Question:
I'm 19 years old i've been raised in a very nice family but since I was 8 i've known that my mum has another relationship with another man... and i'm the only one that knows about it; i've been hurt since i ever knew... I've left that a secret since that day.
What hurts me more that my mum is the most sweetiest lady in earth but she is still marrierd to my dad, who has no clue about it... I'm fallin apart everyday I hear her talking and she thinks I don't know... I never shared this pain with anyone since my boy friend had last betrayed me before 2 years I've became so closed to myself... It hurts a lot because I once tried to confess the truth with her when i was like 15 and she ended up slappin me... I love her and i don't wanna lose her but i'm hurt and i've acheived a limit that i'd explode... sooner or later...
I feel so lonely although i've always acted as happy as possible... i've realized wealth can never get me the happiness i've always wished for... tell me what to do because this pain is no longer bareable.
Answer:
Hello,
I think you did the right thing by telling your mum about you knowing the first time, but you have to keep on trying... She might get angry, she might react in a "bad" way, but you have to make her realize that you have feelings and that what she is doing is tearing the family apart, even though you are the only one who knows ... things are falling apart from the inside. Try facing her again, this time be calmer and gentler... then try writing her a letter; put all your feelings in it, everything you are going through, as simple as you told me and make her see that you love her too much to stay watching and eating away at yourself...
and let me tell you one more thing, turn to God; pray for her and for your family... Make the connection with God and you will feel some sort of relief.
Dont worry, things will be better, sooner or later.
One more thing, take into consideration that this man might only be a close friend of your mum, and that she might only be in a friendly relationship with him.
comments
hi, first of all i want to tell you that u are a very brave person and also must love ur mom very much.if u really have a good relationship with ur mom and u can talk to her about everything than i would concider talking to her and confront her with it cause sooner or later she will start to see that there is something wrong with , that u will behave differently and from that one she will notice that u kind of know so its better to tell her and ask her why she is in the situation or why she chose for this situation maybe than u could understand her , i am not saying that its right what ur mom is doing there is only god to judge but u should ask her that what u know is true like that u will know she wants to tell u the truth but maybe she is scared that u will not like her as before so its a very delicate situation.Be careful with what u do.
good luck and may god be with u always
YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR DAD.
It's not fair to him to keep it a secret. And if you don't tell him, he may not forgive you. Please, tell him.
hi
it's a very sad story
I think that u should talk 2 that man & know what is goin on between ur mom & him
Then u should count on this 2 make ur next step
so either u tell ur dad & c what might happen between the 2, if the man seems 2 b someone very bad & discover that ur father is a really good person
Either u ask ur mom 2 ask divorce from ur dad & let things go as they should go, if u c that the man really loves ur mom & ur father has forced her 2 marry him, or that she wasn't convinced when she got wedded 2 him
If I were u, I would have left home
now u'r 19, so why don't u go & live with ur b.f.
We all love our mum, but does ur mum think of u when she is seein that man
do what ur mind tells u
but ur 2 young 2 marry so don't marry ur b.f. right now, u go on with ur life u have many years before getting married, and I don't think wedding is that interesting, especially in ur parent's case
u'r old enough 2 decide so make the right choice & talk 2 the right person
Especially don't make foolish things!!!!!