Have you ever felt that you have 2 lives? A life where you are a person and another one where you can act completely different. When you are with people, you act in a certain way but when you go to your room, alone, you transform to another person. Do you just consider that much the people around you and try to act in the way that they would love you? You may also sometimes feel like you are in a jail which is yourself. This is not necessarily a psychological disorder or can even be described as a disease but it is just the society that surrounds you that pushed you to act that way...
You feel like you have to wear these clothes so that people like you while you really hate those clothes. You have to go to that place but you really hate it and you never enjoy your time there but you have to go because your friends want you to go there. You like to listen to a specific music but you never listen to it in front of people.
Girls’ bathrooms are full of girls who don’t smoke in public so they would protect their image, are you one of those? Do you just feel sometimes that you are suffering because you are not being yourself and you really want to but you can’t? Simply, do you care much about how people think about you that you would give up all the stuff you love to do so they would be satisfied while you are not?
Please share with us your opinion : )
By guest writer Ghada
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I am myself no matter what.... and if people dont like it.... then thats their problem, I dont care!!!!!!!
be4 i used 2 be as u said 'another person' :
4 example; i didn't wear clothes i like ...
but now i don't care abt opinion's ppl, it's my life and even they don't like .
really,they have 2 accept others as they are ...
be4 my mother lets me wear what i want but we go to my aunts or uncles, she wants me 2 wear clothes as she wants...but now it's me who decide of my life lol ;)
sometimes u gota change aw u r depending on the situation ur in....like say the way u act wid ur mates is totally different 2 da way u act say on an interveiw or woteva. dat dont mean u aint actin urself...its jus sumink u gota do init.
at home n at skl i act craaaazy but wen im chattin 2 my teachers den im much more calm n i act a lil different, jus coz i cant act like a freak wid my teachers.
but yh you should always b ur self n neva change 2 impress people or to fit in or woteva. only change urself if das wot u want..not wot ova ppl want..
i feel i cant b myself wid sum ppl...coz i feel dey gona fnk im weird..like sum of my cousins..i act calma wid dem...coz i no if i act how i normally am, den dey gona judge me well bad. but i gota do it coz der my family n im stuck wid em for da rest of my life ... :( hmmm
ok dis message was pointless but i'll post neway
Masrya- I think ur message has a very valid point. You are right in that sometimes we are obligated to behave in a certain way in front of family- as they may have certain expectations, while in front of our friends, we are more relaxed and layed back. There is nothing wrong with that, as our families want us to be so much more in life. However, when we act in a certain way because we are worried about what society think, then we are in trouble. We begin to lose our identities because we are trying to conform to the way society wants us to be. This can be very dangerous, particularly with the youth of today, as people begin to struggle to maintain an image of what we are expected to be.
It is in a situation like this that one must put their foot down and be themselves because at the end of the day, "society" goes home to their own families and do not care who you are and what your daily struggles are...
So, the point of my email is, be yourself in society as people dont care about you, and be yourself with family and friends... but there is nothing wrong with trying to be a better person for your loved ones to be proud of- BUT most importantly, strive to be a better person for yourself and be true to God and yourself because by pretending to be someone else- you only hurt yourself.
God bless!
Thanks WALEG for posting such an important question- it is really important for our youth to understand that they can respect their families and elders without compromising their own individuality!
no offense...but i dont like it when people post a whole journal as a comment...u take too much space
anyway, on the matter, we do things and pretend all the time, its a natural insitinct
some ppl less than others...but its just human nature unfortunatley
i guess i also become "another person", not because i want people to "love" me, i can't stop it, i have to become two different people to cope in my life, my friends have no idea of my real personality, i don't even know who is the real me, which one am I? sometimes i feel like i have MPD, it's hard not knowing who you are, this question plagues me all the time.