Hi, I can see that everyone here speaks about love. Love to the opposite gender. However i dont find that this type of love is the love that is the most important and when this type of love doesn't work out it is not the worst thing in the world. The worst thing in the world in my opinion (and everyone is entitled to an opinion) is when the mother to daughter or mother to son love doesn't work out.

I love my mother more than the whole world, and i can safely say i love her more than myself. However i don't think she seems to see it. Recently our family had a major break up it was rough and painful, and has still not finished, but everytime i try to be in a good mood because i love my mum i end up making a mess, by accident of course, and end up siting in my room for hours because my mum is so angry at me.

I really love my mum and she is the only person i have got left in the world. She is really stressed out and my personality very frequently clashes with hers. i am a very stressy person and i hardly ever show that i'm happy, i try so hard to show my mum i am happy and try not to get angry at her when we have arguments or when she asks me for something but it just doesnt work.

I dont want to loose my mum and i can't control my temper.

Everytime i try to do something good it turns out wrong, and when i do something right my mum seems to not take notice because of my previous moodiness and the stress she is encountering currently in her life. i'm also encountering the stress including stress of school work, But she has more responsibilites! i know its my fault how can i change to be a better person?! I feel so depressed.

I know what im saying is selfish because there are some people in the world who have 100 million times worse problems than mine. but to me this is an important problem because i could loose the only person i love in my life and have in my life if i cant stop controlling myself.

- Sazie

Answer:

Dear Sazie,

You are absolutely right about what you are saying. When things don't work out with the male/female love, it isn't the end of the world! things always turn out ok in the end.

About your relationship with your mom; things always are rough when there is a problem in the family, especially when the family members are stressed out. You have to try and be more considerate to your mother's feelings, you should try your best to control yourself as well.

Try to avoid anything that might bring up an argument, and if it happens, just end it in a calm way, and change the subject into something that you know will make your mom smile.

Slowly, slowly, tell your mom about what you feel, and make it very clear that you love her more than anything in the world, always be simple, and dont complicate your words, just be direct and say things strait out!