Young Marriages

What do you think of young marriages?
It is good way to start ones married life young, or is it better when one is old & mature enough?
By Guest Writer Liyian
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i think its okay.....i mean its better if he or she lives his or her life first. But its also nice if u get married young first, well i think for the girl, but the guy its better wen he's a little older cuz then he's sort of experienced and lived his life more and probably did watever he wanted with girls and is ready to settle down
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salam all, personally i dont believe in boyfreind and girlfreind mainly because they are prohibited, secondly my character wouldnt allow me to have such a reationship- dont get me wrong i m nt from golf or any thing- i m a muslim girl 21 yrs, i moved to the uk since the age of 17 to study- without my family- but alhamdullah i never had a boy freind.
personally i had a chance to meet one guy who wanted to marry me, i was 19 he was 20, at that time i didnt want to get married cos i thought he was too young- although he is mature enough-i always had fears he would leave me once i become older- so i stoped my relationship with him just fpr allah sake. but now looking back, i think it would be better if we got engaged fil halal and got to know him, and if it worked out we would get married once i finish my studies, especially he was a religious outgoing guy who every girl would dream of-
but well, as i said i eneded the relationship quite early and i have no regrets because i rely on god, and i believe he will reward me with the best inshallah.
my whole point is, getting married is the safest way for any people who are deeply in love-not just spending time- even if they are young.
take care
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I somehow do not believe that marriage has a number and it really depends on People.
personally, I would never imagine myself marrying young, as well, you need to test the waters before settling down, i think dating can teach a person alot about her/his self.
However, I think a person will be thinking of marriage when finding the right person, so its critical on FINDINg the one and not about age really!!but what happen if you find that person at age of 40? thats a heart ache man!!
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Just don't do it. Marriage is a trap. Once you go in you will never be the same and if you try to leave you will never leave the same......
Just live life, enjoy it and don't get married unless you are ready to give up life as you know it. Meaning wife/husband, responsibility, nakad, in-laws and KIDS!!!!!!!!!!
If I only could turn back time :(
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Ahbal u seem dissapointed of marriage ...
I dont think that getting married at a young age is a bad thing. I even think that it is better to get married when u r younger. It is great when ur 39 years old and u have a child that is 16 (like me and my mum) But ofcourse im not saying that getting married at the age of 14-15 is a good thing. I as a girl would like to get married at 20-24. I think that is the best age for a girl to get married (if she finds the right person ofcourse :))
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young marriage may have been all cool and peachy in the past generations, but times have chnaged...
so far i havent seen one successful marriage between two people who married young...
live ur life, then settle down... dont get married to live ur life...doesnt work that way
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i noticed that pple who get married young, now they regret. I agree with u "beri" 20-24 is the best age to get married for me !!lol
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i am 16 and am deeply in love with this guy..he asked me to get engaged lst year bt i sed no caz i knew my father would say not yet..he is at univercity and have 3 more yrs of studying..i hope that wen he is finished we can get engaged so inchallah i would be about 20/21 then inchallah get married at 23/24...this is the best way for me..but i personally prefer to marry at 19..but times changed i guess..so traditions of girls marryin young has changed.. lol
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hey guyz, well marrying early is actually sweet because if you are deeply inlove, you actually get to share the best and worse times of your life together and grow closer. sometimes, your marriages last longer than the average marriage. i am young but it's weird because i don't really think about marrying the one i am linked to, i just like to be around him more. anywayz.. allah m3akum.
-safi<3
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i got married when i was 13 , and now i'm 24 still married with 2 adorable kids, marrying at a young age ,it takes a lot from you and it gives you to, it took my life but it gave me a life through my kids , bshouf al deni min khleel 3youn wleedi,, now if i had a girl ma bjaweza at young age , i will let her live her life w ba3deen tetzawwaj, al zawej mas2oleyyeh kbereh mish sahar w 7ob w dahrat w bs... 3eesho 7ayetkon le72een lal mas2ouleyyi sad2ouni ... take ur time w think twice before taking any decision ... it's not easy at all
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Ana, YOu got Married at 13, HONEStly i can not imagine a person marrying at 13, even my grandmothers did not marry at such a young age, wow, no offense, but i'm shocked! i mean were you fully developed, cz i remember when i was 13 i was still growing, physically speaking, mentally, oh my god, i was such a child, probably i did not even what sex is!
i'm amazed, no offense, again, bs ani mit3ajibeh! thats all.Ana, do you have a career? and how did you end up marrying so young?
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eh dina , tgharrabet at a young age , w kaffeet 3elmi here in usa (marketing and advertising)... and how did i end up marrying soo young ? i don't remember ,w3eet 3al deni 3a mas2ouleyyi kbereh eddemi ma keen ma3i majel fakker keef w shu yalli wassalni la hal shi,, now as i grow wiser, i ask myself the say question u asked me...
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ana,
you seem to have a 7kaya, as we all do, but you never know, i know alot of people who are very old but very irresponsible, probably you had this style of living to be more stronger and much wiser, sometimes we learn the wisedom of who we are after a while.
but honestly i'm proud of you, and hope you be the most successful person ever!
and have two children is nice as well, family is all about warmth anyways :)i was pleased to know you
take care for now :)
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ooops , it was a type, the written name is dina and not ana......lol sorry
take care :)
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thanx dina ... i really value ur opinion,, as i said before marriage at a young age took a lot from me and gave me a lot too in a good way .. akhadet 7ayeti w 3atetni 7ayet min kheleel wledi which i'm thankfull for , i get stronger through my kids , they give me power, and they keep me going, i run , jump, play with them, i live my life that i missed through them....
it's an honor and pleasure to know you too dina :)

lover man
Feb 12, 2006
i got married young, she is 30 and i was 19 years old. we fall in love but her husband wont leave us. he is disturbing us when we go out. i dont know if he want to kill me. allah maa-ey
you know i dont care if he kill me unless my wife with me.