I enjoyed reading the posts that you guys have written. I am an American woman of mixed race married to a Tunisian male. I am truly fascinated with the arabic culture and I am also envious of the moral standings and dedication that arabic women possess. I feel very blessed to be apart of such a remarkable group of people. Everyday I try to learn something new of the arabic woman's way of life and I incorporate what I have learned and know of the culture into my life and that way, my husband learns, my mother, my kids, and other family members. Here in America, the values and morals of the woman have been compromised over and over again for one reason or another.
Arabic Culture & Women
It saddens me. I speak for myself as well. I wish at times that the family bonds and relationships that the arabic culture tends to have was reflected on this side of the world. Family in the Arabic culture to me is really "FAMILY". Friends in the arabic culture to me is really "FRIENDSHIP". In America, those things take the back burner alot. I appreciate the opportunity you guys have given me to once again to hear different points of view on how you think and feel about arabic men and women.
Comment Posted By Pecola on the Middle Eastern Men & Independent Women Entry.
Thank you Pecola for sharing your feeling with us on WALEG.com :)
wow!thats really true lol
not that its funny or anything
Thank you Pecola for your nice post.
As an Arabic woman ..I am very proud of our culture. Family for us is very important, and even if you are independent, your husband, kids, and parents come before anything else. Some Middle Eastern men take their women for granted, and don't treat them as they deserve, once they loose them they feel their lost...
Finally you had something good to say about the arab culture, but youa lso added a remark which stated that some arab men take women for granted. Well the majority in the States take women for granted. Your percentage is way higher.
And Pecola, well done! Fantastic!
UAE+Kuwait!
I agree with you Middle Eastern men in The sates do take Arabic women for granted....They'll know the value of an Arabic women when they get with other culture...
UAE+Kuwait+-=.*/
You must be a statistician! All you talk about is percentages and comparisons. Sure more American men take advatage of women than Arab men. So big deal! Does that make you feel good about the arab men that take their women for granted???? Just because there is someone worse than you does not make you a good person. Unfortunately that is the mentality of the lazy and ignorant.
You are khaleeji so you have a 90% chance of being uneducated, lazy and ignorant. Please try and understand that comparing with the worse is counterproductive, try comparing with the better.... I can't beleive I have to teach you basic logic!!!
But again, your khaleeji, you came out of the tent and off the camel just 30 years ago so it will take you another 100 years before you can think logically. I know you believe in the step by step aproach... so take your time ;)
Pecola,
don't take the status of the woman in the gulf (or in egypt) as a reference. In the other arab-speaking countries, things change significantly from the gulf area. In fact, gulf people are still ignorant, they don't accept that women participate in the development process. In saudi arabia for example, women are not allowed even to drive a car!
PS. comment ça va Sihem?
Hi Walid!
Comment ca va? I haven't seen your comments for a while. I hope all is well for you.
Pecola, thanks for sharing your opinion...always cool to hear a different perspective.
As a Lebanese living in Los Angeles all my life, I agree with everything you said. I see this most in the whole "turning 18" process. I've seen that in American families, the extent of their family relations is the extent of the law...the law says one is an adult at the age of 18 and the family says the same...and adults should not expect care from their families, etc. Its very hard for me to be raised in Los Angeles within in a family very focused on raising us with the arabic mentality. My friends don't understand why my family expects me to come home from college, why they still inquire about my grades and schoolwork from time to time, why they still treat me like their child...In this way the american vs arab family life is very different, not just in the role of the women but in the family unit as a whole...
thank you picola so much for posting a such comment about arabic life and arabic family it's 100% true a 100% nice from you as it's always cool to hear a different perspective from other people not from our origin or culture about us but beleive that this should be the case when it comes to the way of caring and living with each other in all the others arabic family but as i know and i hope it will change cause that's not the case when it comes to the way how all mens are treating their womens in the arabic world like your husband do with you ...
why is that ??? it just quite simple you deserve it cause you probably married a tunisian man and you made you best choice between all the arabic mens and that's a unique case in the arabic world where your husband is coming from one arabic country where the egality bettween the mens and womens and the freedom that the womens have in that country and the respect of mens for womens and the rights that the womens have in that arabic mulsim country which's tunisia it's unique and very very hard to find in the others arbic nations and tunisia it's a unique country in the arabic world whith that kind of freedom and respect that womens have in the society which's made tunisia known by this case in the arabic world .... and having some really good feedbackk form the european country that have seen and beleive in the difference that exist in that country compare to the other arabic world .... so it's normal that your husband as he's coming from tunisia will make your life so nice and so balanced still with him adding his arabic topic into your life and keepping all nice and showing you the good thing that he learned from country when it comes to woemens right and womens respect and womens freedom and as i said i hope that will be the case one day in all the arabic nations and there will be such equality bettween mens and womens like in tunisia ... so good for you ans i wish you my best wishes for a happier life with your tunisian husband and thank you again for sharing your feeling about you arabic experience in life ...
the truth and nothing else than the whole truth
walid,
there is good reason y we don't drive in KSA; i hate it, i believe that we should drive and i'm a big supporter of independence. BUT! the guys over here are sick...they are..i swear..i'll give u an example : i was in the supermarket with my dad but he was standing away from me and i was playing Sonic on my mobile ( loooool ! )..anyway, all of a sudden , i get a " receive message via bluetooth from --------"...and i saw no...i got that message 7 times! on the 8th i looked up 2 see a bunch of saudi guys huddled up 2gether gaping at me and simultaneously at the mobile screen. do u realize how sick that is? it's sick. i accepted and a pathetic red heart popped up on my screen. it was disgusting. and y? just coz i was not wearing a scraf which i don't do ..yet! and u want women 2 be allowed 2 drive in this country?! lock the crazy guys up first or else u'll find women swerving off the roads becoz of the cheeky comments all the guys would make!!
that was "and i **said** no "...sorry
I have posted here before and im not sure if anyone remebers me but..anyway. It is true that Arab men brought up in the U.S appreciate their Arab women more in many ways. They are also more open minded and I know that when I get married inshallah he will be ARab but lived in the U.S.
Thank you Randa! It didn't happen to me yet...I am very careful when it comes to love...It's precious and he needs to deserve my love..
lula,
not really, living in america does not make you open minded, and alot of arab men in the US are grabage just ask the arabic girls in here. they either too zealous and religious or too 9ayi3eeen. so if you are a balanced girl , it is hard to find a proper one. probably alot of them will grow more matured when they age :D
but
if you want to choose a man, choose him for the good things he has in himself. choose a man that you can speak and talk to , should be cultured, well educated, enlightened, probably even well-travelled, those are the seeds of an open mind.
I read most of posts her and I really don't understand why those sick people hate the gulf people to a stage shows how black hearts they have , unfourtaintly most of those posts in a negative they did it beacuse they hatered not logical,one strange thing some of those comes from poverty in some arab country they get our money and still hate us EXAMPLE(Randa)while non arabs they really like us so much,they respects our culture they are really civilized non problem creatures,those who are hates us because we are rich countries this is God's will what ever the subjects they are traying to make a big deal of it will be nonsene,those who are crying over spilled milk leave our people and live in your kingdome of Angels
I wounder ms. of LA who is going to love hatered complicated hopless guy
no way i will love somene like the example of LA student why i have to make my life miserable
I see the arabic photo
kahlid,
u can be a real jerk and a very incompetent and abusive person. don't u dare tell me or even argue with me about the mentality of most of the saudi guys in the malls over here. had ksa not had all the foreigners in it, it would not have made it. look at the statistics. i don't have 2 prove myslef 2 u 4 ur opinion means crap 2 me,so i won't dignify ur absurd response with a reply, but will only let u know that most of my friends r saudis who are not racists like u. now, u just go on insulting me and i will go on doing the same becoz i'll tell u this : im good at it.
i really don't know what is wrong with you called randa,this free web we comments and it is not neccassry satisfy you!!!your comments agaist the people hosts you tells us how jerk you are...
u wanna something Samer : i wasnt addressing you. and don't call me a jerk coz u don't even know me well enough 2 do so. if u really wanna start a conversation,you should not go around picking on people and insultin' them so don't u do start doing so with me. in this website, people are allowed 2 freely state their opinion without insulting others. but apparently, u,khalid, and a few others think of ursleves as slightly more superior and gave ursleves the unduly right 2 insult others. like i said : im good at it, so don't push ur luck.
khalid you are right those sick models can't associate with others they want a private planet to live in ,we suddenly have angels in our earth, thanks God I will not be surprised when I hear tomorrow sihem or randa,mistika asking NASA to provide them with a ship to to hill
guys..it's hell not hill. it's been annoying me 4 so long..no offense. and no noor, i'm not saying that ur not polite, all im saying is that we need 2 learn 2 argue with decency and not insult others in order 4 us 2 state our opinion. and Rose, get a life, will u?!!god,what in the world brought NASA in2 this?!!and i hope u realize that u actually complimented me by calling me an "angel" and a "model" !!! lol...thx. 4 nothing!
khali, samer,amal please all of you my friends but please leave randa alone , we love you all randa
muneer...thx. a lot...share the same feelings..lol!! good day y'all !
muneer we don't know she is our guest i am so sorrrrrrrrrrrry
randa i am sorry,my weakness point i lose my mind when someone talked bad about my love samerplease forgive me
noor...it's okay girl!! i really don't take such stuff personally.i can't 4give u coz there's nothing that u did that i should 4give u 4 !peace.