I've had many problems recently, everything i seem to say or do never pleases anyone, even when it is personal, like how i wear my hair, I get a lot of RIDICULE and ANGER from my family...

IM IN A STATE OF DESPAIR, I CANNOT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY KEEP SHOUTING AND MOANING ABOUT EVERYTHING LITTLE THING I DO. EVEN THE EARRINGS I WEAR NORMAL CHANDELIER EARINGS I GOT TOLD OFF AND TOLD NEVER TO WEAR THEM AGAIN. I FEEL AS THOUGH I CANNOT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT THINKING A MILLION TIMES ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE IN MY FAMILIES REACTION AND WHAT THEY WOULD DO. EVEN WHEN I HELP AROUND THE HOUSE I GET SHOUTED AT AND MADE OUT THAT I AM NOT HELPING AND MAKING THINGS WORSE. IM IN A GREAT STATE OF DESPAIR AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY.

IT SEEMS THAT MAKING EVERY ONE ELSE HAPPY MEANS MAKING MY SELF A ROBOT WITH MY HANDS TIED DOWN. I NEVER GO OUT WITH FRIENDS BECAUSE IT IS FORBIDDEN AND WHEN I DO HOMEWORK IM TOLD THAT I AM SELFISH FOR DOING HEK INSEAD OF HELPING IN THE HOUSE. WHEN I DO HELP IM SHOUTED AT! IM CONFUSED.

JUST ME

Answer:

Dear JUST ME,

it is a tricky thing you are trying to handle here!
you have to sit with yourself, and take time to yourself and see what exactly happened that they are treating you this way. Maybe it is something that you did in the past, and your family still cannot forget ... if that is the case, you have to solve that issue first.

If not, just continue being yourself and ask someone you trust from outside the family about your earrings, hair, clothes and see what he/she says. if it is all ok, then ignore everything anybody says and be yourself !