How am I supposed to get over my highschool sweetheart? I'm still madly in love with her. We went out in the tenth grade and ended a year later. Here it is 4 years later, almost 5 and I'm still in love with her.
But she isn't with me. I tell her that we are just friends because she would have nothing to do with me if she knew I was still in love with her.
The biggest twist: I just cut her off from being friends because I can't hide my feelings for her anymore as if they didn't exist. I still find myself thinking of her day and night. however, I really, really, want to get over her but I don't know how.
Can you please help me out?
Joseph
Dear Joseph,
The only thing you can do "if there is really no way to tell her" or "if you really think things wont work out" ... try to fill your time with as many things as possible ! If your brain is working all the time you won't think of her , you will be too tired by the end of the day and with time you will get over her, in addition to the possibility of meeting a new interesting person ! go for it !
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i dont know i feel the same way about this guy it hurts dosnt it and youd like to get over them but you dont know how then you start to think your crazy
Hey there joseph and chantelle too! i dont pretend to have all the answers. But I will try to help by asking u some questions because at the end of the day no one knows whats best 4 u more than u! what do you really feel for this person? Is it love or attachment? Attachment is born from a need not from true unconditional love. if you truly love this person, then u need to think how can you do what is in their best interests as well as your own. If she has gotten over u then is it fair to bring up the past. And if she hasn't gotten over u how do u sensitively explain why u are still apart? Finally, no relationship can ever make u truly happy, if you aren't happy before you go into it. Maybe its time to concentrate on yourself. Say a little prayer, that goes a long way.
All the best dude!
Claire.
i think you should tell her...i mean,maybe she feels the same way about you....you never know. Maybe SHE never got over you. I think you should go for it and if she really loves you and respects you as a friend, she won't end it or ignore you or anything, she'll talk it out w/ you.
im really with alissar but if she told u that she doesn't feel anything about you maybe you will get over her after that so the point is that u have to ask her ....everything depends on that question
i hope you the good