Hey
Look i kind of like this guy and he likes me too
i am not sure of my feelings because i've been for so long single and i wanted someone, so i used to say i have a crush on this but deep down i don't.
I only had a crush on one of his friends and his friend is a playboy and i don't know anymore i like him! I want to be very patient and wise and i want to continue because I feel that this is the one.
He always asks me whom do I like and when he told me he likes me on the chat i acted like i cant understand. If i tell him then i'm not working with my plan(about being careful, wise, patient and mature)
So what do you think i should do?
Answer:
Your strategy of being patient and careful is really good, stick to it.
First of all, you have to make sure whether you like your friend or his friend!
When you are clear on that, you will feel more comfortable and you can take the second step of trying to find a way of communication to show the guy that you like him. When you are sure that he likes you too “really” then it will be easy to find a common ground on which you can base a stable relationship.
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this guy likes me. but i dont like him. I love talking to him and him telling me im beautiful and knowing he likes me. It makes me feel special. I kind of told him i kind of like him but dont know about going out since he doesn't go to my school. I think the reason I told him i like him when i really don't is because i don't want to loose the great feeling i get when he tells me im beautiful and i don't want him to stop telling me this stuff...
What should i do?
bobilina,
hey. yeah i had similar problem a couple of times too. i looovved the feeling of someone liking me, but with 1 i knew i didnt like him, and with a few others i wasnt sure. with ones i wasnt sure, i went out with one just to try and see, and didnt with another one a different time. after a while (like a few months...the guy was really in love w/ me) the guy who i said no to finally gave up on me. i was kinda sad he didnt like me nemore just bc i liked the feeling of sumone liking me. with the other guy who i went out w/ just to try, well it didnt work. i didnt exactly regret going out, just i never really liked him while we went out. now i kinda have same problem again. this guy likes me, and i dont really think i like him. but i like the feeling of him liking me, so i dont wanna totally give up on him, and be left with nothing. i don't mean to lead him on, but i do neways. still not sure wat i'm goin to do, but the best thing obviously would be just to not lead him on or nething. i guess you should jsut try to tell the guy that u dont like him like that. u might not want to, and u might miss how it was when he liked you, but it would be better than him getting you to go out w/ him since u never said u really didnt like him, and u just not enjoying it at all and feeling uncomfortable.
i know... gosh... i just moved here and the only friend i have has a crush on me... but i dont like him... and to be honest, im terrified of having a relationship. and i dont feel the same way about him. but he says he loves me... i dont know what to do! i feel so trapped.... i dont want to lose him, he's a wonderful friend.... but i dont like him that way and it hurts because no matter what i do ill end up hurting him.... and i cant bare to... i dont want to hurt him! but i really dont know what to do. there are articles everywhere about what to do if your crush doesnt like you, but what about the OTHER WAY AROUND?!? please...help me...