We all probably heard before about ‘middle age crisis’ which means that men, when they reach a specific age, late forty’s, just give up their families; wife and children, and go look for another woman to renew their youth as they say. Men always deny that and assume that they are just not happy in their lives which lasted for at least 15-20 years since he is at forty’s. Do you think it is a myth? Did you ever see it or even experienced it in your life (e.g. your parents)? Please share with us your opinion and experience.
By guest writer Ghada.
I think a midlife crisis affects women as well, not as much as men though. When people realise that they are growing older, they panic and try to recapture their youth. Some men buy the flashy sports cars.Some look for the excitement and love that they do not experience with their partner anymore, killed by routine. A lot of people get sick of the responsibility and try and find some release by having an affair.
Why do men die before women?
Because they want to.
No comment! I didnt experience this thing in my life..
lol Lebanese
100% agree with u
if i turn to middle i would leave my country to go trip evry month and spend my time evey where. and leave my family and never seem again, because the'yre los*rs. thats all
I believe that in most of the cases a man or a woman may reach this stage because they fail to find CARE with their partners.
When a husband (or a wife) returns home he/she will most probably finds a partner who has no spirit to talk, no to strength to go out and no enthusiasm for anything.
Eight hours (or maybe more of work, talking & tension turn both to silent beings who are no more capable of showing any interest in any thing and each one says:
- he/she knows me, there is no need to show I care or love him/her by saying words of love
- we are staying at home I don't need to wear something new, he/she knows how do I look
- he/she will appreciate how tired I am …..and so on
And suddenly comes someone in his/her life and all of a sudden he/she realizes:
- Oh! Someone cares about me
- Someone tells me words of admiration
- I am still desired, remembered and wanted
All I want to say is that it's not a renewal of youth. It is a renewal of feelings we are missing in our lives that are so busy.
Partners must not take each other for granted.
most of wat u guys said is true....ive never known anyone who expierienced it but ive heard and read about it a few times...i gues it is sort of panic wen they realized they getting old and maybe they just want to spice up their lives more and its just confusion and feelings that u have nothing to look forward to...ive heard of the teenage life crisis something like that its basically the same as the middle age but it affects u in ur teens u just go in a state of depression but then get over it eventually..
Mayada,
I totally agree with u ! ;)lol
well ive never really heard of it happening in real life but this aint the first time i hear of this situation. well anyways hopefully, i aint like that wen i get married!! lol HinDawDaw, i think ive had a teenage life crisis though! skool is the most depressing thing ever!
i wana gt 2 19 n STAY THERE!
yh i agree wid LEBANESE...:) :) :) :)
hahahahahahahahaha very funny guys (Labnanese & Egyptain and proud) but if there is true love then i think the relationship will last regardless of the age. But the myth really true eventhough i am have not experienced since i am 15 it but heard about it alot and seen it in TV masrya i want to 1 month and stay because that is the best time of your life time being taken care of and spoiled.lol
all the people are the same age, they dont care what number they are. they are not thinking their mid-life crises.
like DEMI MORO married ASHTON BUTCHER, who is 26 and she is 50 year old, they said is a number. not like every body get scared and worried just get married again and leave your first wife and your children to a sexy younger one better. just try it, it'll be much better and relieve.
trust me am a doctor
lool amar init...no responsibility at 1 month.
wow im 15 2... :)
Middle age crisis?? My husband and I were married very young. My first marriage I was 16-23. My husband now, of 20 years, was just barely 21 when we married. I was 24.
Middle age crisis, our kids say. I think the problem comes in relationships when BOTH partners weren't on the same road to middle age. Men who have worked to support someone else their entire lives. Men are expected to be this and be that and be the strong disciplined one. No hysterics for a man, or he's a looser.
Women, keep the kids, keep the job, keep the house, keep, keep, keep.
It's time to give it all wings.
My husband and I have been looking forward to this year, to be exact. We've never been alone, pre-made family and all. Our youngest is 19 and just moved out--again. We've spent our time being responsible to others well being. We set aside our youth for our children. We put off our own wants and needs for our children's well being. Now it's our turn.
Enjoying our youth in our 40's is wiser. We have the ability to truly enjoy one another with some wisdom.
Just last night, we rolled over in bed and looked at each and he said, "damn we're good. At twenty you can't do THAT!"
The sports car? Hey, it's OUR turn. We didn't want a darn mini-van in the first place. And we have only ourselves to blame for the chocolate on the seats. The hot tub? We can afford it now because we aren't feeding and clothing and educating everyone else. Going back to school. I have the TIME. The cool clothes, been picking them out for kids forever, I know fashion, why can't we play?
A lot of things I leave to the kiddies, but the big screen TV remote is always in one of our hands and no one elses. When they visit, it's still our house.
Mid life crisis? Are you kidding, it's mid life FUN, and if one partner doesn't want to enjoy the second half (or more) of their life, I'd find someone who does, too, because this is the best time of life!!!
hello there. middle life crisis does exist. i personally met the person who had it - it's my father. tough but life goes on. my dad lived with my mom for 27 years and had 2 children together. now my dad remarried and has another two children with his new wife. he is 54. but i guess at some sircumstances he wouldn't have left his family, but i can't be so sure because i don't know.
i guess my dad would be happier - or at least it would be much easier for him now, his life would be more pleasurable. now he got his youth back - two little kidds to be looked after and taken care off, sleepless nights... when is there time for rest???
I agree with Mica. It a person wants to wallow in self pity, that is their problem. I am happy with my life and midlife can be an expression of oneself. Self actualization is the goal. Try to focus on the fun things in life and good things will come to you.
It's no fun if you feel like you are competing with the younger generation. They should respect your ideas and come to you for advise because they do respect your insights.
My hubby may be experiencing this midlife crisis, and me as a wife is feeling left out as he has no more feelings for me as he said so and that all his love for me since we were married 26 years ago has all been given away to the other people outside there.It hurts me alot. He prefers to spend time on his own with his friends,without me nor our children who are in the ages of 17-25 yrs old,prefers to be on the phone talking to friends probably girls for hours, prefers to be silent n doesnt like to be disturbed,prefers to come home late at nights or late mornings or even dont come back home for days.Often cheats on me though i come to realise it late.Likes to run away if i question him about his whereabouts and what he does. He is very temperamental too, likes to scream at me and aggresive too like throwing things towards me. Claims that hes busy and has no time to take us out for holidays like we use to those days when our relationship was much better.I really dont understand him now though hes my husband.