omg u love ur cousin?!

okay sum people mite, but u need to thik of the long term complications ahead of u, i mean does your family and his family get on? etc etc good luck.

i don't see anything wrong with that. its all right. ppl who think that loving cousin is a bad think or wrong idea, i just want to tell then that they are stupid.

its okay, i love my couzn and i talk to him on the phone like lovers, we love each other a lot, ITS OKAY TO LOVE UR COUZN, stupid ppl who thinks that this is weird they r weird!!!!

There is nothing wrong with tthat.If it ur cousin or whoever if he loves u in the same way and cares about u then i think u guys shoould get along it doesnt matter who he is.Dont care what ppl say the truth is what u feel inside u dont regret it it is feelings no one can stop feelings.

Best of luck

shut yer faces u are weird ans stupid dnt u dare start callin me stupid watch who you are talkin to.

I dont think anyone was refering 2 u 'jus me'!!

Anyways..."Cuzin Love" is Halal and ok in Islam. So since Islam says it is Alright then Nothing else MATTERS!!

Well right now I am in the same situation and I am following my heart and I suggest you do the same

my god..i completely understand u or i think i do.. i´m starting to fall in love with my cousing too ive tried to avoid it but its difficult when he just keeps on beeing soo cute and nice and not specialy the cousing-nice but guy-nice and i know my family and i know they wont accept it eighter plus b4 i was in love i used to think that was a bit weird too but damn its difficult!! i need help too!!

i'm also madly inlove with my cuz!! we startd out as kids 'playing house' whenever we would visit our grandmother at the same time...he was the daddy and i was the mommy...we would kiss (pecks of course) and as we got older and visited our grandmother less (sadly) we would joke and laugh about 'playing house' when we were younger...but everytime i saw him, i thought he was damn cute, and he thought the same of me. anyway, after many years apart, we found each other at a family function and we both confessed our continued attraction and affection for one another....today, we are madly in love and who ever can't/won't deal with it...well that's their problem...he is my sweetie from back in the day, and i'm totally inlove with him!!!! good luck...follow your heart.....check out cousincouples.com ...its a great site and very supportive/informative!!!!!

i love my cousin alot too. he lives far away and i have never loved anyone this much. i believe he is handsome and i love him. follow your heart.

check out these two sites

www.cosuincouples.com
www.CUDDLEInternational.org

also check out this book

Forbidden Relatives: the american myth of cousin marraige by Martin Ottenheimer

best of luck in your quest for love

Hello agian would give all of u guys many thanks and i would love to hear from you guys lot about that see the date i wrote this comment and see the other date i wrote the first comment on the top, but im in love with my cousin i was in 7th grade when i felt in love with him and now im going to 9th grade also hes in 10th grade. my eamil is liaaaaaaly@hotmail.com ot lialy_2005@yahoo.com

i fancy my cousin 2.i cant help she has the sweetest ass eva and her tits r always bouncin about.

I went out to a wedding lastnite and i was flirtin with this cute guy whole nite and then later down in the nite, i found out he was my cousin ... i.e. my father's brother's son!! it got kinda awkward, but i cant stop thinkin about him ... but if we ever did "hook up" wont it be INCEST!!??? isnt that wrong accordin to "the church" and in God's eyes?! im confused, could someone tell me the truth without just defendin this becuz they "love" their cousin too ... plz help

I've always loved my cousin. She has been in my life forever. She is my first love and my only. I'm so attracted and love her so much I don't know whatll happen if we break up. And I think our society is truly corrupt, thinking cousin love is wrong.

COUSIN LOVE IS PERFECTLY FINE AS LONG AS ITS BOY & GIRL. COUSINS ARE NOT UR SISTERS/BROTHERS.

I'm so totally in love with my first cousin it's almost insane I've really only loved for about two or three weeks since I last saw him. but he and I are like so perfect for each other. We hold hands but I totally don't know if it's right AAAAAAH1!!! What should I do!

My cousin is so gorgeous and sweet i can't help but think about her all the time. But she doesn't know how i feel. Could someone please give me some advice on how to talk to her so that maybe we could get closer together?

omgosh i know exactly how yall feel i met my cousin for the first time and i fell in love with him and we did alot of stuff that couples do but we didnt kiss or hold hands or anything but we would stay up all night together but idk how he feels cuz he was the one that usually made the first move and i'm sooo confused

if you could really help me figure out if he just sees me as just a cousin.... even though he made me feel like he liked me which helped me into loving him.. i cried the two days after he went home and i was so sad please help me!

I am in love with my cousin also, he is in Florida and I'm in California. I'm 40 and he's 38 and we've loved each other our whole lives. We are just now at a point where we're discussing spending the rest of our lives together. It's scary, he's estranged from the family, but I'm not and I just know my dad will go nuts. I don't know if I should hide it or open up, I'm giving it more time to see what we end up doing. I kissed him for the first time when I was 12.

Are you talking to me? The one you're talking about sounds like me and you're story is very like our story, My cousin, she seemed sad and seemed to have cried when I got home, after she spent some time, staying up late, not kissing, not hlding hands, etc. In any case, I'm in love with her(you?), and I don't know what she(you?) feels for me, you just told now I know, I'm really confused?!

Be careful anyways, I may 'not' be the cousin you've been telling in your story (but quite close it coulb e me?!), anyway, wish you luck =o)

[omgosh i know exactly how yall feel i met my cousin for the first time and i fell in love with him and we did alot of stuff that couples do but we didnt kiss or hold hands or anything but we would stay up all night together but idk how he feels cuz he was the one that usually made the first move and i'm sooo confused
Posted by: Confused at July 8, 2005 04:42 AM

if you could really help me figure out if he just sees me as just a cousin.... even though he made me feel like he liked me which helped me into loving him.. i cried the two days after he went home and i was so sad please help me!
Posted by: Confused at July 8, 2005 04:58 AM]

clueless... if it really is you but i'm sure... then make a move cuz if you do then i'll know and you'll know.. if not then we arent who we think we are talking to....

clueless... even if it isnt you just for some advice just kiss her because girls are afraid to make the first move believe i know i am soo scared to make the first move but he just isn't and its getting really hard for me... it hurts soo bad that i just want to forget him now

my god..i completely understand u or i think i do.. i´m starting to fall in love with my cousing too ive tried to avoid it but its difficult when he just keeps on beeing soo cute and nice and not specialy the cousing-nice but guy-nice and i know my family and i know they wont accept it eighter plus b4 i was in love i used to think that was a bit weird too but damn its difficult!! i need help too!!

^ exactly my situation..

Hi everyone, i really sympathize with you. I just came back from a trip and saw my cousin there. The last time we saw each other was about 4 years ago when something did happen between us. This last trip, we kissed for the first time, and admitted that we had feelings for each other. Now i'm home and crying almost everyday. We chat online and I called him. I think that I am falling in love with him, but he seems to be afraid, so am I. I am so confused, because he tells me how he dreams about us being toguether and he sometimes wishes that we weren't related. At the same time, he doesn't call me or makes an effort. He just admitted to me that he is not treating me the way that I deserve and that he is controlling himself and is scared that his emotions/feelings will get out of hand. This hurts me so much. To top it all off, I'M ENGAGED to a really great guy. I am so sad and confused. Any advice?
Broken Hearted

I'm in the same boat as willie, I think that i am in love with my cousin too. We live halfway across the world from each other, so I don't get to see her too often. Just met her again in june and in Aug she is coming to see my family and I. Used to think that she was hot, from a teenage mind who is completely inexperienced with girls. But a short while back I realised that I really liked who she was. Some girls say I look cute but I never know how to approach anyone, coming from more than 10 years of all boys schooling. Is it just because that she is the only girl my age that I have ever been able to really talk to? I dunno if this is merely a brief passing phase of temporary infactuation, or whether I am trully in love. She is bringing her boyfriend who I think is a nice guy over as well? I honestly do not know what to think nor what to do. Please help..

hey yall i just want you to know after that whole clueless incident my cousin made a move! So it makes me wonder if it really was him.... In a way I hope it is

Confused..I didn't make a move so probably, your cousin is not me, but I'm trully glad, you're both ok now.

Thanks a lot for your advice, I owe you one for that :)

Anyway, my story, first time I met this cousin of mine in a family gathering, I tought that she was really pretty and charming and she could've been any girl. Right at that moment, I wished she wasn't my cousin... But reality is reality so I immediately brushed off my feelings for her. but soon I noticed, I can't help myself, glancing at her, and she glanced back too, we were both glancing at each other like no ones around, for the rest of the family gathering. I also had this feeling of want to get physically closer to her.

A week later, she stayed/slept with us for one week, we did what cousins 'normally' do, like play stuff, watch movies, talk and talk. Falling in love with her ne3ver came into my mind at that time. I was thinking that stuff like that is incest with a cousin.

And then, Its time for her to leave.. I actually cried for two days after she left, and I felt that those several days with her was one of the best moments of my life. I still believe I'm not in love with her, but I'm always wishing she was'nt my cousin..

One month later, she was back again :) She seemed excited to see me again but she has to stay one night only. I also felt my feelings for her growed stronger. Again, we watched movies, talk about stuff, enjoy the night, during that time, time was literally flying very fast, an hour with her, felt like a minute, It was einstein's relativity taking place for real, it was heaven.. And I'm still wishing she wasn't my cousin and we could be together somehow, withou sinning or angering God.

And them time for her to leave again. I gave her a ride to a dorm far away, But this time I notice that her eyes, she seemed to have cried all night. She also seemed to want to talk to me all that time during the day. And then its time for me to leave, to go home. She hugged me(unexpectedly). I can't describe how it feels during that time, I don't know I'm going to be happy or cry..

A day later, suppressing my feelings for her, wishing she wasn't my cousin, asking God for forgiveness for 'falling in love' with her. I heard a whisper in my ear, telling me to make a research on 'cousin marriage'

And here I am today, happy that I know we can be together without angering God, and sad that all this may not end up as well as I expected it to be...

I live in a different world than most of you here, you're a lot luckier than I am even if you think you aren't. So try to have fun, grab it while its still there :)

Clueless... yea i understand except my cousin came to see me instead of of me seeing him lol

my cousin is supposed to leave soon and i'm gonna be soo sad he acts like he wants to kiss me but pulls away each time he gets close... its sooo depressing not knowing how he feels :(

hey there,

i love my 1st cousin, we have been together for 2 years now..i live in the UK and he used to live in india but he moved here last year.

It is really complicated being with a cousin, tho i love him and i know i wont love anybody else (tho my sister thinks otherwise - she is really disgusted by it) we are finding it really hard to do things that we want. Even small things, like going out to dinner, or meeting up (i still live at home and he lives out, but comes home sometimes to visit). We cant go on holiday or live together, all the things we woud really love to do, like any "normal" couple would do..

even though i would love to tell you to go for it, i do suggest that you think if hes worth it, i know that sounds harsh, but its the truth. There is a hell alot of suffering and the relationship itself can sometimes suffer too (arguing, fights, friends desert, exams go bad etc etc)

so, just think about it and see what he says...is it for the long run????????????

My cousin said something very interesting to me the other day and it had suprised me (by the way he did kiss me but he had to go back home :() did you know that 20 percent of the American population is married to their first cousins?? it just shocked me that HE said it and he KNEW that....

I dunno but i think theres a connection between me n my cousin because she is half white n i only feel atraction for girls like her she lives in austrailia n i live in NY we last met in '02 and we had lots of fun n talked alot whenever were together we have lots of fun n i catch her starin at me sometimes n since she left to go back home i keep lookin at her in my pics can sum1 help me cuz im unsure

i'm in love with my cousin. my story with him is so wonderful but then again awkward. we keep our love a secret he lives in mexico and i live here in the us. but we both know we love each other. and im so glad to see all those other comments. it makes me feel more secure and more comfartable with the siutation. it just felt so wrong. but i think im going to follow my heart. :)

I understand, I just saw my cousin after she graduated and she has grown up into a beautiful young women. She is gorgeous and sweet and attracted to the wrong kind of guys. I know she is attracted to me as I am to her, I even joked that we could go to South Carolina and get married since we fit so well together and that maybe I should take a paternity test to make sure we were related(she responded with oh yea we are cause of your dad). We are keeping it a secret from everyone and each other kinda. We always sit together, we went to the movies last night(with my brother, her brother, and another cousin) and we played the embarrased to admit it but constantly touching thing. If my arm wasn't touching hers, her foot was touching my leg. She even rested her head on my shoulder when others weren't watching. I have butterflies and it is crazy. I feel like all I can do is tell her how to find a good guy, but I know I could show her better. Its sad cause I need somebody like her and she needs somebody like me, but we love our families, but are first cousins(my dad's sisters daughter) and I know neither of us want to mess it up. I already told her I would come and visit the family back east, but it is really just so I can see her. I honestly don't know what to do either way people are going to be upset or hurt. I will tell her before she leaves how I feel, because I want her to be happy and if not with me then she knows that somebody who respects her does love her and she doesn't need to settle. The worst/best part is that she told me she plans to move to oregon(where I live) after college and I am seriously just thinking of waiting it out to see what may happen. 4 years is a long time but a lifetime without knowing is longer. Why does something so right have to be so wrong.

Confused:
Clueless... yea i understand except my cousin came to see me instead of of me seeing him lol

my cousin is supposed to leave soon and i'm gonna be soo sad he acts like he wants to kiss me but pulls away each time he gets close... its sooo depressing not knowing how he feels :(

Yeah, I do that to my cousin too :) We nearly kissed but I have to pull away too. One time, I put my arm around the sofa around her, but didn't touch her, but my mom got mad at me when she saw it :(

I love my cousin too, but we (both) are too shy to say it, I think she feels the same, but, as I said we're too shy. We don't kiss or hold hands but we surely like to spend time together

I love my cousin too, but we (both) are too shy to say it, I think she feels the same, but, as I said we're too shy. We don't kiss or hold hands but we surely like to spend time together

I have always thought i was satisfied with my life in australia, untill i met my cousin overseas. I fell in love with her, and after telling her about my feelings she told me she felt the same, since then I we have been inseparable. I can't listen to her voice without smiling, i can't be next to her without wanting to hold her, and can't look at her without getting butterflies in my stomach. I love her and now that I am back in Australia I can't stop thinking about her. We talk on the phone all the time, and have discussed being together, except we both know our family wouldn't except it. I don't know what to do, I will be going back there in December, and in a way I am looking forward to it, but in a way I am dreading it aswell, as it will be difficult for us not get close, and at the same time keep it from our relatives there. I have fallen inlove before, but not like this, I love her so much. The question I have, why keep ourselves from being happy when were not doing anything wrong. I know it's not that easy as friends and families will have a different view. With all the probelms in the world like terrorism, poverty, and wars, why is falling inlove with a cousin such a bigdeal?

awww that is so sweet i love my cousin so much i couldent image not ever seeing him again i lost everything with him and i mean everything im only 13 and hes 15 but hey i loved him and he loved me ever since he started coming every summer its ok i dont see nothing wrong with it cause i been dating my cousin now and no one can stop u and ur parents might not agree but they cant stop u from loving ur cousin like that i havent told my mom and dad yet but we will soon and theres nothing anyone could do. if u love ur cousin go for it cause it might be a chance of a life time cause right now im living it !!!!!

I've found it very simple why people would go crazy towards their cousins.

First, cousins care for each other genuinely, that is one stuff you won't normally get from an unrelated girlfriend or boyfriend.

Second, you'd allow a cousin to kiss you won't you even the first time you see them?? that only helps to set the relationship on fire. Normally, you'd get mad at a stranger if they kiss you, see the difference?

Third, you can let your cousin stay at your house!! Do that with you unrelated girlfriend or boyfriend and your parents, will be mad as a tornado.

Lastly, you don't have to court your cousin once you see the signs, no need to explain :)

See it's a lot easier to have an intimate and lasting (minus the cultural taboo) and fulfilling relationship with a cousin than with an unrelated partner. And with a cousin, we no longer need to work hard to build a relationship, its already been built for us :)

People are like water, we tend to seek the easiest path to things, we find cousins easier so we fall for them.

I admit to be a loser with women but not my cousins so I fell in love with one of them, normally.

But with all those cultural stuff going on, its sometime more trouble with a cousin. If it is more trouble than good, its not worth it. Not all battles is worth fighting for. There are things more important in life than just falling in love with a cousin or with anybody.

Simply put, when you go with a cousin, you clash with your parents and relatives, if you go with an unrelated partner you work hard building a good relationship. You choose! Anyone can be a suitable partner. Just remember to think first before you fall in love :)

clueless...
you cant think before you fall in love... love is feeling not thought.. everytime i think of my cousin it hurts really bad to know i won't see him for 10 months.. maybe sooner but he told me the sweetest thing.. he's only been gone for 5 days but he said he felt like he has been waiting and eternity to see me again... and he gives me kisses over the internet... gosh idk what i would do without him....

yea am with you clueless on why cousins go together so well. And without grossing you all out too much, its because there are certain personaility traits that will be in common and compatable, so its almost as if cousins were made for each other. My boyf (also first cuz) have so much in common, both in terms of interests and in personality...even though we have lived one continent and one ocean apart for most of our lives!!

just like to say that this site is way better than cousincouples.com which i think is a load of hypocritical, dumbass old people that dont know what they are talking about...i gave up on that site long ago..thank god for this one!!

have to say, i know for all you out there who love their cousin but dont want to say anything - its bloody tough! It took my boyf about 4 years to say that he loved me (having discussed when exactly we knew we loved each other) - but then i rejected him as in four years so much can happen and i convinced myself that that whole cousin thing wan wrong and immoral...buuuuuuuuuuuut then i went on holiday and saw him, and i knew i coudnt go away yet AGAIN not saying any thing so i confessed that i actually did love him...and here we are two years later.

i just think that if you know that she/he has feelings for you too and that you are in it for the lung run..then go for it, there is no time to waste as then you will just look back and wonder - "what the hell were we wating for???"

xxx

ps: chris, i really loved your story. I know its so heart wrenching. i really think it sounds like you guys will make it.

oregon is beautiful, i love it there :D

It's not stupid to fall for your cousin. I have a cousin who's 23 years older then me. All my life he was special and I adored him to no end. I got married (not to my cousin) 8 years ago. At my reception he pulled me aside and said that he REALLY loved me. So that put the bug in my head that he felt something, but I tried to forget about. Every summer I would see him, and I stil got that vibe from him. This past week down the shore he finally fessed up that he did care for me more then a cousin relationship. I thought my heart stopped for a second. We found every chance we could to be alone and talk. It turns out he always felt a connection to me too. All my life we felt something and never allowed ourselves to look further. I did let him kiss me the other night and I melted. I felt like a young girl being kissed for the first time. I can't get it out of my head. I'm 38 and he is 61 and he's still sexy! I wish he had said something 10 years ago before I met my husband. I know there are a lot of states that allow first cousin marriages, and I think I live in one of them. Of course the family would have been another story to deal with. All I can say is follow your heart. So much is wrong in this world, you have to find some happiness.

3 years since I had to stop seeing my cousin. I have 2 children. There is not one minute that goes by that I dont think of the person that was everything to me. I was a single parent and I got financial support from my family. I was forced to choose. I often think that in the next life I will live to see him again. I have another partner now. I just did not want to be alone but I just cant erase a love thats deep in my heart. I pray to god for forgivness for I must have done something wrong. Just think most families dont talk much when the know some one is in abusive relationship, but when someone loves you more than everything than its wrong. I was not strong enough to stand out of this clossed. Like some friends of mine just 30 years ago. The god in my mind whant all his children to be happy but some of his children wont accept the happiness of others

It's good to know that I'm not the only one who has feelings for their cousin. I spent a good amount of time with my cousin recently and I felt a connection to her again, but the hardest part is not knowing whether she has the same feelings. I may be setting myself up for trouble or a disappointment being that this is such a cultural taboo. It's just that I see many of the qualities in this certain person that I haven't seen in other girls and I can't deny these feelings I've been having. It's a great feeling being close to someone and having somebody to share your thoughts and feelings with and with whom you share some of the same interests and thoughts. We are set apart by miles and age, and it is a bit hard being away from her, but such is life. At times I can't seem to rid her from my thoughts which is disheartening at times, but whatever. I'm not sure what to make of my thoughts.

I've been in love with my cousin since I was sixteen. He was my first kiss, my first love, my first everything. We have always had a strong conncection. We lived in different countries and we still found a way to each others heart. When I last visited him, we got MARRIED with both families blessing. He was everything to me. I unfortunately, made the biggest mistake of my life. We got married in a world-wind wedding. I came back to the States and started to literally freak out. I was so confused...I didn't believe in him and I didn't believe in myself. I asked for a divorce. I ruined our entire family. I married an American. I have a son. I love them both. But i will never love anyone like my cousin. I wish I could take it all back and be married to him again. Learn from my mistake. Follow your heart. Who cares what other people think. You will regret it for the rest of your life. I'm still "MAD" about my cousin and it tears me to pieces on a daily basis. He was my true love. I miss him. I hate myself for hurting him and our family. He loved me like no other. I will never forget him. I hope that one day he can forgive me.

All my life I thought I was "sick" to have a crush on my cousin when I was younger. I feel better to know I'm not alone. What hurts so much is that i'm in a marriage that I want out of. I love my husband, but we just don't connect on so many levels. My cousin and I do connect on every level, like we are sole mates. I'm so confussed about what to do. I know here in the States a lot of them do allow 1st cousin marriages, but our family would FREAK out! Him and my dad are like best friends. I wish I could go back 10 years to before I met my husband and persue the cousin................

I fell in love with my cousin 10 years ago. She turned 15 and I 20. I tried so hard to ignore it those first few days we met. She opened her heart and confessed herself. she affected me in a way no other ever had before. I couldnt ignore what was happening to me. she wrote me so many letters and shared every thought adn feeling and took me. I would never have fallen in love if she wasnt who she was. So amazing,intellgent,bright,creative,warm,loving,ladylike,proud. I was so proud of everything she was and wanted to tell the world. We lived in different countries, I visited ,she visited and my family liked her but hated our relationship. it tore us apart. It was horrible to love so much when so much was against us. time and distance eventually ended it. It was a love so complete, it can still haunt me if i let it. I have all her letters and photos. She married and has a child. I am happy for her and hope he gives her everything she deserves. Still so fond and proud of her and will always. I will never regret that love. To this day, every woman is measured up to her. We will talk again some day again. It will be a beautiful day that day.

Be wise. Make sure the love is real. Fight for what is worth fighting for. A true loving family will eventually understand. If she was living here, I would have picked her over my family no doubt, knowing who in my family that really loved me, would come around.

anonymous.. your story sounds alot like me and my cousin.. since he left my feelings have been so mixed and i've been meeting new guys and i just don't know what it would be like if i saw him again..... so yea confusion runs through me its part of my everyday life idk if i still like him or not i think if i had to make a decision.. idk what i would choose