emotions to come out and we fell in love. It's really taboo because we both live very seperate lives, in our own relationships, he's in his 40's and I'm a year from 30, and, we're cousins. But we've had the hardest time missing each other. It's tough... Whenever I hear from him I jump inside. I adore him. I've confided in two of my closest friends and believe it or not, they understand and have not judged me because they can see how innocent my feelings are... Good luck everyone...glad I'm not alone.

  1. The only 1  will ever love

    The only 1 will ever love

    May 5, 2006

    I'm glad also, i wish that people would be more open to it, they are open about a man being with a man! and i think that's weirder

  1. ?

    ?

    May 5, 2006

    You are right about the men part!!!!
    That is weirder!!!
    This world is weird!!!

  1. *sigh*

    *sigh*

    May 8, 2006

    I posted a long time ago far on up. But anyway i would like to say thank you for all the help. This has really made me fell better. And could you help me with one other thing? how should i tell her how i feel? thank you(again). Bye.

  1. ?

    ?

    May 8, 2006

    Well *sigh* you can start by asking her things that would help you see how she feels about them, and then tell her somehow, that is mine opinion

  1. *sigh*

    *sigh*

    May 8, 2006

    Ok, Like what?

  1. ?

    ?

    May 8, 2006

    First of all *sigh* did she give you any signs that see feels the same way as you?

  1. *sigh*

    *sigh*

    May 9, 2006

    Well i didnt really look. I didnt even know i liked her untill a while back and i havent seen her since.

  1. ?

    ?

    May 9, 2006

    You know those things.
    What do you mean i didn't really look?
    How old are you anyways?
    Well do you talk then?

  1. *sigh*

    *sigh*

    May 9, 2006

    What i mean by i didn't really look is i didnt pay attention to if she liked me or not. and i am 14. and we really don't talk over the phone.

  1. ?

    ?

    May 9, 2006

    You are very young... so don't you think that you should meet other girls first, cause only then you'll know if what you feel about your cousin is true!
    Cause if you never had a relationship before i think that is the reason why you feel the way you do about your cousin.
    And if you don't see her and don't talk to her and don't know how she feels then i don't think i can help you...
    I hope that someone else can!
    I love my cousin, but i've been through relationships and i'm sure about my feelings.
    I wish you all the best *sigh*

  1. *sigh*

    *sigh*

    May 9, 2006

    Ok, Thanks. you have helped me alot. thanks again. Bye

    And my real name is Brandon

  1. 4bidden Love

    4bidden Love

    May 10, 2006

    I'm so unhappy today....this is obviously all a bunch of bullshit phases that we're all going through because they will never love us like we love them.....or they would be here and we wouldn't be on this stupid site....he told me last night through text messages that this could never work and he didn't even feel comfortable about it from the start, but when were on the phone a week ago he was telling me he felt right about it too but that he didn't want his mom knowing I'm not good at keeping secrets and I've already told too many people....it's all blowing up on me now and I'm so emtionally distraught about this I want to sell all of my stuff and run away....far away where noone can find me cause I love him and in my mind it could have worked but he didn't want it to...I guess he doesn't love me like I love him he says he loves me but we can't be in a relationship...he says he wants to persue other relationships and I got drunk all night and left him a bunch of messages and he hasn't called back....I've already strated drama by telling everyone I'm moving away cause I'm so hurt about this I can't live with it............I ended up puking a little and now I'm drinking again and I never drink, but I'm so hurt by this idk what to do.....somebody please help me.....I feel like I can never get over him....and my heart just keeps trying to figure out ways to still manipulate him into my life....I feel sick....I thought he felt like me and didn't care what people think, but he does and it's all over!!!!WWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAHHHH!!!

  1. love again

    love again

    May 10, 2006

    You will love again!!!!!!!!
    That is for sure!!!!
    Everyone feels that way when they are in love!!!!!
    Try to get over it!!!
    It's not the end of the world you know!!!!
    Shit happens!!!!
    Ok you love him but he doesn't ...it's better that way!!! Believe me if you convince your self that you will fall in love again in your life it will be easier to forget him!!!
    Please stop drinking that won't lead you to anything!!!!!
    GET OVER HIM!!!!!!!!

  1. ^^

    ^^

    May 13, 2006

    i love my cousin she loves me we are in love very nice fairt tale so i say we love haha wat i doin am i crazy wat da who am i tokin to waaa wer am i?? help!!

  1. ^^

    ^^

    May 13, 2006

    4+2=6WOWOWOW 2 chasing each other super sign she wished fealt great happy weohohoh...??? ubec cool place i did wat i did she felt back wat da we happy but we far so we sad but still love so we happy but happy not always happy wen we far but still love hahahaha...^^ amf n2 eheh kaw na nga sulat d ko sineryoso to hihi saya2 lng ahihi^_^_^_^_^_^ i love you BABY haha not name coz myt seen by other wtf hihi ^_^ love you SORRY IF YOU CANT UNDERSTAND hihi

  1. gemark

    gemark

    May 13, 2006

    follow your heart if thats how you feel then go for it if he/she rejects you remember that you tried your best and did what your heart told you let it become a weird memory ^^ if he/she accepts you then make him/her happy dont fool around!love to d max FEEL IT! coz this is something different this is your cuz lots and lots of problems gona go ur way gota be strong gota be togdr til d end coz dat how love works^^ TXT MESSAGE:"find out wt mkes u hapi folow wtever ur heart tells they may call u foolish but at least ur a hapi fooL not a lonely wise person" never say goodbye when u stil want to try nvr giv yp wen u fil u cn stil take it nvr say u dnt love that person anymore wen u cant let go^^wen u luv sum1 very much u got go thru every tear heartache every painX_X DIE if you must for him/her haha^_____^ but not suicide eh? la noob hihi^^... you may sin but GOD will forgive you if you have no bad intentions if your doing it for a good cause as in PURE LOVE^_^ bwahaha!^^ you two so close feeling the warm love of a human touching another human^^ open up your eager eyes O.O “Time is capable of understanding how great Love is." prove to everyone that what your doin is no joke prove to everyone that you have a point and do everything to make it happen PROMISE IT WITH YOUR LIFE SHOW THEM WHAT YOU ARE bwahaha^_^ say hu u im me you love he she ya me love she he bowt u she my cuz but say hey wtf? hihi OK DATS IT^^ some of my chit chat may not be connected^^ kuya loves baby loves kuya loves baby^^ how did it end up like this? ^_^ cant live w/o u^^ *love you very much #### dont leave me lets face the world together side by side til d end of time* okz ### akin ka lng bleh^^ 4 shooting stars falling same exact spot a sign i ask 2 stars chasing each other destiny has been made. wahaha??? next day 2 shooting stars again only 2 of us watchin that night WHOOOOOOAAAAAAAA I DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT IM TYPING HAHAHA^^

  1. silence is not golden

    silence is not golden

    May 14, 2006

    I love my cousin and he is about to get married, I know he loves me also but he says that he cannot persue a relationship because of what our family will say. I feel so helpless, to sit by and watch him get married and smile as if my heart is not breaking inside. I told myself that if he loved me truly he would not care what his family would say, but I am not sure..Does anyone have any advice for me?

  1. gemark

    gemark

    May 15, 2006

    2 shooting stars again only 2 of us watchin that night 2nd degree cuz

  1. idunnowthimdoin

    idunnowthimdoin

    May 18, 2006

    WOW i dunno if everyone getting tired of hearing this but i was surprised to find this site cuz ive fallen in love with a cousin too!!! It started when i was fourteen and i met him for the first time that i remember, he lives in bolivia and had a girlfriend of 2 years, not much happened that time but when i returned 2 years later i was 16 and he was 23 and A LOT happened (he broke up with his girlfriend of then 4 years to be with me)i was terrified the entire time because we would sneak around but it seriously was the best moments of my life he brought out a side to me i did not kno existed and i lost my virginity with him. but at the end of the summer i had to leave and we said we'd stay together until i returned the next summer and we cried wen i left. i ended up breaking up with him at the end of november because i had thought about it and started doubting everything because i was scared of wut my family would say (hes not my first cousin , he's my moms half sisters grandson, i kno its kind of far but our family is really close to each other so it would be a HUGE deal) he was sad but accepted it after a long line of questions after that i talked to him twice a month until i returned to find out he had gotten his ex pregnant in march(the one he went out with for four years)i was staying at his house and she had moved in with him so i suffered for 3 weeks having to see them together knowing that her baby was related to me but i did not want it to be born( i felt so bad n lost n confused) i decided to let him be after a lot of thinking until one day me and him were talking alone and he told me he still loved me and that everything that had happened the summer before was the most real thing he had ever experienced he said he was marrying his ex because of the child (i still dont kno whether to belive him or not). he asked me a couple of times wut wouldve happpened between us if i had returned n he had been alone i stayed silent because i didnt kno i remeber thinking before i found out he was engaged to his ex that i wouldnt continue the relationship because it was too complicated, but at that moment i think i wouldve inevitably returned to him. needless to say we didnt get back together and i left , No one found out (thank god, although i think his mom was very suspicious) i still remember everything we went through and cry , im 18 now so it was last summer that my heart broke and two years ago that i had the best time of my life. i guess it worked out for the best because i didnt hurt my family (like they ouldve been if they had found out everything that happened) but i dont kno sometimes i wonder wut itll be like when i go baq 2 or 3 years from now or even 10 years from now and i see him with her and their kid/my little cousin. i wonder if he'll regret the fact that he's not with me or even if he regrets or even thinks about it now. ( i guess my heart is mending, slowly, but getting there)

  1. nicky

    nicky

    May 25, 2006

    i am 14, i am in love with my cousin, i don't think it's right. my freinds get weirded out becuase i like him. he is the only guy that ever spent time with me for a long time, and i mean a long time, like almonst everyday, we are best friends, and he is my first cousin. i am getting a feeling that he likes me too and my friends say that too. but is it wrong, because what about birth defect or law or something like that, and my parents think differently of me.

  1. nicky

    nicky

    May 25, 2006

    plez, someone help me!!!!!!

  1. stuck

    stuck

    May 25, 2006

    ok hi everyone!! i know this is a site for being in love with ur cousins....but i'am sooo desperate right know for any advice this is the only site i can turn too:(...i know u guys are gonna like shoot me! but i'm in such a complicated situation.......ok i'm stuck between two guys and their like bestfriends. i'm having a hard time deciding who to chose because they both are very different and have good qualities. the problem is boy #1 when i first dated was a little distant he was the shy type and he never really showed interest even tho i'm sure he had an interest. he treated me like shit a couple of times by not calling me often and stiffing me (i know this sounds horrible and i shouldn't go with him) but my heart has hope in him and the interest is still there:( but i know he was the sweatest guy deep down and he didn't mean to do all that he did. so i fought with him a lot and never spoke to him for long...until his friend came along and he was soo caring with me calling and meeting up with like ur supposed too when dating lol...the problem with guy #2 tho i didn't really see him that romantically as i saw guy #1. but then i started..k i'm notmean like that to usually to get in the way of two friends...but since i was hurt from the guy #1 i'm like why not!he won't care anyway...... anyway i started to feel bad soo i ended stuff with guy#2 nothing happened anyway cuz i still liked guy #1 but...now they are both in the picture again!! i don't know what to do and guy # 1 admits that he screwed up and says he's changed.....omg i dunno!!!!!i don't know what to say if one of them asks who i like more:(((i like both MAJOR HELP PLEAAAAASSEEEEEE...its the best i can doo....its very complicated....just tell me how to choose between two guys..

  1. gemark

    gemark

    May 25, 2006

    to stuck!X_X

    either way somebody's gonna get hurt i know how much you like guy#1 but life isnt like that..your heart is still in guy#1 even though he doesnt care that much.. we dont get everything we want but in the end we end up loving some1 better dan we dream.haha!!^^ its not a matter of choosing! thats baddddddd X_X its like you dont love one of them.. you just choose???X_X what does your heart tell you?xD

  1. juggy

    juggy

    May 25, 2006

    i thought this whole thing (of 2 cusins fallin in luv)was rare. but aftr seeing this whole page im fellin a little better now. lyk evry1 im in luv with ma cuz as well (im 16 n ma cuz is 15). we both r in luv with eachother...so much that we've already had sex twice in her house.just one example of sex with her. both of our families went for a dinner once, ma cuz felt sick (fake!), n i said i ll go home to take care. we reached home ba taxi, entered da house n she immediately pushed me on da bed. since it was bot of our 1st tym, i made da first move ba unbuttonin her shirt n pant...den removin her bra n pantie/thong. aftr dat it was her move...she was just so horny dat she kept liplockin me evry 5 mins. at the end i finised da job ba doin sum dirty ridin'...LICKIN MA CUZ'S VAGINA TILL IT WAS DRIPPING WET!!! dis was just da 1st tym but the second one was a storm. i wont tell u...but f u wanna kno den mail me. btw im an indian

  1. adam

    adam

    May 26, 2006

    i used to like my bombshell beauty cousin who is 10 years older than me when i was in elementary. I was 11 and she was 21.

    Present time, last year I liked my cousin who is 8 years younger than me. I wonder WTF's wrong with me.

  1. largonchi

    largonchi

    May 28, 2006

    Hey guys! this is quite the website. I'm not too sure if i'm in love with my cousin, but since i can remember everytime he comes over to my house, we always find someway to mess around. It feels so good and so right, and i feel like i belong in his arms He kissed me last time he was here, and i pushed him away because i thought it was wrong, and i was afraid if it went any further it would lead to sex, but know i wish he was here to do it allover again. it's not right i've only told one person and she thinks i'm crazy so am i? and to everyone iwish i knew if it was right or wrong it happened to me i don't know how but it just happened and i can forget about it that's the only reason i ever get excited is when were going to see each other

  1. silence is not golden

    silence is not golden

    May 28, 2006

    Well guys, he did it. My cousin got married yesterday and I just sat by like a fool and watched it happen. All the while crying on the inside. It broke my heart. Partly because I felt like I was loosing him and partly because we had sex the night before. By the way did I mention that I was the maid of honor. This situation is the most out of control, painful, crazy situation that I have every been in. It's like I'm watching some sort of bad movie. I'm inlove with my cousin, but powerless to follow my heart, becasue of what the family may say. Any advice?

  1. largonchi

    largonchi

    May 28, 2006

    to silence is not golden
    I wish i knew what to tell you i am afraid of my family finding out too so any advice you may have for me would be great and weve almost got caught a couple of times but thank goodness never
    to think a relationship with your cousin is ever possible is stretching it i think because i know with me and him it is not possible.with my cousin this has been going on for about 8years i love him we hang out and fu*k around and its all great but i think thats all it is, for him anyways, its a way to get him off, but doesnt a kiss mean more than that? The best thing i can tell you well that i would do is to tell your cousin how you feel about him and see what he says this all didn't happen for no reason and whoever you trust the most like mom or dad or a sister whatever tell them and see what they think cause if you love him itll be really difficult to say goodbye

  1. silence is not golden

    silence is not golden

    May 29, 2006

    Largonchi, Thanks for the advice. He called me yesterday and we talked for a little bit. I cried all night. It is so hard, he tells me that he loves me. But he also says that he is happy with her.I know I just need to give up and leave him alone and that is what I am trying my best to do but it just hurts so much. It's like a part of my heart has been ripped out. And I'm not even allowed to cry about it for risk of someone seeing.

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    May 30, 2006

    no one still didn't give me any advice, its just i wish he knoew how i feel, i feel like we belong together, we look at each other for a long time, i don't thing he likes me, but everyone thinks that he does. what should i do, i think of him 24/7, im really in love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    May 30, 2006

    i agree with " silence is not golden" i also cry almost every night knowing we might not ever be together. almost every love song reminds me of him. i feel lonely inside and i just want to hold him. i feel really depressed. we go almost everywhere together. the park, outside, the pool, we are always doing an activity. at the pool, the stroked my head when i was underwater a couple of times, he wanted to hold hand in the pool and spin, though i said no. he looks at me a couple of times and smiles, though i look at him and give him the " what are you looking at" look, but smile. even if my jokes aren;t really that funny, he laughs, does he love me the same way i do? i never kissed a guy before, i am hoping he is me first kiss. should i tell him i love him, or should he tell me first, and doe he love me, or is he just trying to be funny and friendly?????? please, some one answer, i need to know!!!!

  1. Largonchi

    Largonchi

    May 31, 2006

    Nicky:

    It definitely sounds like he has a thing for you, but how are you going to find out if you don't ask. It's intimidating, i mean it's not an easy thing to say "i'm in love with you, and i wanted to know how you feel about me" it's definitely not, because i've chickened out...not about telling him i'm in love with him, but about my feelings towards him. I don't talk to him at all after he leaves our house (he lives really far away) until he comes back or i go up there. I think i've figured my dilemma out, i think it's just sexual between us, but as i asked anyone before, what does a kiss mean?
    Nicky, why not just initiate a kiss one day when you guys are alone, and then you'll surely be able to see how he really feels. If he freaks out, simply apologize and make up some stupid story, like you wanted to see how it felt to kiss someone, or whatever. If he likes it, and continues or whatever, it may lead to other things, the kiss is the beginning of wonderful things ;) just go with the flow, and then you'll know for sure...and if all else fails, or if you chicken out (THIS IS WHAT I DID) download the song below, and play it when you guys are alone, and tell him this is how you feel...if he listens, he'll know...


    MARY J. BLIGE LYRICS

    Be Without You


    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you
    (Oh, oh, oh, oh)
    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you
    (Oh, oh, oh, oh)
    Oooo (oh, oh, oh, oh) oooo

    Chemistry was crazy from the get-go
    Neither one of us knew why
    We didn't build nothing overnight
    Cuz a love like this takes some time
    People swore it off as a phase
    Said we can't see that
    Now from top to bottom
    They see that we did that (yes)
    It's so true that (yes)
    We've been through it (yes)
    We got real sh** (yes)
    See baby we been...

    Too strong for too long (and I can't be without you baby)
    And I'll be waiting up until you get home (cuz I can't sleep without you baby)
    Anybody who's ever loved, ya know just what I feel
    Too hard to fake it, nothing can replace it
    Call the radio if you just can't be without your baby

    I got a question for ya
    See I already know the answer
    But still I wanna ask you
    Would you lie? (no)
    Make me cry? (no)
    Do somethin' behind my back and then try to cover it up?
    Well, neither would I, baby
    My love is only your love (yes)
    I'll be faithful (yes)
    I'm for real (yes)
    And with us you'll always know the deal
    We've been...

    Too strong for too long (and I can't be without you baby)
    And I'll be waiting up until you get home (cuz I can't sleep without you baby)
    Anybody who's ever loved, ya know just what I feel
    Too hard to fake it, nothing can replace it
    Call the radio if you just can't be without your baby

    See this is real talk
    I'm always stay (no matter what)
    Good or bad (thick and thin)
    Right or wrong (all day everyday)
    Now if you're down on love or don't believe
    This ain't for you (no, this ain't for you)
    And if you got it deep in your heart
    And deep down you know that it's true (come on, come on, come on)
    Well, let me see you put your hands up (hands up)
    Fellas tell your lady she's the one (fellas tell your lady she's the one, oh)
    Put your hands up (hands up)
    Ladies let him know he's got your love
    Look him right in his eyes and tell him
    We've been...

    Too strong for too long (and I can't be without you baby)
    And I'll be waiting up until you get home (cuz I can't sleep without you baby)
    Anybody who's ever loved, ya know just what I feel
    Too hard to fake it, nothing can replace it
    Call the radio if you just can't be without your baby

    Heeeeeeeeeeeey Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh
    Heeeeeeeeeeeey Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh

    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you
    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you
    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you
    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you
    I wanna be with you, gotta be with you, need to be with you

  1. Largonchi

    Largonchi

    May 31, 2006

    To silence is not golden,

    it's not good to keep it all in...it's really not...i can tell you from 4 years of psychology it's not a healthy thing. You know what i did? i told my best best friend everything that happened between us, in detail and everything i felt for him, and she didn't judge me, and she didn't run away, and she didn't even think i was weird. She is my best friend, someone i confided in, and trusted. Isn't there anyone that you trust with a deep dark secret, that you can tell how you feel. And when you do, make them swear on your friendship that they won't say anything!
    Please...

    Another thing i wanted to say is there is nothing wrong with crying about it either. If he really means this much to you, and you are hurt, who cares if you cry and someone finds out...you don't have to tell them it's because you love your cousin. You can tell them you simply, had a rough day.
    Everyone posts on this website because they can relate to how each of us feels, and definitely continue to keep us updated, the difference is, you have to start trusting your secret with someone that isn't just typing to you.

  1. Flash

    Flash

    Jun 1, 2006

    Hey people
    I`m 17 and recently shifted to canada. I am in love with my cousin who lives here too. I wanted to ask you guys that how can i tell if SHE loves me back too? PLZ HELP....

  1. Largonchi

    Largonchi

    Jun 1, 2006

    Flash:

    Ask her...
    Everyone is so afraid of asking, but what's the worst that could happen??? She could be weirded out a little...or kiss her, and if she kisses back there you go...9 times out of 10 they are waiting for you to make a move and they are too afraid to move on a feeling themselves...take it from an expert, i've been where you are but one day i just did it...

  1. Sky

    Sky

    Jun 1, 2006

    I too was or should i say i really am in-love with ma cuz too...i like her not because she has the characteristics of a girl i want, i love her for what she is...i know its really difficult loving your own cuzin but who cares anyway...if its really love your feeling with her then go on why even care for other people have to say...

  1. Flash

    Flash

    Jun 1, 2006

    Dear Largonchi and Sky
    Thankyou for your comments. I need some help though. I am fairly good looking and i dont want to spoil what i have with her. Any advice how to know bfore i make my move.HELP....

  1. Largonchi

    Largonchi

    Jun 1, 2006

    Flash

    My best advice to you is to play it up...don't make a move, but do something gently that perhaps a cousin could do or a boyfriend too...like go up and give her a shoulder massage, she how she reacts, and responds, ummm...gosh i'm stuck on this one, i think the only real way to tell is go for it...sorry i can't be more helpful but when you make a move just tell her that if she doesn't feel the same way about you...then "can we forget about what just happened and go on like everything was as normal" say that to her...after all your still blood relatives and she can't turn away that easily...chances are though as you describe it, she feels the same way.

  1. Flash

    Flash

    Jun 2, 2006

    Dear Largonchi

    Thankyou soooooo much for ure advice again. I took the innitiative and asked her out on our school prom. She said that she would go with me, if her father agrees. Now i dont know if shes going with me as a "Cousin" or as a girlfriend. I however specifically asked her "Will you go to the school prom with me". I know she likes me. My question to you is that how do i know that she likes me as a boyfriend and not only a cuzin. Help again lol..........

  1. Largonchi

    Largonchi

    Jun 3, 2006

    Flash...

    hmm tricky, maybe you should wait till at the prom and then make the ever so anticipated move. If you tell her before, there might be "a weird factor" or if it gets out her father may not agree to let her go...so wait, ask her to dance a slow dance, and go in for it, but don't freak her out, tell her how you feel right before...

    hope this helps...

  1. deen

    deen

    Jun 3, 2006

    Cousin marriage is stupid, wrong and disgusting cousins who r together should be shot its no different to marrying ur siblings. its sickening that people do these things just because theyre desperate.

  1. Flash

    Flash

    Jun 3, 2006

    Dear Largonchi
    I`m not so sure if she`l go to the prom with me(maybe cuz of her dad). Should i like ask her out on a date? I cant ask her man......i`m scared. I know its stupid but i just cant. Ive bin in love with this girl for 7 years. Man plz any advice on how to find out without actually askin her. Youve done alot for me. I`d be thankful if u help me once more.

  1. koo-koo-kachoo-mrs.robinson

    koo-koo-kachoo-mrs.robinson

    Jun 4, 2006

    to silence is not golden:

    you did a pretty awful thing sleeping with the guy (cousin or no cousin) the night before he gets married to the woman he wants to be with for the rest of his life.

    how would you feel if you were the bride? it would do everyone better if you stay away from him as far as possible forever.

  1. confused but in love

    confused but in love

    Jun 5, 2006

    I can't believe that I found this site. I'm almost embarassed that I was searching for something. I didn't realize that there were so many other people in the same situation. Yes, God help me...I'm in love with my cousin. It would seem that he was made for me and that I've been waiting for him my whole life. I'm so torn...break it off or stay. We both know that our family would disown us...but we can't stop. I know he loves me and I love him the same. I know that it seems dirty or bad, but I'm 30 and I've NEVER felt this way. It's like he's reading my thoughts about the "perfect man." He's evferything that I could ever want, but the fact that we are cousins holds me back...and I guess it should. But I want nothing more than to be with him. What do I do?

  1. Silence is not golden

    Silence is not golden

    Jun 6, 2006

    It's not that I intentionally set out to sleep with him on his wedding night. I was not flaunting myself are anything like that. I was actually at home crying into my pillow, dreading like hell the next day when I heard a knock at the door. It was him. He told me that he loved me and that he missed me, that he was sorry that it turned out this way, that he didn't want to break her heart, that our family would never understand, that he wished that he could be with me, that he would always love me. I know that it was a horrible thing to do, but I love him so much. This is not a game to me, or some sort of evil plot. I truly love him, and I wish with all of my heart that I could be with him. I'm not some teenage girl experiences her first episode of puppy love, I am a grown woman who has fallen inlove with her cousin.

  1. Flash

    Flash

    Jun 7, 2006

    PLZZZZZ Somebody HELP
    I`m 17 and my cousin is 17. I told her recently that i liked her. She doesnt believe me. She thinks i`m lying. Shes afraid that if i might be JOKING. She said "its too good to be true". She thinks its a phase and i`ll get over it. Ive loved her since 3 years, but i told her now. How can i convince her that she is the girl i truly care about and love dearly? Do you guys think she likes me? If so why is she not accepting me???????? HELP PLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

  1. Shattered_Heart

    Shattered_Heart

    Jun 9, 2006

    To Flash:
    Usually I would say patience is a virtue, but I've had some bad experience with that philosophy. two things.
    1. SHE said is too good to be true right? that definitely means she feels something...probably just as strongly as u do.
    2. you're both 17. don't do anything that could mess up your futures. you don't want to rush anything and make a mess...that's what i did an i feel dead inside...don't want anyone to ever feel like that. Take your time if u want to 'come out' to the family an ting, but a confrontation (gentle of course) with her is necessary. Be brave, from what u said she does like you...u just need to take initiative flash. She is scared that's why she's not accepting u...probably of her dad the most an then of u just using her...all girls are afraid of that. Trust is something built. Good luck.

  1. jojo

    jojo

    Jun 10, 2006

    hello im only 15 but i told my cousin how i felt about him and he said he felt the same and we have been going out with each other for 5 months both know 16 and thought it was the right time for sex whe had it on the night of my birthday and it felt so special but i havnt told any one about us yet i dont know hpw they will take it that is what scears us to death we love each other and wehat every one to accsepted that please help w.b jo and richard !

  1. Flash

    Flash

    Jun 10, 2006

    THANKYOU Shattered_Heart for ure ADVICE. I appreciate it very much. THANKS :)

  1. ?

    ?

    Jun 10, 2006

    :-(

  1. Lawrence Dakota

    Lawrence Dakota

    Jun 11, 2006

    WHo wants to marry their cousin?

    Move to NY, NJ, Hawaii, Calif... they allow cousin marriage there.

    I'm moving there next month so I can marry the love of my life.

    Good luck to you all!

  1. sue

    sue

    Jun 16, 2006

    hey u guys..!
    im back i havent been on here for about good 6 months !
    just wanted to say that me and my cousin are on and off but luv each other very much !
    as in right now we are goin through lots !!!
    his family isnt/will not allow it and his givin up !
    he tells me that i'll be hell and we would hate it and give up ?
    i dont think thats ture bcuz if u love somethin u fight for it till the end.. or is that me ?

    what chu guys think ?

  1. Jon

    Jon

    Jun 18, 2006

    I see my cosuin a lot and after a while she started to like me a lot in fact it was getting crazy because i liked her too were 4th cosuins so its legal to marry. it feels a little odd but we love each other.

  1. jay gee

    jay gee

    Jun 19, 2006

    I'm madly in love with my cousin but she doesn't love me back, I was born and raised in Canada and she grew up in the Philippines, I met her once when I visited a long time ago. She recently immigrated to Canada and I've spent some time with her and this was how I fell in love with her.... But I she has a boyfriend back home and I don't want to complicated things any further, because of this I'm am just going to keep it to myself, well, of course except to anyone who reads it on the internet.

  1. anonymoussss

    anonymoussss

    Jun 21, 2006

    aghhh ive been in love with my cousin for the past year...but i dont know if she has the same feelings. i love spending time with her, sharing my thoughts and feelings with her, when i think about her i get butterflies in my stomach...and i cant stop thinkin about her!! I know my parents and our family in general would NOT allow this...
    Me and my cousin spend alot of time together, we've held hands, even cuddled, but i STILL dont konw if she loves me back...she sends mixed messages at times..its complicated. Our parents and my sisters and everyone has thought theres somthing between us, and we keep telling them its nothing, and we've never confronted each other about it or anything...

    It depresses the hell out of me thinking that she might not love me back, or if this can't work out.
    I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...
    I'm 16 and my cousin's 15 1/2 or somthing...maybe its too soon to be thinking like this but i dont know..
    someone help me out...

  1. Sarah

    Sarah

    Jun 22, 2006

    Hey guys
    How and where do you make the first move?
    And how do you do it without you're family noticing!

  1. Mike

    Mike

    Jun 27, 2006

    I am so confused! im in love with my cousin and I don't know what to do she loves me to weve jsut never said anything other day I was staying at her house and well (seems odd but) she only has 1 bed (you get it now) we had to sleep in the same bed. Nothing happened except she ept clinging onto me like a monkey would to a bannana lol. Anyway we both know we love each other but we just are so confused cause I have a girlfrend and she has a boyfriend. I AM SO CONFUSED!

  1. abdul

    abdul

    Jul 1, 2006

    I've always loved my cousin. She came in my life 10years ago. She is my first love and my only. I'm so attracted and love her so much I don't know what say or write. We got married 8 years ago we are blest with 2 lovely children we lost a child on September 2004 she was a blessing from ALLAH.
    thanks ALLAH every night and day is like the first time we met. it is great
    go for it

  1. alexa gibbons

    alexa gibbons

    Jul 4, 2006

    my cousin and i had a thing. we kissed and all, but after spending two weeks secretly dodging our family he acted like nothing ever happened. he's not cold, in fact he's still friendly and all. too friendly, in fact. it's just that he never made reference to what happened between us. it was like he had a complete amnesia about what we did in the span of weeks we were together. kinda bothered me at first, but eventually i became indifferent.

    sometimes i miss him, sometimes there's nothing.

    nothing.

    secretly i still wish we could be together.

  1. diamond

    diamond

    Jul 5, 2006

    ME AND MY COUSIN ARE IN A REAL SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.WE ARE DATING WE HAVE A CHILD

    IF HE/SHE MAKE YOU HAPPY.DONT LET NO ONE MAKE U
    SAD.LIVE UR LIFE. A COUSIN WANT HURT YOU IF THEY LOVE U BUT A STRANGER CAN.

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 6, 2006

    I wanted advice. Here's my situation:
    My cousin and I used to play when we were little, we even kissed when we were just kids. But I moved away to America when I turned 10, and we didn't talk to each other until I turned 15 and visited my home land. Well, I found out that I still loved him. My cousin and I grew apart and yet seeing him was too much. We even slept in the same bed, because there wasn't enough room, and seeing him lying next to me in his boxers just drove me crazy. So, after a few months I left, and I am now 17 and haven't talked to him for 2 years. I don't know how he feels, also my family is very strict.
    The point is, I can try not to think about him, and yet when I imagine him with another girl, it drives me crazy. I want him so much, but no one knows, not even him.
    What should I do? Should I tell him?
    Should I move on?
    Please! I can't take this anymore!

  1. Romulese

    Romulese

    Jul 7, 2006

    Hi.I have loved my cousin for many years,we have always been close.i think about her everyday.I always touch her ass and touch her legs,she does not do anything although she is married.I love her deeply,want to be intimate with her.Please give me advice.

  1. trucee

    trucee

    Jul 8, 2006

    i am dating my cousin we like been together for 6 year now,i love my male cousin when me met it was love at first sight,we met on a chatline.when we met he told me we was cousin i didnt believe him at first until he start naming
    people in my family.i wasnt down with at first but them more time we spend together i started to have feeling we didnt do anythiny we chill with each other everday .to we ready for the next step.we been sleeping with other for6years.our family not cool with it but that life.we have a child together.she 2 years old
    dont let nobody run your life if that person make
    you feel good.it your life do what ever make u
    happy

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 8, 2006

    Romulese~ You mentioned that she is married... I doubt you can do much until she decides to leave her husband for you. If you really care about her, you should let her know that you want to be together, but don't pressure her into a divorce. She might not mind you touching her, but that doesn't mean she's okay with being with her cousin.
    So, give her time, and let her know how you feel. It's her decision.

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 8, 2006

    Hey,im in love with my first cousin too..Im almost 16 now and she is 17 Since when i was 10 and lived in my grandparents house and far away from my parents for 1 yr i have a crush on my cousin but i realize that she is my cousin we are not close that time then i left that place for 6 yrs and return this april 2 have a vacation for 1 week and when i saw her she is too beautiful...but i dont care if she is beautiful i still see her as my cousin then we started to be close she always makes me laugh and i makes her laugh too then i decided to spent my remaining days with her before we go back we slept at the same bed too for 3 days but with my younger brother, She Seems to like being with me and i do too when we are in the beach we are always together talking with each other when im with her i wish that time stop no other girls have been so close too me even though many girls like me one time when we are in bed i hold her hand when she tries to tickle me and she doesnt do anything that time im thinking that i want to stay but if i stay my life will be wrong but what is wrong of being happy?One day before We left that place we have a family reunion again in the beach when far from my other relatives me and my cousin only..She told me that my father told her that we are coming back this december,i told her that in that day maybe i have a girl friend but what i really mean is that Dont Wait For Me!!!And She Told me if im going to choose a girlfriend i must choose a girl as beautiful as my sister ,I said in my place girls are more beautiful than my sister and u{my cousin}then a minute later i told her "Thanks.....For Being Good to me!!!She told me to stay!then i dont talk to her so much bcuz im going to miss her and when me and my family is going to return but first going 2 my grandpa house she ask me to ride with her in a motorcycle but i refused her seems she wants to tell me something...then after saying goodbye to grandpa we left...the sad thing is i dont know what she feels about me and she dont know what i feel too but i tried to tell her my feelings by actions...and now im so sad!!!!!!i thought of her everyday sometimes i think if i didnt met her maybe im not suffering this pain!!but if i can turn back the time i will do the same thing even though its going to hurt me......if loving her is wrong..............i dont wana be Right!!!!!!!I think Heaven and Hell is Not Real!!!!!!and God is just a Myth.....and i will not spend my life for a myth....so i decided to spend my life to things that im going to be happy!!!Cuz this is the only life i got!!!!!! i need some advice if i need to forget her or still love her when i return this december??? Please Help me this pain is killin me!!!

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 8, 2006

    Unknown~ You don't have to forget her. It sounds like she likes you too. So, my advice is just go with it. If she really does like you, she'll let you know. It sounds like she's a straight forward girl. And if you feel the same, than you should tell her, i mean you're a guy and you know your feelings. Don't be shy, and make sure no one finds out. I'm sure you can make it work. Just before you do anything, make sure you really do care for her and its not just a phase.
    You don't want to hurt both of you.

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 8, 2006

    To Olga~Thanks For the advice but even if she likes me too we are far away to each other's place what if she finds someone else?i dont want to end up dreaming!!!i dont want to live in dreams!!!!so i will find someone and try loving her and if i still love my cousin then il go for it and nothing can stop me !!!you know sometimes we need to let go,to forget in order for us to know what is better or right.....Olga maybe we need to move on who knows maybe someone better will come..Its hard to forget...like you olga 2yrs passed and u still loved him!!!try to find someone else and love him and maybe u will find someone better.........

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 8, 2006

    Unknown~ Thank you. And maybe I should. It's just so complicated when he is all you think about. Always comparing your crushes to your cousin, knowing no one could ever live up to him. Heh... maybe that's just me. I'm also far away from him, and I also worry that he might find someone else.
    Anyways, I wish you luck at trying to move on! Just don't disregard your feelings if you find that you still love her. :)

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 9, 2006

    To Olga~Thank You too for the good advice..i wish you luck.....Maybe this is the last comment im going to post...To all who love their cousin i wish u all the luck Bye bye..........

  1. honey bun

    honey bun

    Jul 10, 2006

    Has any felmale who's got a first cousin boold realted got there sister pregrant and what revenced.

  1. Romulese

    Romulese

    Jul 10, 2006

    To Olga,Thanx for the advice.I really dont know how to tell her I Love Her.I sms her everyday telling her,i Miss her,i have been dreaming about her and how much I love her,she never shows these sms to her husband.i have also realised that when i fone her and she is alone and i tell her i Love her she says she loves me to but when her husband is around she does not say that she loves me,I think Deep down in her heart she does know that my love for her is not normal.When we were young we grew up together,We slept in one bed together,we kissed really had a lovely time together,she is 31 and i am 26. years .I have been attracted to my cousin and have loved her for many years.Sometimes i hope her husband dies so we can be together.I think about her everyday,i love her enormously.

  1. kimmy

    kimmy

    Jul 10, 2006

    My cousin got my sister pregrant and he's the dad but I do feel a bit sorry for me sister boyfriend also me cousin parnter. If he every got me sister pregant again they should just get to together also they desever each other tracter's. Im going to get my revenced on them. hahahaha

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 11, 2006

    Romulese~ It seems as if she does love her husband. I'm sorry to have to say this, but since she doesn't tell you that she loves you in front of him, it proves that she doesn't want to fight with her husband. But she does love you also, I guess what you should do is admit to her just how much you care about her. And let her choose who she'll love most, her husband or you.
    I'm sorry things are so complicated for you. I do hope it gets better. Keep me posted and let me know how things turn out!

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Jul 13, 2006

    uhhh to..largonchi, im sorry i havent been here too long but i dont think i have the guts to try and kiss him, and if i do tell him i love him, he might not treat me the same, like he's scared of me, but the clostes thing i have done that was romantic like almost kissing is like when we look at pics, i get so close to him, and when in the car i layed my head on his shoulder..does anyone know any good ways for an excuse to hug him?? like long???

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Jul 13, 2006

    and, if i do make up an excuse for kissing him, like i wanted to know what it was like to kiss someone, he might say why me?? im ur cousin??!! and when i talk about other boys, i say don't get jealous, he says "no im not" and it does sound very convincing...*cries*

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 14, 2006

    Nicky~ Hey, sorry I don't know much about your situation. But you asked about an excuse to hug him. Well, I thought that if I was looking for an excuse, I'd share something really important with him. For example, think of a problem that you could have, and then talk to him about it. Just tell him that you need someone there for you and that he's the only guy that you think would listen to you. Then, tell him the problem and ask him for his advice/help. After he helps you, you can say something like "Omg! You're right, thank you so much. I knew I couldn't do this without you." And then give him a hug. Make sure you prolong it though and linger, then maybe if he notices that you didn't want to let go, he might realize that you have feelings for him.
    Just a thought.

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 14, 2006

    Hey I cant find someone like her!!!!bcuz she is perfect!!!!!but im trying to forget her but whenever i hear the song Iris - Goo Goo Dolls i remember her!! T_T the lyrics!!!!!!!seems like what i feel!!!

    And I'd give up forever to touch you
    Cause I know that you feel me somehow
    You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be
    And I don't want to go home right now

    And all I can taste is this moment
    And all I can breathe is your life
    Cause sooner or later it's over
    I just don't want to miss you tonight


    And I don't want the world to see me
    Cause I don't think that they'd understand
    When everything's made to be broken
    I just want you to know who I am


    And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming
    Or the moment of truth in your lies
    When everything seems like the movies
    Yeah you bleed just to know your alive

    And I don't want the world to see me
    Cause I don't think that they'd understand
    When everything's made to be broken
    I just want you to know who I am


    I don't want the world to see me
    Cause I don't think that they'd understand
    When everything's made to be broken
    I just want you to know who I am

    I just want you to know who I am
    I just want you to know who I am
    I just want you to know who I am
    I just want you to know who I am


    tell me if you like this song too?

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 14, 2006

    And I'd give up forever to touch you
    Cause I know that you feel me somehow
    You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be
    And I don't want to go home right now

    (i didnt tell her what i feel but i know she feels the same she is the closest girl to me
    and i dont want to go home but its only 1 week for me to stay)

    And all I can taste is this moment
    And all I can breathe is your life
    Cause sooner or later it's over
    I just don't want to miss you tonight

    (I really love her but its going to be over cuz im going back home and i just dont want to miss her)

    And I don't want the world to see me
    Cause I don't think that they'd understand
    When everything's made to be broken
    I just want you to know who I am

    (i dont want the world to see me cuz they will not understand me bcuz i love my cousin)

    thats what the song really means to me!!and that song is great!!!

  1. ill-conceived

    ill-conceived

    Jul 15, 2006

    aw, i never saw that song that way... it's great. here's another song i have for my cousin.
    ***********************************************

    please don't ask me
    -by John farnham-

    please don't ask me,
    what am i thinking...
    it's about you,
    please don't ask me,
    I never can see you,
    what can I do ?

    My first impulse is to run to your side,
    my heart's not free,
    and so I must hide,
    please don't ask me
    what I'm gonna say to you.

    I toss and turn, can't sleep at night,
    it's worrying me,
    I go to bed, turn out the lights,
    but your face I see.

    IT ONLY HURTS THE MORE I PRETEND,
    THAT WE COULD EVER BE MORE THAN FRIENDS
    PLEASE DON'T ASK ME WHY IM SO IN LOVE
    WITH YOU.

    You could easily make me happy,
    that I know,
    but I'll try my best to never tell you so,
    I will sing to you my love songs, and pretend,
    and I'll keep the secret right down to the end.

    Please don't ask me why I'm not talkin',
    I just can't explain,
    and please don't ask me why I go walkin',
    out in the rain.

    I COULD NOT LIVE THE LIE IT WOULD TAKE
    TO HAVE YOU NEAR WOULD BE A MISTAKE,
    please don't ask me
    why I'm still in love with you.

    No please don't ask me.

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 15, 2006

    Wow!!! i kno that song too !!!!im listening to it 1 week before i left her and other love song but dono the title!!thats a great song too!!!!!

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 15, 2006

    my cousin in 10 years older than me. ive had feelings for him for 3 years but it just dosent seem possible. he dosent know and im sure he dosent feel the same way. but i have to try. should i go for it? not telling him right away but to try and show him the me he usually dosent see. he lives pretty far. i thought it was just a crush and partly lust. but its not. i want him to be happy, when we visited my aunt (his mom) i would go into his room and lay on his bed, burrying my face in his pillow, trying to see if there was anything left of him for me. it hurts and now when i met people and see people that 3 years ago i would've been attracted to, i feel nothing. its just him. no one seems to understand, i need someone to believe in me. do you think theres a chance?

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 15, 2006

    Unknown~ That's a great song, by the way. I used to listen to it all the time, but I never thought it could sound so much like my situation.
    Also, you asked if you should go for it with your cousin... The thing is that he's 10 years older than you. So, if you're like 18 and he's 28, that's a big difference. If you're like 30 and he's 40, that's much better. You should find out if he has problems with age first. Just ask it casually. If he doesn't, then you either come clean or give him hints until he figures it out. But you have to look at whether or not it seems like he's interested, you don't want to tell him and then be turned down.

    ill-conceived~ That's also a really good song! Thanks so much for posting it!

  1. Mia

    Mia

    Jul 16, 2006

    Well this is my story recently i came to u.s.a from canda were i have been living for a long time i was in 7th grade when i first saw my cousin well not literally the first time but like 6 years before a had saw him and since then i felt something for him and now when i came to u.s.a i stayed with his family and i am still staying with them.He has two younger sisters my cousins something about my age, well now instead of wanting to be with my cousins i just want to be with him i mean i want to be everywhere he wants to be we get along so well we like the same stuff we laugh of everything and he is CUTE too.Im sure he feels the same way.But im sure that our family would be against our relationship hard and im sure thats why we have int talked anything about our feelings to each other and im DESPERATE i have no idea what to do i dont want to go back to canada without letting him know what i feel about him.I bet he feels the same way we have everithing against us but i really,really love him please help me what should i do????????????????????????

  1. unknown

    unknown

    Jul 16, 2006

    Olga~there is no problem with the age!! my age is 15 almost 16 her age is 17!! she is older than me 1 1/2 yrs

  1. unknown®

    unknown®

    Jul 16, 2006

    waaaaaaaaaa theres another unknown hehehehe im the original!!!!

  1. unknown®

    unknown®

    Jul 16, 2006

    hey olga the unknown who wrote the iris song in this forum its me the other unknown is the one who's cousin 10yrs older than her!

  1. ill-conceived

    ill-conceived

    Jul 16, 2006

    LOL, to both "unknown" I hope things work out. Here's another great song. I actually played this on the piano for my cousin and that's when we first kissed.
    *****************

    "How Can I tell you" by Lani Hall

    HOW CAN I TELL YOU THAT I LOVE YOU?
    I LOVE YOU
    BUT I CAN'T THINK OF RIGHT WORDS TO SAY...
    I LONG TO TELL YOU THAT I'M ALWAYS THINKING OF YOU,
    I'M ALWAYS THINKING OF YOU,
    BUT MY WORDS JUST BLOW AWAY...
    It always ends up to one thing, honey
    And I can't think of right words to say...

    Wherever I am babe, I'm always walking with you,
    I'm always walking with you,
    but I looked and you're not there....

    WHOEVER I'M WITH, I'M ALWAYS, ALWAYS TALKING TO YOU,
    I'M ALWAYS TALKING TO YOU,
    AND I'M SAD THAT YOU CAN'T HEAR,
    So sad that you can't hear....
    It always ends up to one thing, honey
    When I look and you're not there...

    I NEED TO KNOW YOU, NEED TO FEEL MY ARMS AROUND YOU,
    FEEL MY ARMS AROUND YOU,
    LIKE A SEA AROUND A SHORE....
    Each night and day I pray,
    And hope that I might find you,
    Hope that I might find you,
    Because hearts can do no more....
    It always ends up to one thing, honey
    Still I kneel upon the floor.....

    ***********

    if you wanna hear it now, click on this link:
    http://www.jadedj.com/j1/howcanitellu/

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    Cousinlover

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  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 19, 2006

    Both Unknowns~ Lol.. okay! Thanks for clearing that up... I'll keep that in mind!!

    Ill-Conceived~ Thank you for another great song! You rock!!

    Mia~ I think you answered your own question. You said you don't want to go back without telling him how you feel... well, there you go. Tell him how you feel. You're lucky, most of us don't know how our cousins will react, but you're already sure he feels the same about you. I really don't see the problem. Talk to him about it, and I'm sure the two of you can work out the family problem. (I mean whether or not to tell them about how you feel about eachother.)

    Cousinlover~ No offence, but I hate that website. It didn't help me at all, not to mention they expect you to pay for most of their services.

  1. unknown®

    unknown®

    Jul 19, 2006

    Hey I would like to update my situation my cousin she text my cellphone!!!at first i thought she wasnt my cousin and another girl in love with me cuz lots of gurl likes me then she started saying she loves me and she missed me so much!!!!!then i told her im sorry cuz i love someone else and i txt "do you know what it feels like to miss someone you loved? i told her i loved someone but i cant love her and she asked why i told her becuz i love my cousin and she started asking question pretending she is some girl who wants to be textmate with me and then i was shocked when she told me "did you really missed me?" and i called her at first i cant recognize her voice!! cuz her voice is so sad looks like she crys!!!!!
    and now we started text to each other knowing that she loves me too!!!!!!! = )

  1. Chad

    Chad

    Jul 19, 2006

    Wow! I didn't know so many people felt like this I've ALWAYS Loved my cousin since however I don't know if she feels the same, we're the same age she lives in Orlando,FL I live in Lake City,FL we're like opposites she lives in a HUGE town I live in a small town she goes to private school I go to Public School, I think my family knows that I love her they seem to approve I'm just so confused.

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Jul 19, 2006

    unknown® ~ I'm soooo happy for you!!! OMG! That's amazing. I can't believe that you two finally confessed to eachother!! Please let me know what happens... keep me updated! ;)
    I hope everything turns out great for you two.

    Chad~ First of all, I know how you feel. I've always loved my cousin. And him and I are also complete opposites. At least you two live nearby.
    As for your family, you should be happy that they approve. That's very rare in a family.
    I still don't understand why you're confused though. You said you love her, and that your family approves... what else are you waiting for?

  1. james

    james

    Jul 21, 2006

    Help! I am a 15 year old boy and I have a big crush on my cousin. I think she is really beutiful. she doesnt know though. is there a way i can get her to know?

  1. sammy

    sammy

    Jul 22, 2006

    Carl your my friend I have hate u for what u done you got my sister pregrant ur first cousins like me ur sick. I hate u Im angry at u because Im not a full anuite because that don'st make me full anuite at all ur treater's u should get her up the duff a again and run away with each other ewwwwwwwwwww hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Jul 27, 2006

    ok, i'll try to do ur advice olga, but ya know what, yesterday, he seemed reallt excited to see me, he was like "HEY NICKY!!" i was riding my bike and he came out so quick with his bike too and i got off and i went some where to see what he would do and he was getting on his bike and he was looking at me, like he was saying "come ride the bike with me" or Like " where are u going??" he kept look at me too. *blushes*..ya know whats weird, he got hurt on the bike and kept lifting his shorts in front of me really high, he was showing me where it hurt, and i was kinda wonder, "why do you have to show me??"..it was kinda disturbing..but i still love him soo much!!!! He doesn't seem the kind onf guy that would like his cousin, well, he's kinda like a good boy, like does his chores and is polite and funny, and perfect..

  1. leo

    leo

    Jul 30, 2006

    I MET MY COUSIN AT A FAMILY REUNION I WAS 13YEARS
    OLD SHE WAS 9 YEARS OLD I THOUGHT SHE WAS CUTE.I HAD DREAM ABOUT BEING WITH HER.I WANT TO TO GIVE HER A CHILD. WE BOTH WAS TO YOUNG.WHEN
    I TURN 27 WET MET AGAIN NOW SHE IS GROWN AND WE BEEN TOGETHER EVER SINCE AND WE HAVE A DAUGHTER.
    SHE IS 2YEARS OLD AND SHE IS HEALTHY.THESE HAVE BEEN THE BEST YEAR OF OUR LIFE.MY MOM IS NOT COOL WITH THIS BUT HER MOMS ACCEPTED AS LONG AS SHE IS HAPPY.HER MOMS IS COOL WITH THIS.SHE EVEN LET ME STAY WITH HER. WE WILL ALWAY BE TOGETTHER.
    IF YOU MAKE SOMEONE HAPPY GO WITH IT.BUT IF THEY
    DONT. MAYBE IT NOT MENT TO BE .YOU CANT MAKE THEM
    LOVE YOU THE LOVE HAVE TO BE THERE. IT ALOVE THAT MAKE YOU NO THAT HE /SHE IS THE ONE AND THE ONLY

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  1. Jack

    Jack

    Aug 1, 2006

    I have always thought that I was born in the wrong era. I really love the medieval times and no one knew more about it then I did. All of a sudden, at a family reunion I spot one of my cousins (Elizabeth) that I have never seen before. She wore this beautiful cream gown and her eyes were light brown glowing in the sun. I first talked to her while she was standing alone on the beach staring into the distance (Yes, weird...z). I introduced myself to her she didn't completely look at me but she glanced with her lushes eyes and fatly smiled as if she knew something I didn't.
    Later the family migrated to our house and she sat right in front of me at dinner. We couldn't stop looking at each other. Later, when she was watching TV I came and sat next to her and we starting talking. It appeared that she too liked the medieval era and she collected swords, dresses, ECT... At this point I was wished she wasn't my cousin.
    My relatives had rented a hotel and it was time to go. My mother suggested, "Why doesn’t Elizabeth stay with us over night?" My heart began to pound as harder and in my mind I was screaming, "YES!" She slept on the first floor and I couldn't sleep so I pretended to go downstairs to have a drink of water but in truth I wanted to converse with her. As I went down I saw her leaning against the wall reading a book taken from our book shelf. I started talking about the book and like a chain reaction we started to talk about other things and soon the main topic became relationships. Nether if us had been in a relationship and suddenly there was this awkward pause where nether of us said anything. God you should have seen her with here ruby lips and her dark brown eyes she was like an angel. I broke the awkward pause and we talked about other things. I don't remember this but I slept on the couch.
    I woke up to the sound of a piano. Elizabeth was playing "Clocks from Coldplay". I just wanted to tell her how I felt but I couldn't.... Lying gin bed she slowly came to me kneeled and kissed me in my forehead (WEIRD!) but it felt so right. She then left the living room. The whole day we did activities together such as pool, archery, biking ect.. Our proximity was very close. At the end of the day I was just about to cry..... She was about to leave and I wanted to pull all my hair out of my skull. I saw tears in her eyes but she quickly wiped it away with a smile. We hugged and she said keep in touch.

  1. ill-conceived

    ill-conceived

    Aug 2, 2006

    oh wow, jack that is the sweetest thing i've read in a while.

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Aug 3, 2006

    Nicky~ OMG! I totally understand what you mean. My cousin is the "good boy", he's sweet, listens to his parents... etc...
    And yet, I know he has to have feelings for me. Kinda funny.


    Jack~ AAwww... I totally agree with ill-conceived. That's sooo sweet! Why can't things just have happy endings? Why can't we tell each other how we really feel? *cries*
    I do hope that the two of you meet again, and hopefully something happens. Because, I really want to hear the end of this story!

  1. ill-conceived

    ill-conceived

    Aug 4, 2006

    if i had kids and they fell in love with their first cousins, it would totally be alright with me. I would talk to them that it's not an issue at all and they can be totally honest with us. In fact i'll even invite them over all the time. well, as long as they don't have sex while they're really young like that previous post.

  1. Warren

    Warren

    Aug 10, 2006

    Loving your cousin is entirely alright. There is nothing wrong with it and people who think that loving your cousins is wrong are the antiques of this world-quaint and marrow-minded. Do not worry about other peoples' thoughts, proceed with your own feelings

  1. ~DaZeD~~&cOnFuSeD

    ~DaZeD~~&cOnFuSeD

    Aug 10, 2006

    same here....
    im 16 and my cousin is 19
    i live in georgia and he lives in michigan. our aunts husband moms die he came down to the south and i stayed with him becuase he asked me too. soo we all stayed at my grandmothers. they satyed for a week and me and him talked ALOT....ALL NIGHT! we was going to have sex but i though to my self no becuz he was my cousin....but i feel in love with him.DEEP.....and shit went down and i had to move with my grandma away from my mum and dad. soo me my aunt,uncle.younger cousin,brother,and me went to mihcigan for the whole month of july.
    i wanted to see him sooo bably i wanted him soo bad too. soo we went to upper mihcigan and we flirted like crasy. we went back down to lower mihcigan 3 days later and we once again thought about having sex.....soo i spent the night with him at his place and he told me the thinkgs that hit me hard like you can come stay wit me and if you need someone then i can help you im lost...i love him!!! we use to tlak all the time when i got off to school...ive told him things ive never told anyone. i want to tell him how i feel but i don't know how he would react! i don't know if he would ever talk to me or anything. i had already asked my grandma about cousin getting marryed and shit and she said there is nothing wronge with it but i have like 8 aunts and my mom and dad to go through plus like 20 other cousins im confused and lost about life and love

  1. Kez and Deb

    Kez and Deb

    Aug 11, 2006

    Visit www.kissingcousins.eu.kz for free confidential advice and support.

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Aug 13, 2006

    Ill-conceived~ HAHA!! That's great! I'm thinking the same thing... I mean who cares what everyone else thinks, right?

    Warren~ Thanks for words of wisdom...

    ~DaZeD~~&cOnFuSeD~ That's great, I'm happy for you. I mean your cousin likes you back, and even your grandma doesn't mind. But I would advice to hold up on sex for a while, I mean you're only 16. Who knows how you'll feel later. Best of luck, hun!

  1. kimmy

    kimmy

    Aug 14, 2006

    i gone off my first guy cousin quit a bit now. also why i gone off him. how come i feel like this. can some one tell me what make's PEOple go off a cousin.
    thank's if u can exPLAIN it that would be very
    helPful if u can that would be great.
    thank's for taking time to read this.
    and feanly good luck to all and hoPE you all the best of luck with your cousin's.

  1. Soconfused

    Soconfused

    Aug 14, 2006

    god i know how everyone feels. i live in england and so does my cousin, in the same town. she is 16 nearly 17 n i am 14 nearly 15. its really wierd because i used to think of her only as a cousin, but we see each other a lot and talk a lot (most of the time on msn...) and all iv been able to think about lately is HER. i feel really ashamed and im not sure if she feels the same which makes it even wierder, and when im near her i just want to hug her and kiss her and spend the day with her.... HELP

  1. sadly

    sadly

    Aug 18, 2006

    Geez.... im in love with my cousin it kills me inside so hard so sharp so deep , im madly in love with her , i'd do anything for her i love her so much that i wish i was adopted , please help me what should i do ? she lives in another state but we still contact eachother very often , ive tried to stay away from her but is so hard so so so hard , plz help me im so crazy in love with her !

  1. ectoheck

    ectoheck

    Aug 19, 2006

    Look if you love her go for her!
    I did and I'm the happiest guy alive! My cousin from Spain came over and I really fancied her the only thing that was stopping me from going for her was the fact that she was my cousin...but on the day she was meant to leave and go back to Spain I got really depressed because I started to realise that I did actually love her! And on that day HER FLIGHT WAS CANCELLED!! isn't that weird? It was like fate or something because on that night we kissed and shes now my "secret girlfriend" but we only keep each other a secret from each other because of what it would do to our families not because we are ashamed because there is nothing to be ashamed of! Even though we both speak a different launguage she is the easiest person to talk to and I love her!
    So if you really love her go for her! whether its your cousin or not!!

  1. nicky

    nicky

    Aug 21, 2006

    hey, i'm thinking of telling my cousin i love him, but i don't know how he'll take it, i'm scared he wouldn't feel the same or think im gross and not treat me as a friend anymore, i need advice what to do please!?

  1. sadly

    sadly

    Aug 22, 2006

    To : ectoheck

    thx for sayin that , thx thx thx a million for ur story .

    i love this girl more than anything else in this world , but the day she took off i wishes with all of my heart that she should stay but she didnt , so i guess shes not my fate and it kills me inside , damn i am freakin in love :S

  1. sadly

    sadly

    Aug 22, 2006

    i love her so much but i dont really know if she loves me or not , we have about 1 million things in common and talk about the same stuff , we have pretty much eye contact , ive carried her and she has been laying on my legs ( with a pillow ) she just looked at me and smiled (at that time if she weren't my cousin i would have kissed her , i tried to forget about her make her hate me , it worked pretty well , we were at a shopping center she told me that she is so borred i just said Yeah Whatever (cold) , then we ignored eachother for a couple of hours i just couldnt take it anymore and started talking to her again , omg i think about her day and night everything i do , but i dont really know if she even likes me :S GOD I NEED MORE HELP ! ( by the way im 15 ) so is she !

  1. Olga

    Olga

    Aug 23, 2006

    Kimmy~ Hun, you gotta elaborate more. You have to tell us your situation, etc etc. Also, you can email me and tell me, I can see if I can help you.

    Soconfused~ I don't see the problem. You like her, so tell her. Make sure to be discreate. And careful!

    Sadly~ Aaww!! I hate it when you love someone so much, you feel like your heart could burst. Well, I'm agreeing with ectoheck. Tell her! Please! And then, let us know how it goes.
    And be nice to her, in fact try flirting. Maybe she'll actually figure it out on her own.

    Ectoheck~ I'm so happy for you! It sounds amazing, I wish it was that easy with my cousin. So, I have a question. Did you just kiss her? Or did you tell her that you liked her before hand? Was it easy for you?

    Nicky~ I know it's the hardest thing in the world, but life is about risks. That's what makes it fun. If he thinks it's gross, then at least you'll know the truth and won't have to worry. But think how amazing it would be if he actually loved you back! I think that's worth it... So tell him, and you might just be surprised that he feels the same way.

  1. sadly

    sadly

    Aug 24, 2006

    I just dont dare telling her that i love her , i dont even wanna flirt with her cause im scared if she finds out that i like her she might hate me or avoid me and hell i cant live without her :S

  1. jack

    jack

    Aug 24, 2006

    God im so relived now , im not the only one who loves my 1st cousin in this world , hi i live in england im 15 now and i have a cousin who's also 15 we've known eachother since we were 6 but we never had feelings for eachother , she comes to my house every week , and we have a looot of things in common , one day she brought her boyfriend over to my house as well , i was surprised/jealous , but at that time i started to have feelings for her (jealousy) , we were 3 people in my room , we talked and talked for about 1 hour i kept hating her boyfriend (because of jealousy ) i kept making fun of him and tease him most of the time , she went outside and asked me to come with her , when we were outside alone only us 2 , she asked me if i do hate her boyfriend , i said no at first , she asked me why do i allways make fun of him or tease him , we argued for pretty long , i couldn't take it anymore then it finally came out (FINALLY ) , IS BECAUSE IM JEALOUS (i said)! she was shocked ? jealous of what (she said) , yeah what do u think (i said ) , i turned my back going towards the door , she stopped me in front of the door , AND THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD HAPPENED (WE KISSED)!!!! so now shes my secret girlfriend and im so happy it finally came out (btw she broke up with her boyfriend that night) , now im so HAPPY SO SO SO HAPPY , we still contact eachother very often but this time WITH LOVE :D anyway i wanna tell this to all those who loves their cousins : if u think it is wrong to love ur cousin then be wrong for god sake , if you love her/him THEN JUST FREAKIN GO FOR IT ! ! ! cant tell u guys how happy i am now :D

  1. john doe

    john doe

    Aug 25, 2006

    whoa, i read every single comment left here... there are alot of people with the same dilema as me... i told my friends, we even joked about it (they probly think i'm just kidding around though...)i layed with my cousin and even slept on the same bed with my arm around her when i say her name.. i get this feeling... the same feeling i get when i think about my girlfriend...
    i even tought her some songs i wrote on the piano, thats a moment to remember.

    i'm still slightly confused but, shes my second cousin so, i guess its alright haha i remember when i was having a few beers she came over and asked me to go talk with her in the room my friends were saying "your getting lucky tonight!" then i said "what are you crazy? shes my cousin... what the heck, its after 6" we laughed hahaha we'll, i think i'm gonna tell her how i feel. i noticed in most those comments that there cousin would come over only so often, same as my cousin, she lives out of my town s i rarely see her, maybe thats the thing that is so attracting.... forbidden fruit huh?

  1. john doe

    john doe

    Aug 25, 2006

    I told my cousin that i liked her... she huged me for quite awhile, then she said she likes me too T.T damn i nearly cried but i held it back and she said we couldn't tell anybody so i came back here shes leaving back to her town soon shes here right now, i'll be sure to give her a hug before she leaves i'm gonna even try to kiss her shes the only girl on my mind for the past 3 months we get along so good i could have sworn i heard her crying in the bathroom last night then the water turned on and she came out with a towel whiping her face, probly to hide the tears i wanna spend the night with her again shes the best

    girl, if your here i want you to know i really like you, you could also call it love... i'm gonna miss you

  1. ?????

    ?????

    Aug 27, 2006

    your storie is so accurate to how my past week has been my cousin in a town about a 3 hour drive has told me he liked me then i told him i liked him too then i huged him i also layed with him and slept with him in the same bed if this is you "john doe" then i want you to know i like you theres one way to know if this is really you do you remember playing pool on the x-box? what was the score?

  1. ?????

    ?????

    Aug 27, 2006

    i read over what you said "john doe" and about that song on the piano i also got thought a song on the paino by my cousin :( did you search cousin love on google? like me...

  1. moe

    moe

    Aug 27, 2006

    its o k

  1. ?

    ?

    Aug 27, 2006

    I am so in love with him.......

  1. mambo italianomxw

    mambo italianomxw

    Aug 28, 2006

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  1. John Doe

    John Doe

    Aug 29, 2006

    on the x-box? when i won 13-2 whoa it is you, or is it? i wanna see you again dam lonly here i miss your smile it always cheers me up

  1. soconfused

    soconfused

    Sep 2, 2006

    hey thanks 4 the help but i just cnt bring myself to tell her i love her. im scared that if she finds out she wil not feel the same and think im a freak or something.

  1. purple coulds

    purple coulds

    Sep 7, 2006

    Omg its crazy to find all these people on here who are all in the same situation....I'm 17 and Im in love with my cousin, but I'm afraid of being a social outcast if we were to come out of the closet...ya know...I think about him constantly, I miss his smell and everything about him.
    Its easy for someone to judge us, but they really dont know what we're going through.
    I want to be with him....I mean he does too, but we're both skeptical of what will happen.
    Plus we live far away from each other right now. God, its so difficult. Help!!!!!

  1. Nkk_Rox

    Nkk_Rox

    Sep 8, 2006

    Hey pplz! I REALLy love my cousin, well if you consider my mom beeing pregnant with his uncle cousins then yes i am deeply in love with my cousin. but im nt quite sure if hes in love with me. Well a few of the signs he gave me were: We both slept on the same couch, slept in the same bedroom (he had top bunk i had bottom) we stayed up all nite talkin (not just like cousins but like really close friends) we were sitting on the couch sharing a blanket and playing "Footsie" together :-P and we are ALWAYS together! like we sit beside each other in math, talk every break! and a bunch of others... do u ppl think he likes me???

  1. fairy1

    fairy1

    Sep 9, 2006

    Hi!

    I´ve got another question
    I also love my cousin, but cant say it to him because i´ve got the fear that he dont love me, would only love or think that i am sick or something like that.
    What would you do if you was me?

  1. nkk_rox

    nkk_rox

    Sep 10, 2006

    Yes i would. Its just like if u were talkin to any other personne u loved (cousin or not) if u have feelings for your cousin tell him. it will make you feel a LOT better because u wont have so much to carry on your shoulders! u will know for certain if he loves the same. I really hope everthing works out between the to of you!

    Good Luck!!!!

  1. fairy1

    fairy1

    Sep 10, 2006

    Thanks for your answer.
    I hope that i´ve got the courage (Mut in German?) to tell him.

  1. k

    k

    Sep 10, 2006

    hi this all feels a bit wierd to me because ive known my cousin all my life im 15 and my cousin is 19 (which makes the situation no better). I have a very close family we see each other quite often and ive even been on holiday with my cousin, his mum and my parents and brother 3 times. I have always been close with my cousin and he is the nicest person i have ever known and over the past year i have been atracted to him. He is going to university soon and im scared that he will meet someone (which he will because he is lovely, smart and very hot). Before now i have been trying to avoid my feelings (as i told my friend about how i felt about him and although she didnt say anything i could tell she thought it was wierd) this site has made me realise that my feelings are not stupid and i want to make it clear to him that i like him but without telling him or letting my parents find out. please give me some advise because i cant carry on like this. Post any comments to me though this site with a title of thunder road (because my email address is not fake for security reasons)thank you to anybody who helps me :-( xxx

  1. thunder road

    thunder road

    Sep 11, 2006

    please help me because i am tearing myself up inside about my cousin i really do love him and i want to make it obvious to him that i do without actually saying 'i think im falling in love with you'. It really reasures me that there are soooo many people with the same problem as me but i neeed some advise because i cant bring myself to ask my friend again because she thinks its strange. plleeeaaaassssseeeeee help me.

  1. thunder road

    thunder road

    Sep 11, 2006

    i saw this on a website 'Marriage within too great a degree of consanguinity is illegal because it can result in genetically damaged offspring.' could somebody tell me if its true

  1. john

    john

    Sep 12, 2006

    Hi, I love my cousin too!! 6 months ago we have a vacation and i fell inlove with my first cousin, we are always stare at each other and smile!!We are always together and im getting the feeling that my cousin likes me too!! for me she is the perfect girl and the world!!i love her so much!!at first i thought that im just happy being with her but its weird cuz im a lonely person very pessimistic one and my heart is full of hatred!! and when she came into my life that is the day the first time i feel real Joy in my heart!! but i have to leave and i thought its ok bcuz i done my best to make her happy! then i left her and go home!! i realize that i cnt live without her!!that i dont know i have been changed by her and made me a better person i became an optimist person and my heart is full of love!! but i miss her so much that it kills me... to see her again...and she txt me i told her i miss her so much bcuz she is too good to me! she replied that she is good to me bcuz im her cousin! no one knows how painful it feels like!!...i almost die!! it broke my heart!!! and never txt her again even thou i love her so much!!then i met this girl i thought she can replace my cousin and i started to love her even thou i love her its bcuz i can see my cousin in her.. then we broke up and i realise i dnt love her and i love my cousin!!! i feel like no one loves me no one cares that i dont exist in this world without my cousin i dont wana live..i feel really lost!!!! i cant go on!!!! but my love for my cousin makes me go on because even i cant see her again and she dnt love me she is her in my heart and it makes me go on!!! so time flowss so fast!!!!! 6 months n0w since the last day i met her!! then one day she text me and asked me if i have a girl friend even thou i have one i said "NO" and she keeps on asking if i have a girlfriend trying 2 know if its true that i dont have!!! i still said "NO" and i ask her if she have a Boyfriend she said no also and i keep on asking her to make sure she dont have a boyfriend!! She still said "NO" and said when i come back here i will tell you something i said me too im gono tell you something when im back there!! im so happy she texted me and have a conversation with her!! but i have to stop bcuz i really do love her and im afraid to know the answer!! and i think i might know the answer if i continue so i stopped i told her im too buzy now and maybe we must text each other next time!! i dont know if she loves me too but i sometimes think 100% that she loves me too cuz she is giving me clues!!! so i stopped communicating with her!! i dont know what to do!! bcuz in 3 months im gono see her again!! and i have plan telling her what i feel!! even thou its gono hurt me to death if i found out she doesnt feel the same!!!!and i think if she broke my heart im gono be what i used to be and fill my heart with hatred again!!! I need help what must i do if she doesnt feel the same cuz i dont wana expect that she loves me too!! and im gono be dead!!! and if i die atleast i tried!!! HELP ME PLEASE GIVE ME ADVISE TO MY SITUATION!!!

  1. honduras

    honduras

    Sep 13, 2006

    i was born in honduras, ive been in the us for almost 11 years. my family and i go to honduras for christmas almost every year, the first time we went i saw my cousin, i thought that he was cute, so i pushed him into a dark coner and kissed him. the funny thing was i that i didnt spend my time wondering if he liked me or not. if i like something and i want it i will go for it. So we are in the dark kissing and he kissed me back with no problem. if you like someone you should go for it, enstead of spending your time wondering if he feels the same way for you. those two weeks with him was just the begining of our love. we had speand time before when we were little but we didnt fall in love or anything. now that m here and his over there my love for him grows even more. when i left honduras the second time i was so hurt my heart couldnt take the pain. god it was killing me so bad. i wanted him all of him near me to touch me to kiss me to take care of me b/c i just wanted to die. i speant all the days, all the hours thinking about him wondering what his doing just to see his face in a picture i had of him made me happy. its been 5 years now. in those five years i had boyfriends to make me forget him to help me with my sore heart. to make me feel proteted to fill my heart with love, but guess what i still love him even more. i just realize that no one else can take his place. maybe i was born to love and to love him i will do till the end of my life. and still then i will love in the other world too.

  1. Lost&confused

    Lost&confused

    Sep 14, 2006

    About four months ago I got in contact with my cousin she lives across the country from me so we have never realy met in person we started to talk on the internet and then on the phone and we have been talking up a storm since then i call her alomost every night at first i thought it was because we where becoming freinds and because this was the first time we were getting to know each other people have started to tell me things and say things to me about how love should feel and then I realized im in love with her not physically though she is attractive im in love wit her personality everything she says is perfect when she feels bad she tells me and it makes my heart ache i want to change the world so it doesnt hurt her anymore im truly in love with her but i feel like its wrong and i dont know if i should reveal my feelings to her because she may think im weird or not feel the same and that would ruin what we have now Im just so confused is something wrong with me? i have never felt like this about anyone else I know im in love i can feel it in my heart right now her parents took away her phone so we cant talk its only been a couple of days and im a wreck it bothers me and i get desperate to call my mind is racing wondering if shes ok and when she will call me again i just dont know what to do anymore im in love with her i know it she knows everythign about me my secrets my likes my dislikes and i know everythign about her but i dont know what to do do i reveal what im feeling a risk the freindship we already have? or do i keep quit and watch her be with someone else and hurt my heart please help me.

  1. owner

    owner

    Sep 20, 2006

    Someone needs to moderate this blog.. .. its getting out of control!

  1. bryan

    bryan

    Sep 23, 2006

    I'm glad i found this site, i fell in love with my cousin. I thought she liked me becaus i got to feel her up and we spent all night together. THen later she told the family that i liked her, and everybody turned on me. yes it sucked.

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Sep 26, 2006

    PLEASE I NEED HELP!! REMEMBER MY OTHER MESSEGES? WELL ITS THE SAME GUY, I FINNALLY KISSED HIM!! IT WAS ON THE CHEEK THOUGH BUT I DON'T CARE!! WELL, HE DIDN'T REACT MUCH, HE JUST SAID "OH, U KISSED ME?" BUT THAT SAME DAY, I SHOWED HIM WHAT A WET WILLY WAS. *TEE HEE* HE REACTED ALOT AND TRIED TO WIFE IT OFF..I WAS THINKING.."HEREACTED MORE TO A WET WILLY THAN A KISS..HMMM.." THEN I TRIED TO TELL HIM MY FEELINGS WHEN WE WERE AT A FURNITURE STORE..LOL..I SAID I HAD A CRUSH" HE SAID "U ALWAYS HAVE A CRUSH" THEN HE KEPT LISTING A BUNCH OF GUYS, THEN HE FINNALLY SAID "DON'T TELL ME ITS A COUSIN??!!" I SAID.."WELL.." I DIDN'T ANSWER, AFTER THAT HE GAVE ME SOME SUSPICIOUS LOOKS..T.T NOW HE SEEMS TO KIND OF AVOID ME AND NOT BE WITH ME AS MUCH AS BEFORE..WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BACK TO THE WAY IT WAS?? I FEEL SOO SAD..AND EMPTY..I AM JUST SOMEONE TO HIM..LIKE EVERYONE ELSE..JUST A COUSIN..I AM SOO DEPRESSED..I ASKED HIM Y HE WAS AVOIDING ME..HE SAID HE WASN'T BUT I FEEL LIKE HE WAS..I WANT IT BACK TO THE WAY IT WAS..

    -CONFUSED BROKEN HEARTED NICKY

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Sep 26, 2006

    MY BIGGEST FEAR HAS HAPPENED!!! HE IS NOT TREATING ME THE SAME!! I WANT TO DIE..I AM JUST LIKE EVRYONE ELSE TO HIM..

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Sep 26, 2006

    THOSE OF U WHO FOUND OUT THEIR COUSIN LIKES U BACK UR LUCKY!!!! I LOVE MY COUSIN WITH ALL MY HEART, I WOULD EVEN DIE FOR HIM..I THINK IM GOING CRAZY I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, EVERYTIME I LIKE SOMEONE, THEY DON'T LOVE ME BACK, IS IT BECUZ IM UGLY? EVERYONE SAYS IM PRETTY, THEN HOW COME NO ONE ASKED ME OUT, ONLY FLIRTED? NOW WHEN I REALLY LOVED SOMEONE, THEY DONT LOVE ME BAK EITHER?!!

  1. john

    john

    Sep 26, 2006

    ~Nicky... im afraid that thing will happen to me too. i really love my cousin!!i love her more than anything i ever loved. i lost my hope that my cousin loves me back because i met alot of girls some likes me but i love my cousin so much!!! i tried to forget her!!! but even im with another girl i cant stop loving her!! so i broke up with my girlfriend...i will still love her even if she doesnt love me back!!were far away from each other and i dont know if she loves me too but one day when she called me she keeps on asking if i have a Girlfriend.. i said no even i do have!! but even i say no she keeps on asking if i have and she said when i come back she will tell me something.. and that gives me hope that she loves me back. if my destiny will be like yours!! i will still love her and she will stay here in my heart forever.. and even if she is gone my heart will still go on!! i love her and im not asking something in return for loving her.

  1. Antrix

    Antrix

    Sep 26, 2006

    Let's for a moment keep the religion and our beliefs on one side. How do you know that the son/daughter of your father/mother's sibling is your cousin? Coz you're being told right from your birth. If you believe that no religion is godsend, there you have it... a simplified answer that says just go ahead, do what you want. Love your cousin if he feels the same, until now, nothing wrong.

    But scientific research points to somethign else. With passing generations, each family develops a particular gene pool, in itself it's not complete. So two members of the same gene pool do not contribute to a fairly comprehensive genetic makeup that their offspring requires, without this, the newborn may develop certain abnormalities or mutations that could lead to a disastrous start of their family life. To avoid that the parents are choosen from different families so that they can look forward for a healthier next generation.

    It could be that people knew about these effects of interfamily marriages, but how to convey this to the masses? The simple way is to include it in the religion and mark it as "prohibited".

    Hope i'm not complicating the issue.

  1. Wants to help

    Wants to help

    Sep 26, 2006

    Ok, I was checking out sites then I found my way here and if any one wants to talk I could give them advice or they just want to tell me something they couldn't tell anyone else I want to listen to you so, if you'll be so kind, add me on MSN at:

    firstdragonslayer@hotmail.com

    Have you told your friend? do they think your wierd now? you don't have to worry about that with me.

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Sep 26, 2006

    I STILL NEED ANSWERS!! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!! PLEASE!! SOMEONE TELL MY WHAT TO DO TO MAKE IT THE WAY IT WAS AGAIN WITH HIM!!!!

  1. juicy

    juicy

    Sep 27, 2006

    I love my 3rd cousin. I used to see him more when I was younger then as we got older we lost contact. Over the summer we starting talking again. We discovered that we had feelings for each other and ended up having sex. Everytime we did the condom kept breaking so the last time we went about 30 mins w/out a condom at all. I want to go on birth control but I'm scared of the side effects. I'm scared to tell my famiy about our relationship. He keeps telling me that he wants to be my boyfriend. Just not right now. Should I believe that he just needs time and not that he just doesn't want me the way I want him?

  1. Nicky

    Nicky

    Sep 27, 2006

    PLEASE PEOPLE I NEED ANSWERS??!! AND WHO KEEPS PUTTING LINKS??!!

  1. zubi

    zubi

    Sep 28, 2006

    Here's my short story..
    i was attracted to her (my first cousin) since she came to our gradnma's place around 4 years back...
    but i never thought i would land like this...
    My uncle was gettin married and everyone was busy in that ... and then that night we landed on the same bed coz no other bed was empty.
    Though we didnt cross our limits but still.. i was drawn to her. Whole night we kept talking about movies n all and her hand was in mine.
    I was kinda got used to it.. and everyday we did the same.
    Unless one day i realised that it's the time to say her good bye coz she had to go back to Canada.
    And i felt so miserable without her... i couldnt sleep for nights (maybe it was a very high degree infatuation).
    And last year she visited again.. but this time she was not showing any kinda interest... (dont know aht happened to her)...
    but one day it all managed when her mom and she was sleeping on the same bed and i was another bed in the same room.
    And she came to me and i was like shocked.. what to do.
    And i ook her hands in mine and kissed her.. (i cudnt stop myself)

    And now again im lonely....
    but still im glad that i got to have beautiful nights with her.. which i'll never forget nor she will.

  1. Zubi

    Zubi

    Sep 28, 2006

    Here's my short story..
    i was attracted to her (my first cousin) since she came to our gradnma's place around 4 years back...
    but i never thought i would land like this...
    My uncle was gettin married and everyone was busy in that ... and then that night we landed on the same bed coz no other bed was empty.
    Though we didnt cross our limits but still.. i was drawn to her. Whole night we kept talking about movies n all and her hand was in mine.
    I was kinda got used to it.. and everyday we did the same.
    Unless one day i realised that it's the time to say her good bye coz she had to go back to Canada.
    And i felt so miserable without her... i couldnt sleep for nights (maybe it was a very high degree infatuation).
    And last year she visited again.. but this time she was not showing any kinda interest... (dont know what happened to her)...
    but one day it all managed when her mom and she was sleeping on the same bed and i was on another bed in the same room...
    And she came to me and i was like shocked.. what to do.
    And i took her hands in mine and kissed her.. (i cudnt stop myself)

    And now again im lonely....
    but still im glad that i got to have beautiful nights with her.. which i'll never forget nor she will.

  1. Leanne

    Leanne

    Sep 29, 2006

    Hey i know how you feel as i am in love with my cousin and i done't understand what is wrong with being madly in love with your cousin cuz people in love can't help who they fall in love with welli hope this may help

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